SHAMELESS is a virtual queer community dedicated to helping queer people release shame through naked guided meditation and authentic connection. ✨
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Here in this live naked guided meditation session, Coach Kevin leads participants through a self-healing practice centered on body acceptance, self-love, and self-celebration.
Listen and follow along to this practice to let go of personal judgments and criticisms in replacement of grounded reconnection with yourself.
To join for future live SHAMELESS sessions, including guided clothed and naked meditations, register here.
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Here in this live naked guided meditation session, Coach Kevin leads a grounded practice celebrating desire.
Oftentimes, we can feel shame for the desires we have, both sexually and non-sexually. Especially if we were raised in judgmental or critical environments, we can feel guilt and shame for the things we want, especially if they bring us joy or are rooted in pleasure.
This naked guided meditation session gives you an opportunity to let go of that shame by redirecting the focus back onto the beautiful, inherent power of pleasure.
Listen and follow along to the practice, and register here to join for an upcoming live SHAMELESS session.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
Here in this live naked guided meditation session from Friday, August 28, 2026, Coach Kevin leads participants through a grounded practice of recognizing the impact of shame on our lives while redirecting our focus and attention to let it go through self-love, self-empowerment, and self-compassion.
To join upcoming live meditation sessions, learn more and register here.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
Here in this live naked guided meditation session, Coach Kevin leads participants through a self-healing practice centered on body acceptance, self-love, and self-celebration.
Listen and follow along to this practice to let go of personal judgments and criticisms in replacement of grounded reconnection with yourself.
To join for future live SHAMELESS sessions, including guided clothed and naked meditations, register here.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
Here in this live naked guided meditation session, Coach Kevin leads a grounded practice celebrating desire.
Oftentimes, we can feel shame for the desires we have, both sexually and non-sexually. Especially if we were raised in judgmental or critical environments, we can feel guilt and shame for the things we want, especially if they bring us joy or are rooted in pleasure.
This naked guided meditation session gives you an opportunity to let go of that shame by redirecting the focus back onto the beautiful, inherent power of pleasure.
Listen and follow along to the practice, and register here to join for an upcoming live SHAMELESS session.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
Here in this live naked guided meditation session from Friday, August 28, 2026, Coach Kevin leads participants through a grounded practice of recognizing the impact of shame on our lives while redirecting our focus and attention to let it go through self-love, self-empowerment, and self-compassion.
To join upcoming live meditation sessions, learn more and register here.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
In today’s Naked Guided Meditation session, we focused on celebrating the body by focusing on aligned appreciation for our bodies, our physical selves, and the ways in which our bodies keep us safe, protected, and alive.
For homework from this session, continue to practice the affirmation, “I feel comfortable being seen in my body without needing to hide, shrink, or apologize.”
Repeat this affirmation to yourself as you shower, as you look at yourself in the mirror, when you wake up for the day, and prior to going to sleep.
Place your right hand on your heart and your left hand over your belly as you repeat this declaration, feeling into the energy of each word.
Here’s the full schedule of our current meditation offerings:
* Mondays at 10:00 am HT: Clothed Guided Meditation
* Wednesdays at 3:00 pm HT: Naked Guided Meditation
* Fridays at 10:00 am HT: Naked Guided Meditation
*Please visit the respective links to see when the session is held in your local time zone.
To join live for our next live guided meditation session, go to joinshameless.org to register.
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Recently, I had the chance to sit down with my personal “Substack Oprah”—Aidan Wharton—the very gay and very brilliant author behind Gay Buffet, one of Substack’s leading hubs for gay wisdom, life, and culture.
Aidan, a modern-day homosexual Carrie Bradshaw, has been a huge inspiration to me since I first started on this platform. We’ve interacted almost daily (or at least weekly) for months now, and it was well overdue for us to finally sit down—coffee in hand, Zoom open—and have a real, heart-to-heart conversation.
In this episode, we talk about:
* how Aidan got started with his grounding publication
* why connection is so important
* the intention behind Gay Buffet
* the weirdness of being a social media persona with real-life friends
* reframing challenges into opportunities for gratitude
* his beautiful wedding
* his daily check-in ritual with his husband
* and, of course, the excitement around open relationships and gay sex
Watch or listen to our conversation—and make sure to subscribe to Aidan’s phenomenal Substack here!
You can also find him on Instagram.
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In this powerful conversation, I sit down with adult entertainer, retreat facilitator, and my dear friend Dillon Diaz to explore the intersections of sexuality, shame, and self-discovery.
Dillon opens up about his journey from introvert to performer, the liberation he found in adult work, and how courage, energy, and presence shape his life today.
We dive into:
* How retreats, tantra, and workshops mirror our own growth
* The liberation that comes with sexual authenticity and owning your story
* Navigating body image, aging, and shame in a sex-driven culture
* The balance between persona and self, performance and presence
* Why sexiness isn’t a look — it’s an energy
If you’ve ever struggled with shame, body image, or owning your sexual energy, this episode will hit home.
Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.
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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
What happens when you strip away every story, expectation, and social script — and ask, “Who the f**k am I really?”
In this soul-shaking episode, I sit down with one of my personal heroes and coaches, Tamara Driskell, to explore her powerful concept of radical autonomy — and how it transforms the way we navigate consensual non-monogamy, love, freedom, and emotional connection.
We dive into:
* Why radical autonomy is the root of who we are — and what that actually means
* How to honor your own truth while loving someone who walks a different path
* The fears, triggers, and freedom that show up when your partner chooses differently than you
* How non-monogamy invites you to grow the hell up emotionally, spiritually, and relationally
* The reality that deep intimacy requires free choice, not control
* Daily practices and questions that keep your relationships alive, not just intact
This is one of the most meaningful conversations I’ve ever had — and I’m not sugarcoating that.
If you're ready to explore love, autonomy, desire, and radical honesty on a whole new level, press play now.
Let’s f*****g go.
Explore more of Tamara’s work and get to know her here. Follow her on IG and all the socials!
Relational freedom starts with self-acceptance.
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In this episode, I sit down with soul initiator and shadow work coach Dr. Mike Simmons (aka Shadow Mike) for a raw and unfiltered dive into the intersection of shadow work and non-monogamy — and what it reveals about the parts of us we’ve been avoiding.
We talk about:
* What shadow work actually is — beyond the buzzwords
* How non-monogamy can surface deep, hidden insecurities around worth and identity
* My personal journey navigating hierarchical polyamory and the hidden beliefs it’s forced me to confront
* Why the goal isn’t to “fix” the shadow, but to integrate it
* How monogamy, religion, and heteronormativity shape what we think we deserve — and how to break free
This conversation isn’t just about relationship structures. It’s about truth-telling, personal liberation, and facing the places we’ve been told to fear.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship style is helping you evolve or holding you hostage, this one’s for you.
Check out more of Dr. Mike’s work at shadowmike.com and follow him on Substack, YouTube, and Patheos.
Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.
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A couple weeks ago, I had a session with my badass coach, Tamara Driskell. I knew it would be powerful — so I asked to hit record.
I wanted to talk about death.
The night before, I did a visualization exercise where I saw my own death. I saw the moment of my last breath. I saw where I was. And in that moment… I realized everything was okay.
And to borrow Tamara’s language: Facing death gave me permission to finally live.
This episode is raw, intimate, and one of the most transformative conversations I’ve had.
Listen in — and when you’re done, go devour Tamara’s Substack and her work. Her coaching is soul-shifting.
Powerful as hell.
Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.
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We might think of pleasure as an “extra.”
For many of us who are working on healing sexual shame, our shame-based backgrounds (i.e. religious households, conservative upbringings, judgmental communities, etc.) likely taught us that pleasure wasn’t necessary.
Thus, when we start to give ourselves permission to experience pleasure, we can feel guilt, often like we are doing something wrong, doing something that’s going against our inner beliefs and our childhood hard-wiring.
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Check out this quick video for a reframe on why pleasure is not only powerful but why it is a necessary part of healing — and connection to ourselves and others.
Comment below how you are going to be practicing and prioritizing pleasure today — I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Sending you much love,Coach Kevin
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Communication is at the heart of every healthy relationship.
It’s how you express your feelings, understand your partner, and work through challenges. Yet, many people struggle with listening fully or expressing their needs without fear or frustration.
Most of us were not taught how to communicate in relationships — especially not queer ones. We were taught to hide, to filter, to perform. So when it comes to expressing a need, holding a boundary, or just feeling safe enough to say “I’m not okay right now,” it’s no wonder so many of us freeze, lash out, or shut down.
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But communication isn’t just about talking.
It’s about safety. Power. Connection. Intimacy.
It’s how we build trust, repair rupture, and let our partners in — not just into our beds, but into our hearts.
Here’s what you really need to know if you want to create more connected, empowered, and hot-as-hell relationships:
Active Listening Is a Turn-On
Yes, it’s hot to be heard. But really listening isn’t passive — it’s a practice of presence. It’s choosing to stay with someone instead of jumping ahead to what you want to say next.
Try this:
* Maintain eye contact — not to intimidate, but to see them.
* Reflect what you hear: “It sounds like you’re feeling...” or “I hear you saying…”
* Resist the urge to fix. Listening isn’t solving — it’s holding.
When someone feels seen, they soften. When they soften, connection deepens. That’s where the intimacy begins.
Use ‘I’ Statements Like a Boss
We’ve all heard it: “Use ‘I’ statements.” But here’s the real power — they move you out of blame and into truth.
Instead of:
“You never listen to me.”Try:“I feel dismissed when I don’t feel heard.”
One opens a door. The other slams it.
When you own your feelings, you invite your partner into your experience instead of making them defend themselves against it.
Clarity Is Sexy: Check for Understanding
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Mindfulness is an active part of daily life.It’s not some lofty ideal or once-a-week meditation session.Mindfulness is the practice of being present, right here, right now.
I love how teacher and author Jan Chozen Bays puts it:
“Mindfulness is deliberately paying full attention to what is happening around you — in your body, heart, and mind. Mindfulness is awareness without criticism or judgment.”
That part — without criticism or judgment — really lands.
In my perspective, mindfulness is essential. It’s not an add-on; it’s the foundation all of life sits upon.When that foundation gets shaky, when mindfulness slips out from under us, the balance of our lives shakes too.
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Mindfulness is an action, a practice, a way of being.It’s how we move through the world.It’s how we meet ourselves, meet others, and meet every experience that crosses our path.At its most simple form, mindfulness is the art of being connected to the present moment — the only moment that actually exists.
And here’s the beautiful part:We can practice mindfulness in a million ways.
For me, my morning and evening meditations are two deliberate anchors.Meditation helps me pause, slow my breath, and shift my attention from future worries back to the here-and-now.But mindfulness isn’t just meditation.It’s in my daily gratitudes, in checking in with my senses throughout the day, in the way I slowly sip my coffee or consciously choose my nutrition.It’s in listening to my body when I exercise, cherishing time with loved ones, and allowing myself to fully sink into rest when the day is done.
And yes — mindfulness belongs in sex too.
What is sexual mindfulness?
Sexual mindfulness is the practice of embodying mindfulness in our sexual spaces — both solo and shared.It’s about engaging in sexual expression with mindful presence and intention.
This can look like:
* Being fully connected to the present...
Take a moment to slow down, drop in, and reconnect to your raw, magnetic sexual energy.This guided meditation leads you into your power with bold, affirming permission to own your turn-on, your desires, and your body.You don’t need to wait for approval. You are the permission.Press play and feel the shift.
Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.
This Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.
Get full access to Coach Kevin Martin at coachkevmartin.substack.com/subscribe
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit joinshameless.substack.com
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