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Polycurious

A Relationships and Society & Culture podcast

#39 in Relationships · 🇿🇦 #86 in Relationships · 🇲🇽

About the show

Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but you might be curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.

Newest episodes

87. You Are Not Needy, You Have Needs

Nov 3, 2026 1 hr 1 min

Today, JJ and Kata share their journey from non-anchor to anchor partners. Kata opens up about how a betrayal in a previous relationship made her feel more activated by non-monogamy, and offers practical tools for finding your way back to a sense of safety and emotional regulation when your partner is on a date. Resources mentioned: Ep.72 with JJ https://www.polycurious.com/podcast2/ep72 Connect with Kata: https://www.instagram.com/katarina.warras/ https://www.katarinawarras.com/ Tantra retreats: https://lalunafamily.com/retreats/ https://ista.life/ ⁠Subscribe to Polycurious on Spotify⁠⁠: https://members.spotify.com/to/polycurious ⁠⁠Subscribe to Polycurious on Patreon⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Struggling with Non-monogamy? ⁠⁠Book a free exploratory call for coaching here⁠⁠: https://www.polycurious.com/coaching

86. Why We Only Date Separately A Few Times A Year with Eden & Ross

Oct 20, 2026 1 hr 10 min

Today, Ross and Eden, tantra practitioners, intimacy and relationship coaches, and community builders, share how they evolved from a very polyamorous dating life to a relationship that still leaves room for openness while honoring their nervous systems, emotional capacity, and desire to focus on each other. We talk about: How to distinguish between a partner limiting your freedom out of judgment or control and a reasonable request to slow down while they work through their insecurities. The consequences of pursuing relationships that don’t align with what you truly want in a primary partnership, both for yourself and for the people you date. Why and how Ross and Eden designed a relationship in which they mostly date and play together, with occasional “hall passes” that let them explore separately three or four times a year. Listen to Ross and Eden's bonus content on their open phone policy and approach to hierarchy: https://open.spotify.com/episode/58n8FiiFxtGwVRgTByGxAi?si=pNOZfQZaQhid8s44L-ryyA Connect with Ross and Eden Eden's IG: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedwitheden/ Ross' IG: https://www.instagram.com/embodi.men/ Sacred Society: https://sacredsocietyproject.com/ Embodimen: https://try.embodimen.com/ Temple of Eden: https://linktr.ee/TempleofEden ⁠Subscribe to Polycurious on Spotify⁠: https://members.spotify.com/to/polycurious ⁠Subscribe to Polycurious on Patreon⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Struggling with Non-monogamy? ⁠Book a free exploratory call for coaching here⁠: https://www.polycurious.com/coaching

85. The Invite: Does The Movie Get Non-Monogamy Right?

Oct 13, 2026 25 min

Today I share my thoughts about The Invite, a movie about a married couple who invite their neighbors over for dinner. Things are awkward from the start, but they get even more awkward, funny, and real when an unexpected invitation to explore non-monogamy comes up. The Invite is directed by Olivia Wilde, who also stars in it with Seth Rogen, Penélope Cruz, and Edward Norton. It's a surprisingly real and nuance look at relationships. Resources mentioned: Chill Polyamory's Review of the Invite: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xvcdm5hsFto Subscribe to Polycurious on Spotify: https://members.spotify.com/to/polycurious Subscribe to Polycurious on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Struggling with Non-monogamy? Book a free exploratory call for coaching here: https://www.polycurious.com/coaching

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All episodes

87. You Are Not Needy, You Have Needs

Nov 3, 2026 1 hr 1 min

86. Why We Only Date Separately A Few Times A Year with Eden & Ross

Oct 20, 2026 1 hr 10 min

85. The Invite: Does The Movie Get Non-Monogamy Right?

Oct 13, 2026 25 min

84. Could I Live Without Non-Monogamy?

Oct 6, 2026 1 hr 2 min

Sarah Stroh talks about her book, Monogamaybe, her process coming to terms with her non-monogamous identity and finding a partner who supported her in that journey. We discuss how to manage and process jealousy and what agreements look like in non-monogamy when you want to be your best poly self but the reality is you’re struggling. Resourced mentioned: Sarah's bonus episode on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Knenv8lsQpqdXo57e9ZJ8?si=dEnFvBDDQmKjSQJMJRzA-g Sarah's bonus episode on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Polycurious/posts/dating-as-new-ep-171433818 Ep.45 Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep45 Sarah's book Monogamaybe? : Honest advice on navigating relationships from monogamy to polyamory: https://www.monogamish.me/pages/monogamaybe When Jealousy Shows Up (Sarah's 12 min video guide): https://www.monogamish.me/courses/hack-your-jealousy Polycurious' Jealousy Survival Guide: https://www.polycurious.com/resources Follow Sarah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/monogamish_me/ Subscribe to Sarah's Substack: https://substack.com/@monogamish Follow Polycurious on IG: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast/ Subscribe to Polycurious on Spotify⁠: https://members.spotify.com/to/polycurious ⁠Subscribe to Polycurious on Patreon⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious

83. Opening Up After Infidelity, Breakups and Living with Your Metamours with Natalie Davis (author of Saying Yes)

Sep 22, 2026 1 hr 7 min

Natalie Davis, author of the memoir Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, shares her journey into polyamory, from opening up her marriage in her 40s after her husband’s infidelity to navigating living with her metamours. Natalie also opens up about the end of a decade long relationship after her partner began dating someone new and could no longer offer her the kind of relationship she wanted. She reflects on what she’s learned about letting go when a relationship no longer works for you. Resources Mentioned Check out Natalie’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Saying-Yes-My-Adventures-Polyamory/dp/1510784497/ref=sr_1_1?crid=JEYQUH4XM8HM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._tsLaAlh__BGiuGLnZJLiw.JX2srBOBjj6OyQxCQ153pHkVP0TiswCxul7POet7l2U&dib_tag=se&keywords=saying+yes+my+adventures+in+polyamory&qid=1750961117&s=books&sprefix=saying+yes+my+adventures+in+polyamory%2Cstripbooks%2C62&sr=1-1 Learn more about OPEN: https://www.open-love.org/ Ep.59 with Adam, author of “Seek the Risk” https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep59 Ep.46 with Molly Roden Winter, author of “More”: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep46 Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Follow Polycurious and Join Our Community Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

82. Lessons From Building a Triad with The Kink Collective

Sep 8, 2026 1 hr 9 min

Cat, Natalie, and Joshua from The Kink Collective talk about their experience building a triad. We talk about honesty and transparency in non monogamy, especially when telling the full truth feels scary because you’re worried about your partner’s reaction, and what happens when you struggle to trust a partner who isn’t fully transparent. Natalie also shares her experience entering an established relationship, navigating Joshua’s other partners, and realizing she sometimes compared Cat to her own mom because of their significant age difference. Finally, we talk about letting go of expectations about what a relationship is “supposed” to look like and allowing their triad to develop organically. Resourced mentioned: The Kink Collective Website: https://kinkcollective.net/ Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

81. When Your Partner Doesn't Want Non-monogamy with Courtney and Nate (the Mono-Poly couple)

Aug 26, 2026 1 hr 0 min

When Courtney proposed opening their marriage on their 17th anniversary, their relationship was struggling. Nate was a devoted father and provider, but he had become emotionally distant. Courtney’s proposal was initially met with anger, judgment, and fears that she was trying to replace him. Through therapy, difficult conversations, and learning to sit with jealousy instead of trying to fix it, Nate gradually came to understand that Courtney’s desire for non-monogamy wasn’t a rejection of him, it was part of who she is. As Courtney began dating, Nate saw her become happier, more present, and more connected to their family. At the same time, he worked on himself and became the partner Courtney had been missing. Today, more than two decades into their marriage, Courtney and Nate have built a mono-poly relationship that works for them. In this episode, they share what it took to get there. Resources mentioned: Bonus ep.81 on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0gQfpMLtNwt6lHBskEhEoJ?si=846f1b613a1e49e6 On Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Polycurious/posts/getting-over-ask-167701931 The Mono-Poly Couple YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMonoPolyCouple Courtney's website (coaching, books, retreats): www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/ Their Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/ Polycurious ep.80 How To Process Jealousy and Difficult Emotions: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CtSRE2pLUVQDldirevmT8?si=77aacf23ba004382 Jealousy Survival Guide: https://www.polycurious.com/resources ⁠Join My Patreon⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuri...

Open to Open Panel Recording

Jul 16, 2026 1 hr 29 min

In this special episode, I'm sharing a live recording from Open to Open, a panel discussion I joined in Denver hosted by coaches Bella Schauer and Booster Blake. We share our personal experiences and answer questions about New Relationship Energy, honesty, repair after conflict, and boundaries, Resources mentioned: Couple's Fall Retreat info: https://www.bella-paints.com/retreats Bella's email: Elizabethbellaschauer@gmail.com My episode with Jessica Esfandiary: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep35 My episode with Bella & Patrick: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast2/ep76 My episode with Seth: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep12 Paul's harmony card: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OAYSWfsjuhOzXoZ9KLargqVlzu6QCssY/view?usp=sharing Connect with me Join my Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

80. How To Process Jealousy and Difficult Emotions

Jul 8, 2026 26 min

In this solo episode, I'm sharing the emotional processing tool that's completely changed the way I handle difficult emotions. It's called RAIN, and while I didn't create it (it was popularized by meditation teacher Tara Brach), I've adapted it over the years for myself and my coaching clients. It's become one of the most effective ways I know to work through jealousy, calm my nervous system, and show up to difficult conversations feeling grounded instead of reactive. R - Recognize Name the emotion (shame, fear, sadness, worry, etc.) A - Allow Let the feeling move through your body. Focus on the sensations. Sit or lay down, close your eyes and breathe. It will feel uncomfortable, allow those feelings to come into your body. Ideally at least 20 min. I - Investigate With compassion, ask yourself why you might be feeling that way. How might your past experiences play a role? What’s the lesson there? What do you need? N – Nurture Think of what you’d tell a friend if they came to you with your concerns. Tell that to yourself, providing support, love and compassion you need. Give yourself a hug. If you can, do something you think will make you feel better (take a bath, call a friend, journal, exercise etc.) Resources mentioned: Jealousy Survival Guide https://www.polycurious.com/resources More on RAIN: Tara Brach's podcast Audiobook ⁠Breathwork Exercise⁠ I'd recommend you listen to this, as it's a good explanation of how focusing on your body interrupts the thoughts (helpful for the allow part) Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Opening Up Without The Mess (Meet-up)

Jun 18, 2026 46 min

What We Cover How to know if your relationship is ready What to expect: jealousy, guilt & imbalance Common mistakes to avoid Why you should move at the pace of the slowest partner How to handle jealousy Jealousy is normal and workable Communication is everything: don't bring up issues in the moment unless absolutely neccesary Go slow, but keep moving Questions To Discuss When Opening Up Your Relationship Patreon: What To Do When Your Partner is On a Date (goes over RAIN exercise for jealousy) Ep. 48 Don't Ask Don't Tell But Different Want more support? Reach out for coaching at polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com 💌

79. The Problem with NRE (New Relationship Energy) with Sam Charles

May 26, 2026 1 hr 10 min

Sex and relationship coach Sam Charles joins me to explore the shadow side of New Relationship Energy: the nervous system rollercoaster. We also talk about the reasons he is no longer over-compromising in romantic relationships, and he shares great tips for navigating the challenges that can emerge in non-monogamy when people are unclear about their agreements, intentions, or capacity. Resources mentioned: Sam's Bonus Polycurious episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4BWfzyptQrpHiAmfd9CgJK?si=RaTk0JFsQ-2bDdZqLyJR-w Sam's website: https://www.samcharlescoaching.com/ Sam's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachsam/ More on NRE: How to Deal with NRE https://open.spotify.com/episode/58QeAd7h1yCBOlAbKDUEAU All About New Relationship Energy: https://www.patreon.com/posts/in-case-you-it-131384186/ Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

Bonus ep.79 Exploring Bisexuality as a Man

May 26, 2026 19 min

In this episode, Sam opens up about discovering his attraction to men later in life, what it was like having his first boyfriend, exploring sexual compatibility for the first time, and working through internalized shame around bisexuality. Listen to Sam's episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hy7CGmqLikpnSJNfQPOPO?si=AMPvFjE1RAeuSYiI0Z9S_Q Sam's website: https://www.samcharlescoaching.com/ Sam's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachsam/ Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

78. Domming at a Sober Kink Party & My Daddy Issues

May 12, 2026 37 min

Today I share my experience unexpectedly domming someone for the very first time at a sober kink party, and how stepping into my dominant side helped me rethink my relationship with non-monogamy, begin to untangle some of my daddy issues and feel incredibly empowered. Resources mentioned Carnival Dungeon Party: https://www.instagram.com/carnivaldngn.co/ Polycurious Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious My Breakup Story: https://www.patreon.com/posts/143817525/ Let's Talk About Sexual Desires Episode: https://www.patreon.com/posts/112339837 Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

77. Kink, Power Dynamics & Knowing When to Walk Away with Vee from Girls Gone Deep

Apr 28, 2026 1 hr 8 min

Today, Vee from Girls Gone Deep shares her journey into kink, what makes a great dom, and what people can actually gain from exploring BDSM dynamics. We also dive into what it feels like to want a level of commitment your partner can’t offer, and how to know when it’s time to walk away Resources mentioned: Girls Gone Deep Podcast: https://www.girlsgonedeep.com/episodes ⁠Bonus ep.77 Can You Deescalate Without Breaking Up?⁠: On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UDJ7xPvTfSkYfF8w60M7T?si=j8_tVDw5QpmT2f2Ak21LtQ On ⁠Patreon⁠: https://www.patreon.com/posts/can-you-de-of-up-156628493 Patreon Meet-up on Breakups: https://www.patreon.com/posts/next-wed-and-156707476?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link What To Do When Your Partner is On a Date Episode (RAIN): https://www.patreon.com/posts/112573033/ Njoy Wand: https://www.njoytoys.com/product/purewand/ Amber Grubenmann Dating Coach https://www.instagram.com/ambergrubenmann/ Amber's episode on GGD: https://open.spotify.com/episode/00bB5cIFH7SHl3GJ3inBik Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Join My Patreon⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

76. I Said Yes to ENM But My Body Panics with Bella & Patrick

Apr 14, 2026 1 hr 6 min

What if your head is on board with non-monogamy, but your body freaks out when your partner dates someone else? Today, Bella and Patrick, who started their relationship long-distance and non-monogamous, share how they learned to navigate multiple partners, set clear agreements, and regulate their emotions. Resources mentioned: Bella’s Website https://www.bella-paints.com/coaching Bella’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bellashepaints/ Bella’s Relationship Agreement Guide https://www.bella-paints.com/shop/p/the-relationship-agreement-guide Book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy https://www.amazon.com/dp/1944934987/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_apa_gl_i_SRXAD2SK285NG0F99Y0Z?linkCode=ml1&tag=jessicafern-20 Sacred Sons Men’s Group https://www.sacredsons.com/ Patreon episode: What To Do When Your Partner is On a Date (where I talk about the RAIN method) https://www.patreon.com/posts/112573033/

75. Can You Learn Compersion? ft. Evolving Love Project

Mar 31, 2026 1 hr 10 min

Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project return to share more about their journey opening up their relationship. They unpack why fairness doesn’t always mean doing the same things, reflecting on Abbey dating solo for two years before Liam did. They also explore whether compersion—the feeling of joy or happiness for your partner’s experiences with others—is something you can learn, and how it differs from simply feeling turned on by that idea. Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Resources mentioned: Abbey's Substack: https://substack.com/@evolvingloveproject?utm_source=global-search Evolving Love Podcast: When Abbey Vetoed Fer: https://open.spotify.com/episode/47hASJGbb3UfcaWQTxinxC Ep.42 Can Non-monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Abbey and Liam: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep42 Evolving Love Project website: https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/ Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

74. Do This Before Opening Up with Nancy & Jonny

Mar 17, 2026 1 hr 8 min

Nancy and Jonny spent months focusing on education, workshops, community, and strengthening their communication before taking their first steps into non-monogamy. In this episode, they share what that intentional process looked like, the challenges they encountered, and how moving slowly helped them build a deeper sense of safety and trust in their relationship. They also share practical communication tools that helped them navigate difficult emotions, including one simple but powerful question partners can ask each other: Do you need to be helped, hugged, or heard? Resources mentioned: Queering Existentialism (Unlearning Mononormativity workshop and others): https://www.queeringexistentialism.com/ Jonny’s Self-Love playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1JszNHS2Bw95szUQtDaTG8?si=iModwn0YSR6lbcNv8dVouA&pi=K4mgv1OrTY2g1 House Of Scorpio Lip Service Party https://www.houseofscorpio.com/index.html Book: All Fours By Miranda July https://mirandajuly.com/all-fours/ New York Jacks (Masturbation Party): https://nyjacks.com/ Sucia Events https://linktr.ee/suciasundays My Episode with Evolving Love Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/47hASJGbb3UfcaWQTxinxC Ep.52 How to Find Safety with Leo and Luna: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep52 My Break Up Story and Tips for Going Through a Breakup Part 2: https://www.patreon.com/posts/my-break-up-and-143818808 Join my Patreon (for the Meetups) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https:...

73. I Wanted Sex with One Partner But Not The Other with Libby Sinback

Mar 3, 2026 1 hr 9 min

What happens when you stop wanting sex with your long-term partner(s)… but not with someone new? In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach and host of Making Polyamory Work, Libby Sinback. Libby shares openly about a four-year period in her marriage when she and her husband didn’t have sex and what it took to find their way back to intimacy. Resources mentioned: Learn more about Libby here: https://www.libbysinback.com/ Morgan Burch’s post about sex not being a physical need here: https://www.instagram.com/goodmorgantherapy/p/DU01M50AD6s/?img_index=3 Emily Nagoski’s books here: https://www.emilynagoski.com/books Making Polyamory Work episode with Drew here: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Leaning-In-e3c7lgc/a-acbv8i2 Poly Parents Miniseries here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFX44KoR8S4&list=PLuhHN8kw_43UM2tkDWg8xwIZbOQBE__Ee Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

72. I Questioned Monogamy and Heteronormativity and Couldn’t Go Back

Feb 17, 2026 1 hr 6 min

In this episode, JJ shares how he went from being in a monogamous relationship to fully embracing his queer and non-monogamous identity. He opens up about working through shame and what it’s been like navigating queerness and non-monogamy as a man in a heteronormative culture. Resources mentioned: JJ's Bonus Patreon Content: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-72-nre-150958971?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link ⁠Non-escalator relationship menu⁠: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/pwkdxp/v3_relationship_components_menu_last_update_for/ Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

71. Can BDSM Be Therapeutic? with Nicolle Hodges

Feb 3, 2026 1 hr 15 min

In this episode, Nicolle Hodges shares how she discovered the world of kink, became a lifestyle dominatrix, and realized BDSM can be profoundly therapeutic (the subject of her upcoming book!). She also reflects on her experience in a polyamorous relationship, including navigating a throuple, and explains why she ultimately decided to step away from non-monogamy. Follow Nicolle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolledoublel/ Nicolle's Substack Both Sides of The Slash: https://nicolledoublel.substack.com/ Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious

70. Jealousy is Information with Kayla + Carl (Part 2)

Jan 20, 2026 41 min

In part two of my conversation with Kayla and Carl, we explore how jealousy can be a powerful source of information, helping us understand what we want more of and how we can grow. We also talk about a major milestone in their non monogamy journey: Carl’s first experience stepping outside his marriage, which was also his first sexual connection with someone other than Kayla. Resources Mentioned: ⁠Kayla's Essay⁠: https://medium.com/@kaylamerz/truth-sex-and-non-monogamy-8f1e42c8fde4?postPublishedType=initial Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

69. Non-monogamy Saved Our Marriage with Kayla + Carl (Part 1)

Jan 13, 2026 59 min

Kayla and Carl, a married couple with young kids, share how non monogamy helped them move out of a decline in sexual connection and communication. While Carl was initially not interested in exploring outside the relationship himself, his support of Kayla’s exploration became a major turning point. Kayla, who is seven years older and had often felt more in charge in the relationship, began to see Carl differently: more confident, grounded, and secure. That shift had a powerful impact on their intimacy. This episode explores how non monogamy can introduce new sexual energy into a relationship and help long-term couples who feel stagnant find their way out of a rut. Resources Mentioned: ⁠Listen to Part 2 of our conversation on Patreon⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Watch Parents Mini Series on YouTube (ep.42 - ep. 46) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFX44KoR8S4&list=PLuhHN8kw_43UM2tkDWg8xwIZbOQBE__Ee Listen to Poly Parents Mini Series: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep42 Kayla's Essay: https://medium.com/@kaylamerz/truth-sex-and-non-monogamy-8f1e42c8fde4?postPublishedType=initial Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

68. Having Three DADT Partners with Alex & Skyler

Dec 16, 2025 1 hr 3 min

In this episode, we explore what it looks like to navigate three Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell relationships in which all partners want escalation, while Skyler is not ready to step onto the relationship escalator with any of them. This tension is especially present for Alex, who is in her mid-thirties and thinking seriously about partnership, stability, and having children. Skyler shares how he moved from a long-term monogamous marriage into non-hierarchy and unexpectedly found himself in three relationships, while Alex reflects on meeting Skyler shortly before her divorce and falling in love while still grieving. Together, we unpack when Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell dynamics can feel protective versus when they can become harmful and how non-hierarchy can create tension when people’s futures are uncertain. Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

67. What Two Terrible Breakups Taught Me with Jesse

Dec 4, 2025 1 hr 9 min

Today, Jesse opens up about two challenging breakups that unfolded in the context of non-monogamy, how those endings impacted his reputation within his community, and how they shaped the way he saw himself. He also shares how later, healthier relationships helped him rewrite those old narratives. We talk about why we’re often drawn to people who aren’t actually a good fit for partnership, why even “bad” relationships can be valuable for the growth they spark, and how those experiences ultimately help us get clearer about what we want and lead us toward more grounded, nourishing connections. Bonus Patreon Content with Jesse: Being a Male Unicorn: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-67-male-145030257 Breaking Up for The Right Reasons: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-67-up-145030787 Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch Polycurious on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

66. All Roads Lead To Poly with Fer (Your Host)

Nov 18, 2025 59 min

In this episode, I finally sit on the other side of the mic. I’m interviewed by my friend A (who you might remember from the episode with her husband J). We talk about my upbringing, what I learned about my sexuality (including discovering masturbation much later in life), my journey with Seth as my primary partner and eventually finding a second partner, what it was like to navigate conflict with two partners, and why I’ve become such a big believer in not future-tripping and instead listening to your intuition in the moment. Join my Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Breakup episodes 1 + 2: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Fer + Seth’s episode 12: ⁠https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep12⁠ Fer + Seth episode 48: ⁠https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep48⁠ John Part 1 (Patreon): https://www.patreon.com/posts/meet-my-partner-138151166 John Part 2: ⁠https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep61⁠ Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

65. Making Peace with Your Insecurities with A & J (Part 2)

Nov 4, 2025 54 min

In the second part of my conversation with A and J, we talk about how J learned to face and work through his insecurities instead of letting them dictate how A connects with others. We also explore how differently they’ve each approached non-monogamy, with A actively dating while J has taken things more slowly as he continues to unpack his religious upbringing and lifelong monogamous conditioning. Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

64. Should You Have Rules When Opening Up? with A & J (Part 1)

Oct 21, 2025 1 hr 3 min

A and J opened up their relationship after nearly three decades together, when menopause sparked a surge in A’s libido. In this episode, we talk about their process of untangling enmeshment, how they moved from a rule-heavy dynamic — with J, who was initially hesitant about non-monogamy, setting most of the boundaries — to having no rules at all. We also explore how those early rules revealed insecurities that J eventually chose to face and work through, rather than letting them control how A connects with others. Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtas Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast

63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita Sawyers

Oct 7, 2025 1 hr 7 min

Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup. This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as a path for personal growth, and highlight both the strengths and limitations within your relationships. Resourced mentioned: Patreon Bonus Content: Evita Sawyers on Leaving Religion, Dating Out of Jealousy and Finding Commitment in Non-Monogamy Follow Evita on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34?igsh=a2RqOHU5ZTdoMmRi Follow Evita on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1Evne8bz9V/?mibextid=wwXIfr Patreon Bonus Content from This Conversation: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Poly Love Documentary: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B088G1RM9C/ref=atv_sr_fle_c_Tn74RA_1_1_1?sr=1-1&pageTypeIdSource=ASIN&pageTypeId=B088G3DKRG&qid=1759100808642 The Untethered Soul Michael A Singer https://untetheredsoul.com/untethered-soul The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808 The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319 No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh https://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/ Loving What Is By Byron Katie https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/ More Than Two: https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706 The Ethical Slut: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664 Nonviolent Communication: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/ Get my free guide to...

62. When Your Partner Chooses A Nesting Partner with Roshi & Frankie

Sep 23, 2025 56 min

Roshi and Frankie have been navigating a long-distance polyamorous relationship for over three years, where they both have other partners. Today, we talk about: How to balance multiple relationships without losing a shared vision Their experience building a long distance partnership Finding security even when your partner has a nesting partner Why non-monogamy is also an inner journey that can help you gain clarity on who you are, your needs and integrate different parts of yourself Resources mentioned: Bonus content from this episode on Patreon (on Roshi's search for a nesting partner and Frankie's experience asking for what's important to her): https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-62-when-139590497 Ep.6 Facing Insecurities Head On with Frankie: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep6 Where is Frankie Now? (Patreon): https://www.patreon.com/posts/120772218/ Ep. 55 Aryn & Josh From Couples Therapy: https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep55 Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

61. Meet My Secondary Partner Part 2 with John

Sep 9, 2025 49 min

In my conversation with John, my secondary partner, we get into how our relationship grew from friends-with-benefits into partnership. We revisit an early incident that brought up his fear of disappointing partners and my own struggles with trust and safety, and how that shaped our early days. I share what it’s been like to face my fears around partnership and learn to find safety within myself, while John opens up about practicing vulnerability, accountability, and breaking old patterns of people-pleasing. Listen to part 1 on my Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/138151166/ Listen to How I Went From Polycurious to Poly Part 1 here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/127305023/ Listen to How I Went From Polycurious to Poly Part 2 here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/127307117/ Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

60. Two Families, One Polycule with Catherine and Brian

Jul 1, 2025 1 hr 3 min

Catherine and Brian went on Feeld looking for a threesome but things took a turn when Catherine fell for a woman who’s also married with a daughter. Now the two couples (and their kids) have formed a loving polycule built on honesty and care. In today’s episode, we talk about how Brian stays sensually connected to the dynamic by being submissive, even though he’s not sexually involved with Catherine’s girlfriend. We get into how they’ve navigated Catherine having threesomes with her girlfriend and her girlfriend’s husband. We also explore the importance of staying open to evolving dynamics, and why asking thoughtful questions can go further than quick reassurance when your partner is struggling in non-monogamy. Resources mentioned: ⁠Bonus content: Accepting myself as a submissive man with Brian:⁠ https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-60-as-154020880?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link ⁠Bonus content: Raising a child in a polycule:⁠ https://www.patreon.com/posts/133008939/ Ep.46 More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (book) Sex with Emily podcast Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

59. Masculinity & Non-Monogamy: A Man’s Memoir with Adam of Seek the Risk

Jun 17, 2025 57 min

Adam is the author of Seek the Risk, the only memoir I know of by a man about non-monogamy. In this episode, he shares how being with a female partner who was more sexually active than he was challenged his sense of masculinity. He talks about how he overcame those feelings using techniques from his extreme sports background, including recognizing harmful inner narratives and reframing fear. Patreon Bonus Content: What Other People Think vs. What You Know About Yourself Get Adam's Book "Seek the Risk" seektherisk.net Write to Adam: adam@seektherisk.net Read Adam's Substack: seektherisk.substack.com Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

58. All About MFM Threesomes with Didi & Alex

Jun 3, 2025 56 min

In the second part of my conversation with Alex and Didi, we’re diving deep into MFM (male-female-male) threesomes, something they’ve explored together, and that Alex has a lot of experience with solo. He shares how he went from feeling uncomfortable with seeing his partner receive pleasure from another man to actually making it one of his biggest kinks. We talk about why this dynamic can be incredibly enjoyable, how to avoid jealousy, and how shifting your mindset can transform the entire experience. Follow Didi on Instagram at ⁠ethicallynonmongamous⁠: https://www.instagram.com/ethicallynonmonogamous/ Listen to Didi's podcast, The Non-Monogamous Spectrum ⁠Spotify⁠: https://open.spotify.com/show/0hwFZNSmLwDdDI1aUOvfT5?si=a2c04ea3e07c49aa ⁠Apple podcasts⁠: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-non-monogamy-spectrum/id1818259334 Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

57. Navigating Couple-to-Couple Play with Didi & Alex

May 20, 2025 1 hr 0 min

Today, Didi and Alex talk about what it’s like to be in a relationship where one partner is just beginning to explore non-monogamy while the other has years of experience. We also get into the complexities of couple-to-couple play, including the communication challenges, mismatched expectations, and lessons learned from their early experiences. Patreon Bonus Content: Navigating Couple-to-Couple Play with Didi & Alex Follow Didi on Instagram at ethicallynonmongamous: https://www.instagram.com/ethicallynonmonogamous/ Listen to Didi's podcast, The Non-Monogamous Spectrum Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0hwFZNSmLwDdDI1aUOvfT5?si=a2c04ea3e07c49aa Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-non-monogamy-spectrum/id1818259334 Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

56. Can a Kinky Relationship Be Asexual? Annie Undone Says Yes

May 6, 2025 1 hr 4 min

Today, Annie Undone opens up about her long-distance Dominant/submissive relationship (where she was the dom) with an asexual partner and what it taught her about intimacy. She also shares her journey from monogamy to polyamory and back again, her experience leaving an abusive marriage and dating someone 14 years younger, and why staying grounded in yourself outside of romantic relationships is so important. Resources mentioned: From Polycurious to Poly Part 1: https://www.patreon.com/posts/127305023?utm_campaign=postshare_creator Polycurious YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast Annie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annie_undone/ Annie's writing: https://ko-fi.com/annieundone/shop ⁠FetLife⁠: https://fetlife.com/ ⁠Discord⁠: https://discord.com/ ⁠Feeld⁠: https://feeld.co/ Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

55. Aryn & Josh From Couples Therapy

Apr 22, 2025 1 hr 1 min

Today Aryn and Josh from Couples Therapy discuss their decade-long journey navigating polyamory, including their experience in a triad, Josh’s process of overcoming discomfort with Aryn dating other men, and how they use conflict as an opportunity to model how they want to be treated by each other. Watch Couples Therapy on Paramount: https://www.paramountplus.com/shows/couples-therapy/ Listen to the episode with Lorena (Josh's Ex): https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep40 Get my free guide to opening up ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠

54. When Their Actions Don't Match Their Words with Daniella Guimaraes (Velvet Ties)

Apr 8, 2025 53 min

Daniella Guimaraes is a non-monogamous matchmaker and founder of Velvet Ties social club. Today she shares her CNM journey, why she prefers starting relationships fully open, and lessons from a past partner whose actions contradicted his words. She also tells us how Velvet Ties is bringing the community together and what you have to do to become a part of it. Learn more about the Croatia trip here (make sure to mention Polycurious for $500 off): https://partiful.com/e/ULTwpIFxb5ocL6qjFAwl Learn more about Velvet Ties here (make sure to mention Polycurious for $500 off): velvetties.com Follow Velvet Ties and Daniella on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/velvetties_/ Get my free guide to opening up ⁠here⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Threads⁠

53. How to Fortify Your Relationship with Lamees and Nick

Mar 25, 2025 1 hr 7 min

Lamees and Nick are a monogamous couple who previously tried non-monogamy and decided it wasn't right for them. Today, they discuss their journey and introduce their "relationship fortification" framework for having honest conversations about relationships. Visit the relationship fortification website here: https://www.relationshipfortification.com/ Follow relationship fortification on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/relationshipfortification/ Get my free guide to opening up here https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-up Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads

52. How to Find Safety with Luna & Leo

Mar 11, 2025 1 hr 30 min

Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded. Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through opening up. Plus, we talk about the baby steps they’re taking to build a relationship that honors both freedom and emotional security. Patreon Bonus Content Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠here⁠ https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

51. Hotwife, Mono-Poly or Something Else?

Feb 25, 2025 1 hr 7 min

Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing together to settling into a mono-poly dynamic. Listen to Ellie's podcast 'Kink with Alex + Ellie Substack: https://talkingkinkpodcast.com Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6tg4geRbYCJWl2SmwweVod Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-kink-with-alex-ellie/id1727462400 To My Stag, My Hubby full audio: https://soundgasm.net/u/ParcaeNona/To-my-Stag-my-Hubby Book a free exploratory call with me⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ here https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

50. Mono-Poly and Non-hierarchical

Feb 11, 2025 1 hr 2 min

In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyamory. Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠ here⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community⁠⁠ here⁠⁠. https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon⁠⁠here⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

49. When You're Non-Monogamous and Your Partner Isn't

Feb 4, 2025 1 hr 9 min

In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection. Resources mentioned in this episode: Patreon Bonus Content: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-49-112857174?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_fan&utm_content=web_share Ep.2 Finding the Type of Relationship That Works for You ⁠Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth⁠ Book a free exploratory call with me ⁠here⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community ⁠here⁠. https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon ⁠here⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com

48. Don't Ask Don't Tell But Different with Fer & Seth

Jan 28, 2025 52 min

In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community here: https://www.polycurious.com/community Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Polycurious is one of the 25 top non-monogamy podcasts: https://podcast.feedspot.com/non_monogamy_podcasts/

47. How to Deal with NRE (New Relationship Energy)

Oct 30, 2024 18 min

Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode. Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time? If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew: Thinking about your new lover more than your partner is normal and it will likely go away: Infatuation often comes with intense emotions and short-term, obsessive attachment. Remember, you likely felt the same for your primary partner once—it will fade. You might feel guilty: If you haven't discussed this with your partner, guilt can creep in. It’s crucial to talk about what happens if someone catches feelings. Falling in love isn’t something you can control—be ready for it. You might doubt your primary relationship even if it’s going great: This is monogamous conditioning at play. Society teaches us that loving someone else means something’s wrong. It takes time to unlearn that belief. Resources: NRE Newsletter Post Join my Patreon at ⁠patreon.com/c/Polycurious⁠ Book an exploratory call here: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min

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46. More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter

Apr 16, 2024 1 hr 5 min

In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the New York Times Bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself. Get Molly's book here! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠

45. Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh from Monogamish

Apr 9, 2024 49 min

Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh (Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner. Connect with Sarah: Instagram Substack Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠⁠here⁠⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠

44. Opening Up After Two Decades Together

Apr 2, 2024 42 min

In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relationship to their children, and the unexpected outcomes that followed. Resources mentioned in this episode: Carol & David's Episode: Unlearning Monogamy ⁠Esther Perel's Questions to Build Adaptability⁠ Join our WhatsApp community here! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠

43. Opening Up After Two Decades Together

Mar 26, 2024 43 min

This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding community. Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠here⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠

42. Can Non-Monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Evolving Love Project

Mar 20, 2024 1 hr 17 min

Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia. In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how their sexual relationship changed after having their son and what they did to bring back the spice and reconnect. Lastly, we speak of their experience coming out as non-monogamous parents in Australian television. Connect with them: evolvingloveproject.com Evolving Love Project IG Evolving Love Project Substack Resources mentioned in this episode: Book: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Jessica Fern's Books Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30min Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠

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Created by: Fernanda
Status: Active
Latest episode: Nov 3, 2026
Episodes: 90
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Language: English

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