Why I Lose Attraction When They Get Too Close
53 min
Tanai wanted to fall in love. But every time a relationship started getting serious, something strange happened: she'd suddenly lose attraction, find reasons to dislike her partner, and feel an overwhelming urge to escape. Breaking up brought immediate relief. But sometimes, as soon as the relationship ended, her feelings would come rushing back. In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Tanai, a self-described commitment-phobe to explore what it's actually like to experience avoidant attachment—and whether those patterns can change. Tanai opens up about the relationships she sabotaged, the people she hurt, and the years she spent trying to understand why intimacy could feel so threatening. We also compare our own experiences with avoidant attachment, including the confusing combination of wanting closeness and feeling trapped by it. We also discuss: Why Tanai would suddenly lose attraction when a relationship became serious Why someone can seem completely interested on a date and then pull away afterward Why she learned to become exactly what she thought men wanted Why learning to say no helped Tanai feel safer in relationships The surprising date she went on without her two front teeth Follow this channel for future conversations about modern dating and relationships. Follow on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lastdatepodcast Follow Danny on Instagram for clips and insights: https://www.instagram.com/lastdatepodcast https://www.instagram.com/cruxcompatible Follow Tanai: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram
