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Nathalie Nimah

Embracing HER

A Self-Improvement and Education podcast

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About the show

Most of us learned that love has to be earned, so we over-function, keep the peace and swallow what we need. Embracing Her is about changing that, starting with your relationship to yourself. Whether you’re dating with an anxious heart, stuck in the same fight with your partner, or tired of carrying the relationship alone, I'll help you understand what’s driving your patterns and build the skills to respond differently. I'm a certified love and relationship coach who has guided hundreds of women into relationships where they feel safe, seen and met.

Newest episodes

#121: On How to Forgive your Past Self

47 min

When you start doing the work and finally see your patterns, it’s so easy to look back and go, “What the hell was wrong with me?”. Especially when it comes to self-abandonment & over-functioning: The YES we didn't mean, the relationship you stayed in for too long, the needs you swallowed. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest obstacles I see in this work: struggling to forgive the version of you who didn’t know better yet. We cover why self-judgement keeps you stuck, why it’s often a buffer against shame and grief, what it does to your nervous system, and how to start meeting your past self (and your inner critic) with compassion instead. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE ⁠

#120: What if they just don't respect your boundary?

26 min

You finally set the boundary! You pushed through the guilt, the fear and the self-doubt. And then they just walked right over it. In this episode, I’m talking about how to get your power back in that moment. We cover why setting boundaries feels so dangerous for so many of us as women, why guilt often means you’re doing it right, why a boundary is information about you and not control over them, the grief of not being met, and what to actually do next when someone keeps crossing the line! 💛Join the waitlist for Resourced Woman, my 12-week program where we work on exactly these patterns right HERE 💛 ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out my on-demand courses.

#119: How to Work on Explosive Anger in Moments of Conflict!

52 min

If you go from zero to volcano in conflict, and then drown in shame afterwards, this one’s for you. I’m sharing my own story of going boom in my relationship, why years of self-abandonment so often end in explosion, how anger becomes armour around something more tender, why our partners can’t be the ones to hold our uncontained anger, and practical ways to build the space between feeling anger and acting it out. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE ⁠

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#121: On How to Forgive your Past Self

47 min

When you start doing the work and finally see your patterns, it’s so easy to look back and go, “What the hell was wrong with me?”. Especially when it comes to self-abandonment & over-functioning: The YES we didn't mean, the relationship you stayed in for too long, the needs you swallowed. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest obstacles I see in this work: struggling to forgive the version of you who didn’t know better yet. We cover why self-judgement keeps you stuck, why it’s often a buffer against shame and grief, what it does to your nervous system, and how to start meeting your past self (and your inner critic) with compassion instead. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE ⁠

#120: What if they just don't respect your boundary?

26 min

You finally set the boundary! You pushed through the guilt, the fear and the self-doubt. And then they just walked right over it. In this episode, I’m talking about how to get your power back in that moment. We cover why setting boundaries feels so dangerous for so many of us as women, why guilt often means you’re doing it right, why a boundary is information about you and not control over them, the grief of not being met, and what to actually do next when someone keeps crossing the line! 💛Join the waitlist for Resourced Woman, my 12-week program where we work on exactly these patterns right HERE 💛 ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out my on-demand courses.

#119: How to Work on Explosive Anger in Moments of Conflict!

52 min

If you go from zero to volcano in conflict, and then drown in shame afterwards, this one’s for you. I’m sharing my own story of going boom in my relationship, why years of self-abandonment so often end in explosion, how anger becomes armour around something more tender, why our partners can’t be the ones to hold our uncontained anger, and practical ways to build the space between feeling anger and acting it out. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE ⁠

#118: Drowning in Empathy? How to Reclaim Suppressed Anger!

32 min

In this episode, I’m talking about why reclaiming your anger is one of the most important things you can do for your relationships. We cover what anger actually is, why it hides under freeze and shame, why big cathartic rage rituals don’t create lasting change, and a simple practice to slowly build your capacity to feel it. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE

#117: "How Do I Get Him to Do His Work?" (Why That Question Keeps You Stuck)

39 min

In this episode, I'm answering the question I get asked more than almost any other, and sharing why the question itself might be what's keeping you stuck. We talk about over-functioning, why no amount of your work can make up for his, and what changed in my own relationship when I finally stopped carrying it all. ✨ ⁠⁠Ready to do that deeper work of your own? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#116: Resentment in Relationships Is a Doorway to Your Power!

54 min

Resentment doesn't come out of nowhere. It's a messenger. When we keep ignoring it, it gets louder, until one day we wake up ten years into a relationship and can't stand our partner anymore. In this episode I share what working through resentment in my own relationship has taught me, and why I now see resentment as a doorway back to my power. In this episode: Why the anger behind resentment makes sense, and what it's pointing toWhy powerlessness sits at the core of resentmentWhere you may have given your power away, and how to start seeing your choices again (even the ones you don't like)Why resentment can linger even after he changesHow to become your own source of validation by being with your raw pain, not the story ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support with your resentment? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#115: Why "Heal & You'll Attract The Right Guy" Might Be Keeping You Stuck

30 min

"If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable, passive or non-committal men, you're just not healed enough." This idea sells like hotcakes in the self-development space, and in this episode we'll take that idea apart. We talk about why the idea is so seductive, what it costs you, and a different way to measure your growth. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠

#114: Making It Work With A Dismissive Avoidant Man

1 hr 0 min

You're with a dismissive avoidant man and you want to make it work, but your needs aren't being met, conflict isn't being resolved, and there just isn't enough closeness. In this episode we cover: The shame wound behind his withdrawal and defensivenessWhy you can't do his growth for himThe one boundary that has to come firstBeing realistic about how long his change will takeThe part nobody wants to hear: your own work This isn't about fixing him. It's about becoming a woman who can have a healthy relationship, with him or with the next man.

#113: Listen to This When You Feel Stuck in Your Relationship!

39 min

If you've been communicating your needs, trying everything you know, and still feel like nothing changes, this episode is for you. I'll unpack why the moments your partner can't meet you aren't a dead end, they're your growth edge. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#112: Why You Keep Choosing Someone Who Isn't Choosing You Fully

39 min

Why does letting go of someone who won't fully choose us feel harder than staying? In this episode, I unpack why we cling to half-chosen connections and the addictive pull of potential and breadcrumbs, and the deeper belief that not being chosen means we weren't enough. 🌹 Join us in EMPOWERED DATING HERE🌹 ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#111: "How do I find a secure partner if I'm still anxious in dating?"

40 min

In this Dear Nath episode, I'll answer a question I get so often: if my picker is off because of attachment trauma, how do you actually find someone secure? I'll breaks down what anxious attachment looks like in dating, and the real bar to aim for: Not "become secure," but heal enough to catch your own impulses and respond differently. 🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING! ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#110: Dating From Self-Worth

40 min

This week, as we gear up for the next round of Empowered Dating, we're talking about what it actually looks like to date from self-worth instead of from a need to be chosen 🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING! ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#109: "How Do I Stay Hopeful After So Much Disappointment in Dating?"

38 min

In this Dear Nath Q&A episode, we'll look into how we can support ourselves through the inevitable disappointments of dating! We cover facing the grief instead of bypassing it, redefining what "success" in dating actually means, and learning to spot the patterns your attachment system keeps replaying. Because dating isn't just about finding the right person, it's training ground for becoming the kind of woman (and partner) you actually want to be. ⁠🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#108: How to Spot Passive Men In Dating Early

38 min

Most high-functioning women were taught that love is earned through effort which sets us up to choose men we end up mothering instead of partnering with. In this episode we dive into the early red flags of under-functioning men, why knowing these flags isn't enough and why the passivity that shows up 6 months (or 6 years) into a relationship often started as a whisper you talked yourself out of hearing. ⁠⁠🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#107: "I Always Bring Things Up, He Never Feels Like Anything Is Enough" - How to Work With This Dynamic

32 min

You're exhausted from being the one who starts every hard conversation. They're exhausted from feeling like nothing they do ever lands. And the more you push, the more they pull back and the more they pull back, the more you panic. Sound familiar? In this episode we break down one of the most common and draining relationship dynamics there is and why it's not actually a communication problem at its core. It's a nervous system problem. We get into what's really happening for each person when these conversations heat up, why both responses make complete sense, and most importantly what each partner can practically do to break the cycle and make the other feel safe enough to actually meet them. This is a great one to listen to together. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠

#106: This Is The One Thing Most Women Miss in This Work

45 min

This week we're talking about self-compassion and why it's actually one of the hardest and most important skills to build, especially if you grew up in an environment where your emotions were met with dismissal or silence. We get into why that harsh inner voice telling you to just push through and get over it isn't a character flaw, it's a protector. And why as long as we keep engaging in this work through the wound rather than from a place of genuine devotion to ourselves, we'll stay stuck on the hamster wheel. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠

#105: "Is He Avoidant or Just Not That Into Me?"

22 min

You're trying to decode his behaviour, figure out his attachment style, understand his why when really the more powerful question is: do I even want to be in something that leaves me feeling this confused? In this episode we flip the script on one of the most common questions in dating and get into what your response to his behaviour is actually telling you about yourself and how to take your power back. 👑 FREE Guide on How to Be The CHOOSER in Dating 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#104: "What if my partner isn't doing this work?"

43 min

If you've ever held back from doing your own healing work because you're scared of outgrowing your relationship, this episode is for you. This week we're talking about what it actually means to choose yourself, why your growth doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship, and what to do when you're the only one in the dynamic who seems interested in changing. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#103: "What if I'm just not attracted to available people?"

50 min

You know unavailable men lead to heartache and yet, when someone kind, consistent, and genuinely interested shows up... nothing. No spark. No pull. Just a vague sense that something is missing. In this episode, we're unpacking one of the most common and confusing blocks that comes up once women start to break their pattern with unavailable men. We dig into what attraction actually is , why your nervous system learned to read anxiety and longing as love, and what's really happening underneath the surface when consistency feels boring or even unsafe. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#102: How to Respond to DEFENSIVENESS

32 min

Does trying to talk to your partner sometimes feel like banging your head against a wall? You come with a genuine concern, and suddenly they're shutting down, deflecting, or turning it back on you, leaving you feeling unheard, lonely, and stuck. In this episode, we're diving into one of the most common and frustrating relationship struggles: defensiveness. We'll unpack what defensiveness actually is, why pushing harder or going quiet both leave you powerless, and the one skill that can genuinely shift the dynamic. We'll explore how shame-based wounds and attachment patterns quietly drive defensive behaviour, how your communication style might be playing a role, and most importantly, how to hold space for both your experience and theirs without losing yourself in the process. This isn't about becoming your partner's therapist or tiptoeing around their feelings forever. It's about building real conflict resolution skills so you can finally feel seen — and stop the cycle for good. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#101: Validation - What it actually is (& what it isn't)

31 min

Validation might be one of the most misunderstood skills in relationships and also one of the most important. In this episode, Nathalie breaks down what validation actually is, why so many of us resist it, and why if you haven't learned to validate your own experience first, no communication script in the world will save you. We cover self validation, validating your partner in conflict, and why this one skill is the difference between fighting to be understood and actually understanding each other. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠ 🎁 ⁠Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust⁠

#100: Self-Trust: Why it's so important & how to build it!

43 min

In this episode, I go into the one foundation that every other relationship skill is built on: self trust. What it looks like when it's gone, how it got broken, and exactly how to start rebuilding it. If you've ever ignored a red flag, stayed too long, outsourced your reality to everyone around you, or needed someone else to confirm what you already knew, this one is for you. 🎁 ⁠Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#99: Hard truths we need to accept if we want relationships that last

53 min

Let's cut through the noise and talk about what long term relationships actually require and what we need to accept if we want one that lasts. In this episode we discuss: 🔥 why disappointment in love is inevitable and not a red flag 🔥 the fantasies we're still carrying from childhood that no partner can fulfil 🔥 why strong couples aren't ones who never fight but ones who aren't threatened by their differences 🔥why radical self-responsibility is the only thing that will save your relationship when things get hard ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#98: Intellectualisation - Why knowing better doesn't translate into doing better!

32 min

You've done the courses, read the books, know all the terms and you're still showing up the same way in relationships. Sound familiar? In this episode, we talk about the pattern of intellectualisation: how the personal growth space can actually give us a very clever way to feel like we're doing the work while quietly avoiding the parts that actually require something of us. We cover what this pattern really looks like in practice, why feeling has always felt more dangerous than thinking, how understanding your partner's wounds can become a reason to stay in something that isn't working, and what the path from your head to your heart actually looks like. Awareness is a beautiful first step. But it's only a step. 💛 Let's get you unstuck in relationships! Join us in Resourced Woman HERE! DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#97: "I stopped trying to bring things up because it never leads anywhere!"

41 min

If you've stopped bringing things up in your relationship because it never seems to go well, this episode is for you. The tiptoeing. The rehearsing. The deciding it's just not worth the conflict. It feels like the safe option, but silence is actually the thing that will slowly poison the love between you. We dive into how waiting for them to change keeps us stuck and how reclaiming our agency and realising that doing your own work is the most powerful thing you can do. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#96: Why you always lose yourself in relationships & how to stop!

42 min

In this episode we talk about the most common pattern for women in relationships: Losing ourselves. We do it all the time: The over-giving, the pretending we are fine, the walking on eggshells, the settling for less. We discuss the WHY behind this tendency in women and how to finally step out of it. 💛 Want to finally feel confident, grounded & secure in relationships? Join us in my signature program RESOURCED WOMAN. DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#95: Over-Functioning - When Doing More Gets Us Less

47 min

If you're the one holding everything together in your relationship, you're planning, remembering, doing, this episode is for you. Over-functioning isn't a personality flaw. It's a pattern that made complete sense once upon a time. But in your relationships today, it's quietly creating the very distance you're trying to prevent. In this episode, I break down what over-functioning really looks like, the deeper anxiety driving it, how it affects intimacy and attraction and how to work with this pattern. Because the most loving thing you can do for your relationship might be to finally stop doing so much. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#94: "How the f&ck are we supposed to trust men?!"

38 min

In this Dear Nath Q&A episode, we open up an honest and nuanced conversation about what it means to be a woman who desires love, intimacy, and partnership with men… while also feeling fear, distrust, and grief. We explore: Why your rage, disgust, and hopelessness are valid responses, not something to suppressThe deeper cultural conditioning that shapes how men relate to women, and how women relate to themselvesWhy “not all men” misses the point entirelyHow to navigate dating and relationships without abandoning yourself Please listen with care 💛 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#93: Healthy Conflict Culture in Relationships

59 min

Most relationships don’t fail because of conflict.They fail because of how conflict is handled. In this episode, we’re talking about how to create a healthy conflict culture, one where you can disagree, get triggered, and still stay on the same team. We’ll unpack: Key ingredients for dysfunctional conflict cultureKey ingredients for HEALTHY conflict cultureHow to get there as a couple💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#92: Why You Feel Secure When You're Single But All Your Patterns Return When You Start Dating

27 min

You feel confident, grounded, and secure when you’re single…and then the moment you start dating, everything shifts. Suddenly you’re overthinking, second-guessing, craving reassurance, or pulling away and it feels like all your “old patterns” are back. In this episode, I break down why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not because you’ve done something wrong), and how relationships activate the very parts of you that were never triggered when you were on your own. We’ll talk about nervous system activation, attachment patterns, and why true security isn’t built in isolation but in connection. 💛 Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount! ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Book your FREE connection call HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#91: Standards - How to define them & stick to them

55 min

What does it actually mean to have standards in dating and relationships and why is it so hard to stick to them? In this episode, we move beyond surface-level advice and explore what standards really are: not a checklist of traits, but the conditions that allow you to feel safe, respected and fulfilled in a relationship. We talk about why so many women know their standards but still find themselves over-explaining, over-accommodating, and settling for less than they want. This episode will help you define your standards in a way that’s actually usable, and more importantly, build the capacity to hold them even when it’s uncomfortable. 🌺 Want finally get unstuck in your relationships? Get on the waitlist for my signature program RESOURCED WOMAN🌺 ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#90: Why Closure is a Choice, not another Conversation

34 min

Endlessly replaying conversations, waiting for a message that never comes, or holding out for the moment the other person finally explains why it ended. We tell ourselves that once we get that explanation, we'll be able to move on. But what if the pursuit of closure is actually what's keeping us stuck? In this episode, we're unpacking a hard truth: the closure we seek from someone else is often less about healing and more about keeping a door open, a quiet way of avoiding the grief that comes with truly letting go. As long as we're waiting on them, we don't have to fully face the reality that it's over. Real closure isn't something anyone can hand you. It's a choice. One you make before you feel ready, and often precisely because you don't. It's the decision to stop outsourcing your healing to someone who has already left the story, and to start facing the loss on your own terms. Because the door doesn't close when they explain themselves. It closes when you decide to stop waiting. 🎁 ⁠Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#89: Fear of Rejection - Why it Ruins Relationships & Makes Dating so Exhausting

43 min

Fear of rejection is one of the most powerful (and often invisible) forces shaping how we show up in love. It’s the reason you don’t ask for what you really want.Why you settle for less than you deserve.Why you overthink, overgive, or stay silent when something doesn’t feel right. In this episode, we unpack how fear of rejection is formed, how it shows up in your relationships, and why trying to avoid rejection often leads to self-abandonment. I’ll walk you through the deeper nervous system dynamics behind this fear, and most importantly what actually helps you move through it. So you can start expressing your needs, setting boundaries, and letting yourself be seen… without feeling like everything is on the line. 🌾 Dive into my 2-Part Masterclass WORTHY ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#88: Should You Take a Break? How to use Relationship Breaks for Clarity, not Avoidance!

39 min

In this Dear Nath Q&A episode, I answer a question that many couples find themselves facing at some point in a long-term relationship: Should we take a break? And if yes, how? Breaks can feel incredibly destabilizing, especially if you fear that space means the relationship is slowly ending. But when approached consciously, taking space can actually be a powerful tool for clarity, reflection, and resetting unhealthy dynamics. In this episode, I talk about how to approach breaks intentionally instead of using them as a vague “soft breakup.” We dive into why structure matters, how to create clarity around the purpose and length of a break, and what both partners need to agree on so the time apart actually serves the relationship rather than creating more confusion. 💛 Done feeling like his mom? Join us in FROM MOTHER TO MUSE and finally create relationships that truly support you! ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#87: The most underrated relational skill: Containing disappointment

48 min

Disappointment is one of the most uncomfortable emotions we experience in relationships and one of the most important skills we’re rarely taught how to hold. In this episode, we explore containing disappointment as a relational skill: the ability to stay present, self-connected, and grounded when reality doesn’t meet our hopes without collapsing into self-abandonment or hardening into emotional shutdown. We’ll talk about why disappointment can feel so threatening, especially for those with attachment wounds, and how many of us learned to avoid it by over-giving, staying quiet, or leaving too soon. And we’ll explore what changes when we learn how to stay with disappointment long enough to let it inform our choices, rather than letting it run them. 💛 Done feeling like his mom? Get on the waitlist for FROM MOTHER TO MUSE (& snatch a juicy discount!) 🎁 Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

#86: "I want them to just know. I don't want to have to ask."

28 min

In this episode, we explore why this longing is so common, especially for women who learned early on to minimise their needs, stay attuned to others, and keep the peace. We’ll unpack how the desire for someone to just know is often rooted in a fear of vulnerability, the fear of being seen, needing something, or risking disappointment. And why avoiding asking doesn’t actually protect us… it keeps our real needs unmet. In this conversation, we’ll explore: What’s really underneath the belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” How self-abandonment and people-pleasing keep us silent Why asking is not neediness, but self-responsibility The difference between longing for attunement and avoiding vulnerability How reclaiming your voice creates the possibility of being truly met This episode isn’t about doing more emotional labour.It’s about learning how to name what you need and allowing others the chance to meet you there. 🎁 Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust 💛 Done feeling like his mom? Get on the waitlist for ⁠FROM MOTHER TO MUSE⁠ (& snatch a juicy discount!) 🍯Learn how to get your needs met with ⁠NOURISHED⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#85: "He's just not man enough!" - How to deal with feeling under-supported

52 min

Have you ever caught yourself thinking:“He’s just not man enough.” This episode is for you. Because underneath that thought is rarely a question of masculinity, it’s usually exhaustion, loneliness, resentment, and deeply unmet needs. In this episode of Embracing Her, we unpack why so many women end up feeling like they’re carrying the emotional, practical, and relational weight of the relationship and why that dynamic can leave you feeling powerless, even when you’re doing everything. We’ll explore: Why “he’s not man enough” is often code for I feel unsupported How over-functioning, controlling, and micro-managing slowly erode trust and attraction Why shaming a man never inspires him to step up (and often does the opposite) The difference between asking for change and abandoning yourself What it actually looks like to communicate your needs without blame or shame Why boundaries — especially your NO — are essential for safety, clarity, and self-trust This is a conversation about agency, about moving from resentment and self-abandonment into clarity, self-responsibility, and empowered choice. Because sometimes the work is learning how to invite someone to grow.And sometimes the work is choosing yourself and walking away. 💛 Want more support moving on from mothering your partner?Get on the waitlist for FROM MOTHER TO MUSE & snatch a discount ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#84: Balancing Compassion and Boundaries

48 min

In this episode, I’m exploring one of the most important ( & most misunderstood dynamics in relationships): the balance between compassion and boundaries. So many of us tend to live on one end of the spectrum. We either overextend compassion, understanding everyone else while abandoning ourselves… or we lean heavily on boundaries, protecting ourselves so fiercely that closeness starts to feel impossible. If you’ve ever wondered:“Am I being too understanding?”or“Am I protecting myself or just shutting down?” This episode is for you. 🍯Learn how to get your needs met with ⁠NOURISHED⁠ 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠ ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#83: Letting go of someone we still love

31 min

In this episode, we talk about why letting go doesn’t happen naturally for many of us, and why waiting to “feel ready” often keeps us stuck. This episode is for you if: You’re trying to move on but still feel deeply attached You keep questioning whether letting go means giving up on love You struggle with anxiety, rumination, or emotional loops after endings You want a more grounded, compassionate way to release without bypassing your feelings ❤️‍🩹 Get my Breakup Toolkit HERE ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#82: What avoidant people need to develop more security in relationships

57 min

In this episode we will dive into what people with an avoidant attachment style need to thrive in a relationship and develop a more secure attachment pattern over time. Whether you are avoidant yourself or you are in a relationship with someone that is, this episode will help you understand this often misunderstood attachment style and create the circumstances that allow for connection to deepen. ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#81: What anxiously attached people need to develop more security in relationships

46 min

In this episode we explore what anxiously attached people really need in relationships to thrive & develop a more secure attachment pattern over time. Whether you are currently dating or are in a relationship, this episode will help create clarity around what to look for in potential partners or what to create more of in the dynamic you are in. 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠ ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

#80: Can a relationship be too triggering to heal in?

44 min

In this episode, I explore a question I get asked often and one that doesn’t have a one-size-fits-all answer. We’ll unpack how to discern whether a relationship is supporting your healing or quietly re-creating the very environment that wounded you in the first place. I talk about: The difference between new relational experiences and familiar childhood dynamics repeating themselves How often and how intensely you’re being triggered and why frequency matters just as much as depth What your nervous system state looks like inside the relationship Whether both partners are actually willing and able to do the work And why “staying and pushing through” isn’t always the most healing choice I also share personally about a relationship I had to step away from early on because it was too much for my nervous system at the time to heal within. This episode is an invitation to move beyond rigid ideas of “you should be able to heal in relationship” and instead develop discernment, self-trust, and nervous-system-informed choice. ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ 🍯Learn how to get your needs met with ⁠⁠NOURISHED⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#79: How to stop settling for POTENTIAL

57 min

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most common patterns in dating and relationships: settling for someone’s potential instead of their reality. If you’ve ever found yourself staying for the glimpses, the maybes, the what they could become, or the fantasy version of someone, this episode is for you. Related Episodes 🎧 Nervous system 101 🎧 Developing self-worth 🎧 Should I stay or should I go? ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#78: How to transform your relationships in 2026!

50 min

As we step into 2026, this episode is an invitation to stop chasing relationship “fixes” and start focusing on the foundations that actually create lasting change. In this episode, I walk you through the core inner shifts that transform the way you show up in relationships, not by trying harder, but by relating to yourself differently. We’ll explore: Why self-compassion is non-negotiable for real relational growth How “looking in the mirror” (instead of blaming or fixing others) creates true agency Building the capacity to stay with discomfort rather than escaping it Why knowing yourself deeply changes who and what you tolerate The power of slowing down and nourishing your nervous system in a culture that rushes intimacy This episode is for you if you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns and start creating relationships that feel safer, steadier, and more aligned from the inside out. 📝 Get my End-of-Year journaling Prompts for FREE right HERE📝 DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#77: How your mindset shapes your DATING experience!

56 min

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most underrated but most powerful pieces of your dating experience: your mindset.Because how you feel and how you show up matters far more than the apps, the matches, or the strategy. 🌹Want to dive deeper into transforming your dating experiences? Dive into EMPOWERED DATING today! 🎧 Want to work on your resentment towards men? Have a listen! DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#76: Perfectionism in Relationships & Dating

43 min

In this episode, I explore how perfectionism is not just a personality quirk but actually a protective mechanism. We’ll look at why anxious partners often try to perfect themselves to earn love and avoid rejection, while avoidant partners unconsciously demand perfection from others to avoid vulnerability or disappointment. I talk about where these patterns come from, how they protect us from feeling unworthy or unsafe, and what it looks like to move toward. If you’ve ever felt like you’re either “too much” or that no one is ever quite “enough,” this conversation will help you see the perfectionism underneath - and how healing it can bring you closer to love. DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#75: How to stop losing yourself in relationships & dating

48 min

In this episode, I explore why so many women slowly lose themselves in love - not because they’re weak or needy, but because somewhere along the way, they learned that love and belonging required self-abandonment. We’ll look at the subtle ways this shows up - saying yes when you mean no, over-focusing on your partner’s needs, dimming your truth to keep the peace - and why your nervous system might equate connection with safety, even when it costs you authenticity. I’ll also share how to begin returning to yourself: rebuilding inner connection, setting boundaries that don’t disconnect you from love, and learning to feel safe in being fully seen. If you’ve ever felt like you disappear in relationships or forget who you are when you fall in love, this conversation will help you remember - love that requires losing yourself isn’t love that lasts. 🎧⁠Listen to the Nervous System 101 episode HERE⁠🎧 🍯Learn how to get your needs met with NOURISHED ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#74: 5 Things Secure Couples Do Well!

45 min

Ever wondered what actually makes some relationships feel calm, connected, and safe - not perfect, but secure? In this episode, I break down five key things that secure couples consistently do well, not because they never argue or always agree, but because they know how to stay connected through it all. Whether you’re in a relationship or preparing for one, this episode will help you understand what real emotional safety looks like — and remind you that secure love isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence and repair. 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠. Use the code PODCAST25 at checkout until the 4th of December for 10% off! DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#73: Why you spiral when they don't text back & what to do about it

52 min

You know that feeling - you send a message, see the “delivered” sign, and then… nothing. Minutes turn into hours, your chest tightens, and your mind starts spinning stories: Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? In this episode, I unpack what’s really happening beneath that spiral: How your nervous system interprets silence as danger, how early attachment wounds get activated, and why the urge to fix, chase, or overanalyze only fuels the anxiety. We’ll talk about what not to do (like rereading texts or crafting the perfect follow-up message) and explore what a secure response actually looks like - one that calms your body, reclaims your power, and keeps you rooted in self-worth rather than waiting for reassurance. If you’ve ever felt your stomach drop over a message left unread, this conversation will help you understand the deeper layers behind that reaction and show you how to meet it with compassion, regulation, and clarity instead of panic. 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE. Use the discount code PODCAST25 at checkout for 15% off until the 4th of December. DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

#72: "Why do I always repeat the same patterns with different people?"

36 min

In this episode, I explore why so many of us find ourselves stuck in familiar dynamics, even when we know they’re not good for us. We’ll dive into the psychology of repetition compulsion - the unconscious drive to recreate early emotional experiences in hopes of finally mastering or healing them. I’ll talk about how childhood conditioning shapes what feels safe, familiar, or “like love,” even when it’s actually painful. And most importantly, we’ll unpack how self-awareness and nervous system work can help you interrupt those old patterns, start making conscious choices, and experience love in a new way — one that doesn’t repeat the past. 🌼Get all the tools you need to heal your anxious attachment with ⁠⁠FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE⁠. ⁠ Use the code PODCAST25 at checkout until the 4th of December for 10% off! ✨ ⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

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