Hosts Amanda and CJ

Expecting Expats

About the show

Welcome to Expecting Expats- a space where we’re expecting more than just babies—join Amanda, a childbirth educator and doula & CJ, a therapist , as they explore parenting, identity, emotional growth, and the journey of building a life in a new country.

Newest episodes

Expats Experts – From Expat Life to Saving Lives: Mandolyn’s Journey in Nigeria ❤️

Nov 4, 2026 48 min

In this very special episode of Expecting Expats, we’re joined by Mandolyn Crotts, founder of Carry Them Ministries, a nonprofit organisation in Nigeria supporting mothers and babies through breastfeeding education, nutritional support and care for infants facing severe malnutrition. Originally from Texas, Mandolyn moved to Nigeria with her husband in 2018, initially planning to stay for just one year. Eight years and four children later, Nigeria has become home – and what started as a desire to help her local community has grown into an organisation making a meaningful difference in the lives of mothers and babies. We talk about what it means to raise a family abroad, navigating motherhood and the healthcare system in a very different cultural context, and how an expat experience can open your eyes to needs and opportunities you might never have encountered otherwise. In this conversation, Mandolyn shares some incredibly personal parts of her journey, including adopting her first child in Nigeria, her own experiences giving birth there, and the challenges she faced during her postpartum recovery. In this episode, we talk about: Moving abroad with the intention of staying for just one year – and finding a completely different life than expected.The maternal and infant health challenges Mandolyn witnessed in Nigeria, and how these inspired her to start Carry Them.Breastfeeding education, formula marketing and the importance of giving mothers access to accurate information and practical support.Adopting her first child in Nigeria and navigating motherhood in a new country.Giving birth abroad, postpartum complications and the importance of respectful maternity care.Building a community-based organisation and working alongside local women and staff.How living abroad can give us a different perspective and inspire us to make an impact.The importance of women supporting women, sharing experiences and building community.About Carry Them Carry Them works to support...

Expat Experts: Finding Your Village Abroad with Raehyun Kim

Oct 21, 2026 44 min

Moving abroad and building a life in a new country can be exciting, but finding a real sense of belonging? That can be a whole different story. ❤️ In this episode of our Expat Experts series, Amanda and CJ sit down with Raehyun Kim, founder of Link n Learn in Frankfurt, to talk about building community, helping children grow in confidence, and creating a home away from home for international families. Originally from South Korea, Raehyun moved to Germany almost 21 years ago. After becoming a mother, she began asking herself a question many parents can relate to: What is my purpose beyond being a mom? That question, combined with her desire to create a welcoming space for her daughter and other international families, inspired her to build Link n Learn — a place where children can explore, learn and express themselves, while parents connect and build friendships of their own. We talk about: ✨ Finding your our village abroad — Why community is so important for expat parents who don't have family nearby, and why building lasting connections can be harder when people are constantly moving away. 💛 Raising confident third-culture kids — How growing up between cultures can shape children's identities, and why having a space where they feel understood and included matters. 🎭 Helping shy children find their voice — How creative classes, performances and opportunities for self-expression can help children discover their confidence. 🤝 Making connections as an adult — How a community can help parents build friendships, even when striking up a conversation with another mum doesn't come naturally. 💃 The magic of dancing together — Why Raehyun believes dancing brings people closer, creates joy and helps build a stronger sense of togetherness. 🌱 Building a business with purpose — Raehyun shares the challenges of growing Link n Learn, the importance of staying connected to the families she serves, and why protecting her own happiness and boundaries is essential to keeping her...

The Mental Load of Kids' Clothes: Seasons, Systems & Sanity

Oct 7, 2026 46 min

Kids’ clothes. Seasonal changes. Hand-me-downs. Rain pants. And… somehow an enormous amount of mental energy. 😂 On the surface, swapping your children’s clothes from one season to the next sounds simple. But then come the questions: What still fits? Do we have rain pants? Where are the winter shoes? What needs replacing? What should we save for the younger sibling? It’s not just the clothes. It’s the mental load. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ talk about the invisible planning, remembering, anticipating and decision-making that comes with changing your children’s wardrobes — and why this can feel even more complicated when you’re raising kids abroad. We talk about: 👕 Why the seasonal clothes swap is a whole project 🧠 What the mental load actually is 🇩🇪 The expat layer — including German Kita requirements and the infamous Regenhose! 👧👦 Hand-me-downs, siblings & storage 🛍️ Sustainability vs. reality 💬 Whether a fair partnership really means 50/50 ❤️ Why recognition of invisible work matters 📅 Small systems that can make recurring tasks easier And then there’s the emotional load. Because packing away tiny clothes isn’t just about clothes. It’s also a reminder that your child has grown, another season has passed, and time is moving very, very quickly. 🥹 💡 Our takeaway You don’t have to solve the entire mental load in one conversation. But noticing it is a start. Talk about what you’re each carrying. Make the invisible visible. Recognize the work that isn’t immediately obvious. And find small systems that make recurring tasks easier. And if you’re currently surrounded by tiny sweaters, rain pants and piles of clothes that no longer fit… we see you. 😂❤️ 🔗 Resources & Recommendations 🧠 Mental Load / Equal Care Test Make invisible care work visible and start a conversation about how mental load is distributed. Available in English and German. 👉 https://mental-load-test.org/en/start/ (mental-load-test.org) 📖 CJ’s recommendation: Attached Att...

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Expats Experts – From Expat Life to Saving Lives: Mandolyn’s Journey in Nigeria ❤️

Nov 4, 2026 48 min

Expat Experts: Finding Your Village Abroad with Raehyun Kim

Oct 21, 2026 44 min

The Mental Load of Kids' Clothes: Seasons, Systems & Sanity

Oct 7, 2026 46 min

About Letting Go: Watching Our Kids Grow Up Abroad

Sep 23, 2026 46 min

Watching your kids grow up is one of those beautiful contradictions of parenthood: you can be incredibly proud of who they’re becoming while also quietly wishing you could freeze time. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ have an honest, emotional conversation about the bittersweet experience of letting go as our children become more independent — and how that experience can feel even more complicated when you’re raising kids abroad. Amanda shares what it was like to say goodbye as her nine-year-old son flew to Madrid on a school trip — his first time travelling abroad without his parents. What should have been a moment of excitement and pride also brought a surprising amount of grief and anxiety as Amanda realized that her little boy is becoming a big kid. CJ reflects on her own smaller, everyday moments of letting go, from watching her four-year-old confidently navigate a doctor's appointment to realizing that her almost-three-year-old can do far more independently than she sometimes gives him credit for. Together, they talk about: 💕 The emotional rollercoaster of watching our children become more independent✈️ Why a school trip abroad can feel like such a huge milestone😭 How two things can be true at the same time — we can be proud and heartbroken, excited and scared🍼 Why milestones like weaning can unexpectedly bring up feelings about our children growing up🇩🇪 How parenting in Germany can encourage independence from a young age🌍 The unique expat experience of raising children who may one day feel at home in multiple countries🏡 What it means to be a “safe harbor” that our children can always return to👣 Learning to support our children's independence without hovering💭 The identity shifts that happen for us as our children need us in different ways👀 The unique experience of being the people who hold the memories of our children's childhood when extended family lives far away❤️ Learning to grieve the little versions of our children while making...

Summer Catch-Up: Travel, Family Chaos & Finding Your Way Back To Routine

Sep 9, 2026 31 min

Summer is (almost) over, and we're back in Frankfurt! ☀️🍂 In this lighthearted summer catch-up episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ sit down to share what their summers actually looked like—from family trips and international travel to summer camps, weddings, World Cup fever, and the very real exhaustion that comes with travelling with kids. CJ spent much of the summer at her family's holiday house in Sweden before heading to Denmark, while Amanda packed in trips to Valencia, Amsterdam and Utrecht, plus a children's sailing course back in Germany. Needless to say, neither summer was exactly restful! We chat about the joys (and challenges!) of travelling with children, including putting kids into a Spanish summer camp for the first time, navigating cultural differences around mealtimes and bedtime, and discovering that sometimes… home really is where the pretzels are. 🥨 We also talk about the reality of having young children at home during the long summer break—with no school or daycare—and why getting back to a regular routine can feel like such a relief for parents. But summer wasn't all chaos. We reflect on our summer bucket lists, the spontaneous moments that ended up being some of our favourites, and the things we want to carry with us into autumn. For CJ, that's the cosy feeling of Swedish summers and spending time in nature. For Amanda, it's making more room for fun and spontaneity while letting go of some of that summer FOMO. And because autumn feels a little bit like a new year when you're a parent, we also look ahead to what's coming next—including CJ's exciting new chapter as a certified couples counsellor. In this episode, we talk about: What a summer of expat family life really looks likeTravelling around Europe with young childrenSpending the summer in Sweden, Denmark, Spain and the NetherlandsPutting children into a Spanish summer camp for the first timeThe challenges (and unexpected joys) of navigating different culturesWhy Spanish family even...

Mom Rage: when the overwhelm, mental load and expectations becomes too much.

Aug 26, 2026 44 min

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed as a mother that you suddenly snap—and then immediately feel guilty or ashamed about it? In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ are having an honest, vulnerable conversation about something many mothers experience but few feel comfortable talking about: mom rage. Mom rage can feel frightening and completely out of character. It might look like yelling, snapping, feeling like you’re about to explode, or simply needing to get away because your nervous system has reached its limit. And while the aftermath can bring a huge amount of guilt and shame, this episode explores a different way of understanding these moments: what if rage is a signal rather than a personal failure? Amanda and CJ talk openly about their own experiences with mom rage, including the everyday situations that can push them over the edge—from bedtime battles and getting out the door in the morning to overstimulation, expectations, and the enormous mental load of motherhood. They also explore why anger can be particularly complicated for women. CJ shares insights from Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly about the ways women are often socialized to suppress anger, while Amanda reflects on the difference between ordinary anger and the feeling of rage that seems to take over before you have a chance to respond differently. And then there’s the expat parenting piece. When you're raising children abroad, the overwhelm of motherhood can come with another layer of complexity: parenting in a language that isn't your first, navigating unfamiliar systems, worrying about being judged, and trying to reconcile different cultural expectations about what "good parenting" looks like. We also talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why shame can keep mothers isolated, and how connection and community can help us move from “I am a bad mom” toward “I did something I wish I had handled differently.” Most importantly, we talk about what can actually help. From notici...

Navigating Elterngeld & German Bureaucracy as an Expat Parent with Marijke

Aug 12, 2026 46 min

Having a baby is a huge life transition. Having a baby in a foreign country — while trying to navigate a complicated bureaucracy in a language that isn't your own — can add a whole other layer of overwhelm. In this episode of Expecting Expats, we talk with Marijke, co-founder of Elterngeld Help, about one of the less glamorous realities of expat family life in Germany: paperwork. From figuring out whether you're eligible for Elterngeld to understanding the difference between Basiselterngeld and ElterngeldPlus, there is a lot to understand — and many international parents don't realise just how much planning can affect the benefits they receive. Marijke shares her own experience of becoming a parent in Germany as a Dutch-British expat, including navigating the system as a self-employed, privately insured parent. Her experience of trying to understand a 23-page Elterngeld application eventually inspired her and her husband to create Elterngeld Help, a tool designed to make the process more accessible for international families. In this episode, we talk about: Why German bureaucracy can feel particularly overwhelming for international parentsThe emotional and mental load of navigating paperwork during the postpartum periodWhat Elterngeld is and who may be eligibleThe differences between Basiselterngeld and ElterngeldPlusHow working part-time can affect your ElterngeldWhy self-employed parents need to understand how their income is calculatedHow having another child can affect your Elterngeld calculationWhy it's important to understand your eligibility rather than assuming you don't qualifyHow visa status can affect Elterngeld eligibilityWhy some families wait months before receiving their first paymentThe importance of planning ahead if you're self-employed or considering having another babyAdditional considerations for families with premature babies, twins, triplets or children with disabilities And why asking for support isn't a sign that you're failin...

Re-Release: What Is GentleBirth? Preparing for an Empowered Birth with Amanda

Jul 29, 2026 43 min

Some conversations are simply too valuable to leave in the archives. In this special re-release of Expecting Expats, we're taking you back to one of our favourite early episodes, when CJ and former co-host Kari sat down with birth doula and GentleBirth instructor Amanda while both eagerly awaiting the arrival of their baby boys. At the time of this recording, Kari and CJ were preparing for birth themselves, and Amanda guided them through what it really means to prepare—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally—for one of life's biggest transitions. As a birth doula and GentleBirth instructor, Amanda's approach has always centred on helping women feel informed, confident, and empowered. Rather than focusing on achieving one specific type of birth, she encourages parents to build the knowledge, mindset, and tools they need to make decisions that feel right for them, no matter how their birth unfolds. For families navigating pregnancy abroad, this message can feel even more important. Different healthcare systems, unfamiliar birth practices, language barriers, and being far from your usual support network can leave many expectant parents feeling uncertain. Amanda reminds us that while we can't control every aspect of birth, we can prepare ourselves, understand our options, and advocate for our needs. What is GentleBirth? GentleBirth is a childbirth education and mindset programme that combines evidence-based birth education with mindfulness, breathing techniques, sports psychology, and cognitive training. Its goal isn't to promise a perfect or pain-free birth—instead, it helps parents develop confidence, resilience, and practical coping strategies so they can approach labour feeling calm, informed, and empowered. One of the core principles Amanda shares throughout this episode is that every woman deserves autonomy during birth. Understanding your options, asking questions, making informed decisions, and having a supportive birth partner can make a significa...

Divorce, Co-Parenting, and Finding Strength as an Expat Family with Louisette Winkel

Jul 15, 2026 49 min

What happens when your family life changes dramatically while living far from home? In this heartfelt and deeply honest episode of Expecting Expats, we sit down with author, speaker, and founder of Ignite Spark, Louisette Winkel, to discuss one of the most challenging topics many families face: navigating separation and divorce while raising children abroad. As an expat mother of three, Louisette shares her personal journey of moving from the Netherlands to Germany, building a new life abroad, and later facing an unexpected separation. Through her story, she offers powerful insights into resilience, personal growth, and creating a healthy co-parenting relationship that keeps children's wellbeing at the centre. Together, we explore how expat parenting can become even more complex during major life transitions, especially when you're far from your usual support systems and navigating different legal systems, languages, and cultural expectations. This episode is filled with practical advice, hope, and reminders that even in life's most difficult moments, it's possible to create stability, connection, and a new vision for your family. In this episode, we talk about: * Navigating separation and divorce while living abroad * How expat life can add additional challenges to co-parenting * Supporting children through major family transitions * Creating a new family structure after divorce * Why personal growth is essential during difficult seasons of life * Helping children feel safe and heard during change * The importance of communication and collaboration in co-parenting * Finding community and rebuilding your support system as an expat parent * Creating new family traditions and redefining what family looks like Key Takeaways for Expat Parents ✨ Children need honesty, reassurance, and stability during periods of change. ✨ It's okay to acknowledge your own grief while still supporting your children. ✨ Co-parenting works best when parents focus on what they can cont...

Summer Check-In: Navigating the Joys and Chaos of Expat Family Life

Jul 1, 2026 20 min

Summer has officially arrived, and for many international families, that means a season filled with sunshine, travel plans, school holidays, and a healthy dose of chaos. In this special catch-up episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ sit down for an honest conversation about what life looks like right now as moms raising children abroad. From summer bucket lists and family traditions to the realities of traveling with kids and attending weddings with little ones in tow, this episode is a reminder that expat parenting is often a balancing act between creating magical memories and simply surviving the logistics. CJ shares exciting personal news as she completes her couples therapy training and prepares to open her own practice supporting international families and couples in Frankfurt. Amanda opens up about the anticipation—and anxiety—of a summer packed with family adventures, including a formal wedding with two energetic boys. Together, they reflect on the changing seasons of expat motherhood, the freedom that comes as children get older, and the importance of embracing both the beautiful and messy moments of expat family life. In this episode, we talk about: * Creating summer bucket lists and family traditions * Managing the end-of-school-year chaos as an expat family * Travel hacks for long journeys with kids * The realities of bringing children to weddings and special events abroad * Finding time for yourself during motherhood * Embracing the changing stages of parenting as children grow * Building community and support while raising a family overseas Our Favourite Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode: * Create a simple family summer bucket list with experiences everyone can enjoy. * Lower the pressure and focus on connection over perfection. * Travel days are easier with snacks, screens, and realistic expectations. * Remember that children are allowed to be children—even at fancy events. * Give yourself permission to enjoy this season of life and say yes...

Hallway Claustrophobia: Why Getting Out the Door Feels So Hard as an Expat Parent

Jun 17, 2026 40 min

Have you ever found yourself standing in a crowded hallway, desperately searching for a missing shoe while one child refuses to get dressed, another is asking a thousand questions, and you're already late? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ dive into what they're calling "hallway claustrophobia"—that overwhelming feeling that seems to strike during family transitions, especially during hectic mornings, school drop-offs, travel days, and bedtime routines. Together, they explore why these moments feel so intense, how overstimulation affects both parents and children, and why these everyday challenges can feel even bigger when you're navigating expat family life. From managing the emotional load of parenting abroad to handling transitions in a new language and culture, this episode is a reassuring reminder that you're not failing—you're simply human. Amanda and CJ share honest stories from their own experiences with expat parenting, discuss how stress and sensory overload impact the nervous system, and offer practical strategies for staying regulated when family life feels chaotic. Whether you're newly abroad or have been living overseas for years, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, validated, and equipped with a few new tools to navigate the everyday challenges of expat motherhood, expat parenting, and raising children far from home. In This Episode, We Discuss: * Why mornings and family transitions can feel overwhelming * The science behind parental overstimulation and transition fatigue * How moving abroad impacts stress levels for parents and children * Why kids often struggle with transitions and routines * The connection between time pressure, sensory overload, and emotional regulation * Practical ways to manage overwhelm during busy family moments * The importance of repair after losing your patience * How to create more calm and connection during daily routines * Why self-compassion matters in expat family l...

Trading Germany for Spain: Rebuilding a Business + Expat Family Life with Seli Jacome

Jun 3, 2026 53 min

In today’s episode of our Expat Experts Series, Amanda and CJ sit down with Seli Jacome —a birth and postpartum doula, lactation consultant, and former Frankfurt resident who flipped the script on expat family life four years ago by relocating her trilingual family to Valencia, Spain. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to move out of Germany, or how to navigate the vulnerable phases of expat motherhood while building a business from scratch in a brand-new country, this episode is a must-listen! 🎧 Key Takeaways from the episode: * The Search for Slow Living: How the desire for green space, safety, and a slower pace of life drove Seli's family to move from Germany to Spain. * Embracing Multi-Cultural Identity: Seli discusses navigating her family's unique German, Korean, Mexican, and British roots within expat parenting. * The "DIY" Approach to Expat Parenting: How Seli spotted a massive gap in the Spanish postpartum healthcare system and created her own international community groups (including a massive secondhand kids' market in her garden!). * The Mental Load of a Third Language: The exhausting reality of managing pediatric appointments, school systems, and daily life when navigating your third language. * Germany vs. Spain: A fascinating comparison of school flexibility, healthcare structures, and why Seli’s family swapped German structure for Spanish sunshine and a slower pace of life. * Navigating Big Moves with Teens & Newborns: Seli’s firsthand expat parenting tips on moving across Europe with older children and a 7-week-old baby in tow. 📝 Other Episode Highlights 🌍 A Truly Global Family Background Seli is half-German and half-Korean, married to a man who is half-Mexican and half-British. Together with their three kids, they speak English, Spanish, and German at home. Despite deep roots in Germany, Seli opens up about never feeling like she 100% fit in—and how that ultimate search for belonging led them to the colorful, diverse expat bubble of Val...

Raising Third Culture Kids: Superpowers, Identity Crises, and Where the Pretzels are

May 20, 2026 39 min

What happens when you’re raising children in a country completely different from your passport culture? In this episode, Amanda and CJ explore the beautifully complicated reality of expat parenting and raising Third Culture Kids (TCKs). From blending holiday traditions (think Danish elves, St. Nicholas, and Santa Claus all competing for airtime) to navigating identity, belonging, and the ever-changing meaning of “home,” this conversation dives deep into modern expat family life. Amanda and CJ share honest stories about expat motherhood, cultural confusion, and the emotional challenges that come with raising globally mobile kids. Whether your children are fluent culture-switchers, “look-alike” TCKs, or simply obsessed with German bakery pretzels, this episode offers reassurance, laughter, and practical insight for parents building lives abroad. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing this whole international parenting thing “right,” this episode is packed with relatable moments, encouragement, and thoughtful expat parenting tips. Most importantly, it’s a reminder that while raising TCKs can create complicated identity questions, it also gives children extraordinary adaptability, empathy, and resilience. Key Takeaways * What is a TCK? A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is someone raised outside their parents’ passport culture, blending their home culture with the culture of their host country to create a unique “third culture” identity shared by many internationally mobile families. * The “Look-Alike” vs. “Non-Look-Alike” TCK Experience Amanda and CJ discuss how children who physically resemble the dominant culture of their host country are often expected to fully understand the language and social norms—creating a unique layer of identity pressure many expat families experience. * Redefining the Meaning of Home In both expat motherhood and broader expat family life, “home” often becomes less about geography and more about relationships, routines, and emotional con...

Raising Multilingual Kids: Strategies, Challenges, and Celebrations

May 6, 2026 34 min

In this episode of Expecting Expat, we dive into the wonderful world of expat parenting and explore the joys and challenges of raising multilingual children across cultures. Whether you're navigating expat family life or seeking expat parenting tips, this episode offers practical insights and heartfelt stories about fostering language skills and cultural identity abroad. We discuss various language strategies, including one parent, one language, minority language at home, context switching, and more. Hear real stories from parents balancing multiple languages at home, managing language loss, and creating meaningful expat family support networks. Learn how your children’s multilingual development can become a gift of access to culture and media, and discover tips on maintaining language skills across generations, connecting with grandparents, and embracing the beautiful complexity of expat motherhood. If you're raising multilingual kids in a foreign country or simply curious about how language shapes cultural identity, this episode is packed with relatable experiences and advice. Join us for an inspiring conversation about the unique expat family journey of language, culture, and connection. Podcast recommendations: Real survival stories (by Noiser) The Daily (by The New York Times)

Expat Experts: Building community through language learning - Interview with Amy Fletcher.

Apr 22, 2026 30 min

✨ Episode Summary Moving abroad is exciting—but it can also feel isolating. In this episode of Expecting Expats, we sit down with Amy Fletcher, founder of Speak Easy Sprachschule in Frankfurt, to explore how language learning can become a powerful tool for building community, confidence, and connection. Amy shares her journey from the U.S. to Germany, how she built a community-centered language school, and why integration is about so much more than grammar and vocabulary. From the challenges of feeling “like a beginner again” to the magic of forming friendships through shared learning, this conversation dives deep into what it really takes to feel at home abroad. 💡 What We Cover * Why 87% of expats experience isolation—and how to overcome it * The idea of “invisible anchors” and what we lose when we move abroad * How language learning can feel humbling, frustrating, and empowering * Why community is just as important as conjugation * The role of confidence and mindset in learning a new language * How social events (like art meetups and casual conversations) accelerate integration * The impact of AI and language apps—and why they can’t replace real connection * What it’s really like to run a business as an expat in Germany 🧠 Key Takeaways * Language learning isn’t just about words—it’s about belonging * Feeling like a beginner again is part of the process (and it’s okay) * Connection builds confidence, and confidence builds language skills * You don’t need perfect language skills to start building community * Sometimes the best step forward is simply showing up 🗣️ Memorable Quotes “Learning a language is an infantilizing process—you feel like a child again.” “The language is almost the conduit—it’s how friendships are formed.” “Community starts with connection… sometimes with a single hello—or hallo.” 🌍 About Our Guest Amy Fletcher is the founder of SpeakEasy Sprachschule in Frankfurt, a language school focused not just on teaching languages, but on creating...

C-section Awareness Month: Amanda shares her story of an unexpected c-section

Apr 18, 2026 49 min

📝 Episode Description In this special 6-month anniversary episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda shares the birth story of her first child—an unexpected and unplanned C-section that changed everything. Recorded during C-section Awareness Month, this honest conversation explores the realities of expat motherhood, navigating pregnancy and birth in a foreign healthcare system, and what happens when birth plans don’t go as expected. Amanda opens up about her experience with prodromal labor, a stressful hospital induction, and ultimately a traumatic birth that led to postpartum PTSD. Through it all, she reflects on the emotional impact, the challenges of expat family life, and how this experience shaped her journey into becoming a childbirth educator and doula. This episode is raw, real, and an important reminder that every birth story matters—and that support, preparation, and advocacy are key in expat parenting. ⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussion of birth trauma and may be triggering for some listeners. 💬 What We Talk About * Celebrating 6 months of Expecting Expats 🎉 * Amanda’s pregnancy as an expat in Germany * The challenges of preparing for birth abroad * Navigating language barriers in birth classes * Prodromal labor and the emotional toll of “waiting” * A chaotic lead-up to labor (including illness and unexpected events) * Hospital experiences and feeling unheard during labor * The reality of an emergency C-section * Birth trauma and postpartum PTSD * Struggles with early bonding and recovery * The importance of expat family support during postpartum * How Amanda’s experience shaped her work supporting other families 🌍 Key Takeaways for Expat Families Amanda’s story highlights important lessons for anyone navigating expat parenting and expat family life: * Birth rarely goes exactly as planned—flexibility is essential * Understanding the local healthcare system can make a huge difference * Advocacy matters: knowing your options and asking que...

Choosing a School Abroad: Head, Heart & Identity

Apr 8, 2026 45 min

Choosing a school is one of the biggest—and often most emotional—decisions in expat parenting. In this episode, Amanda and CJ dive into the realities of navigating school choices while raising kids abroad, especially within the context of expat motherhood and expat family life. With millions of families living outside their home countries, the question of local vs. international school is more relevant than ever. But beyond academics, this decision touches on identity, belonging, language, and your child’s long-term development. What We Cover In this episode, we explore: * The pros and cons of local vs. international schools * How school choice impacts your child’s identity and cultural connection * The role of language in expat family life and long-term integration * Practical considerations like cost, commute, curriculum, and teacher turnover * The emotional side of decision-making in expat motherhood We also share personal stories from raising children in Germany and the very real pressures that come with making “the right” choice for your family. Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode If you’re currently choosing a school abroad, here are some key expat parenting tips we discuss: * Think beyond academics: Schools shape values, identity, and social skills * Consider your child’s temperament: Will they thrive in a new language environment? * Ask the right questions: * What language(s) are used in teaching? * How does the school support non-native speakers? * What’s the teacher turnover rate? * Look at logistics: Where do classmates live? How easy are playdates? * Plan for the future: Will this school support potential moves to another country? Supporting Your Expat Family This episode highlights the importance of expat family support—from teachers, schools, and fellow parents. Whether you choose a local or international path, having a supportive community can make all the difference in your child’s experience (and yours). Join the Conversation We’d love to...

Starting Kita in Germany - What Expat Parents Need to Know

Mar 25, 2026 42 min

Starting daycare abroad can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re navigating a new system, a new language, and a new culture at the same time. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ talk about one of the biggest milestones in expat family life: starting Kita (daycare) in Germany. From confusing application portals to the emotional rollercoaster of the settling-in period, this conversation covers the practical realities and the emotional side of expat parenting when your child enters childcare in a new country. Whether you’re pregnant, waiting for a daycare spot, or already in the middle of the process, this episode is packed with honest stories, helpful insights, and real-life expat parenting tips. 🇩🇪 What we talk about in this episode * How the German Kita system works * Why you may need to apply for daycare while still pregnant * Different childcare options (Kita, Tagesmutter, kindergarten) * What the Eingewöhnung settling-in period is really like * How long the adjustment phase can take (and why it’s hard to plan around) * The emotional side of daycare for parents — guilt, relief, and everything in between * Why childcare is especially important for expat family support * How sibling spots and networking sometimes help you get a place * What to look for when choosing a Kita * How daycare culture in Germany differs from other countries 🌍 Expat parenting reality: Doing it without family nearby For many families abroad, daycare isn’t just helpful — it’s essential. Without grandparents or relatives nearby, childcare providers often become a key part of your expat motherhood and expat parenting journey. Amanda and CJ share their own experiences raising kids in Germany, including: * Finding childcare without local family support * Balancing work, identity, and motherhood abroad * Feeling guilty even when daycare is the right choice * Why high-quality childcare matters so much for expat families ❤️ The emotional side of starting daycare Starting Kit...

The role of Attachment - in early childhood and adult relationships

Mar 11, 2026 39 min

In this episode, Amanda and CJ explore the significance of attachment styles in early childhood and adult relationships, particularly for expat families. They discuss how early attachment shapes emotional stability and learning, the implications of the still face study, and common misconceptions about attachment. The conversation delves into the four adult attachment styles, the impact of moving abroad on attachment, and practical tips for new parents to foster secure attachments. They emphasize the importance of communication, repair in relationships, and creating stability through routines and rituals. Podcast recommendations: The Mel Robbin’s Podcast: Why do I love the way that I love? The 4 attachment styles explained: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3MC7N7rJW2KHoHdSQgmnCx?si=i7ioP_ddTSGBW68NSq3fTw Dybdepsykologi: https://open.spotify.com/show/10J3TORvJKFMANnCHrimKd?si=qu9aTy2FQNypOC2HuYaI1w

Expat Experts: Navigating Perimenopause: Interview with Dr. Colette White

Feb 25, 2026 45 min

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the often misunderstood topic of perimenopause, a phase that affects millions of women globally. They are joined by Dr. Colette White, a clinician specializing in women's health, who shares her insights on the challenges women face during this transition. Dr. White emphasizes the importance of awareness and education regarding perimenopause, highlighting that symptoms can begin as early as the mid-30s and can include mood changes, sleep disturbances, and physical discomfort. Despite the prevalence of these symptoms, many women feel unprepared and unsupported due to a lack of information and stigma surrounding the topic. Dr. White discusses her personal journey through motherhood and perimenopause, illustrating the unique challenges faced by expat women navigating healthcare systems in foreign countries. She stresses the importance of seeking evidence-based support and encourages women to document their symptoms to better communicate with healthcare providers. The conversation also touches on the misconceptions surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the benefits it can offer, dispelling fears and promoting a proactive approach to managing health during this life stage. Overall, the episode serves as a valuable resource for women seeking clarity and support during their perimenopausal journey. Link to Dr. White’s website: https://www.menocare.de/ Find her on instagram: @menocare_de Podcast Recommendations: Unpacked with Anna & Emma: Episode 14, The Magic Formula for Thriving abroad: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6PLm1K0soaAuB8FYNH3Z5r?si=tqmxEN_HTTS7U5s9inq2SwWiser than me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus: https://open.spotify.com/show/3zaHNdVeLiqOSXwxdoWcij?si=iKdJTD83RYWt8n_mGrPOZwHow to Fail by Elizabeth Day: https://open.spotify.com/show/4m7U7kNne0iu35HK571Ui8?si=Kzg847O9TOCtciKzFuPuMg

Keeping the romance alive after kids: a Valentines Special

Feb 11, 2026 28 min

In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics. Takeaways * A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids. * Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline. * Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy. * As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids. * 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids. * The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples. * Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy. * Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children. * Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction. * Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges. Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

Who am I now? Identity changes in motherhood

Jan 29, 2026 34 min

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ explore the profound identity shifts that accompany motherhood, particularly for those parenting abroad. They discuss personal experiences, the evolution of relationships, the importance of community support, and strategies for reclaiming one's identity amidst the challenges of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes that while the journey can be difficult, it ultimately leads to personal growth and a new understanding of self. Takeaways * Becoming a parent reshapes your identity in profound ways. * Motherhood abroad adds layers of complexity to identity shifts. * It's common to feel a sense of loss regarding your old self. * The transition into motherhood often involves grief for your previous life. * Community support is crucial for navigating motherhood. * Reclaiming your identity is a step-by-step process. * Relationships with partners and friends evolve after having children. * Self-care practices, like meditation, can help in the transition. * Understanding that motherhood is an evolution can provide relief. * You're not alone in feeling lost; it's a shared experience among mothers. Podcast recommendation: This is Actually Happening (by Wondery) Book recommendation: Boy mom (by Ruth Whippman) Link to the podcast episode referred to: https://open.spotify.com/episode/26KSGRz0cYTubqqnp366d5?si=UynpSCuUS3ycpPzBhmursA

Post holiday check in

Jan 21, 2026 25 min

Amanda and CJ discusses how their New Years ritual unfolded and how they feel about the wish they are responsible for (listen to the holiday special episode for context). CJ also shares her considerations regarding having another child. Podcast recommendations: Dr. Death (from Wondery) A Little Bit Culty The Daily (from New York Times)

Expectations for Maternity Leave: Comparison is the thief of joy

Jan 14, 2026 42 min

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the complexities of maternity leave, discussing the pressures of productivity, cultural differences, and the often invisible labor involved in new parenthood. They share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of self-care, community support, and reframing expectations around maternity leave as a time of transformation rather than a break. The conversation highlights the need to recognize the value of care work and the unique challenges faced by new parents, encouraging listeners to give themselves grace during this significant life transition. Podcast recommendations: Unpacked - with Anna & Emma Pink pill rx

Expat Experts: The Pelvic Floor 101. Interview with Annie Ueyama

Dec 31, 2025 50 min

In our first Expat Experts episode, we interview Annie Ueyama, cofounder of FitnessWerkstatt and extensive expertise in pre- and postnatal fitness. We discuss the often-overlooked topic of pelvic floor health. We explore the importance of pelvic floor training for women at all stages of life, the impact of pregnancy and aging on pelvic floor health, and the benefits of postpartum rehabilitation programs. Annie shares her personal journey as an expat and how sports have helped her build community across different countries. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness and proactive care for pelvic floor health, as well as the importance of developing a good relationship with one's body. Takeaways * Pelvic floor health is crucial for women of all ages. * Over one in three women over 55 experience urinary incontinence. * Pelvic floor training is standard care in some countries. * Annie's journey highlights the importance of sports in building community. * Pregnancy and aging significantly impact pelvic floor health. * A healthy pelvic floor supports core stability and overall well-being. * C-sections still require pelvic floor training and care. * It's never too late to start training your pelvic floor. * Understanding your body is key to maintaining pelvic health. Podcast recommendations: Pink pill RX: episode 40, Midwives, witches and Nazis Mel Robbins’ podcast Pelvic floor connection

HOLIDAY SPECIAL: 13 wishes for the new year

Dec 19, 2025 37 min

In this episode, Amanda and CJ reflect on their personal journeys over the past year, discussing the challenges and triumphs they faced. They share a special ritual for setting intentions for the new year, emphasizing the importance of reflection and gratitude. The conversation delves into the power of manifestation and the significance of rituals in marking time and creating a sense of grounding, especially for those living as expats. They conclude with thoughts on their aspirations for the upcoming year and the importance of community and connection. Takeaways * Reflecting on the past year is essential for personal growth. * Setting intentions for the new year can provide clarity and direction. * Rituals help mark time and create a sense of grounding. * Manifestation can be a powerful tool for achieving goals. * Living intentionally can enhance the quality of life. * Gratitude is crucial in recognizing our privileges. * Being an expat presents unique challenges and opportunities. * Community and connection are vital for support. * Writing down wishes as if they are already true can aid in manifestation. * The journey of parenting is filled with ups and downs, and reflection helps navigate it. A special thanks to @thatglagowwitch for the inspiration!

Building your community abroad

Dec 3, 2025 31 min

CJ and Amanda shares their personal experiences and best tips for building your community abroad. Here’s the main takeaways: 1. Put yourself out there — community starts with brave first steps Both hosts emphasize that building a village doesn’t happen passively. You need to take initiative: * Say yes to “blind-date” coffees * Join meetups (e.g., InterNations, “new to Frankfurt” events) * Attend language classes or pregnancy/parent groups * Accept invitations even when it feels awkward Almost every friendship they formed began with taking a small social risk. 2. Shared experiences create the strongest connections The transcript shows that community abroad often forms fastest around common life phases or needs, such as: * Being new to the country * Learning the language * Having pets * Pregnancy classes or young-kids groups * Being an international living far from home These “we’re all in the same boat” situations naturally bring people together and make it easier to bond deeply. 3. Build both international support and local integration A balanced community abroad includes: * International friends who offer emotional familiarity, understand holidays, and “adopt” you like family * Local connections that help you integrate, navigate bureaucracy, learn the language, and support your kids in school Even though connecting with locals can be harder (language barriers, established circles), both hosts agree that learning the local language and making some local ties helps you feel truly rooted. Podcast links: Mel Robbins Podcast Episode 283- It's Not You: The Real Reason Adult Friendship is So Hard & 3 Ways to make it easier: https://open.spotify.com/episode/55RjbE6ffgz4hcsLnOkNW5?si=bc14dc28aab744aa

THANKSGIVING SPECIAL!

Nov 27, 2025 14 min

Amanda and CJ checks in, with a surprise recording from thanksgiving morning, where they talk about the different holiday traditions and why they find it important to keep them going, while living abroad. They also share what they are grateful for, and invite all their listeners to do the same. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Breastfeeding Abroad

Nov 19, 2025 40 min

In this episode of Expecting Expats, CJ and Amanda share their weekend experiences, discuss the complexities of family life, and delve into their breastfeeding journeys. They explore the emotional and physical challenges of breastfeeding, the societal pressures surrounding it, and the importance of support systems for new mothers. The conversation also touches on cultural differences in breastfeeding practices and the resources available in Germany to assist mothers in their breastfeeding journeys. Resources: Le Leche League The Womanly art of breastfeeding Your baby’s microbiome Podcast recommendations: Therapy Talk (Johanne Svensson) The Longest Shortest Time podcast (by Hilary Frank)

Kari’s birth story of baby number 3!

Nov 5, 2025 49 min

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ welcomes back Kari to share her recent birth story of baby number 3! Kari discusses her experience giving birth to her third child, Solveig, where she barely made it to the hospital, and didn’t have time to get any pain medication. The conversation touches on the logistics of managing multiple children, answering work emails while having contractions, and the emotional aspects of childbirth, and the importance of advocating for oneself.

Cultural surprises during pregnancy in Germany

Oct 22, 2025 38 min

CJ and Amanda share the funny, shocking and emotional cultural surprises during their pregnancies in Germany. Podcast recommendations: The Positive Birth Story Podcast

How did we end up in Germany?

Oct 18, 2025 29 min

In this episode, CJ and Amanda get personal—sharing the winding paths that brought them to Germany and the unexpected turns that shaped their lives as expat parents.

Kari’s Life Update

Oct 18, 2025 24 min

In this special episode, CJ and Amanda sit down with Kari, the original co-host of Expecting Expats, to reflect on her journey and share the reasons behind her decision to step away from the podcast.

Welcome back!

Oct 18, 2025 19 min

After a long pause, we’re thrilled to relaunch the podcast with fresh energy, deeper conversations, and a brand-new co-host. In this heartfelt episode, CJ returns to the mic to reflect on life’s big transitions—from growing families to shifting careers—and introduces Amanda, a doula and fellow expat parent, who brings her own rich perspective to the show.

Cool facts about being a mom!

Apr 12, 2024 19 min

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discussed a book that CJ has read describing all the cool medical facts on what happens to mom‘s bodies after birth… From lowering cancer rates to growing part of your brain! tune in today ☺️ like and subscribe!

Sex after two kids!

Mar 8, 2024 18 min

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ chat about keeping the intimacy with your partner alive after having two kids! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats

Identity changes after two kids

Feb 23, 2024 25 min

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ, discuss how their identity has changed, either for the better or worse after having two kids and living abroad. Tune in and subscribe to @expectingexpats !

How the holidays really went!

Feb 9, 2024 21 min

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discuss how their holidays went and how difficult they were with sick kids. Tune in today for the update and subscribe to @expectingexpats !

New Year’s resolutions part 2!

Jan 19, 2024 17 min

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ, discuss more on their New Year’s resolutions, and what they’re planning on doing with their families while living abroad! Tune in today and subscribe to @expectingexpats

New Year’s resolutions!

Jan 5, 2024 17 min

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ discussed their New Year’s resolutions, both personally and professionally. Tune in today to hear what they’re planning on changing in the new year! @expectingexpats

Christmas Special - traditions, plans, and travel long with two kids!

Dec 24, 2023 23 min

In this episode, Kari and CJ, discuss their plans for Christmas, traditions they plan to have, and traveling with two! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats!

Maternity leave with 2 kids!

Dec 9, 2023 23 min

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ, discuss how they’re handling maternity leave with two kids! Tune in and subscribe today @expectingexpats

The First Few Weeks with Two Kids!

Nov 10, 2023 46 min

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discussed the first few weeks with having two kids - dealing with postpartum mental and physical changes While having a toddler to look after! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats

CJ’s Birth Story - Oscar

Nov 3, 2023 48 min

In this weeks episode, CJ tells us her birth story when delivering her son, Oscar. Tune in to hear the highs and lows, and how CJ found out she had a boy! @expectingexpats

Kari’s Birth Story with Ragnar

Oct 13, 2023 54 min

In this weeks episode, Kari tells us about her birth story with Ragnar and having a vaginal birth, after her C-section with Dagny. Listen in to hear the ups and downs, and the funny points in between. Tune in today and subscribe to @expectingexpats

The Final Second Pregnancy Update!

Sep 29, 2023 40 min

In this week’s episode, CJ and Kari are in their late third trimester and giving us an update! They dive into if they’re trying to naturally induce, how they’re preparing, and how they’re feeling! Tune in and subscribe today @expectingexpats

What’s in our hospital bags?

Sep 22, 2023 38 min

In this weeks episode, we chat about what’s in our hospital bags and how we are better preparing for our second time in a German hospital (e.g. snacks!). Tune in today and subscribe! @expectingexpats

Keeping the romance alive with kids!

Sep 15, 2023 36 min

In this weeks episode, CJ and Kari, discuss how to keep an emotional and romantic connection with your partner while having a little ones. Tune in and subscribe today! @expectingexpats

Preparing for your second birth!

Sep 8, 2023 20 min

In this week episode, CJ discusses her preparation for baby number 2. We dive in to questions on what we learned in our past deliveries and what to do with your other kid during the birth - especially when you’re living abroad and no family near by. Tune in and subscribe today! @expectingexpats

Preparing for a Gentle Birth - special guest and founder of Mindful Mama Abroad, Amanda Graybill.

Sep 1, 2023 41 min

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ are joined by a special guest, Amanda Graybill, founder of Mindful Mama Abroad. Where we discuss the Gentle Birth Method and going over all questions on it. Find Amanda and her courses through her website at https://www.mindfulmamafrankfurt.com and follow her on Insta @mindfulmamaabroad.

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Created by: Hosts Amanda and CJ
Status: Active
Latest episode: Nov 4, 2026
Episodes: 94
Release period: Every two weeks
Avg. episode length: 35 min
Explicit: No
Language: English

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