Why There Is No "Best" Way to Parent (And How to Stop Kiasu Burnout) | Yi Ling Teng | Ep 45
43 min
She read all the books before her first baby arrived. Then the baby came home, and nothing went according to the book. For 5 months, she and her husband struggled at home, sleep-deprived and arguing like never before. At their lowest, they even wondered whether they could go back to life before the baby. Today, they have three kids and Yiling, a former Singapore Exchange scholar, is in the business of helping other moms navigate the tricky waters of postpartum life. She is a certified postpartum doula (she calls herself a “stay-out confinement nanny” because more people understand the term) and the founder of Baby Planner SG. She goes into parents’ homes to help with breastfeeding, sleep, the return to work, and everything in between, all through the first thousand days. She started Baby Planner SG by accident. What began as helping friends and family through their first babies became a business she runs on one principle: never exploit parents when they need help the most. This episode is about letting go of “the best,” and finding what works for your family. What we get into: 🌑 The darkest season of her life after her first baby, and what got her and her husband through it 📚 Why no parenting book could prepare her, and how she used her corporate skills to find what actually worked 🛤️ Growing up on Singapore’s “one-track” path, and realising being a working mom is not the only option 🤝 Why parents resist asking for help, and how she mediates when grandparents and parents can’t agree 🧮 “Mom math” and how to plan breastfeeding and pumping around your return to work 🏠 The 10-year conversation that led her family to choose a single income and an HDB flat for life 📉 What she believes will actually move Singapore’s record-low fertility rate, and why we need to see the joy in parenting, not just the cost If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing because parenthood isn’t going “by the book,” this episode was made for you. 🎁 Make It Work listeners get 5% off anyt...