Nikki Parkinson

Divorce and Separation

A How To , Education and Society & Culture podcast Explicit

About the show

Hi, I'm Nikki Parkinson, separation strategist, family law expert, mother of three, and divorcee. I'm also the creator of the Divorce and Separation Hub, a resource to show you how to turn a breakup into a breakthrough. On this podcast, I share my expertise from 25 years working in the family law system and my own personal experiences, together with the incredible insight and honesty of guests who have navigated relationship and marriage breakdown and divorce — not only have they survived, they have thrived. Learn the lingo of a lawyer, discover your worth, find your confidence and, most importantly, embrace all your emotions. The Divorce and Separation Hub is your place to feel safe, to feel seen and to find strength, and discover how the Australian family law system works so you can move through it saving legal fees and your sanity. Plus, we don't charge by the hour! Tune in. Free resources at https://www.divorceandseparationhub.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcehub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcehub LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedivorcehub

Newest episodes

Legal Side of Separation | Separated But Still Living Together

Aug 4, 2026 33 min

Can you really separate while still living together? With rising living costs and Australia's housing crisis, more couples are choosing to separate under one roof. But what does that actually mean for your legal rights, your children, your finances, and your emotional wellbeing? In this episode, I sit down with family lawyer in residence Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal to unpack one of the most misunderstood aspects of separation. Together, we explore the legal realities, common misconceptions, and practical strategies for navigating life when moving into separate homes simply isn't possible. Whether you're considering separation, currently living under the same roof as your former partner, or supporting someone through this transition, I hope this conversation provides compassionate, practical guidance to help you feel more informed and supported. Resources Mentioned Family lawyers, parenting coaches, child psychologists, accountants, GPs, Services Australia, Family Tax Benefit, Child Support, and domestic violence financial assistance programs. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Danielle Zetzer, Lawyer, Founder of Respect Legal and Host of Diary of a Divorce Lawyer Respect Legal Instagram LinkedIn Diary of a Divorce Lawyer Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankin...

Self Care and Support | Divorce Flu - Can You Catch It?

Jul 30, 2026 11 min

Have you ever had someone close to you separate and suddenly started looking at your own relationship differently? Maybe it was a friend, a sister, someone at school, work or in your friendship circle. One minute you are supporting them. The next, you are lying awake wondering: Are we actually okay? Have I been ignoring things? Could I leave too? In this solo episode, I talk about "divorce flu" — the idea that divorce can ripple through social circles and make other people question their own relationships. But can you really catch divorce like the flu? Not exactly. I explore the research around divorce and social networks, while making it clear that someone else's divorce does not cause yours. But it can bring up feelings, questions and truths that may have already been sitting under the surface. This episode is about curiosity, not panic. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Do you have a question you want answered? Submit your question here. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to fi...

Divorce Story | Lindy Klim on Starting Over After Divorce, Motherhood & Finding Peace

Jul 9, 2026 34 min

What happens when leaving feels impossible but staying is costing you your health? In this honest conversation, Lindy Klim shares her deeply personal journey through divorce, rebuilding her life, and raising four children while starting over from scratch. She opens up about recognizing the physical signs of stress, asking for help, leaving everything behind, and creating a peaceful life for herself and her family. This episode is a reminder that healing isn't linear, rebuilding takes courage, and life can become lighter after making the hardest decision. Whether you're considering separation, navigating divorce, or supporting someone who is, Lindy's story offers hope, practical wisdom, and reassurance that you're not alone. In this episode, we discussed: Recognising when your body is telling you something isn't right The emotional weight of staying in an unhappy relationship Finding the courage to ask for help Leaving with four children and starting over Motherhood during separation Therapy, breathwork, and healing Why rebuilding isn't about possessions—it's about peace Supporting children through divorce Letting go of guilt and embracing a new chapter Memorable Quote "It's going to be okay. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other." Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Lindy Klim Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support...

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All episodes

Legal Side of Separation | Separated But Still Living Together

Aug 4, 2026 33 min

Self Care and Support | Divorce Flu - Can You Catch It?

Jul 30, 2026 11 min

Divorce Story | Lindy Klim on Starting Over After Divorce, Motherhood & Finding Peace

Jul 9, 2026 34 min

Legal Side of Separation | Neurodiverse Children and Separation

Jul 7, 2026 42 min

This is Episode 2 of The Legal Side of Separation with family lawyer Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal. In this episode I am talking to Dani about separation, parenting arrangements and neurodivergent children and why the usual conversations about "fairness", equal time and 50/50 care often do not meet the needs of children who need more structure, regulation and support. Dani brings both her legal experience and her lived experience as a neurodivergent parent of neurodivergent children to this important discussion. Together, we explore why separation can affect neurodivergent children differently, especially when routines change, handovers increase, therapies need to be managed across two households, or parents are not on the same page about diagnosis, medication or support. This episode looks at why parenting arrangements need to be built around the child in front of you and not what feels fair to the adults. You'll hear Nikki and Dani discuss: • Why 50/50 care is not automatically in a child's best interests • How separation and high conflict can affect neurodivergent children • Why routines, transitions and handovers matter so much • What happens when parents disagree about diagnosis or treatment • The role of mediation, parenting plans and parenting orders • Why parallel parenting may sometimes be more supportive than traditional co-parenting • How therapy, medication, NDIS supports and school needs can complicate parenting arrangements • Why the family law system is limited when it comes to complex children's needs • How parents can shift from "what is fair to me?" to "what does my child need?" • Why finding the right professional support matters This is a powerful and practical conversation for any parent navigating separation with a neurodivergent child, or any parent who feels like the system does not fully understand their child. Because parenting after separation is not about dividing children in half. It is about creating arrangements that hel...

Legal | Wills, Superannuation and Powers of Attorney After Divorce or Separation

Jul 2, 2026 34 min

When you separate, there are some practical things that feel urgent - parenting arrangements, property settlement, bank accounts, where everyone is going to live. But there is another part of separation that many people overlook. Your estate planning. I'm joined by Mike Poynter, Principal Lawyer at MCP Legal, a partner firm of Simple Separation, to talk about the four key documents you need to review when you separate: your will, superannuation death benefit nominations, life insurance, and enduring powers of attorney. Because here's the thing most people do not realise: if you separate and do nothing, your existing documents may still point to your former partner. And if you do not have a will at all, the law may still treat your spouse as the first person entitled to your estate until you are legally divorced. Mike explains what estate planning actually means, the difference between being separated, divorced, married or de facto, and why it is so important to understand what happens to your assets, superannuation and decision-making powers if something happens to you. This is not about fear. It is about making informed choices. In this episode, we discuss: • What estate planning actually means • Why your will matters after separation • The difference between an executor, trustee and beneficiary • What happens if you separate but do not update your will • The difference between married and de facto couples after separation • Why divorce can change your estate planning position • What happens if you die without a will • Superannuation binding death benefit nominations • Why your super nomination can override your will • Life insurance inside and outside of super • Enduring powers of attorney and medical decision-making • Advanced care directives • Why backup decision-makers matter • The one simple estate planning step you can take today Key takeaway: Separation changes your life, but it does not automatically change every legal document conne...

Self Care & Support | Separation Shock: Why the Early Days of Separation Feel So Overwhelming

Jun 25, 2026 21 min

In the early days of separation, it can feel like your whole life has changed faster than your mind and body can process. You might still be functioning on the outside working, parenting, replying to messages, paying bills — but inside, you feel like you are falling apart. In this solo episode I talk about what I call separation shock: the emotional, practical and mental overwhelm that can happen when a relationship ends or when separation becomes real. I bring you back to what matters most in the beginning: safety, steadiness, support, information and one practical next step. In this episode, I discuss: What separation shock is and why it happens Why the first few days and weeks of separation can feel so overwhelming The difference between urgent and important decisions Why you should avoid making big decisions from panic How separation affects your nervous system, sleep, parenting and decision-making The importance of stabilisation, information and connection What to focus on in the first 72 hours after separation How to support someone you love who is going through a breakup, divorce or separation Why shame and isolation can make separation feel even harder The question to ask yourself when everything feels chaotic: "Who do I want to be in this?" This episode is for anyone who is newly separated, thinking about separation, still living under the same roof, navigating divorce, supporting a friend through separation, or feeling overwhelmed by the practical and emotional reality of relationship breakdown. Note This episode discusses emotional distress, family breakdown and suicide risk. If this episode feels too close or brings something up for you, please reach out to someone you trust or contact a crisis support service in your country. In Australia, Lifeline is available 24/7 on 13 11 14. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services. Resources Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Emergency services Aust...

Divorce Story | The Kind of Grief Men Are Expected to Carry Alone with Murf

Jun 11, 2026 29 min

Today's Divorce Story is with Pete Murphy or Murf, as he's known to his friends. Murf's story is incredibly powerful. It is a story about losing so much of what once felt certain: his family life, his identity, his sense of stability, and at times, his hope. But it is also a story about what can happen when people show up, when support is offered in a way that can actually be received, and when a man begins to rebuild from the inside out. In this conversation, Murf speaks openly about the moment he now recognises as rock bottom, lying in his driveway with police standing over him asking if he was okay. He shares what it felt like to be completely overwhelmed, to feel like there was no point getting back up again, and what it took to keep going. We talk about male grief, the way men are often conditioned to hide pain, and why so many men feel they have to carry separation alone. Murf also shares the daily practices that have helped him through some of the hardest days, including breathwork, meditation, journaling, self-reflection and learning how to create space between what happens and how he responds. This episode is not spoken from the finish line. Murf is still in the middle of his story. And that is what makes this conversation so important. In this episode, we discuss: What life looked like before everything changed Murf's rock bottom moment and what it felt like emotionally and physically Why men often struggle to speak openly about grief The shame and isolation many men experience during separation The importance of friendship, connection and people showing up Why accepting help is not weakness The difference between surrendering and giving up Rebuilding when the story is still unfolding How breathwork, journaling and daily practices helped Murf cope What not to say to someone going through separation Why listening is sometimes more powerful than trying to fix Murf's message for anyone listening, especially men, is simple but deeply important: you are n...

Legal Side of Separation | Should I stay or should I go? with Danielle Zetzer

Jun 2, 2026 39 min

One of the hardest questions you'll ever ask yourself isn't about property settlement, parenting arrangements or court. It's much earlier than that. Should I stay or should I go? In this first episode of our brand new series, The Legal Side of Separation, I'm joined by family lawyer Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal to explore the stage of separation that often gets overlooked the period where you're questioning everything but haven't yet made a final decision. This episode is for anyone feeling stuck between staying and leaving, wondering whether their relationship can be repaired, questioning their own judgement, or trying to understand what their options actually are. Together, Dani and I discuss why this stage requires a different type of support, when legal advice becomes important, and the red flags that shouldn't be ignored. We also unpack coercive control, financial abuse, gaslighting, the myths people believe about lawyers and court, and the practical steps you can take whether you're planning to stay or preparing to leave. Most importantly, we discuss how to make informed decisions from a place of knowledge rather than fear. In this episode we discuss: Why the "should I stay or should I go?" stage needs different guidance than a decided separation; When seeking legal advice is appropriate and when it may not be; The truth about free legal consultations; How to choose the right support team around you; Why education before legal advice can be so valuable; Financial transparency and understanding the reality of your financial position; The risks of delaying important decisions; What "getting your ducks in a row" actually looks like; What coercive control is and how it can present in relationships; Gaslighting and the impact it can have on decision-making; Financial abuse red flags and warning signs; Why engaging a lawyer does not automatically mean going to court; How family law matters are resolved outside of court; Negotiating with high-conflict person...

Understanding Mediation: A Pathway to Respectful Separation

May 28, 2026 28 min

In this episode, I talk about mediation (family dispute resolution) and why it isn't automatically the right first step for every couple. I'm joined by Christina Salvo, CEO and founder of Simple Separation, who explains mediation as a voluntary, structured process led by an impartial mediator to help separating couples reach agreements about parenting and property and, where possible, avoid the stress, cost and adversarial nature of court. Together, we unpack what couples hope to get from mediation, what a mediator does in session (identify issues, narrow disputes, generate and reality-test options, and support negotiation), what they don't do (take sides or give legal advice), what are the gaps in a traditional mediation, especially poor preparation and inconsistent legal advice. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child...

Self Care & Support | Separated But Still Living Together

May 13, 2026 24 min

What happens when your relationship has ended, but neither of you can move out? This is something I am seeing more and more across Australia. Separation no longer always looks like one person packing a bag and moving into a new home. With the cost of living, rental shortages, mortgage pressure, children, leases, school zones and financial stress, many people are finding themselves separated but still living under the same roof. And while that might be the only practical option, it can also be emotionally exhausting. In this episode, I talk about the growing reality of separation under one roof and how you can move through it with more clarity, structure and support. This is not about pretending everything is fine. It is not about staying in the same relationship. It is about recognising that, for many people, physical separation is not immediately possible but emotional, practical, financial and legal separation can still begin. I explore how to create a same-roof separation plan, how to protect children from confusion and conflict, how to manage the emotional load, and why safety must always come first. This episode is for you if you are living in that difficult middle place: the relationship has ended, but the home, the mortgage, the lease, the children or the finances mean you are still sharing the same address. Resources: If you are in immediate danger, call 000. For domestic, family or sexual violence support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT (1800737732). It is a national counselling, information and support service available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. For men using, or at risk of using, violent or controlling behaviour, the Men's Referral Service is available nationally on 1300 766 491. Separation under one roof is recognised in Australia, including by the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia when couples have lived separately in the same home during the 12-month separation period required for divorce. The Court notes that extra inform...

Self Care & Support | Protecting Your Mental Health During Divorce: Practical Tips and Strategies

Apr 22, 2026 35 min

I am welcoming back Psychologist Ben Schiller to answer listener questions about mental health during and after divorce or separation. We discuss how to choose the right therapist, recognise when therapy is needed, and manage the emotional roller coaster that often accompanies a breakup. Ben shares practical strategies for protecting mental health, the importance of social connections, and how to navigate cognitive distortions. This episode is filled with valuable insights and tools to empower you through your breakup. Key Topics: Differentiating between therapists, counselors, and psychologists How to choose the right mental health professional for your needs Signs that indicate you may need therapy Emotional regulation techniques: naming emotions, linking thoughts, and taking action The importance of social connections during separation Strategies for protecting mental health: sleep, diet, and staying connected Understanding cognitive distortions and their impact on mental health Navigating feelings of sadness and guilt after ending a relationship Your Questions Answered: How do I choose a therapist, counselor, or psychologist? How do I know if I need therapy? How can I manage the emotional roller coaster I'm experiencing? What strategies can I use to cope with stress throughout a separation? How can I protect my mental health during the divorce process? Is it normal to feel sad and guilty after ending a relationship? Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Ben Schiller, Connect with Ben Schiller HERE Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a littl...

Self Care & Support | Finding Your Way Through Living Loss: Practical Steps for the Early Days of Separation

Apr 15, 2026 17 min

This episode delves into the concept of "living loss," a term encountered in Dr. Lucy Hone's book, How Will I Ever Get Through This. I share insights on how separation and divorce can feel like a profound loss, even when life continues around you. I discuss the emotional and practical challenges that arise during this difficult time, emphasising that the grief experienced is not just about the end of a relationship but also about the loss of a future, identity, and the life you envisioned. I give you practical sugestions on how to navigate the early days of separation, including the importance of focusing on small, manageable steps and creating a sense of steadiness in your daily life. Key Takeaways: Living loss is an ongoing experience that affects every aspect of your life during separation. It's normal to feel a mix of emotions, including grief, relief, and confusion. Focus on what you need today rather than trying to solve everything at once. Create small points of steadiness to help ground yourself during this tumultuous time. Resources: How Will I Ever Get Through This, by Dr Lucy Hone Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements...

Legal | From Power Imbalance to Practical Agreement: Inside the Mediation Room

Apr 1, 2026 33 min

I'm back with Gerard Rees from Simple Separation for part two of our conversation. In Episode 84, we spoke about superannuation what I sometimes call the hidden asset. In this episode, we're talking about something I hear from clients all the time: "I just want to be heard." But what does that actually mean in mediation? And more importantly how do you make sure your voice is heard without the room blowing up? Gerard shares what he listens for as a mediator when someone says that sentence. Often, it's not just about speaking. It's about power imbalance. It's about fear. It's about worrying you'll be intellectually, emotionally or financially overpowered. We talk about: How mediators create safety in the room Why preparation builds confidence The behaviours that can accidentally make you harder to hear The difference between telling your story and negotiating your future Income disparity and how "future needs" really work What happens when you're still living under one roof When mediation isn't appropriate and why a mediator has a duty to withdraw This is a practical, grounded, honest conversation about what mediation really looks like and how to approach it in a way that gives you the best chance of reaching an agreement you can actually live with. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Gerard Rees, Senior Mediator, Simple Separation Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and shar...

What Happens to Men After the Relationship Ends with Dr Eran Magen

Mar 18, 2026 41 min

This episode includes discussion around mental health, emotional distress, and suicide risk, particularly for men navigating separation and divorce. Please listen in a way that feels safe for you. If you need support, reach out to someone you trust or a qualified professional. In this episode I am joined by Dr Eran Magen, Yale Pyschologist and Founder DivorcingDads.org. In this episode, we talk about: Why you might look fine on the outside but feel completely destabilised inside The loss of identity that can come with separation The emotional exhaustion, fear and uncertainty that often go unspoken Why there is no quick fix and why that's actually okay A simple way to understand your energy when everything feels depleted: Escape. Recharge. Growth. Why sadness is so difficult to express and how to start The fear of opening up and "not being able to close it again" Loneliness, withdrawal and why connection matters more than you think Suicide risk in men going through divorce and what to look out for What actually helps when you feel overwhelmed The one place to start: talking to someone I would like you to take this away - What you're feeling makes sense. You're not weak for struggling. And you don't have to do this on your own. Resources & support If this episode brings anything up for you, please reach out. Australia Lifeline — 13 11 14 MensLine — 1300 78 99 78 Beyond Blue — 1300 22 4636 Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Dr Eran Magen, Yale Psychologist and Founder of DivorcingDads.org Meet Dr Magen - Dr. Eran Magen earned his M.A. in education and Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University, completed post-doctoral training in child ps...

Self Care & Support | Mental Fitness During Divorce: How to Regulate, Rest & Rebuild Capacity with Samantha Thomas

Feb 25, 2026 24 min

I loved this episode. In this conversation, I'm joined by Samantha Thomas, founder of MyndGym, to talk about mental fitness and why it matters so much during divorce and separation. When you're navigating a major life change, your nervous system narrows. Your window of tolerance shrinks. Everything feels heavier. More urgent. Harder than it "should". Sam explains the difference between mental health and mental fitness and why small, repeatable daily practices build real capacity when you're overwhelmed. We cover: Why rest is productive What's happening in your nervous system during separation How to regulate before making big decisions Why journaling helps (and why you can throw the paper away) Simple tools beyond meditation Anchoring into your values when identity feels shaky The "Ta-Da List" for when you feel behind A powerful 3-minute reset Why gratitude might be the smallest habit that changes everything If you're functioning but exhausted this episode is for you. You can find MyndGym at: myndgym.life (Mind is spelled with a "y"). Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Samantha Thomas, Founder of MyndGym. Meet Sam - She is a a life coach, certified youth mentor, and founder of MyndGym - a mental fitness gym with classes every day in journaling, coaching, meditation and breathwork. She believes that for people to be truly well, they need to prioritise and nurture the relationship they have with themselves and practice the little things that help their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. MyndGym is her chance to help people exercise their mental fitness on a regular basis, so they can feel better and supported in their lives. my...

Legal | The Silent Asset: Superannuation, Power Imbalances, and Getting Heard in Mediation

Feb 18, 2026 20 min

What does it actually mean when someone says, "I just want to be heard" and why does it matter so much in mediation? In this episode, I'm joined by Gerard Rees, Senior Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner at Simple Separation, to unpack what mediators listen for, how power imbalances show up, and why superannuation is often the most underestimated asset in family property settlements. We talk through full and frank disclosure, why you shouldn't mediate "blind," and the very real house vs super trade-offs that can shape your life not just now but in 10, 15, 30 years. In this episode we cover: Why "I want to be heard" can signal a power imbalance (especially financially); The non-negotiables before mediation: an agreed balance sheet + values + disclosure; Why legal advice before mediation changes everything (confidence, clarity, reality testing); How the law recognises non-financial contributions (parenting + domestic work); Why super feels "personal" (and why people get emotionally attached to it); The most common house vs super trade-off and how to think it through; Gerard's best "pause before you agree" tip: today's needs vs future security. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Gerard Rees, Senior Mediator, Simple Separation Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production cr...

Parenting | Are Your Kids Walking on Eggshells? Co-Parenting Without Emotional Damage

Feb 11, 2026 15 min

When parents separate, the focus is often on logistics parenting schedules, property settlements, court orders. But underneath all of that is something quieter. The emotional world of our children. In this episode, I sit down with psychologist Jamie Maserow, author of The Therapist in Therapy, to explore the silent emotional work children often carry during divorce and separation. We discuss how children can slip into people-pleasing patterns, walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting Mum or Dad. We unpack jealousy — whether it's a child feeling replaced by a new partner, or a parent struggling with their child's bond with the other parent. And we talk about how to build emotional safety so kids feel secure enough to express what they really think and feel. Jamie shares practical strategies parents can implement immediately, including grounding techniques to manage anxiety during handovers and how to create open conversations without burdening children with adult issues. Resources Mentioned The Therapist in Therapy – Jamie Maserow The Invisible String (children's book referenced in discussion) Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Jaime Maserow, Psychologist and Author of The Therapist in Therapy Website Instagram Book Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. T...

Self Care & Support | Self-Gaslighting After Separation: When You Stop Trusting Your Own Reality

Jan 28, 2026 11 min

If you're separated (or separating) and you keep replaying the past, rewriting conversations, and wondering "Maybe I'm the one who's wrong…" this episode is for you. One of the most common (and most unsettling) things I see after a breakup isn't confusion about money, logistics, or parenting schedules. It's people quietly doubting their own reality. There's a name for it: self-gaslighting and it can keep you stuck long after the relationship ends. In this short solo episode, I explain what self-gaslighting is, why separation turns up the volume, and how to rebuild trust in yourself safely and slowly. In this episode, we cover: What self-gaslighting is (and how it differs from everyday self-doubt). Why divorce/separation can make your inner critic louder even if leaving was the right call. The "quiet, reasonable" thoughts that slowly erode self-trust. Two real-world examples (Sarah + Tom) and how self-gaslighting shows up differently. Practical ways to start coming back to your reality, your instincts, and your steadiness. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise t...

Parenting | Social Media After Separation: When Milestones Hurt Because the Story Isn't Yours

Jan 21, 2026 17 min

Some of the hardest days after separation aren't the days where everything falls apart. They're the days that look "fine" on paper — birthdays, Christmas morning, school milestones, first days back — and yet I still feel that sting afterwards. In this episode, I'm talking about why milestone days can hurt more than you expect, especially when social media tells the story first. Not because a photo is "wrong"… but because the timing, the caption, and the implied narrative can leave you feeling edited out of your child's life. This isn't petty. It's grief meeting visibility. And it's more common than people admit. In this episode, I cover: Why special occasions after separation can feel heavier than ordinary days; The difference between missing a moment and being missing from the story; How "posting" becomes a proxy fight for identity, belonging, and being seen as a parent; What kids absorb from adult emotion around photos, captions, and visibility; Practical social media boundaries that reduce conflict and protect children. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise...

Finance | Buying Out your Ex After Separation: The Finance Reality

Jan 14, 2026 24 min

Jonathan Kline-Spink, Director at Market Street Finance, unpacks what banks are really looking at when someone is separating and hoping to keep the family home. We talk about the difference between borrowing capacity and affordability, why keeping the family home after separation is often more complex than people expect, and how lenders reassess risk when a joint mortgage becomes a single loan. Jonathan explains how banks consider income, expenses, child support, and property values; why finance approvals fall through, and the importance of having honest, early conversations before negotiating outcomes. We also cover common issues that arise during separation, including credit files, missed payments during high-stress periods, and a broker's ethical obligation to act in a client's best interests. This episode is for anyone navigating separation or divorce and trying to work out whether buying out an ex and keeping the family home is financially viable. Related resources: Episode 79 – Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation? (Christina Salvo) → Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation? Lawyer Ready Session → Get clarity on your separation options Supported Exit Session → Support if you're planning to leave or recently separated Divorce & Separation Hub – Resources → Separation resources and support Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Jonathan Kline-Spink, Mortgage Broker and Director at Market Street Finance Website LinkedIn...

Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation?

Dec 17, 2025 15 min

Buying out an ex from the family home after separation can feel overwhelming — financially, legally, and emotionally. In this episode, I'm joined by Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation, to break down how the process actually works and what needs to happen first. We talk through the real sequence involved in buying out an ex — starting with negotiation and mediation, moving into formal agreements, and then looking at finance and title transfer. Christina explains why affordability and borrowing capacity need to be assessed early, what lenders look at when a joint mortgage becomes a sole loan, and why refinancing after separation is often misunderstood. We also cover what happens when both people want to keep the family home, how mediation helps reality-test options, and when court becomes the only remaining pathway. Christina clarifies common misconceptions around stamp duty and spousal transfers, including when exemptions apply for married and de facto couples. Finally, we talk about why every property settlement should include fallback provisions if finance approval falls through, and how having a safety net in place can protect both parties and reduce unnecessary stress. This episode is for anyone navigating separation, negotiating a property settlement, or trying to work out whether keeping the family home is financially viable. In this episode, we cover: Buying out an ex after separation Property settlements and formal agreements Refinancing vs new loans after separation Borrowing capacity and affordability Mediation and negotiation pathways Stamp duty exemptions and spousal transfers What happens if finance isn't approved Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The...

Self Care & Support | The Habits That Heal: Dr Gina Cleo on Identity, Separation and Starting Again

Dec 10, 2025 24 min

Dr Gina Cleo joins me for a powerful conversation about the tiny habits that help you steady yourself after separation especially when identity, routine and confidence feel completely shaken. Gina shares openly about her three divorces and the very human process of rebuilding from the inside out. We explore how separation disrupts the "micro-moments" of your day, why habits shape identity, and the difference between having a habit problem versus simply having no capacity left. We also talk about: Small actions that rebuild confidence and clarity Breaking patterns like people-pleasing and overexplaining Co-parenting systems that create emotional safety Why motivation can't be relied on during grief or overwhelm The one habit she recommends for anyone drowning in stress This episode is gentle, practical and full of hope. If you're trying to find your feet again, start here — with habits that heal. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Dr Gina Cleo, PhD . Habit Researcher . Speaker . Author . Dietitian Dr Gina's Website Dr Gina's Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples final...

Spotlight | When Kids Carry Adult Pain: A Conversation with Tommy Herschell

Dec 3, 2025 31 min

Children feel the impact of separation long before they can explain it and many carry those early wounds into adulthood. In this episode, I'm joined by Tommy Herschell, founder of Find Ya Feet, to explore what can happen for kids during a family breakdown and how those early experiences can shape boys and men for decades. Tommy shares his own story, his parents' separation when he was 10 years old, the years of self-blame, and the emotional crash in his mid-30s that forced him to face what he'd been carrying. We talk about how unspoken pain shows up in kids' behaviour, why emotional safety matters, and the patterns that often follow boys into adulthood. We also touch on what parents can do differently during separation, including: – communicating without overwhelming – staying respectful about the other parent – modelling emotional regulation – protecting kids from adult burdens This conversation is raw, grounded, and full of insight about what children feel but rarely say and what it takes to help them find their feet again. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Tommy Herschel Founder of Find Ya Feet Find Ya Feet Website Find Ya Feet Instagram Find Ya Feet Facebook Merch Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Sim...

Anatomy of Divorce | How to Filter the Noise During Divorce

Nov 17, 2025 10 min

If your mind feels loud but your heart has gone quiet, this episode is for you. If you're navigating divorce or separation and feel overwhelmed by everyone's opinions, this episode will help you tune back into your voice. In this instalment of The Anatomy of Divorce, I explore The Ears — the part of the process where discernment, boundaries, and self-trust matter most. During separation, it can feel like you're drowning in advice from friends, family, lawyers, social media, and your own inner critic. But not every voice deserves airtime. I share how this played out during my own divorce and how to recognise the difference between helpful guidance and harmful noise. You'll learn how to filter opinions, balance emotion with strategy, and rebuild trust in your own internal compass. This episode is for anyone struggling with decision-making, second-guessing themselves, or feeling confused by the competing voices around them. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From p...

Anatomy of Divorce | Let Go, Let Them, and Find Real Peace After Separation

Nov 10, 2025 11 min

This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, I unpack one of the most overlooked skills in separation - perspective. When life turns upside down after divorce, your brain goes into survival mode. You loop old arguments, replay stories, and grip tightly to being understood. But sometimes the shift you need most isn't fixing them - it's seeing them differently. I share how understanding your biology, practising perspective-taking, and embracing Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory can help you calm your nervous system, make clearer decisions, and protect your peace. You'll also learn my six-step Perspective Check, a simple, science-backed tool to help you step out of reactivity and back into clarity. This is an episode for anyone who's ready to stop explaining, start exhaling, and find real freedom after divorce. In this episode, I talk about: Why your brain goes into survival mode after separation; How looping thoughts keep you trapped in pain; The psychology of perspective taking and how it helps regulate emotions; A six-step framework to widen your lens without losing your boundaries; The 90-second de-flare technique for calmer communication; What the Let Them Theory can teach us about emotional release and self-preservation; The difference between letting go and giving up; Why peace comes from perception, not permission. Resources: Mel Robbins 1800 RESPECT Beyond Blue Blue Knot Foundation Lifeline Headspace Friendline Relationships Australia Kids Helpline Mens Line Australia Lysn Mindspot QLife Panda Sane Suicide Call Back Service Open Arms White Ribbon Australia Amica Reach Out Gidget Foundation Black Dog Institute Link 2 Home Homelessness Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce...

Finances | Divorce in the Workplace: The $101 Billion Blind Spot with Andrew Tomich

Nov 3, 2025 24 min

Separation and divorce cost the Australian economy $101 billion every year but behind that figure are real people quietly trying to hold their lives, families, and jobs together. In this episode, I'm joined by Andrew Tomich, Director at A&Co Recruitment Partners, to explore how divorce impacts the workplace from leadership and productivity to culture and wellbeing. Andrew shares what happened when a senior colleague went through a complex separation and how empathy, flexibility, and communication became the foundation for getting through it together. We talk about the ripple effect personal crises have inside organisations, why traditional leave policies fall short, and how initiatives like "Life Leave" are changing the way businesses support their teams. It's a conversation about leadership that sees the person behind the role and why humanising the workplace isn't just good for people, it's good for business. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Andrew Tomich, Founder & Director A&Co Recruuitment Partners Website LinkedIn Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and...

Anatomy of Divorce | Beyond the Pain (The Heart)

Oct 27, 2025 8 min

This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, where we explore the emotional, physical and psychological layers of separation through the whole person body, mind and heart. Today, we move into The Heart the space where pain lives first. If you're in that place where everything feels raw, where your chest feels tight and your thoughts loop endlessly, this one's for you. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to that tender part of you that's trying to make sense of the ending the part that wants to heal but still feels stuck in the ache. I share my own experience of heartbreak when my marriage ended and I couldn't see beyond the grief and how I began to shift from surviving to slowly rebuilding. We'll talk about: Why emotional pain narrows your world and how to gently widen your view again; How the brain protects us in the middle of heartbreak (and when it's time to move from protection to possibility); The moment I realised my pain had changed shape from breaking to becoming; What it means to truly "let go" without losing yourself; How to use gentle curiosity and journaling to reconnect with your heart and your future. This isn't about pushing past the pain it's about understanding it, honouring it, and learning what it's trying to show you. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. T...

Legal | Parenting Plans vs Parenting Orders with Eliza O'Sullivan

Oct 20, 2025 18 min

Parenting after separation doesn't come with a manual but it does come with options. In this episode, I sit down with Eliza O'Sullivan, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner at Simple Separation, to unpack one of the most confusing and emotional parts of separation: how to make parenting work when the relationship ends. Eliza brings calm, clarity, and deep understanding to a topic that so often overwhelms parents. We explore what a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP) actually does, when to use mediation, and how to create a child-focused parenting plan that protects your kids and supports both parents. Together we discuss: The real difference between a Parenting Plan and a Parenting Order Why the best time to create a plan is before you think you need it The must-have clauses every parenting plan should include How to keep communication child-focused when emotions run high What a child's voice really means (and how to be their advocate, not their messenger) When to formalise your arrangements through the court system and when not to This episode is your practical guide to making co-parenting simpler, calmer, and truly centred on your child's needs. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Eliza O'Sullivan, FDRP, Simple Separation Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio...

Self Care & Support | The Psychology of Safe Love: What Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does with Phoebe Rogers

Oct 13, 2025 19 min

Have you ever felt your gut warning you about someone but your head talked you out of listening? In this episode I sit down with clinical psychologist and author Phoebe Rogers to explore the psychology of safe love and why rebuilding self-trust after separation starts in your body, not your brain. We dive deep into what happens when you begin healing after separation, why so many of us keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and how schema therapy can help you break free from the old relationship patterns that hold you back. Together, we unpack: The link between your nervous system and emotional safety in relationships; Why learning to trust yourself again after divorce is the foundation for love after divorce; What to look for when you're dating after divorce and how to know when you're ready; How your body often senses red flags before your mind catches up; Why healthy, safe love begins with reconnecting to yourself Because true healing after divorce doesn't make you harder to love it makes you better at it. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Phoebe Rogers, Clinical Psychologist and Author of When Will It Happen For Me? Website Buy the Book - When Will It Happen For Me Roadmap to Love; trusting your gut again in dating Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted b...

Anatomy of Divorce | Using Your BRAINS: Calm, Confident Choices in Divorce.

Oct 6, 2025 12 min

Feeling stuck or second-guessing every decision during your divorce? You're not alone. In the The Anatomy of Divorce segment of the podcast, I share the B.R.A.I.N.S method a calm, psychology backed decision making framework designed to help you find clarity when emotions run high. You'll learn how to: Overcome divorce decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm. Shift out of survival mode and make grounded, values-based choices. Avoid the 3 biggest decision making mistakes people make during separation. Use the B.R.A.I.N.S method (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing, Support) to create calm and confidence through chaos. Whether you're navigating separation, co-parenting, or your next chapter this episode will help you reclaim your clarity, confidence, and power. Grab your free BRAINS printable and keep this tool close when you need it most. DOWNLOAD HERE. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child su...

Anatomy of a Divorce | The Brain & Overthinking on Loop

Jul 7, 2025 9 min

Have you ever felt your brain working overtime desperately trying to project-manage every conversation, decision, and outcome of your divorce only to end up completely exhausted? In this first episode of The Anatomy of Divorce, I break down why separation sends your mind into overdrive and how the fear of uncertainty can trick you into false control. I share why your brain spirals into anxiety loops during divorce, and how knowing this can help you reclaim your calm. I'm introducing you to the Anchor-a-Day Method a simple but powerful practice to steady yourself when emotions run high. Think micro-moments of intention that bring you back to your body, your breath, and your sense of self. Download my free Daily Anchor Plan and start creating your personal anchor today. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King.

Self Care & Support | Rebound Sex: A Step Forward or a Setback with Ben Schiller

Mar 19, 2025 24 min

Do you really need to get under someone to get over someone? It's a question that often comes up after separation or divorce, and in this episode, I talk with Clinical Psychology Registrar – Psychologist Ben Schiller to explore if there is any truth behind it. We discuss the emotional pull of rebound sex and new relationships, why it's so tempting to dive straight into something (or someone) new, and whether that really helps ease the loneliness and grief that can follow a breakup. Is it a distraction or does it help you heal? And how understanding our own emotional patterns can make all the difference. It's a BIG conversation with great insights. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Ben Schiller, Connect with Ben Schiller HERE Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now.

Self Care & Support | Happiness and Divorce with Stephanie Harrison

Mar 12, 2025 26 min

Can happiness and divorce exist in the same sentence? If you've ever felt like your life was supposed to follow a certain script, find the one, live happily ever after, then this episode is for you. But what happens when that story falls apart? Are we destined to be unhappy, or is there another way? I'm joined by Stephanie Harrison, author of New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong. Stephanie offers a fresh perspective on happiness, breaking down the outdated myths we've been sold, what she calls Old Happy and showing us how to create a New Happy, even in the wake of divorce. This episode will challenge the way you think about happiness, success, and starting over. If you're navigating the grief, guilt, or loneliness that often comes with separation, Stephanie's insights will help you reframe your experience and find hope in the possibility of a more authentic and fulfilling life. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Stephanie Harrison, Expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy, Author Connect with Stephanie Harrison INSTAGRAM | WEBSITE | PODCAST Order the book - New Happy, Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now.

Self Care & Support | It Begins With You: Healing, Growth & Love After Divorce with Jillian Turecki

Jan 22, 2025 26 min

Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through. The loss, the uncertainty, the fear of what's next, it can feel overwhelming. But what if this was also an opportunity to rediscover yourself? In this episode, I'm joined by Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. We have a raw and honest conversation about what it really takes to heal after a breakup, why self-acceptance is more important than self-love, and how to rebuild trust, both in yourself and in future relationships. Jillian also shares insights from her new book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, and we dive into the lessons we've learned from our own breakups, the moments that made us question everything, and the unexpected freedom that comes when you finally let go. If you're struggling to make sense of your divorce or separation, feeling stuck in the heartbreak, or wondering how you'll ever move forward, this episode is for you. What We Talk About The first thing you need to do after a breakup; How to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your decisions; Why choosing yourself doesn't mean disregarding others; The truth about financial independence and why it matters in relationships; How to embrace freedom after divorce instead of fearing it; What a healthy relationship actually looks like; Why heartbreak makes us feel crazy and how to manage those emotions. This is one of those conversations that will stay with you. This episode is brought to you by Simple Separation. For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and S...

How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating with Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes

Dec 16, 2024 20 min

Talking to your kids about divorce can feel overwhelming. It may be one of the hardest conversations that you will have. How do you deliver life-changing news without breaking their hearts? How do you reassure them that they are loved, secure, and not responsible for what's happening? In this episode, I'm joined by Bella Duncan, founder of A Kid With Two Homes. Bella brings an incredibly important perspective, one that she's lived through with her her parents divorce. Together, we explore how to approach this delicate conversation with love, honesty, and compassion. Bella shares not just the emotional side of this experience, but also practical tips for parents who may be struggling to find the right words or the right time. If you've ever worried about how to protect your children while navigating divorce, this episode is a must-listen. What You'll Learn in This Episode: 1. Why the conversation matters so much. 2. Timing and age-appropriate communication. 3. Delivering the news as a team. 4. What kids really want to know. 5. Why you must say, "This is not your fault". 6. Ongoing conversations, this is not a not one-and-done conversation. 7. Breaking the stigma of "broken families. 8. Practical tips for helping kids adjust. Resources & Next Steps: Bella and I have collaborated and created a program for you, How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating. You can join at the introductory price HERE. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments — you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki...

Loneliness After Divorce: Finding Connection in a Disconnected World

Dec 9, 2024 15 min

Loneliness after a divorce or separation can send you into a spiral of overwhelm. In this episode, I explore what loneliness really means, why it feels so intense after a relationship ends, and most importantly, how to start reconnecting with the world around you and with yourself. Whether you're feeling isolated or simply curious about how to move forward, this episode is packed with insights and practical tips to help you rebuild meaningful connections and rediscover fulfillment. Loneliness is a signal, not a sentence. It's a reminder of how much you value connection, and with small, meaningful steps, you can build a fulfilling, connected life again. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments — you're not alone in this. How to Tell Your Kids You Are Separating Course Join Here. This episode is brought to you by Simple Separation. For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Decluttering Your Finances with Melissa Browne

Dec 2, 2024 31 min

I am welcoming back Melissa Browne onto the podcast to help you "Declutter Your Finances". We are sharing with you how to unravel the mystery of financial clutter and offer practical strategies to simplify, prioritise, and take control of your finances — no spreadsheets required. Whether you're adjusting to a new financial reality or just looking to feel more in charge, this episode is packed with actionable advice. What You'll Learn: Face the Numbers, Face the Truth: Understand why knowing exactly what you earn, owe, and spend is the foundation of financial freedom—and why most people avoid it. Declutter in Bite-Sized Chunks: From food budgets to electricity bills, Melissa's methodical approach helps you tackle financial clutter one step at a time. Break Free from Bad Habits: Discover how small unconscious actions, like using credit cards or buy-now-pay-later services, could be silently sabotaging your goals. The 30-Day Detox for Your Wallet: A game-changing exercise that resets your relationship with money and empowers you to spend with intention. Dealing with Debt, Made Simple: Melissa demystifies the four types of debt, how to handle each, and why not all debt is created equal. Forget Budgets — Build a Plan That Works: Learn how to create a lifestyle-first approach to managing money that feels achievable and sustainable. Shifting Mindsets Around Money: Strategies to reduce financial anxiety, build resilience, and create a financial future that aligns with your values. Inspiring Insights: - Why financial modeling for your kids isn't just important — it's a legacy. - How acting "counter-culturally" can free you from the relentless pressure of consumerism. - The truth about financial resilience: It's not about having it all; it's about living a life aligned with your core values. Free Resources from Melissa: 50+ Ways to Find $10K in 12 Months: Creative ideas to generate extra income, from pet sitting to strategic savings — no second job required. CLIC...

A Divorce Story: How to Break Up Well with Sarah Catherall

Nov 18, 2024 34 min

It started with "I do" and ended with "It's over". I sit down with Sarah Catherall, journalist and author of "How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation" to talk about her "Chapter 2" and life after separation and divorce. Sarah shares her experiences of navigating the end of her marriage, raising her children, and creating a fulfilling new chapter in her life. Key Takeaways: The Reality of Separation: Sarah discusses the moment her marriage ended and how she coped with the unexpected changes. She reflects on how the pressures of parenting, work, and life contributed to the breakdown of her relationship. Talking to Children About Divorce: Practical advice on preparing for and having the conversation with children about separation. Rebuilding After Divorce: Tips for maintaining connections with extended family and finding new ways to co-parent effectively. Dating and Repartnering: Sarah reflects on her early dating missteps after divorce and what she learned about introducing a new partner to her children. Advice for taking it slow and respecting your children's feelings during this transition. Can you Break Up Well? Absolutely you can! Resources Mentioned: Sarah Catherall's Book: How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation. Buy in Australia Here. Buy in New Zealand Here. How to Tell Your Kids You Are Separating Buy Here. This episode is brought to you by Simple Separation. For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating Program" HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx T...

Giving Kids a Voice: Despina Mavridou on Divorce and it's Emotional Toll

Nov 11, 2024 21 min

I sit down with Despina Mavridou, author of "Mum, Dad, Can You Hear Me?", about her personal experience growing up in the middle of her parents' high-conflict divorce. Despina shares her powerful story from being a child used as a messenger between her parents to becoming a mediator and advocate for kids in similar situations. Key discussions: Despina opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of being caught in her parents' conflict and the toll it took on her as a child. The devastating effects of using children as messengers and the impact it has on their sense of responsibility and guilt. How parents can better support their children during separation by being mindful of their emotional needs and avoiding placing them in the middle of conflicts. Despina shares how her childhood shaped her adult relationships, including her fear of abandonment and the impact of divorce on her own marriage. Practical advice for parents navigating separation, including seeking help before mediation and focusing on the kids' well-being. Despina's hope that her book will give children a voice and help parents understand the long-lasting effects of divorce on their kids. If you're navigating your own separation and wondering how to help your children through this difficult time, this conversation is a must-listen. You can find Despina's book *Mum, Dad, Can You Hear Me?* on Amazon, in English, Portuguese, and Greek. Resources: - "Mum, Dad, Can You Hear Me?" by Despina Mavridou - Divorce and Separation Hub: www.divorceandseparationhub.com Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating Program" HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Despina Mavridou Connect on Instagram HERE. Connect on Facebook HERE. Buy "Mum, Dad, Can you Hear Me?" HERE....

Navigating Divorce: Lessons from a Decade in the Court System with Christina Salvo

Nov 4, 2024 20 min

Nikki Parkinson talks to Christina Salvo, the CEO of Simple Separation about her divorce story, which began amicably but devolved into a ten-year legal battle. Christina highlights the complexities and emotional toll of prolonged court involvement. Key discussions: Systemic Flaws: Discusses the broken aspects of the family court system. Emphasises how financial constraints often prevent individuals from effectively advocating for their parental rights and needs. Mediation Insights: Importance of mediation as a viable alternative to litigation. Christina shares her mission to support couples through mediation. Focus on the need for more comprehensive training around property settlements within mediation services. Advice for Couples: Encourages maintaining a collaborative mindset to reduce emotional and financial strain during separation. Offers practical tips for effective communication and conflict resolution. What is the Future of Family Law: Reflection on the evolving landscape of family law. Focus on creating supportive frameworks that prioritize the well-being of children and families. Resources Mentioned: Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Simple Separation Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO of Simple Separation Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find our more about Simple Separation HERE.

Responsibility vs. Response-Ability: Lessons from Co-Parenting Through a Crisis

Oct 21, 2024 14 min

In this solo episode, I am sharing a snippet of my personal story that's been unfolding in my life, offering you some valuable lessons along the way. While navigating this situation was far from easy, it tested all my divorce coaching skills and taught me a lot about the power of responsibility and response-ability. In this episode, I share insights on: Responsibility vs. Response-Ability: Learn the key differences between these two concepts and how they can shift the way you approach difficult situations, especially with your ex-partner. Practical strategies to help you remain calm and composed, even when life throws curveballs. My personal reflections on how communication is at the heart of all our relationships, whether with your ex, your kids, or anyone else. I introduce you to my three go-to tips for taking responsibility and response-ability: Breath is your best friend. The 24-Hour Rule. Taking Radical Responsibility. Resourses mentioned in this episode: The 24-Hour Rule Podcast. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Unpacking Divorce Finances: Insider Tips from Certified Lending Professional Emile Flowers

Oct 14, 2024 23 min

What is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional and why do you need one on your team? In this episode, Nikki is joined by Emile Flowers, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP). Emile sheds light on the often overlooked aspect of divorce — mortgage planning. As a CDLP, Emily plays a crucial role in ensuring that divorcing clients are set up for success post-separation, particularly when it comes to housing and financial stability. Emile shares her journey from being a stay-at-home mom to becoming a key player in the divorce lending field. She explains how crucial it is to involve a CDLP early in the divorce process to avoid issues like incorrect settlement agreements and financial pitfalls. Together, Nikki and Emily discuss the importance of bringing the right professionals into your divorce team, ensuring that both parties come out of the process financially secure. Listen in to hear Emile's top tips. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Emile Flowers Emile's Website. Connect on Instagram here. Email Emile HERE. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find our more about Simple Separation HERE.

Exhale: Breathing Through Your Divorce with Linda Vazin

Sep 30, 2024 23 min

And exhale ... Nikki sits down with Linda Vazin, a breathwork expert, to chat how breathwork can be a powerful tool for emotional healing during and after divorce. Nikki and Linda dive into - Why it's important to let yourself fully experience emotions like sadness and anger, rather than rushing through them. Breaking old patterns we inherit from our families. What makes transformational breathwork different? A favourite of Nikki's Reacting vs. responding. Taking responsibility for relationship patterns. How holding onto unresolved emotions can affect your physical health and how breathwork can release these stored emotions. If you are going through a separation or divorce you will definiatly want to add Nikki and Linda's tips to your Toolkit. It's an episode is full of real-life wisdom and practical tips. Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Linda Varzin Connect witth Linda on Instagram. Connect with Linda on her Website. Connect with Linda on Facebook. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

A Divorce Story: Over the Back Fence with Diana Edwards and Nicola Dale

Sep 23, 2024 1 hr 2 min

Grief, healing, new beginnings, and the transformative power of separation and divorce — this episode covers it all. Nikki sits down with best friends Diana Edwards and Nicola Dale from the "Over The Back Fence" podcast. These two powerhouse women share their personal experiences through their separation and divorce. In 2024, with 'grey divorces' on the rise, the question often asked is "What do you do when a long-term marriage comes to an end?" With decades of wisdom behind them, Di and Nicola share their lessons from ending their 36 and 25 year marriages. Di opens up about the end of her 36-year marriage, sharing her two-year grieving process. 'I've closed that door on my past marriage, and I've walked through another into my new life,' she reflects. Nicola talks about the end of her 25-year marriage, how she navigated the heartache, found freedom and joy in being single, and eventually found love — only to face the pain of a public breakup after a high-profile, four-year relationship. How did she survive? With grace, integrity, and a wealth of insights that she shares with you in this episode. Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Di Edwards and Nicola Dale, Over the Back Fence Podcast Connect on Instagram here. Listen to Over The Back Fence Podcast here. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find...

Ditch the Conflict by Understanding your Emotional Triggers with Ben Schiller

Sep 16, 2024 33 min

In this weeks episode we welcome back Clinical Pyschologist Ben Schiller to talk about schemas and how they impact the way individuals cope with divorce and separation. Ben explains what schemas are and practical strategies for recognising and managing these schemas to improve emotional regulation and decision-making. There are so many takeaways in this episode. Nikki and Ben talk about - What Are Schemas? Common Schemas in Divorce. Coping Strategies for Managing Schemas. Self-Soothing Techniques. Oh these are good - what is your Toolkit? How to identify Your Triggers. Plus so much more. Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Ben Schiller, Clinical Psychologist Connect with Ben here. Book an appointment here. Email Ben here. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

The strongest tool you have as a kid of divorce with Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes

Sep 9, 2024 22 min

This week we are kicking off Season 3 with Bella from A Kid With Two Homes. Nikki sits down with Bella Duncan, who shares her experiences growing up as a child of divorced parents. Together, they explore a topic that many parents struggle with: how to handle talking about your ex when your kids are around. Bella opens up about how overhearing her parents' negative comments impacted her as a kid and how she eventually found ways to communicate her feelings. This is a must-listen for any parent wanting to protect their children's emotional well-being during and after separation! Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes Connect with Bella here Website Instagram Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find our more about Simple Separation HERE.

From Chaos to Confidence: Mel Wilson's Divorce Journey

May 1, 2024 36 min

In this episode Nikki Parkinson is joined by Mel Wilson, Journalist, co-host of The Juggling Act and author of Parenting in Progress, to discuss the complexities and personal transformations associated with co-parenting after divorce. Mel opens up about her personal post-separation experiences and shares her emotional journey of parenting post-divorce Nikki and Mel chat - Navigating the new norms of parenting post-separation and the immediate challenges of transitioning from a coupled life to single parenthood. Lessons learned from children amidst the divorce. Redefining the concept of family and personal identity during such transformative periods. Strategies for managing emotional challenges in the early stages of separation. How to change the perceptions and stigmas around divorce. The impact of new relationships on co-parenting dynamics and personal recovery. This episode offers an exploration of the trials and transformations associated with co-parenting after divorce. It underscores the importance of self-care, embracing change, and the positive growth that can arise from navigating through these challenging transitions. Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Mel Wilson Connect with Mel Wilson here Website Instagram Linkedin Facebook Buy Parenting in Progress HERE. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Beyond the Battle: Reshaping Divorce for Children's Sake with Lawrence and Joni Jones

Dec 7, 2023 48 min

In this episode Nikki Parkinson is joined by Lawrence (Larry) and Joni Jones. Larry is a former amily Court Judge of the Superior Court in New Jersey and Joni a Mental Health Professional and together they have created Point C, an incredible educational resource for anyone navigating divorce and separtion with children.This episode delves into the complexities of divorce, particularly focusing on its impact on children. Nikki, Larry and Joni discuss - The Origin of Point C and the inspiration behind creating Point C. Why all parents need this educational reource. The impact of Divorce on Children. How children are affected by parental conflict during divorce. Signs of distress in children and the importance of positive role modeling. Larry offers his judicial experience, discussing how the legal system handles divorce and the potential benefits of early intervention and educational programs. Co-parenting challenges and effective strategies for effective co-parenting. Tips for managing family dynamics during holidays and significant events in the aftermath of a divorce or separation. The Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook Nikki Parkinson Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Guests: Lawrence and Joni Jones Connect with Larry and Joni here Point C Website Point C Instagram Point C Facebook Point C Video on YouTube Point C on LinkedIn Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

A Guys Guide to Divorce with Siobhan Mullins

Nov 30, 2023 18 min

In this episode Nikki Parkinson engages in a insightful conversation with family law expert Siobhan Mullins, author of "The Guy's Guide to Separation and Divorce." Siobhan shares her journey as a family lawyer and her shift to supporting couples in preparing separation agreements. The focus of her book, The Guy's Guide to Separation and Divorce, is on aiding men through the emotional and practical challenges of separation. Nikki and Siobhan discuss - Debunking the 50/50 myth. Understanding "Best Interests of the Child". Practical Parenting Arrangements. Communication and Co-Parenting. The most common questions asked my men going through separation. Siobhan's to three tips for men going thorugh separation. The Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Siobhan Mullins Connect with Siobhan Mullins here Website Instagram Linkedin Facebook Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Finding Your Voice: Mastering Communication in Divorce with Leah Mether

Nov 2, 2023 35 min

In this episode Nikki Parkinson, discusses the importance of effective communication during divorce or separation with her guest, Leah Mether. Leah is a communication and soft skills specialist with over 15 years of experience and the author of two books. Do you ever find yourself having to communicate under pressure? Leah walks you through how to steer yourself through the challenge of conflict, personality clashes, and difficult conversations. Both Nikki and Leah emphasise that communication is key to maintaining positive relationships, especially when you are under pressure, like during a separation or a divorce. Leah and Nikki dive into - The importance of Communication. Leah shares her professional background in communication and how her personal experience with divorce has shaped her views. Leah's Five C's of Effective Communication. The Biff Method and it's framework. Managing Emotions and Expectations and the importance of self-regulation and setting realistic expectations for communication with an ex-partner. Advice for Challenging Conversations (because we will at some stage all have them!). Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook Nikki Parkinson Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Guest: Leah Mether, Communication and Soft Skills Specialist. Connect with Leah Mether here Buy Leah's books here. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

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Created by: Nikki Parkinson
Status: Inactive
Latest episode: Aug 4, 2026
Episodes: 98
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Avg. episode length: 24 min
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