Chris Burkett

2 Be Better

A Relationships , Society & Culture and Education podcast Explicit

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About the show

We are the 2 Be Better Podcast. Chris and Peaches read emails, answer questions and have hard discussions to help you on your personal growth journey. We are not licensed for anything but we have lived through a lot. Join us. Lets grow!! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Newest episodes

Your Trauma Doesn't Give You the Right to Abuse Your Spouse S4 Ep57

Nov 13, 2026 1 hr 21 min

Does your partner's sexual past matter, and can a marriage survive when trust is broken by dishonesty? In this episode of the **2 Be Better Podcast**, Chris and Peaches tackle real listener emails about body count, sexual history, jealousy, insecurity, and rebuilding trust in marriage. One newly married woman finds herself questioning whether she's the toxic partner after encounters with former lovers and revelations about her sexual past leave her husband feeling deceived. Chris and Peaches explore whether withholding information is the same as lying, why honesty matters more than someone's body count, and how unresolved shame, childhood trauma, and the need for validation can create destructive relationship patterns. They challenge couples to examine the difference between having a past and allowing that past to damage their present relationship. The conversation takes an even more confrontational turn when a husband shares how his wife's unresolved trauma has turned their marriage into a cycle of emotional abuse, verbal attacks, and constant conflict. Chris and Peaches discuss trauma responses, emotional dysregulation, people pleasing, weak boundaries, and the dangers of using past abuse to justify hurting someone you claim to love. They also address the importance of self-respect, personal accountability, emotional maturity, and learning to communicate without attacking or shutting down. If you're struggling with trust issues, toxic relationship behaviors, marriage conflict, emotional abuse, or healing from childhood trauma, this episode delivers uncomfortable truths about why your trauma may explain your behavior, but it doesn't excuse how you treat your partner. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-be...

You're Married, But Your Husband Is Living Like He's Single S4 Ep56

Nov 9, 2026 53 min

When does a difficult relationship become an abusive one, and how do you know when it's time to walk away? In this episode of the **2 Be Better Podcast**, Chris and Peaches tackle real listener emails about emotional abuse, toxic relationships, manipulation, and marriages falling apart. From financially preparing to leave an abusive partner to recognizing red flags like emotional blackmail, threats, controlling behavior, and intimidation, they break down why love isn't always a good enough reason to stay. They also discuss young relationships, setting healthy boundaries, recognizing your self-worth, and understanding that you are not responsible for fixing someone who refuses to change. The conversation takes another turn when a wife shares how she's become the primary caretaker of her children and household while her husband spends his time drinking with friends and avoiding family responsibilities. Chris and Peaches explore emotional neglect in marriage, unequal household responsibilities, resentment, communication problems, and how couples slowly become roommates instead of romantic partners. They challenge both husbands and wives to examine their own behavior, stop making excuses, and take accountability for the relationships they're creating. If you're dealing with an emotionally unavailable spouse, a one-sided marriage, relationship burnout, or wondering whether it's time to leave, this episode offers tough love, practical relationship advice, and uncomfortable conversations about what it actually takes to build a healthy marriage. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

You’re Not Co-Parenting, You’re Still Trying to Be Together S4 Ep55

Nov 6, 2026 48 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches dive into listener emails about co-parenting, boundaries with an ex, toxic family dynamics, personal accountability, and the difference between supporting someone and staying emotionally entangled with them. They break down what healthy co-parenting can actually look like, why having a child together doesn’t automatically mean you still have a relationship, and how unclear expectations can create resentment, confusion, and unnecessary conflict. The conversation also tackles what happens when a toxic parent starts affecting your marriage, how to set boundaries with family without turning it into an ultimatum, and how negativity can slowly poison the relationships around you. Chris and Peaches also respond to a powerful example of a couple supporting each other through demanding seasons of life, showing the contrast between entitlement and genuine partnership. If you’re dealing with relationship boundaries, co-parenting, family conflict, emotional responsibility, or trying to build a healthier marriage, this episode offers direct conversations about what actually needs to change. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

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Your Trauma Doesn't Give You the Right to Abuse Your Spouse S4 Ep57

Nov 13, 2026 1 hr 21 min

You're Married, But Your Husband Is Living Like He's Single S4 Ep56

Nov 9, 2026 53 min

You’re Not Co-Parenting, You’re Still Trying to Be Together S4 Ep55

Nov 6, 2026 48 min

You're Not Healing Your Marriage, You're Punishing Your Spouse S4 Ep 54

Nov 2, 2026 1 hr 23 min

Can a marriage survive years of betrayal, resentment, and broken trust, or does holding on to the past eventually destroy the relationship? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches tackle a listener's painful struggle with infidelity, unresolved resentment, forgiveness, and emotional triggers. They break down how couples become trapped in cycles of blame, punishment, silent treatment, and emotional disconnection, even when they still love each other. From rebuilding trust after cheating to taking accountability for your own behavior, this conversation challenges what it actually means to forgive someone, heal from relationship trauma, and stop allowing yesterday's mistakes to control today's marriage. The conversation continues with another marriage struggling with a lack of sex, emotional intimacy, depression, ADHD, and the sexual side effects of antidepressants. What happens when one partner finally finds relief from depression while the other feels increasingly lonely, unwanted, and disconnected? Chris and Peaches explore the difference between sex and intimacy, the importance of prioritizing your spouse, communicating unmet needs, and maintaining connection through difficult seasons of marriage. If you're struggling with relationship resentment, a sexless marriage, rebuilding emotional intimacy, or wondering whether your relationship can be saved, this episode delivers uncomfortable truths, practical relationship advice, and a reminder that love alone won't fix a marriage when neither person is willing to change. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The American nightmare - Live stream replay

Oct 30, 2026 1 hr 57 min

The American Dream was supposed to promise freedom, financial security, and a better life. So why are millions of Americans drowning in debt, working themselves into exhaustion, and struggling to enjoy the lives they've worked so hard to build? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we examine how the American Dream has become an American Nightmare. From the rising cost of living, inflation, and the declining purchasing power of the dollar to America's $40 trillion national debt, household debt, mortgages, and the pressure to constantly consume, we explore whether the lifestyle we've been taught to chase is actually sustainable. Have we confused financial success with personal freedom, and how much of our lives are we sacrificing to maintain an image of success? We also examine the human cost of chasing money and material possessions, including burnout, declining health, struggling marriages, disconnected families, and the dangerous habit of postponing happiness until retirement. What happens when you spend 40 years working toward financial freedom, only to discover that your health, relationships, and best years are already behind you? We'll challenge the psychology of consumerism, lifestyle inflation, financial responsibility, and society's definition of success while exploring how to reclaim your time, strengthen your relationships, and build a life you actually enjoy. If you've ever felt trapped by bills, exhausted by work, or wondered whether there's more to life than making money and paying debt, this conversation is for you. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Your Trauma Explains Your Behavior, It Doesn’t Excuse It S4 Ep53

Oct 30, 2026 1 hr 48 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches break down a listener’s relationship struggles involving trauma, emotional triggers, nervous system regulation, conflict, reassurance, abandonment fears, and personal accountability. When your partner hurts you, where does their responsibility end and yours begin? We dig into the difference between explaining unhealthy reactions and excusing them, how past relationships can distort what you see in your current one, and why emotional regulation doesn’t mean ignoring legitimate problems in your relationship. We also talk about communication during conflict, panic attacks, anxious and avoidant relationship dynamics, resentment, repair after arguments, emotional safety, self-mastery, and learning to question your interpretation before treating it as reality. Healthy relationships require more than love, they require two people willing to understand their own patterns, communicate clearly, take ownership of their behavior, and stop expecting their partner to regulate emotions they ultimately have to learn to manage themselves. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

You Didn't Make Me Do Anything, Let's Talk About Reactive Abuse

Oct 29, 2026 1 hr 54 min

Is reactive abuse a legitimate response to emotional manipulation, or has it become another way to avoid accountability? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we challenge the popular idea that someone can push you into acting "out of character" and explore the difference between **explanation and justification**. We break down reactive abuse, emotional manipulation, trauma responses, self-defense, revenge, and emotional regulation. When someone hurts your feelings and you deliberately hurt them in return, are you defending yourself or satisfying your ego? We examine how pride, resentment, and the desire to retaliate can turn ordinary relationship conflicts into destructive cycles of blame, punishment, and emotional abuse. We also explore **personal accountability, victim mentality, healthy boundaries, shadow work, and emotional maturity**, asking why people sometimes tolerate years of mistreatment before reaching their breaking point. How often do we use childhood trauma, triggers, past relationships, or someone else's behavior to excuse our own choices? From marriage and relationship conflict to the Hermetic Principle of Cause and Effect and the concept of karma, this conversation challenges us to examine the stories we tell ourselves to justify hurting others. If you've ever said "You made me act this way," struggled with resentment, or confused retaliation with self-respect, this episode will challenge how you understand responsibility, forgiveness, emotional control, and what it actually means to become a better person. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

You Changed After You Destroyed the Marriage, Now What S4 Ep52

Oct 23, 2026 1 hr 20 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches respond to a man trying to rebuild himself after repeated infidelity led to the separation of his marriage. He is doing therapy, journaling, support groups, exercise, and personal development, but the bigger question becomes whether he is truly changing for himself or still hoping his transformation will convince his wife to come back. We talk about accountability, betrayal, rebuilding trust, respecting boundaries, mixed signals during separation, and the painful reality that sometimes another person’s breaking point becomes your turning point. We also get into the difference between apology and changed behavior, why good intentions do not erase the way your partner experiences you, and why personal growth has to survive even if reconciliation never happens. The conversation explores self-mastery, emotional discipline, hope after betrayal, letting go without giving up on yourself, reclaiming your own power, and learning how to become better without making another person responsible for validating your transformation. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

When Forgiveness becomes self abandonment

Oct 21, 2026 1 hr 19 min

When should you stop forgiving someone? At what point does forgiveness stop being an act of love and become an act of self-abandonment? In this episode of Thoughts From the Chair, Chris from the 2 Be Better Podcast breaks down the psychology of forgiveness, toxic relationship patterns, emotional abuse, betrayal, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. We explore why forgiving someone doesn't mean giving them access to your life, why apologies without changed behavior mean nothing, and how compassion can become self-destruction when you repeatedly tolerate mistreatment. Whether you're struggling with infidelity, a toxic marriage, family trauma, or someone who continues to hurt you, this conversation challenges you to recognize the difference between genuine forgiveness and allowing yourself to be hurt over and over again. Forgiveness isn't about forgetting what happened, excusing someone's behavior, or pretending your relationship can return to what it once was. It's about accountability, emotional healing, rebuilding trust, and taking responsibility for your future. Chris walks through 12 practical steps to forgiveness, including self-forgiveness, processing resentment, recognizing manipulation, establishing boundaries, and learning to release the past without abandoning yourself. He also shares the personal story of surviving Hurricane Ian and how that experience shaped his understanding of loss, security, and rebuilding something better after devastation. If you're struggling to let go of resentment, heal after betrayal, rebuild a broken relationship, or forgive yourself for past mistakes, this episode offers a direct approach to personal growth, self-respect, and reclaiming control of your life. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast...

You Want Your Family's Respect Become a Man Worth Respecting

Oct 21, 2026 50 min

You want your wife and children to respect you? Then become a man worth respecting. On this episode Chris and Peaches of the 2 Be Better Podcast tackle masculinity, leadership, fatherhood, marriage, and what it actually means to be a respectable man. Chris challenges the idea that earning a paycheck, paying the bills, and helping around the house automatically makes you a good husband, father, or leader. Those are responsibilities, not accomplishments that entitle you to respect. Real masculine leadership requires emotional maturity, self-discipline, accountability, integrity, and the ability to lead by example instead of demanding obedience. If your wife is afraid to disagree with you, your children walk on eggshells around your temper, or your family only listens because they're afraid of the consequences, you haven't earned their respect. You've taught them to fear you. This conversation breaks down what healthy masculine leadership looks like inside a marriage and family, including keeping your word, controlling your emotions, communicating through conflict, setting boundaries, protecting your family's emotional well-being, and becoming someone your children actually want to imitate. Chris discusses the difference between being a provider and being a leader, why competence builds confidence, how fathers influence their sons' behavior and daughters' expectations of men, and why your family deserves more than the exhausted, angry version of you that comes home from work. You'll also hear uncomfortable truths about weaponized incompetence, personal responsibility, marriage compatibility, and the importance of developing your own purpose and values. Because being the man of the house doesn't mean you automatically deserve authority. It means taking responsibility for the example you set every single day. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Stop Trying to Save Someone Who Doesn't Want to Change S4 Ep50

Oct 19, 2026 1 hr 8 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches dive into real listener relationship problems involving long-distance relationships, lack of purpose, personal growth, commitment, trust, boundaries, and accountability. What happens when one person is building a future while their partner seems stuck? Can you help someone find motivation and direction, or are you simply putting your own life on hold waiting for them to change? They break down the difference between supporting your partner and carrying them, why actions matter more than promises, and how difficult conversations reveal whether two people are actually building the same future. The conversation then turns to betrayal, broken agreements, forgiveness, and rebuilding trust after a wife secretly contacts someone her husband specifically asked her not to communicate with. Is a conversation really harmless if you knew you had to hide it? Does forgiving your partner's past infidelity mean they owe you forgiveness when you betray their trust? Chris and Peaches unpack relationship boundaries, consequences, resentment, accountability, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and the uncomfortable reality that love doesn't guarantee reconciliation. If you're struggling with trust issues, relationship stagnation, emotional burnout, long-distance love, broken boundaries, or a partner who won't change, this episode challenges you to stop focusing on what you can make someone else do and start deciding what you're willing to accept in your own life. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Your Partner Changed, But The Damage Didn't S4 Ep51

Oct 19, 2026 1 hr 12 min

What happens when one person finally starts healing, but their partner is still carrying the damage? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches respond to real listener relationship problems involving borderline personality disorder, BPD recovery, relationship trauma, rebuilding trust, emotional regulation, resentment, boundaries, and what it takes to repair a relationship after years of instability. They dig into why personal growth doesn’t erase past behavior, how partners can heal at different speeds, and why acknowledging progress and acknowledging damage have to exist at the same time. The conversation also tackles opposite-sex friendships, secrecy versus privacy, jealousy, relationship boundaries, emotional affairs, trust issues, infidelity, codependency, marriage separation, and knowing when a relationship may have simply run its course. From questioning suspicious communication with a female best friend to a 13-year marriage filled with betrayal, unmet emotional needs, and conflicting expectations, Chris and Peaches challenge listeners to stop hiding behind labels, look at behavior honestly, and ask the harder question: Are you trying to repair the relationship you actually have, or are you fighting for the relationship you hoped it would become? Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The NeverEnding story

Oct 18, 2026 43 min

What if The NeverEnding Story was never really about saving a fantasy world, but about what happens when we lose hope in our own? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we revisit the 1984 fantasy classic through the lens of psychology, childhood trauma, grief, depression, emotional isolation, and personal responsibility. We explore Bastian's struggle with losing his mother, Atreyu's journey through fear and loss, the heartbreaking death of Artax in the Swamps of Sadness, and the terrifying symbolism behind Gmork and the Nothing. What once seemed like a childhood adventure reveals a much darker story about hopelessness, men's mental health, suicidal thoughts, and the slow disappearance of the dreams that once gave our lives meaning.Through a deeper psychological analysis of The NeverEnding Story, we examine how depression can quietly consume someone's sense of purpose, why grief can leave us feeling powerless, how cynicism becomes a defense against disappointment, and why some people stop participating in their own lives. From Morla's indifference and the Southern Oracle's mirror to Falkor's optimism and the Rock Biter's helplessness, every character offers a different lesson about emotional resilience, relationships, identity, and healing. We also explore the difference between escaping reality and using imagination to create a better future. If you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, overwhelmed by responsibility, or afraid that life will never get better, this episode challenges you to recognize what you've lost, confront what's holding you back, and begin taking ownership of what happens next. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Are You Communicating or Trying to Control Your Partner S4 Ep49

Oct 16, 2026 1 hr 31 min

Why does it sometimes feel like your partner only listens when you finally lose your temper? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches respond to a listener whose marriage has fallen into a painful communication cycle, she asks, she reminds, nothing changes, the frustration builds, a massive argument happens, and suddenly the issue gets taken seriously. They unpack how resentment develops, why unspoken expectations create conflict, the difference between being present and simply being there, unequal parenting responsibilities, emotional regulation, silent treatment, couples therapy, and what happens when respect begins disappearing from a relationship. The conversation eventually exposes an even deeper question, are you asking your partner to hear you, or are you trying to control what they do? Chris and Peaches explore financial disagreements in marriage, anxiety around money, communication versus permission, individuality inside a committed relationship, supporting your partner’s interests, and how constantly creating conflict around small issues can slowly push couples toward emotional disconnection and the roommate phase. If you’re struggling with marriage communication, resentment, recurring arguments, co-parenting conflict, feeling unheard by your spouse, controlling behavior, relationship anxiety, or breaking toxic relationship patterns, this episode offers some uncomfortable questions and practical perspective on how your own behavior may be contributing to the cycle you desperately want to change. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Your Kids Remember Every Time You Didn't Show Up S4 Ep48

Oct 12, 2026 1 hr 39 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we take on some uncomfortable questions about marriage, trauma, love languages, communication, and what it actually means to feel loved by your partner. Can you support someone who has deep emotional walls without slowly abandoning yourself? What happens when you feel like you're carrying the relationship because your partner doesn't pursue you, initiate connection, or respond to your needs the way you want? We break down emotional withdrawal, relationship expectations, healthy boundaries, self-abandonment, trauma healing, love languages, and the difference between your partner not loving you and your partner simply loving you differently than you expect. Then the conversation turns to fatherhood, co-parenting, custody, child support, and the choices divorced or separated parents make with the limited time they have with their children. Is taking a weekend away with your spouse selfish? What about giving up parenting time for hobbies, a band, or your own lifestyle? We talk about being a present father, balancing marriage and parenting, inconsistent parents, childhood abandonment, keeping your word to your kids, and why your children will ultimately decide what kind of parent you were based on how consistently you showed up. If you're working on your marriage, communication, parenting, emotional healing, or becoming a better husband, wife, father, or mother, this episode will challenge the stories you tell yourself about love and responsibility. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Is It Avoidant Attachment or Are They Finally Done With You S4 Ep47

Oct 9, 2026 1 hr 11 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we break down two relationship stories that raise some uncomfortable questions about boundaries, attachment, trauma, communication, and personal accountability. Is someone being avoidant when they walk away after one major conflict, or are they finally holding a boundary they promised themselves they would never cross again? We talk about unhealthy relationship patterns, rushing intimacy, addiction and gambling, emotional safety, nervous system regulation, poor communication, relationship repair, and why loving someone does not mean they are required to give you another chance. We also revisit a listener who finally walked away from a controlling and manipulative relationship and can now see the behaviors she once struggled to recognize. We unpack love bombing, emotional manipulation, control, self-worth, trauma bonds, boundaries, healing after toxic relationships, and what happens when someone stops engaging with the tactics that once kept them stuck. If you're trying to understand relationship red flags, avoidant attachment, healthy boundaries, toxic relationship dynamics, emotional healing, or how to stop repeating the same relationship patterns, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The Strongest Man You Know Might Be Barely Holding It Together - Bonus content

Oct 3, 2026 52 min

On this episode Chris and Peaches have a raw conversation about male vulnerability, marriage, emotional safety, and what happens when a man no longer feels safe taking off his armor at home. It starts with a provocative question, if a woman can sense when her husband is cheating, why can’t she sense when he’s falling apart? From there, the conversation gets into men silently struggling while continuing to provide, protect, parent, work, and function, sometimes while wondering whether their family actually wants them or simply needs what they provide. Chris and Peaches discuss why some husbands stop communicating, what happens when vulnerability gets weaponized during arguments, the difference between weakness and a man admitting he’s exhausted, and why home should be the place where the armor finally comes off. They also confront the responsibility men have to communicate, heal, and participate in saving themselves, while challenging wives to consider whether their marriage has actually become a safe place for honesty. This episode gets into masculinity, depression, emotional intimacy, respect, sex, affection, feeling wanted versus needed, and the painful reality that sometimes a man’s silence isn’t because he has nothing to say, it’s because he learned what speaking costs him. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Can You Actually Fall Out of Love With Your Partner S4 Ep46

Oct 2, 2026 1 hr 18 min

Can you actually fall out of love with someone you once deeply loved? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we break down a listener’s 14-year relationship where resentment, constant conflict, loss of attraction, emotional manipulation, unmet responsibilities, and years of unresolved problems have pushed the marriage to the edge. We talk about what happens when your body starts rejecting your partner, how resentment changes the way you interpret everything they do, why couples begin punishing each other instead of repairing the relationship, and why saying “if you ever loved me, you couldn’t stop loving me” can become a powerful guilt tactic. This is an honest conversation about falling out of love, marriage problems, emotional manipulation, relationship resentment, intimacy, attraction, communication, accountability, and knowing when something has to fundamentally change. We also answer a listener preparing for marriage after being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and discuss BPD relationships, emotional regulation, DBT, CBT, trauma healing, self-harm, self-love, nervous system regulation, and personal responsibility. A mental health diagnosis can give you valuable information about yourself, but it doesn’t have to become your identity or an excuse for hurting the people you love. We talk about learning your triggers, regulating intense emotions, accepting love when you struggle to love yourself, doing the work before marriage, and becoming an active participant in your own healing. Whether you’re struggling with a damaged marriage, BPD, trauma, resentment, emotional dysregulation, or simply trying to become a healthier partner, this episode is about taking ownership of what you can control and deciding what happens next. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Love is not enough

Sep 30, 2026 1 hr 36 min

This episode is built around one uncomfortable question, if two people genuinely love each other, is that enough to build a life together? You dig into the difference between love, chemistry, compromise, and true compatibility, especially when couples discover that their visions for the future simply do not align. The conversation explores the major compatibility issues people often avoid early in dating, including money, children, religion, sex, lifestyle, ambition, substance use, where to live, and family involvement. The central idea is that love can be completely real while two people still want lives that cannot peacefully coexist. You also challenge listeners to stop asking only, “Do we love each other?” and start asking what they are actually building together. This episode examines resentment, sacrifice, boundaries, relationship expectations, sexual compatibility, communication, shared values, and the danger of giving up so much of yourself that you eventually disappear inside the relationship. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or already married, this conversation will help you identify the questions couples need to ask before resentment replaces connection, and determine whether your compromises are creating a shared life or slowly costing one of you the life you wanted. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Can You Love Someone and Still Be Completely Incompatible S4 Ep45

Sep 28, 2026 1 hr 29 min

This episode centers on a hard question that cuts deeper than whether two people love each other, what happens when the relationship feels good, but the life you are building together does not? Chris and Peaches respond to a listener who loves her partner deeply but is struggling with the reality of living in a child-centered household, increasing parenting responsibilities, sensory overload, interrupted work, and a growing need for solitude. They unpack neurodivergence, autism, nervous system regulation, step-parenting, boundaries, compatibility, people pleasing, overfunctioning, and the difference between having legitimate needs and expecting the household to continually adapt around them. The conversation gets especially uncomfortable when the listener admits that she doesn't fantasize about ending the relationship, she fantasizes about getting her own apartment. Chris and Peaches explore whether couples can deeply love one another while being incompatible under the same roof, whether moving out would actually solve the problem, and what happens when one partner wants family life while the other needs far more independence, quiet, and autonomy. Expect a blunt discussion about dating someone with children, responsibility, resentment, self-abandonment, parenting, creating better boundaries at home, and recognizing when the real problem isn't love, it's that two people may want fundamentally different lives. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Resents Her Husband and Their Marriage Is Starting to Collapse S4 Ep44

Sep 28, 2026 1 hr 27 min

What happens when you love your spouse but start feeling completely alone inside your marriage? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches respond to a young mother who says she feels like a single parent while her husband struggles to connect with their infant son. They break down resentment in marriage, fatherhood, parenting expectations, division of responsibilities, unresolved relationship baggage, emotional disconnection, appreciation, communication, and the difficult conversations couples avoid because they're afraid of what they might hear. They also challenge the idea that providing financially or caring for a child are the only measures of whether someone is showing up in a marriage. Then the episode takes a completely different turn with a listener sharing what she calls the greatest love story of her life. Chris and Peaches discuss healthy relationships, emotional safety, mutual devotion, healing after toxic relationships, dating with intention, vulnerability, playfulness, admiration, and what it looks like when two people genuinely enjoy taking care of one another. From feeling like a single mother inside a marriage to finally experiencing a relationship where love feels safe, this episode explores the choices, expectations, communication, and behaviors that can either create distance between two people or build a relationship that feels like home. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

I Rebuilt My Entire Life… So Why Do I Still Feel Broken S4 Ep43

Sep 25, 2026 1 hr 27 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches tackle the damage created by online gender wars, toxic relationship advice, extreme feminism, social media echo chambers, and the growing divide between men and women. After reacting to a viral video claiming men are becoming more dangerous as women embrace the “divine feminine,” they challenge the idea that masculinity and femininity are enemies. The conversation explores healthy relationships, the sacred masculine and divine feminine, accountability, generational trauma, marriage, modern dating, social media algorithms, and how constantly consuming angry relationship content can distort the way you see your partner and the opposite sex. Then we get into your emails, including a powerful story from a woman whose experience at the 2 Be Better Women’s Retreat helped her discover community, friendship, emotional growth, and a stronger sense of who she wants to become. We also answer an email from a husband and father rebuilding his life while his wife is incarcerated, navigating sobriety, parenting, burnout, loneliness, emotional regulation, friendship, purpose, and the feeling of being broken in body, mind, and spirit. This episode is for men and women who want stronger marriages, healthier relationships, better communication, personal accountability, genuine community, and practical conversations about becoming a better husband, wife, parent, and human being. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

TFTC - Do You Know Your Partner Pt2

Sep 23, 2026 1 hr 19 min

Would you choose your partner again if you met them exactly as they are today? In this episode of Thoughts From The Chair, Chris challenges couples to look beyond history, comfort, kids, finances, and the fact that you once fell in love. We dig into what actually makes a long-term relationship worth choosing, respect, attraction, admiration, trust, compatibility, character, personal growth, intimacy, and whether both people are still becoming someone their partner genuinely wants to build a life with. We also get into one of the biggest problems in long-term relationships, assuming you still know your partner because you know their habits. You’ll learn why couples need regular relationship check-ins, how resentment can leave you interacting with an outdated version of your spouse, why curiosity matters, and how to uncover what your partner is worried about, struggling with, becoming, and afraid to tell you. If your marriage feels disconnected, stagnant, more like roommates than lovers, or you simply want a stronger relationship, this episode gives you questions and conversations that can help you reconnect and build a new relationship with the person you already chose. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Rage Quit After Our Advice… Then Came Back With THIS Update S4 Ep42

Sep 21, 2026 1 hr 19 min

What happens when relationship advice pisses you off, but turns out to be exactly what you needed to hear? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches dive into men's loneliness, emotional regulation, self-mastery, cheating red flags, emotional affairs, relationship boundaries, and the uncomfortable reality of what happens when people stop communicating their needs. They break down how social media has changed relationships, why emotional dependence can destroy attraction, how resentment builds when someone feels unheard, and why ignoring problems to "keep the peace" eventually costs you more than confronting them. Then we get into two powerful relationship advice emails. The first comes from a listener who originally rage quit the community after Chris and Peaches challenged her perspective, only to return months later after taking accountability, confronting her ego, repairing her relationship with her grandmother, setting healthier boundaries, and completely changing the way her family communicates. The second asks a harder question, what happens when you still love someone, but your futures aren't compatible? We unpack breakup resentment, retirement plans, choosing between a relationship and family, why an ex can seem like a completely different person after the relationship ends, and how to stop searching the past for answers that won't change your future. If you're working on communication, marriage, relationships, emotional intelligence, boundaries, self-awareness, or personal growth, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Caught Him Cheating and Still Married Him S4 EP41

Sep 18, 2026 1 hr 8 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peach respond to real relationship emails covering marriage, infidelity, boundaries, healing after toxic relationships, age gap relationships, long distance dating, emotional connection, and what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship. One listener shares how she transformed heartbreak and anger into personal growth, built a successful business, rediscovered her femininity, and found a healthy relationship with a man who makes her feel safe. Another asks whether she's making the right decision by finally walking away from a 15-year marriage filled with cheating, inconsistency, resentment, and unmet emotional needs. This episode gets into relationship accountability, enforcing boundaries, recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns, recovering from betrayal, dating after divorce, choosing better partners, and understanding the difference between genuine love and simply being desperate for connection. Chris and Peach also challenge the narratives surrounding men and women, discuss age gaps and grooming, explain why unresolved pain can distort the way we see relationships, and break down why loneliness can make red flags easier to ignore. If you're struggling with marriage problems, cheating, divorce, toxic relationships, dating, boundaries, trust issues, or learning how to create a healthy relationship after heartbreak, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

TFTC - Do You Know Your Partner Pt1

Sep 16, 2026 1 hr 47 min

These Friendship Red Flags Will Change Who You Trust S4 Ep40

Sep 14, 2026 1 hr 8 min

If you've ever wondered whether you're outgrowing your friends, questioned if you're being manipulated in a relationship, or struggled with setting healthy boundaries, this episode is for you. We react to real relationship emails covering toxic friendships, emotional manipulation, divorce, dating someone facing serious health issues, and the difficult process of choosing yourself without guilt. We also share a powerful testimonial from one of our women's retreats about healing trauma, rebuilding confidence, and finding community. In this episode, we break down red flags in friendships, signs of emotional manipulation, people pleasing, healthy relationship standards, codependency, boundary setting, divorce, dating advice, trauma recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're trying to improve your relationships, recover from toxic people, or become more emotionally resilient, you'll leave with practical insights and a new perspective on protecting your peace and raising your standards. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Anxious vs Avoidant, The Relationship Trap Nobody Talks About S4 Ep39

Sep 11, 2026 1 hr 19 min

This episode dives into one of the most common relationship dynamics, the anxious and avoidant attachment cycle. Chris and Peaches respond to a listener's email about feeling emotionally disconnected despite deeply loving their partner, exploring anxious attachment, avoidant behaviors, emotional regulation, nervous system responses, the mental load in relationships, communication breakdowns, and how unresolved childhood trauma can shape adult relationships. They discuss why love alone isn't enough, how partners accidentally trigger each other's deepest wounds, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety, trust, and long term security. If you've ever wondered why one partner pursues while the other withdraws, why conflict feels impossible to resolve, or how to stop repeating the same relationship patterns, this episode offers practical insights you can apply immediately. Chris and Peaches also tackle dividing the mental load, attachment theory, co-regulation, accountability, social media boundaries, emotional security, and weekly relationship check-ins that help couples reconnect instead of growing apart. Whether you're dating, married, or working through past trauma, this conversation will help you better understand yourself, your partner, and what healthy love actually requires. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Ignored Every Red Flag... Here's What It Cost Her S4 Ep38

Sep 7, 2026 1 hr 41 min

Can someone truly change, or are you ignoring the warning signs because you're in love with their potential? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches respond to a heartbreaking relationship email from a woman caught in a cycle of manipulation, infidelity, broken trust, and repeated second chances. They unpack the difference between healthy boundaries and control, why people stay in toxic relationships long after the red flags appear, and how unresolved childhood wounds can leave us accepting far less than we deserve. This conversation dives deep into accountability, self worth, traditional relationships, betrayal, codependency, and the dangerous hope that keeps people trapped in unhealthy dynamics. You'll also hear an honest discussion about dating standards, commitment, manipulation, emotional abuse, co-parenting, staying for the children, and why actions will always reveal more than words. Chris and Peaches challenge the belief that love alone can fix a relationship and explain why boundaries without consequences are not boundaries at all. If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic partner, questioned your relationship, or wondered whether you're seeing reality or just someone's potential, this episode offers practical insights that could change the way you approach love, trust, and your future. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Trusted His Promise... Then He Changed Everything S4 Ep37

Sep 4, 2026 1 hr 44 min

When someone tells you they're ready for a future together, should you believe their words or watch their actions? In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches break down a relationship email from a woman whose boyfriend repeatedly promised they would move in together, only to back out after she made life-changing financial decisions based on his word. They discuss broken trust, relationship timelines, financial responsibility, difficult conversations, integrity, and why ignoring red flags often leads to resentment. If you've ever wondered whether you're wasting time in a relationship or staying because of potential instead of reality, this conversation is for you. This episode explores dating with intention, why actions matter more than promises, how financial decisions can expose relationship compatibility, and the importance of taking responsibility for your own future instead of building it on someone else's commitments. Chris also shares his perspective on personal accountability, building a successful life, creating financial stability, and recognizing when someone's behavior reveals that they are not ready for the future they claim to want. If you're looking for honest relationship advice, dating advice, marriage conversations, communication tips, and practical personal growth, this episode delivers a direct conversation that challenges both partners to become better. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

My Boyfriend Hoards Money Should I Leave S4 Ep36

Sep 2, 2026 1 hr 32 min

this episode centers on two relationship emails, one about a woman wondering if she's missed her chance at love after years of bullying and self-doubt, and another about financial incompatibility, boundaries, and whether a relationship can survive when two people have completely different visions for the future. Throughout the conversation, Chris and Peaches explore self-worth, dating after trauma, people-pleasing, accountability, childhood conditioning, financial values, communication, and why compatibility matters more than chemistry. If you've ever wondered why dating feels so difficult, struggled with low self-esteem after rejection, questioned whether you're settling in a relationship, or felt stuck between love and incompatibility, this episode is for you. Expect honest opinions, practical relationship advice, real-world communication strategies, and conversations about boundaries, emotional healing, dating standards, financial compatibility, and building healthier relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, you'll walk away with a better understanding of what creates lasting connection, and what quietly destroys it Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Emotional Abuse Changes Your Brain S4 ep35

Aug 28, 2026 57 min

If you've ever questioned your reality after a toxic relationship, struggled with emotional abuse, or found yourself repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Chris and Peaches respond to a powerful listener email from a 21 year old woman trying to rebuild her life after years of emotional manipulation, gaslighting, blame shifting, and trauma bonding. Together they unpack how childhood wounds shape our adult relationships, why we give away our personal power, how emotional abuse rewires the nervous system, and what it actually takes to break free from cycles of chaos. This conversation explores attachment styles, boundaries, self worth, emotional regulation, and the difficult process of learning to trust yourself again after surviving unhealthy relationships. Throughout this episode, you'll learn how to recognize emotional manipulation, stop confusing chaos with love, rebuild confidence after abuse, and create relationships built on respect instead of fear. Chris and Peaches also discuss parenting, childhood trauma, nervous system healing, personal accountability, and why healing begins by reclaiming ownership of your own life. Whether you're recovering from narcissistic abuse, struggling with anxious attachment, overcoming people pleasing, or simply trying to build healthier relationships, this episode offers practical insight, honest conversation, and encouragement to help you stop surviving and start living. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

TFTC Curiousity

Aug 26, 2026 1 hr 19 min

What if the biggest threat to your marriage isn't infidelity, incompatibility, or a lack of love, but the slow loss of curiosity, trust, and attraction? In this episode of Thoughts From the Chair, Chris breaks down what happens when couples stop discovering each other and start operating from assumptions, outdated stories, resentment, and familiarity. You'll hear why you may know everything about your spouse's routine while knowing very little about who they're becoming, how confirmation bias can trap your partner inside an old version of themselves, and why continuing to court, communicate with, and stay curious about your spouse matters in a healthy long-term relationship. The conversation also dives into privacy vs. secrecy in marriage, phone passwords, location sharing, emotional affairs, boundaries, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and when transparency crosses the line into surveillance. Chris then tackles one of the harder conversations in marriage, whether attraction can survive familiarity, and the responsibility both partners have to remain physically, emotionally, and relationally attractive. If you're struggling with marriage communication, resentment, trust issues, intimacy, emotional connection, a sexless marriage, or feeling more like roommates than lovers, this episode will challenge you to stop asking whether your partner has changed and start asking whether you've continued paying attention. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The Hard Truth About Feeling Unwanted in Marriage S4 Ep34

Aug 24, 2026 1 hr 9 min

If you've ever felt like you're giving everything to a relationship while getting almost nothing in return, this episode is for you. We break down real relationship emails involving emotional neglect, motorcycle clubs, pornography, PTSD, communication breakdowns, and the painful experience of feeling like you're no longer your partner's priority. We discuss boundaries, respect, emotional safety, healthy marriage dynamics, and the difficult question of when love is no longer enough to save a relationship. We also dive into intentional parenting, how quality time strengthens family bonds, why self worth determines what we tolerate, and the hidden damage caused by emotional disconnection. Whether you're struggling with trust, feeling unseen in your marriage, dealing with porn addiction in a relationship, or trying to decide if your relationship can be repaired, this episode offers honest conversation, practical insight, and hard truths designed to help you build stronger, healthier relationships. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

What happens before Divorce

Aug 21, 2026 56 min

Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

TFTC - The People Using You Won't Like This Conversation

Aug 19, 2026 1 hr 5 min

In this episode of Thoughts From the Chair, Chris dives into a difficult question about modern relationships, friendships, and loyalty: Have we started treating people like they're disposable? We live in a culture obsessed with upgrading, replacing, and moving on to the next best thing, and that mentality has found its way into our marriages, friendships, dating lives, and communities. This conversation explores why relationships fall apart, how unspoken expectations and resentment destroy connection, why uncomfortable conversations matter, and the difference between genuinely loving someone and simply loving what they provide for you. Real relationships require honesty, accountability, forgiveness, boundaries, communication, sacrifice, and the willingness to repair what's been damaged instead of immediately looking for a replacement. The conversation gets even deeper when a community member asks what happens when you're always the giver surrounded by takers. Chris breaks down people pleasing, one sided friendships, toxic relationship dynamics, boundaries, self abandonment, loyalty, sacrifice, dating, marriage, and knowing when helping someone has crossed the line into enabling them. You'll hear why takers often see boundaries as betrayal, why being needed isn't the same as being loved, how poor communication creates resentment, and why healthy relationships require reciprocity instead of one person constantly carrying the weight. If you've ever wondered whether someone actually loves you or simply loves what you do for them, whether you should keep fighting for a relationship, or how to set boundaries without becoming cold and disconnected, this conversation is for you Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be...

Stage 4 Cancer, Divorce, Loss, Now What S4 Ep33

Aug 17, 2026 56 min

This episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast tackles one of the hardest questions anyone can face, how do you keep moving forward when life won't stop hitting you? Chris and Peaches discuss the difference between trauma and hardship, surviving season after season of crisis, supporting a partner through serious illness, maintaining emotional connection when your own needs aren't being met, and why your mindset determines whether life's challenges become your identity or your catalyst for growth. They also share practical advice on communication, emotional resilience, love languages during illness, and how to avoid falling into a victim mindset while still honoring genuine pain. The conversation also goes behind the scenes of their growing business, homeschooling plans, building a botanical extraction laboratory, reducing technology and news consumption, preparing for the future, and why they are shifting the direction of their content toward meaningful personal growth instead of relationship drama. If you're interested in relationships, mental health, resilience, emotional maturity, self improvement, accountability, communication, trauma recovery, or creating a more intentional life, this episode offers honest conversations and practical perspectives you can apply immediately. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Questions with Chris - Submission, Jealousy, Boundaries, Your Emails Answered

Aug 15, 2026 1 hr 36 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris answers real relationship questions submitted by listeners and tackles the conversations most people are afraid to have. From marriage, submission, leadership, boundaries, trust, jealousy, financial struggles, social media addiction, and protecting intimacy, to maintaining connection when work keeps couples apart, these emails expose the everyday problems that can quietly destroy relationships when people refuse to communicate. Chris breaks down the difference between submission and control, requests and demands, insecurity and legitimate boundaries, while challenging both men and women to take accountability for the role they play in their relationships. This isn't traditional relationship advice. These are raw, unfiltered answers about marriage, masculine leadership, feminine submission, communication, personal accountability, dating, trust, intimacy, money, and becoming a better partner. You'll hear why your partner can't read your mind, how unspoken expectations create resentment, why boundaries require communication, how social media can distort your perception of relationships, and why being present with your partner matters more than trying to recover time you've already lost. If you're trying to build a stronger marriage, improve communication, understand relationship dynamics, or stop repeating the same destructive patterns, this episode will give you plenty to think about. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Our second zoom call

Aug 14, 2026 1 hr 11 min

Going no contact

Aug 14, 2026 54 min

Thinking about going no contact with a parent, sibling, friend, or partner? Before making one of the biggest decisions of your life, watch this conversation. We break down the difference between healthy boundaries and permanent separation, explain why no contact should be a last resort, and share a practical 12 step framework to help you decide whether you're protecting your peace or simply avoiding discomfort. We cover toxic family relationships, emotional abuse, manipulation, narcissistic behaviors, accountability, boundary setting, grief, and how to recognize the patterns that truly justify walking away. Whether you're dealing with toxic parents, a controlling family member, an emotionally abusive relationship, or wondering if it's finally time to cut someone out of your life, this episode is designed to help you make that decision with clarity instead of emotion. You'll learn how to separate conflict from abuse, communicate boundaries effectively, recognize when someone is capable of change, and understand the emotional consequences that come with going no contact. If you've ever questioned whether staying is hurting you more than leaving, this conversation will give you the tools to make that decision with confidence.| Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

How resentment destroys marriages S4. Ep32

Aug 10, 2026 2 hr 36 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we tackle one of the biggest relationship struggles couples face, emotional disconnection. Using a real listener email, we explore why loving each other isn't always enough to feel close, how resentment quietly builds, why communication breaks down, and what happens when two good people slowly become roommates instead of partners. We dive into emotional loneliness, marriage after kids, stay at home parenting, masculine and feminine roles, intimacy, security, boundaries, self worth, and the hidden ways unresolved wounds shape our relationships. If you've ever wondered why your partner doesn't seem to "get" you anymore, why intimacy fades, or how to reconnect without blame, this conversation is for you. We share practical relationship advice on rebuilding emotional connection, communicating needs without resentment, understanding different emotional perspectives, and creating a marriage where both people feel seen, valued, and supported. Whether you're married, dating, or trying to save your relationship, you'll leave with actionable insights that can help you build a stronger, healthier partnership. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Its over. Now what?

Aug 7, 2026 59 min

This episode is for anyone navigating the pain of a breakup, divorce, or the end of a long-term relationship and wondering, "What now?" We break down how to know when you're actually ready to date again, why healing is more important than waiting a certain amount of time, and the biggest mistakes people make after a relationship ends. We discuss loneliness versus companionship, trauma bonds, rebound relationships, emotional healing, codependency, self-worth, boundaries, journaling, therapy, and why so many people repeat the same relationship patterns without realizing it. If you're trying to move on after a breakup, recover from divorce, or build healthier relationships in the future, this conversation will help you understand what real healing looks like. You'll also learn the signs that you, or someone you're dating, may not be emotionally ready for another relationship, how to rebuild your identity after years of being with one person, and why self-awareness is the foundation of lasting love. We share practical advice on creating boundaries, recognizing red flags, avoiding rebound relationships, healing attachment wounds, and becoming the kind of person who attracts healthy relationships instead of repeating old cycles. Whether you're recovering from an abusive relationship, ending a marriage, or simply trying to move forward without carrying your past into your future, this episode offers honest conversations and actionable tools to help you heal before you love again. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Stop Looking to Your Partner to Fix Your Emotions S4 Ep31

Aug 3, 2026 1 hr 19 min

If you've ever struggled with relationship conflict, betrayal, trust issues, emotional regulation, or wondered whether it's time to let go of a relationship, this episode is packed with practical insights you can apply immediately. Chris and Peaches dive into real listener questions covering everything from respecting no contact after a breakup, overcoming defensive communication, managing chronic illness in a relationship, nervous system regulation, setting healthy boundaries, emotional maturity, and navigating possessive or controlling behavior. Rather than offering surface level advice, they explore the deeper psychology behind why we react the way we do and how unresolved childhood programming continues to shape our adult relationships. You'll also hear an honest discussion about technology addiction, rebuilding community, developing healthier communication habits, learning to self regulate instead of relying on others, and creating stronger, more resilient marriages and partnerships. Whether you're trying to heal your relationship, improve your communication, recover from emotional pain, or become a healthier partner, this episode provides actionable advice designed to help you build trust, increase emotional intelligence, and create lasting connection. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

BPD and Abuse

Jul 31, 2026 46 min

If you've ever wondered whether Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) causes abuse, or whether someone is using their diagnosis to avoid accountability, this conversation tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in mental health and relationships. We break down the difference between emotional dysregulation and abusive behavior, explain why a diagnosis is never an excuse for manipulation, and discuss how untreated trauma can create destructive relationship patterns. You'll also learn about splitting, emotional reasoning, fear of abandonment, codependency, walking on eggshells, gaslighting, boundaries, attachment styles, DBT, accountability, and what genuine recovery actually looks like.Throughout this discussion, we share personal experiences with BPD, healing, therapy, and the work it takes to build emotionally healthy relationships. Whether you're living with Borderline Personality Disorder, dating someone with BPD, recovering from an abusive relationship, or simply trying to better understand trauma and emotional regulation, this episode offers practical insights without shame or stigma. Our goal isn't to label people as good or bad. It's to separate explanation from excuse, compassion from enabling, and help people recognize that healing begins when we take responsibility for what our pain produces. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Single Mom, Broken Engagement, Brutal Reality Check S4 Ep30

Jul 27, 2026 1 hr 37 min

This episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast tackles one of the hardest relationship questions people face, how do you move on after a devastating breakup when children, finances, and future plans are involved? Chris and Peaches break down a listener's heartbreaking story of a failed engagement, dating someone who didn't want children, financial stress, emotional immaturity, and the painful reality of ignoring red flags. Along the way, they discuss compatibility, step parenting, communication, emotional regulation, self worth, childhood trauma, and why love alone is never enough to build a healthy relationship. If you've recently gone through a breakup, are struggling with dating as a single parent, wondering whether you should get back together with an ex, or trying to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns before it's too late, this conversation offers practical advice without sugarcoating the truth. You'll learn why boundaries matter, how unresolved trauma affects your dating choices, what healthy partnerships actually look like, and how taking ownership of your life can help you stop repeating the same relationship mistakes. Whether you're healing after heartbreak or trying to build a stronger relationship, this episode will challenge the way you think about love, commitment, and personal growth. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Single moms

Jul 26, 2026 52 min

Links to data https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3458919/ https://scienceblog.cincinnatichildrens.org/moms-ability-to-remember-prior-pregnancies-suggests-new-strategies-for-preventing-complications/ Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

A & J Live call.

Jul 24, 2026 1 hr 47 min

This episode is a live relationship coaching session where Chris and Peaches help a married couple work through one of the most common causes of conflict, toxic in laws, weak boundaries, poor communication, and feeling unsupported by your spouse. They break down why interrupting your partner slowly destroys emotional safety, how constant correction creates resentment, why your marriage must come before extended family, and what healthy boundaries actually look like when parents refuse to respect your relationship. If you've ever struggled with a controlling mother in law, setting family boundaries, defending your spouse, or improving communication in marriage, this conversation is packed with practical advice you can apply immediately. The conversation also explores chronic illness, self worth, love languages, financial teamwork, and the danger of tying your value to what you can physically provide. Chris and Peaches challenge the couple to adapt to life's circumstances without surrendering responsibility, while offering compassionate guidance on overcoming limiting beliefs, building emotional resilience, and creating a marriage that is protected from outside influence. Whether you're navigating difficult family dynamics, health challenges, marriage struggles, or simply want a stronger relationship built on trust, accountability, and mutual respect, this episode offers honest conversations and actionable tools to help you build a healthier future together. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

She Posted My Child Online After I Said No, What Happens Next 4-29

Jul 20, 2026 1 hr 14 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches tackle two powerful relationship dilemmas that reveal how boundaries, trust, communication, and long term compatibility can make or break a relationship. The first discussion centers around a mother whose sister violated a clearly established boundary by posting photos of her child on social media without permission. The conversation explores family conflict, boundary enforcement, consequences, narcissistic behaviors, protecting children online, and what happens when relatives refuse to respect parental decisions. If you've ever struggled with toxic family dynamics, overbearing relatives, or setting healthy boundaries, this discussion offers practical insights and a fresh perspective. The second relationship advice segment focuses on a woman questioning her future with a partner whose life goals no longer align with her own. Chris and Peaches dive deep into ambition, marriage expectations, stay at home parenting, financial responsibility, compatibility, communication failures, and the importance of having difficult conversations before making lifelong commitments. Along the way, they discuss personal growth, homeschooling, spirituality, social media dangers, self respect, relationship standards, and building a life with intention. If you're navigating relationship challenges, family drama, marriage decisions, dating, personal development, or modern relationship dynamics, this episode is packed with honest advice and thought provoking discussion. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The Internet Star Accused of Murder, What Really Happened - D4vd

Jul 17, 2026 59 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches break down one of the most disturbing true crime stories of the year, the shocking case surrounding musician d4vd (David Burke) and the alleged murder of 14 year old Celeste Rivera Hernandez. They walk through the timeline of the investigation, the grooming allegations, digital evidence, the discovery of a dismembered body in a Tesla, the ongoing murder trial, and the disturbing details prosecutors believe connect the rising music star to one of the internet's most talked about criminal cases. This isn't just a recap of the headlines. Chris and Peaches discuss the psychology behind grooming, online influence, parasocial relationships, parenting in the digital age, emotional regulation, criminal behavior, and the warning signs that may have been missed. If you're interested in true crime, criminal psychology, internet culture, or understanding how a viral musician allegedly became the center of a horrifying murder investigation, this episode offers an in depth discussion with thoughtful analysis and real conversation. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

The Control Dramas and Parenting

Jul 16, 2026 46 min

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we explore how the way we parent shapes a child's nervous system, emotional regulation, self esteem, and future relationships. Using the concept of **Control Dramas**, inspired by *The Celestine Prophecy* and expanded through modern psychology, attachment theory, and real world coaching experience, we break down the hidden parenting patterns that quietly influence children for decades. We cover the original four Control Dramas, the Intimidator, Interrogator, Aloof, and Poor Me parent, along with five additional parenting patterns we believe deserve attention, including the Rescuer, Charmer, Gaslighter, Competitor, and Perfectionist. Whether you're raising young children, healing from your own childhood, or trying to become a more emotionally healthy parent, this conversation will help you recognize unconscious family dynamics before they become generational patterns. We discuss attachment styles, nervous system development, emotional safety, trauma, parenting mistakes, emotional intelligence, and practical ways to break unhealthy cycles while building stronger relationships with your children. If you're interested in parenting, psychology, self improvement, personal development, emotional healing, or creating a healthier family, this episode will give you powerful insights that can change the way you see both yourself and your role as a parent. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

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Created by: Chris Burkett
Status: Active
Latest episode: Nov 13, 2026
Episodes: 550
Release period: Several times a week
Avg. episode length: 1 hr 15 min
Explicit: Yes
Language: English

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