Amy Baldwin

Shameless Sex

A Sexuality , Health & Fitness and Education podcast Explicit

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About the show

Amy is a Sex and Relationship Coach and Sex Educator with a passion for promoting unabashed, pleasure-focused sexuality education. April is a motivational speaker, sex toy mogul, as well as one of the leading women in the sex-toy industry. April and Amy combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy with a playful twist sharing real life experiences and tell all details. Visit www.shamelesssex.com for more. Shameless Sex is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com

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#511 Former Dominatrix on Kink, Fantasies & Mismatched Desire

Nov 10, 2026 1 hr 2 min

What if you're kinky and your partner isn't? Former dominatrix Amanda Dames on mismatched desire and sharing fantasies without pressure. Amanda, known as The Kink Consultant, is a board-certified sexologist and Somatica®-certified sex and relationship coach who hosts The Kink Consultant Podcast. She tells Amy and April what a typical day as a professional dominatrix looked like and what that job taught her about relationships. She also explains how she ended up with a spanking fetish at age 5. (Yes, 5.) Then we get into something that shows up in a lot of long-term relationships: one partner wants something the other doesn't. Amanda explains why mismatched desire is so common, what happens when desires stay hidden, and how to bring up a kink so your partner feels free to say no. In this episode, you'll learn: What mismatched desire is and why it's so common in long-term relationshipsAmanda's tools for couples with different levels of desireSome of the most surprising fantasies and kinks she's heard from clientsHer top tips for bringing up a kink or fantasy with your partnerHow to share a fantasy without making your partner feel like they have to participateWhat to do when your partner is a no to something that matters to your sexual needs, including when one of you is kinky and the other isn'tWhere to find Amanda: http://amandadames.com and @the_kinkconsultant on Instagram Plus, we answer a sex question about sex toy addiction and compulsive sex toy shopping. (Your cart full of vibrators is safe here.) We also share how our Advanced Couples Retreat sold out in under an hour. Amanda's work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, HuffPost, The Knot and Court TV. Through coaching and workshops, she helps individuals and couples explore kink and power exchange with more confidence and consent. Free guides: Talk to your partner about your desires: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 BDSM Checklist/Kink Menu: https://www.aman...

#510 The Hard Truth: Erections, Testosterone & Performance with Dr. Rena Malik

Nov 3, 2026 1 hr 11 min

What if the secret to a better sex life has less to do with performance—and more to do with your overall health? This week, we're joined by Dr. Rena Malik, board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and globally recognized sexual health expert whose educational videos have reached more than half a billion views and earned the trust of over 3 million subscribers. In this candid, science-backed conversation, Dr. Malik tackles the questions many men think about but are often too embarrassed to ask: Does size really matter? What should you know about testosterone, semen, and prostate health? What actually determines sexual performance? And how can you build a more satisfying, confident, and fulfilling sex life—for the long haul? With her signature combination of medical expertise, honesty, and humor, Dr. Malik cuts through misinformation and replaces outdated myths with practical advice men can actually use. From stronger erections and greater stamina to hormone health, mental confidence, and deeper intimacy, this conversation goes far beyond what happens in the bedroom. We explore: The Pillar Protocol: The simple, science-backed habits that build the foundation for lifelong sexual health, vitality, and performance.The Vital Sign Your Doctor Might Be Missing: Why erectile dysfunction can be an early warning sign of heart disease, diabetes, and metabolic dysfunction—and what you can do about it.The Performance Formula: Evidence-based strategies to improve erection quality, build stamina, and overcome the anxiety that can undermine sexual confidence.Mental Clarity: How porn myths, unrealistic expectations, and performance pressure affect your sex life—and how to reclaim confidence.The Truth About Testosterone: What actually lowers testosterone, what doesn't, and how to support healthy hormone levels without falling for the latest wellness fad.Better Together: How communication, connection, and practical changes can transform your relationship and create a more fulfilling...

#509 Stop People-Pleasing: How to Finally Know Your Worth with Thais Gibson

Oct 27, 2026 1 hr 6 min

What if being the “easygoing” one, always saying yes, and putting everyone else’s needs first is actually keeping you from knowing your own worth? In this episode, we sit down with Thais Gibson, counselor, speaker, Ph.D., and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore the hidden connection between people-pleasing, attachment styles, and self-worth. With expertise in over 13 therapeutic modalities, Thais shares her insights into why we develop these patterns, how they show up in our relationships, and what it takes to break free from them. We dive into why people-pleasing is so common, how our upbringing can shape our need for approval, and the subtle ways we abandon ourselves to keep others happy. We also explore why even the most reasonable boundaries can feel uncomfortable, and how to recognize when being agreeable comes at the expense of your own needs. Plus, we unpack the difference between genuine confidence and conditional self-worth. Why do so many of us measure our value by how useful, successful, attractive, agreeable, or wanted we are? And how can we begin to feel worthy simply because of who we are, rather than what we do for others? Thais shares practical tools for building a stronger sense of self-worth, setting boundaries with greater confidence, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships. We wrap up with her top tips for strengthening your self-worth and learning to show up as your most authentic self. In this episode, we explore: What The Personal Development School is all about and Thais’s approach to attachment theory.Why people-pleasing develops and how childhood experiences can shape our patterns.The obvious and more subtle signs of people-pleasing.Why setting boundaries can feel so difficult, even when they’re completely reasonable.The difference between genuine confidence and conditional self-worth.How even highly successful and seemingly confident people can struggle with feeling worthy.Practical tools to stop tying your...

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#511 Former Dominatrix on Kink, Fantasies & Mismatched Desire

Nov 10, 2026 1 hr 2 min

#510 The Hard Truth: Erections, Testosterone & Performance with Dr. Rena Malik

Nov 3, 2026 1 hr 11 min

#509 Stop People-Pleasing: How to Finally Know Your Worth with Thais Gibson

Oct 27, 2026 1 hr 6 min

#508 True Dominance Starts with Mastering YOU with Justin Adams

Oct 20, 2026 1 hr 2 min

In this episode, we sit down with Justin Adams, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore dominance as something far deeper than bedroom technique, power, or performance. A Brooklyn-based practitioner and educator, Justin approaches dominance as a discipline of character rooted in self-authored ethics, ritual, self-awareness, and the responsibility that comes with being trusted by another person. Drawing on Taoism, Stoicism, and Jungian shadow integration, Justin offers a thoughtful alternative to both Manosphere masculinity and the often-sanitized conversations surrounding mainstream kink culture. We get into the psychology of power, the difference between healthy authority and pathological control, and why true dominance begins with mastering yourself. We also unpack nice guy syndrome and how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and unspoken expectations can undermine confidence, intimacy, and sexual dynamics. Is dominance something every man can benefit from learning, even if he doesn't identify as kinky? And what separates a man who simply likes being in control in the bedroom from someone who understands the responsibility of wielding power? From building trust and practicing healthy dominance to exploring how BDSM can foster deeper communication and stronger relationships, Justin shares practical insights for anyone interested in becoming more intentional in their relationships and sexuality. We also discuss his forthcoming book, Way of Surrender: The Tao of BDSM, which explores a compelling paradox: the Dominant surrenders to the Tao, while the submissive surrenders to the Dominant. Plus, we talk about his work giving submissives a platform to share their own experiences and perspectives, challenging the tendency to speak about them rather than listen to them. In this conversation, we explore: Dominance as a discipline of character rather than a collection of techniquesThe difference between healthy dominance, control, and manipulationWhy dominance isn't ne...

#507 Blow Me Away: Advanced Oral Skills with Alicia and Erwan Davon

Oct 13, 2026 1 hr 5 min

This episode is with repeat guests Alicia and Erwan Davon and is all about upping your blowjobs skills. #258 was all about using hands and mouths for oral pleasure. Now let’s get more advanced! We discuss: *The common issues/fears people have around giving blowjobs *The common issues penis owners have around receiving *Basics/1.0 level skills people should know about *How Tantra can it take oral sex even deeper/to the advanced level *Advanced oral sex tips for the giver *Advanced oral sex tips for the receiver *Whether actions such as swallowing and the money shot matter More about our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon are the foremost Tantra teachers in the San Francisco Bay Area and the creators of the Davon Method, their signature approach to love, intimacy, and connection. For over 22 years, this married couple has taught more than 22,000 students through group programs, retreats, and private sessions — guiding singles into lasting relationships and helping couples thrive. Their method blends academic backgrounds in psychology with the principles of Zen Buddhism into a holistic path for deepening connection with yourself and others. As the Bay Area's go-to teachers for all things romantic and sexual, they now reach students worldwide through online learning. Erwan studied psychology and graduated with honors, drawing on both a challenging childhood and an early immersion in therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen monastery, direct a yoga ashram, train in cutting-edge sensual practices, and teach personal development at one of the world's largest personal-growth organizations. In 1995, his passion for teaching led him to found the Davon Method, dedicated to helping people build extraordinary romantic relationships. Alicia holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology, with a focus on women's romantic and sexual expression. She has led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and fulfillment across career, relationship, and life. She met Er...

#506 Pucker Up! Let’s Talk Kissing with Ashely Randall

Oct 6, 2026 55 min

Let’s Talk About Kissing! 💋 In this episode, we’re joined by repeat guest Ashley Randall (aka Irreverent Femme) for a deep dive into one of the most underrated parts of intimacy: kissing. We’re talking all things making out—from different kissing styles and techniques to neck kissing, full-body kissing, and how to figure out what your partner actually likes. We also explore why kissing and making out can so often disappear from long-term relationships, what you can do to bring it back, and why kissing can be such an important part of intimacy and connection. Plus, we get into what to do (and what not to do!) when it comes to being a great kisser, how to learn your partner’s unique kissing style, and how to keep things playful, connected, and exciting. About our guest:Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme, is a certified Sex, Intimacy & Kink Coach, Dominatrix, and erotic perfumist. She offers transformative coaching for individuals and partners seeking deeper intimacy, sexual confidence, and authentic connection. 💋 Ready to up your kissing game? This episode is for you. Learn more about Ashley at http://irreverentcoaching.com Follow her on IG @irreverentlovecoaching Check out her erotic perfums: https://www.irreverentscents.com Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about our retreats: ⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠ Other links: Get turned on anywhere, anytime with Dipsea + get a week FREE and then 25% at ⁠⁠http://dipseastories.com/shameless⁠ Get 10% off boosting your load with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://loadb...

#505 C**k Pep Talk: What Your Penis Wants You to Know

Sep 29, 2026 1 hr 11 min

In this episode, we’re joined by Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, sex and intimacy coach, and one of the professional surrogate partners featured on the UK series Virgin Island. Andre takes us behind the scenes of his unconventional work, including what it’s actually like to help people navigate intimacy challenges — and whether being a surrogate partner means, well… what you might think it means. We then get into the big questions around men and sex: what Andre wishes more men knew, what he wishes they’d do less of, and what he wishes more women understood about supporting the men they’re intimate with. We also tackle two issues that come up frequently in Andre’s work: erection difficulties and “rapid ejaculation.” Why do they happen? How much does performance pressure play a role? And what can men actually do about it? And finally, perhaps the most important question of all: If your penis could use a little pep talk, what should you say to it? Expect a candid, funny, and practical conversation about sex, confidence, vulnerability, communication, and learning to get out of your head — and back into your body. What a surrogate partner actually does Andre’s experience on Virgin Island Men, sex, and performance pressure Erection difficulties and rapid ejaculation What men should do more — and less — in bed What women can do to better support male partners Building sexual confidence and connection And, yes… what to say to your penis when it needs some encouragement Learn more about Andre and his work at www.coming-closer.com. Follow him on IG @comingcloserwithandre Learn more about our retreats: ⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

#504 How to Dirty Talk Without the Cringe with Dr. Shannon Chavez

Sep 22, 2026 1 hr 6 min

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, a leading voice in modern sexual wellness and one of the incredible experts teaching at our next Shameless Sex Couples Retreat! Dr. Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, professional sex coach, and founder of SHAPE Psychology. Her work brings a holistic, culturally inclusive approach to sex, relationships, and pleasure—and helps make conversations about sexuality feel more accessible, meaningful, and shame-free. In this episode, we’re getting into one of the sexiest—and sometimes most awkward—topics: dirty talk! How do you make it feel authentic instead of forced? What if you feel totally uncomfortable saying “naughty” things out loud? And how do you figure out what actually turns you and your partner on? We talk about: What Dr. Chavez is hearing from clients about dirty talk: Are people into it, wanting more of it, or feeling intimidated by it? Why dirty talk can feel so vulnerable, awkward, or difficult—even when you’re turned on The different styles and forms of dirty talk, and how to find what works for you A step-by-step approach to making dirty talk feel more natural and authentic How to build confidence and discover your personal dirty-talk style How to know what to say in the moment (without feeling like you have to perform!) Talking about boundaries and consent around erotic language How couples can create their own shared erotic language And how to move past shame and self-consciousness so you can actually enjoy talking dirty Whether you’re a seasoned dirty-talker or the mere thought of saying something sexy out loud makes you want to crawl under the covers, this episode will give you practical tools to make erotic communication feel more natural, playful, and connected. Learn more about Dr. Shannon Chavez at http://drshannonchavez.com. Follow here on IG: @drshannonchavez Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

#503 From Selling Pleasure to Feeling It with Paigge Gilbert

Sep 15, 2026 1 hr 7 min

In this episode, we’re joined by our marketing director Paigge Gilbert for a deeply curious conversation about sex, pleasure, intimacy, and desire. We talk about what it’s actually like to train as a sex and relationship coach through Somatica—and dive into some big questions about how we experience and explore our erotic selves. We explore: Our core desires and how to discover how you want to feel during sex Once you know how you want to feel, how do you figure out what you want to explore? How to access your erotic energy when you feel disconnected from your body—or even unattracted to your partner Ways to become more embodied and experience more pleasure Why allowing yourself to feel your erotic desire, even in public, can be powerful What kink and spanking can actually do for us—and why certain things turn us on The power of dirty talk, curiosity, and “cheerleading” someone as they share their erotic fantasies How to get curious about desire rather than judging it What sex and relationship coaching training through Somatica is really like This is a conversation about moving beyond the idea that there’s a “right” way to experience sexuality and instead getting curious about what makes you feel alive, embodied, connected, and turned on. About our guest: Paigge Gilbert has spent the last eight years figuring out how to successfully market the things the internet doesn’t always make easy to talk about: sex, pleasure, intimacy, and relationships. As the founder of Queen Media, she’s built her career developing marketing strategies for leading sex educators, relationship experts, adult stars, podcasts, and sexual wellness brands, helping them grow loyal audiences while navigating censorship, stigma, and constantly changing platforms. Now, she’s adding another layer to that expertise by completing the Somatica Institute’s Sex & Relationship Coach Certification, with the goal of bringing her years of industry experience into more direct, intimate work with...

#502 Premature Ejaculation and How to Last Longer In Bed

Sep 8, 2026 1 hr 13 min

Why do so many men struggle to last as long as they want—and why do so many women struggle with arousal and sensation? In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness company focused on helping people improve intimacy, confidence, and sexual health. Jeff shares the story behind Promescent, from discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert to building the company into a full-spectrum sexual wellness brand with more than 5 million bottles sold and thousands of healthcare professionals recommending its products. We dig into some of the most common—and often misunderstood—sexual health concerns affecting men and women. Jeff explains what premature ejaculation actually means, how common it is, what qualifies as “premature,” and the different options available for improving ejaculatory control, including the surprising role of medications like SSRIs. We also turn the conversation toward women’s sexual health, exploring why low libido, difficulty becoming aroused, and reduced sensation are so common, what can contribute to these issues, and what options exist for improving arousal and pleasure. Finally, Jeff breaks down how Promescent’s doctor-developed products work, how they differ from other solutions on the market, and why making sexual wellness more accessible can have such a meaningful impact on confidence and intimacy. In this episode, we discuss: Why sexual health challenges are so common for both men and women What premature ejaculation is—and how it’s defined How common ejaculatory control issues are Strategies and treatments for lasting longer Whether SSRIs can be used to delay ejaculation How sexual wellness products work and what makes them different The most common arousal challenges women experience Why low libido and reduced sensation are so prevalent Options for improving female arousal and pleasure The role of sexual wellness in conf...

#501 Sexual Inexperience & How to Become More Confident with Celeste and Danielle

Sep 1, 2026 1 hr 1 min

In this episode, I’m joined by repeat guests Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica® Institute and creators of the Somatica® Method of sex and relationship coaching. Danielle and Celeste are thought leaders in the world of sex and relationships and have trained more than 1,000 coaches in their groundbreaking approach, which helps people get out of their heads and into their bodies so they can build confidence, feel empowered to be themselves, and go after what they truly want in dating, sex, and relationships. They’re also the lead sexologists on the UK’s award-winning TV show Virgin Island, bringing their expertise to a global audience. In this episode, we dive into what Virgin Island is really about, how Danielle and Celeste became the show’s lead sexologists, and what they learned from working with people who feel inexperienced, insecure, or disconnected when it comes to sex. We talk about the fears and challenges that come with sexual inexperience—whether you’ve never had sex, have had very little experience, or have been with the same partner for 20 years. We explore the tools Danielle and Celeste use to create powerful shifts in confidence and connection, why understanding your Core Desires can transform your dating and sex life, and how you can uncover your own. We also get into practical advice for men and women who are dating without much sexual experience, including how to move past shame and insecurity, build confidence, and become more comfortable asking for what you want. Whether you consider yourself sexually inexperienced, struggle with confidence, or simply want a deeper understanding of your desires and how to communicate them, this conversation offers practical tools for becoming more embodied, confident, and connected in your relationships. To learn more go to https://www.somaticainstitute.com Take their quiz here: https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/at-your-core-quiz/ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love...

#500 Why Your Pleasure Needs Your Surrender with Mama Gena

Aug 25, 2026 57 min

In this episode, we’re joined by Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena—to explore the transformative power of surrender, pleasure, and living fully on your own terms. Regena is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of the New York Times bestseller P***y: A Reclamation. For more than 25 years, she has taught hundreds of thousands of women around the world to reclaim pleasure, desire, and sovereign power as the foundation of a fully lived life. Her newest book, On Our Knees, invites us to reconsider surrender—not as submission or giving away our power, but as a radical way of reclaiming it. We talk about what surrender really means, why it can be especially powerful for women, and how it differs from silence, submission, or simply giving in. Regena shares practical advice for anyone who struggles to surrender, along with simple ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming. We also explore her idea of “hard milestones”—the divorce, heartbreak, illness, and other experiences we often interpret as failures, but that can instead become profound turning points. Along the way, we discuss why pleasure isn’t frivolous or indulgent, but part of the real work of creating a meaningful life. Regena offers five ways women can feel more at home in their own lives, practical strategies for getting through the worst possible day, and her thoughts on whether these lessons apply to men, too. We also unpack her distinction between becoming “The Courtesan” rather than “The Seductress,” and what can happen when women stop performing for others and begin living from their own desire and authority. Regena Thomashauer is an icon, teacher, author, mother, and one of the pioneers in the study and practice of pleasure. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Times of London, Good Morning America, and The Today Show. On Our Knees is her fifth book, published by Hay House on August 25, 2026. Prepare for a conversation about surrender,...

#499 The Couple’s Guide to Aging & Intimacy with Dr. Castillo

Aug 18, 2026 1 hr 16 min

We talk a lot about long-term couples growing together emotionally—but what happens when their physical selves begin to change, too? As we age, our bodies change, and those changes can have a real impact on intimacy, confidence, sexual function, and relationships. In this episode, we take an honest and often lighthearted look at what happens to both women and men as they grow older—and why these changes are something couples should face together, rather than allowing them to create insecurity, doubt, or blame. We’re joined by Dr. Castillo, a fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medicine specialist and the founder and director of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, California. Dr. Castillo brings extensive expertise in the changes that can occur as a consequence of childbirth, aging, and menopause, as well as the emerging treatments designed to improve sexual health and overall quality of life. We start with women, exploring some of the most common changes in sexual function that occur with age, including the impact of menopause and shifting hormones. We also talk about the enormous beauty standards women face—and whether men might need to start “playing the game” a little more when it comes to maintaining their physical health and appearance. Then we turn the conversation toward men. What changes can they expect as they age? What treatments and options are available? And, yes, we even ask the question you may have been wondering about: Are penile fillers for increased girth actually a thing? Most importantly, this conversation is about removing the shame and stigma surrounding sexual health. Aging doesn't have to mean giving up intimacy, confidence, or connection. Understanding what is happening to our bodies—and knowing that there are options—can help couples approach these changes with compassion, humor, and a willingness to work through them together. About our guest: Dr. Castillo completed his OB/GYN residency at St. Barnabas Medical Center in New Jer...

#498 Get Nasty: Sex, Pleasure & Resistance with Ericka Hart

Aug 11, 2026 1 hr 3 min

What happens when we stop accepting the stories we’ve been taught about sex, gender, bodies, desire, and pleasure—and start questioning who those stories actually serve? In this episode, we’re joined by Ericka Hart, M.Ed. (she/they), a trauma-informed, consent- and pleasure-based sex educator who has spent the past 15 years teaching comprehensive sex education at the elementary, high school, undergraduate, and graduate levels. Ericka is the founder of Sex Ed as Resistance, author of Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire and Liberate Yourself, and co-host, alongside her partner Ebony, of the critically acclaimed podcast Hoodrat to Headwrap. Ericka’s work challenges us to think differently about sexuality—not simply as something we learn about, but as something deeply connected to power, culture, history, identity, and liberation. Together, we explore how traditional sex education has failed to give many of us the tools to understand our bodies and desires, and how societal and colonial ideas about sex and gender continue to shape who is allowed to experience pleasure. We unpack the history of consent and what it means to define consent beyond a simple “yes” or “no,” particularly when it comes to access, agency, and pleasure. We also talk about reclaiming desire on our own terms, body positivity and the people left out of mainstream beauty and sex-appeal standards, and practical ways we can begin to challenge the messages we’ve internalized about our bodies. This is a conversation about unlearning, resisting, exploring, and imagining something better—a world where sexuality education isn't about shame or fear, but about agency, pleasure, consent, and liberation. In this episode, we explore:• Why “education meets agitation” is at the heart of Ericka’s work• Rethinking traditional sex education through Nasty Work• The impact of societal and colonial views on sex, gender, and pleasure• Consent, its history, and its relationship to access and agency• How to rec...

#497 Let's Talk About Butt Stuff with Alex Hall

Aug 4, 2026 1 hr 12 min

Happy Anal August! Anal sex is one of the most talked-about—and most misunderstood—sexual experiences. Some people absolutely love it, while for others it's a firm no. So what makes the difference? Is it preference, preparation, anatomy, or simply misinformation? In this episode, we're joined by Alex Hall, co-founder and host of The Bottom's Digest, sexual health educator, and body autonomy advocate, to answer the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask. We explore why anal sex feels pleasurable for some people, why it isn't for everyone, and how to approach it in a way that prioritizes comfort, communication, and consent. Alex shares practical advice for anyone who is curious about trying anal for the first time, including how to prepare physically and mentally for a more enjoyable experience. No conversation about anal would be complete without talking about poop. We tackle the realities of digestive health, whether you should eat before anal sex, why diet and fiber can make such a difference, and simple preparation strategies that can help you feel more confident. We also clear up the confusion around douching versus enemas, discussing when they may or may not be necessary and sharing safe, practical tips for anyone who chooses to douche. Finally, Alex answers some of the most common questions listeners have: What should recovery look like afterward? Will your body "go back to normal?" How can you make longer sessions more comfortable? And is anal sex possible with larger partners? Whether you're completely new to anal sex, looking to improve your experiences, or simply curious to learn more, this episode offers evidence-based information, practical guidance, and plenty of myth-busting—all with a judgment-free approach that centers pleasure, safety, and body autonomy. About Alex Hall Alex Hall is the co-founder and host of The Bottom's Digest, a platform dedicated to teaching people how to bottom safely while prioritizing pleasure from the mouth...

Bonus: What Really Happens on a Sexy Cruise

Aug 1, 2026 29 min

This bonus episode was recorded during a fabulous female-led (meaning women make the first move) hedonism meets glamour cruise in the gorgeous Mediterranean put on by Killing Kittens. For six days and nights Amy and her parter taught workshops such as How to Pamper Your Partner, Oral Sex 101, Dirty Talk Murder Mystery, and more - all while visiting stunning locations such as Mallorca, Monte Carlo, Florence and Portofino. This episode includes an interview with an adventurous couple who share their experiences on their first sexy cruise. From explorations in the dungeon to working with a professional Domme to making new friends, this episode gives you a sneak peak into what really goes on behind the scenes on a female-led hedonistic cruise - Killing Kittens Style. To learn more about Killing Kittens and their upcoming offerings (they have a number of cruises coming up in 2027 including another Mediterranean voyage - only this time it goes to Croatia!): https://kkcruise.com https://www.killingkittens.com See you on the next cruise! Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

#496 What Everyone Should Know About Eating P***y with Shaun Galanos

Jul 28, 2026 1 hr 28 min

Why are some people so against eating p***y? In this episode, we dive into the conversation happening around masculinity, pleasure, and what’s really behind people’s attitudes toward giving and receiving oral sex. Amy and Shaun Galanos, love coach, The Love Drive podcast host, and writer, explore the “ROI” of being a generous, attentive lover — and why learning how to create pleasure can transform confidence, intimacy, and connection. Because great sex isn’t just about technique; it starts with how you show up, your willingness to communicate, and your ability to stay curious about your partner’s experience. Shaun shares his journey of learning to love giving oral sex, while Amy opens up about her own journey of learning to love receiving it. Together, they unpack why some people don’t enjoy oral sex, what barriers might be getting in the way, and how we can approach pleasure with more openness and less pressure. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why energy, presence, and emotional connection matter before any technique A beginner-friendly anatomy lesson to better understand vulvar pleasure Practical tips from both the giver and receiver perspectives How to communicate your desires without shame or awkwardness What to do when you want more oral sex from your partner How to navigate situations where one partner isn’t interested How to ask for changes in technique — like more pressure, less pressure, different pacing, or more variety — while keeping intimacy at the center Shaun Galanos brings over a decade of experience helping people have more honest, playful conversations about sex, love, and dating. Through coaching, storytelling, and his work around emotional courage and modern masculinity, Shaun helps people embrace vulnerability, communicate their desires, and create deeper connections. Learn more about Shaun and listen to his fantastic podcast The Love Drive here: https://pod.link/1355859570 Check out his Substack: https://shaungalanos.substack.com F...

#495 Kink Curious? Your Beginner's Guide to BDSM with Ashley Randall

Jul 22, 2026 1 hr 1 min

If you're curious about kink and BDSM but aren't sure where to begin, this episode is for you. Returning guest Ashley Randall (Irreverent Femme), a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and professional Dominatrix, joins us to explore what healthy, consensual kink really looks like—and why it can be a powerful path to deeper intimacy, trust, emotional connection, and personal healing. Together, we unpack common myths about BDSM, discuss how to move beyond shame and stigma, and share practical advice for anyone interested in exploring kink safely and confidently. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, this conversation offers an approachable, judgment-free introduction to building more authentic and connected relationships. In this episode, we discuss: Kink and BDSM for beginners How to get started with BDSM safely The foundations of consent, communication, and trust What it really means to be dominant or submissive Creating emotionally connected and deeply satisfying play Removing shame and stigma around kink and alternative relationship dynamics Practical tips for safe, sexy, and fulfilling exploration Various popular kinks such as cuckolding and spanking Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme, is a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and Dominatrix based in Los Angeles. Through her practice, Irreverent Love, she helps individuals and couples build confidence, deepen intimacy, and embrace the parts of themselves they've been taught to hide. Ashley is especially passionate about helping clients release shame around sexuality, BDSM, kink, and non-traditional relationship structures while creating richer relationships, stronger emotional connection, and more fulfilling sex lives. To learn more go to http://irreverentcoaching.com https://www.irreverentscents.com IG: @IrreverentLoveCoaching Come to one of our October 2026 Couples Retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sh...

#494 How to Do Sex, Dating and Confidence...Without the Liquid Courage

Jul 15, 2026 1 hr 14 min

What if alcohol isn't making you more confident... it's just making you care less? What is life like when you cultivate the confidence without altering yourself? In this refreshingly honest (and often hilarious) episode, we're joined by Helen Masters, founder of Sober AF Dating, sober coach, speaker, and self-confessed recovering people-pleaser, to unpack everything we thought we knew about dating, confidence, sex, and sobriety. Helen opens up about the experience that led her into coaching after surviving sexual assault and spending years believing alcohol was the secret ingredient to confidence, connection, and a good night out. It wasn't rock bottom that made her stop drinking—it was realizing she was tired of living somewhere in the middle. Together, we dive into some of dating's biggest myths. Is alcohol the biggest catfish in modern dating? Why do so many of us mistake intoxication for confidence? And what really happens when you remove the liquid courage from flirting, first dates, and the bedroom? We also get candid about the things nobody talks about: the first sober orgasm with a new partner, why sober flirting can actually save you months of wasted time, and how ditching alcohol often strips away the stories, excuses, and BS that get in the way of genuine connection. Helen shares one of her most talked-about beliefs: "Women aren't addicted to wine—they're addicted to permission." We explore what that really means, how sobriety changes the dating experience for women and men in different ways, and the unexpected gifts women discover when they stop drinking. You'll also hear why Helen sometimes coaches clients in pubs, the wide range of people she works with, and how her no-nonsense, straight-talking British humour helps people navigate everything from first-date nerves and body confidence to menopause, modern dating, and yes—even the kinky stuff. If you've ever wondered what dating, intimacy, and confidence look like without alcohol—or you're simpl...

#493 Intimacy Rewired: 6 Pro Tips to Transform Your Relationship

Jul 8, 2026 1 hr 19 min

Wait...I Can Transform My Relationship in Just 42 Days? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we give away all of the prime tips from the game-changing Intimacy Rewired course with the masterminds behind it, Ian Stratton and Amy Baldwin. You'll get the inside scoop on their 6-week program that has already changed the lives of many, and we're giving away the top takeaways so you can start applying the life-changing tools right now. Here's what you'll learn: * The pillars of Intimacy Rewired and how they can help you break free from patterns that hold you back and go from good to great in the bedroom and beyond * How to master the art of communication and become a pleasure expert in the bedroom * Techniques to kick shame to the curb and move towards deep love and connection * How to integrate active learning and practical tools that actually stick to transform your intimacy Ian Stratton, a seasoned healing expert with a passion for making personal growth accessible, and Amy Baldwin, with her signature enthusiasm, have joined forces to create a program that's not just informative but also fun and engaging. With their unique blend of Internal Family Systems, somatic psychotherapy, and more, they'll guide you through the journey of transformation. As a listener, you'll not only get the exclusive lowdown on Intimacy Rewired, but you'll also score a special discount when you sign up. Just head to ⁠https://intimacyrewired.com ⁠and mention the show to get started and get a special discount. Tune in to this episode to get ready to rewire your intimacy and transform your relationship. We give you the tools. Now all you have to do is listen and start to practice! Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

#492 Wait... Monogamous People Go to Sex Parties?

Jun 30, 2026 1 hr 18 min

Can monogamous people really find what they're looking for at a sex party? Tune in as we chat with Michael Hollice, the Founder and Creative Director of The Play, a revolutionary sex party community that's been breaking boundaries for over 8 years. You might be wondering what happens at one of these parties, or if they're even for you - especially if you're monogamous. The answer might surprise you. Here's what you'll learn from this episode: * The real meaning behind "sex parties" and what sets The Play apart from the rest * Why monogamous people are increasingly drawn to sex parties and what they're getting out of the experience * Essential tips for newbies looking to dip their toes into the world of sex parties * Surprising takeaways from The Play's approach to creating safe, inclusive, and curated events that anyone can learn from * The importance of STI testing and how The Play is leading the way As one of the few black play party owners, Michael brings a unique perspective to the conversation, shaped by his experiences in TV and film production, as well as his time at LinkedIn and Google. Get ready to have your assumptions challenged and your curiosity piqued. Whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, or somewhere in between, this episode is for you. By listening, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the sex party scene, the benefits of community-driven events, and how to prioritize care, consent, and connection in your own life. And who knows, you might just find yourself wanting to join the party. About our guest: As the Founder and Creative Director of The Play, Michael Hollice has led the play party community for over 8 years, offering a wealth of firsthand experience and knowledge. Guided by The Play’s Pillars: Care, Consent, Connection, Creativity, and Community, Michael and his team create safer and inclusive spaces fostering genuine connections and cultural evolution. His experiences in television and film production, coupled with Operation...

#491 The Libido (and Sanity) Landmine with Mandi Dixon

Jun 23, 2026 47 min

What's happening to your brain and body as you age, particularly during perimenopause? And why is it a complete landmine when you also have ADHD? Ever felt like you're losing your grip on life, and nobody warned you that perimenopause and ADHD could be a double whammy? Join us on this week's Shameless Sex podcast as we dive into the uncharted territory of Ugly Perimenopause with Mandi Dixon, a Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD Executive Function Coach who's got the tea on what's really going on. In this episode, you'll get the lowdown on: * The surprising link between estrogen loss and dopamine destabilization – and how it's affecting your sex drive and sanity * Why women who seemed to have it all together are often the ones who crash and burn during perimenopause * The hidden costs of being a high-achiever with ADHD – and how it's impacting your libido * The importance of understanding the hormonal and neurological changes happening in your body * Practical tools and solutions to make this stage of life less of a hot mess Mandi's got the expertise and the passion to help you make sense of it all. With over 150,000 followers on social media and features in USA Today and Good Morning America, she's on a mission to empower women to take control of their bodies and their lives. And, spoiler alert, she's writing a book about it! Learn more about Mandi here: http://mandidixonlpc.com Tune in as we get real about the challenges of perimenopause and ADHD, and discover how understanding what's happening in your body can lead to more freedom, a better quality of life, and maybe even a better sex life. And stick around until the end, when we'll be asking: what's next for women navigating ADHD and menopause – and how can you prepare for the journey ahead? Get ready to shamelessly explore the uncharted territory of your own body and mind. Listen now and join the conversation! Follow Mandi: IG @adhdmenopausetherapist Tik Tok @adhdmenopausetherapist Come to...

#490 How to Build HOT Healthy Relationships with Breann Starr

Jun 16, 2026 1 hr 14 min

Are You in a "Healthy Relationship"… or Just Really Good at Ignoring Red Flags? 🚩 Why do we keep falling into the same relationship patterns, even when we know better? Why do some people chase connection while others seem to run from it? And how do you build a relationship that actually lasts without losing yourself in the process? In this candid and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Breann Starr, somatic relational and intimacy mentor and founder of Embodied Liberation.love, to unpack the psychology, nervous system patterns, and relationship habits that shape the way we love. From healthy communication and emotional intimacy to codependency, attachment styles, and relationship repair, we're diving into the topics that show up in nearly every partnership—but rarely get talked about openly. We explore what truly makes a healthy relationship, the biggest signs of an unbalanced relationship, and the relationship tools that help couples stay connected long after the honeymoon phase ends. Breann also shares the most common relationship challenges she sees in her clients and why many of our struggles can be traced back to patterns we learned years ago. We also tackle one of the internet's favorite buzzwords: codependency. What is it, really? How do you know if you're people-pleasing your way through relationships? And how can you create deeper intimacy without sacrificing your own needs, boundaries, or identity? Plus, we break down attachment styles—including anxious attachment and avoidant attachment—and discuss practical ways to work with them. If you're someone who spirals when a text goes unanswered or shuts down when conversations get emotionally charged, this part is for you. Drawing from her background as a registered nurse and extensive training in trauma-informed somatic modalities, Breann explains why lasting relationship change isn't just about understanding your patterns—it's about learning how to work with them through the body, nervous system, an...

#489 How to Have Shameless Sex: 7 Pro Tips for Pleasure

Jun 9, 2026 52 min

Ready to Break Free from the Sex Rules and Unleash Your True Desire? Get ready for a sizzling conversation with hosts Amy and April as they dive into the juicy details of their new book, Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For. On this episode of the Shameless Sex podcast, they'll be exploring what it means to have shameless sex, sharing their philosophy, and serving up some seriously sexy insights to help you level up your love life. Here's a sneak peek at what you'll learn: * The 7 empowering principles of the Shameless Sex Philosophy that will help you shake off shame and guilt and start living your most authentic sex life * How to stop trying to fit into someone else's idea of "good sex" and start creating a pleasure path that's all your own * A tantalizing taste of their spiciest chapter, where they tackle a sizzling sex question all about pleasuring the p***y using their innovative "choose your own pleasure path" model * Why slowing down and being present is the key to unlocking a more fulfilling sex life, and how to start making that happen As the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex movement, Amy and April are on a mission to empower you to take ownership of your pleasure and unleash your inner sex superstar. By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to prioritize self-love, communication, and mutual respect in your intimate relationships. Plus, you'll get the inside scoop on how to get their book and access exclusive content, including a FREE online workshop on "How to Pamper Your Partner (For Great Sex)" when you purchase the book and email them your receipt! info@shamelesssex.com Want to take it to the next level? Get 15% off your book purchase with code shamelessssex at http://purepleasureshop.com. Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? The...

#488 The New Rules of Sex, Marriage & Power with Wednesday Martin, PhD

Jun 2, 2026 1 hr 14 min

This week we're joined by bestselling author, social researcher, and cultural provocateur Wednesday Martin, PhD for a wide-ranging conversation about modern womanhood, relationships, power, and what happens when life refuses to follow the script. From Manhattan moms to stepfamilies, sexuality to social science, Wednesday has spent decades exploring the hidden rules that shape our lives. The best-selling author of Primates of Park Avenue, Stepmonster, Marlene Dietrich, and Untrue brings her trademark blend of sharp research, wit, and fearless honesty to the mic. We dive into her latest project, A Year Without Men, and explore why so many women experience a midlife pivot—and why that's very different from a midlife crisis. We unpack what the data says about being a woman in America today, how changing gender dynamics are affecting sex and relationships, and why certain cultural conversations continue to spark fierce debate. Along the way, we tackle questions about marriage, monogamy, cheating, affairs, sexual assault, the controversial CNN "Rape Academy" story, and the phrase "Not All Men." Plus, nearly a decade after our first conversation about heterosexual relationships and modern romance, we revisit the topic to ask: what's actually changed, and what does the latest research reveal about where we're headed? It's a thoughtful, funny, provocative, and occasionally uncomfortable conversation about the state of women and men in 2026—and what the future might hold, for better and for worse. Be sure to subscribe to Wednesday's Substack for more of her writing and research: http://drwednesdaymartin.substack.com. Listen to her past episode on Shameless Sex #82: The Truth About Women, Lust and Adultery here Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now...

#487 Sexy Confidence: The Makeover You Need with Courtney Fae Long

May 26, 2026 55 min

Are You Ready to Unlock the Secrets to a Sexually Satisfied and Confident You? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of sex life makeovers with the incredible Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt. With over 25 years of experience in teaching and guiding individuals towards a more fulfilling sex life, Courtney brings a refreshing and joyful approach to the conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: * The surprising reasons why women feel frustrated and unfulfilled in their sex lives, even in loving relationships * The concept of Erotic Abandonment and its 8 types, and how it can leave women feeling disconnected from their desires * Why Highly Sexual Women often feel like they're "too much" and how to break free from this stigma * The powerful impact of sex on our happiness, confidence, and even our finances (yes, you read that right!) * The best time of day to have sex (hint: it might not be what you think!) * A simple yet game-changing action you can take this weekend to level up your sex life * Tips for partners to help the women in their lives become more confident and erotically alive As the creator of Sex Life Makeover and a TEDx speaker, Courtney shares her expertise and insights on how to transform your sex life and unlock your full potential. With her lighthearted and non-judgmental approach, you'll feel empowered to take control of your desires and intimacy. Tune in to this episode and discover the secrets to becoming a sexually satisfied and confident woman. And, as a special treat, Courtney will share how you can schedule a complimentary Sex Life Makeover Session with her. To learn more visit https://courtneyfaelong.com More links to Courtney's work: FREE Sex Life Makeover Session: https://courtneyfaelong.as.me/1 TEDx Talk Money and Sex: The Surprising Connection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Cmoq06v1J0 Instagram: @courtneyfaelong YouTube: @courtneyfaelong TikTok: @courtneyfaelong Facebook: @courtneyfaelong...

#486 Ritual Sex, Pornography, and Psychedelics with Haus of KO

May 19, 2026 1 hr 14 min

What is ritual pornography — and what happens when pornography stops being performance and becomes ritual? In this provocative and deeply philosophical episode, we sit down with Haus Of Ko to explore the intersection of erotic cinema, psychedelics, intimacy, altered states, and conscious sexuality. From building an erotic film studio to redefining pleasure beyond mainstream porn culture, this conversation challenges conventional ideas about sex, art, power, and human connection. We dive into: What “ritual pornography” really means The difference between performative sex and embodied intimacy How to build an erotic cinema studio and create intentional adult content Psychedelics, altered consciousness, and their influence on sexuality and creativity Why slowing down during intimacy can deepen pleasure and connection Stories from behind the scenes of filming erotic cinema Aging, power exchange, kink, and approaching sexuality with maturity and presence Whether you're interested in conscious relationships, sacred sexuality, erotic filmmaking, BDSM philosophy, psychedelic culture, or alternative approaches to intimacy, this episode offers an honest and thought-provoking exploration of modern sexuality through an artistic and spiritual lens. Follow Haus Of Ko on Instagram: @haus.of.ko Learn more at hausofko.com Come to one of our October 2026 Couples Retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10%...

#485 The Truth About Giving Orgasms with Nina Hartley

May 13, 2026 1 hr 10 min

Can you actually "give" an orgasm to someone or "make them cum"? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of self-love, partnered play, and the pursuit of ultimate pleasure with the legendary Nina Hartley. As we celebrate Masturbation May, Nina shares her insights on the importance of self-exploration and how it can transform your relationships and overall satisfaction. Here's what you can expect to learn from this juicy conversation: * The surprising truth behind the phrase "giving someone an orgasm" and why Nina prefers "trading" orgasms instead * How to shift your focus from the destination to the journey, and stay present in the moment * Nina's top tips for helping both penis and p***y owners reach new heights of pleasure * The importance of individual agency in sex and what Nina means by "the individual is the smallest unit of sex" * What's new and exciting in Nina's world, including her latest venture, nina.live/nina.com, and how you can work with her As a sex education icon with over four decades of experience, Nina brings a unique blend of clinical expertise, real-world experience, and plainspoken clarity to the conversation. With a background in nursing and a career spanning adult media, education, and advocacy, Nina is dedicated to promoting sex-positive feminism, free speech, and harm reduction. Tune in for a conversation that's equal parts informative, entertaining, and inspiring. You'll leave feeling empowered, educated, and maybe even a little bit more shameless. And as a teaser, get ready to rethink your approach to pleasure and intimacy - and maybe even discover a new appreciation for the power of solo play. More about Nina Hartley: Nina Hartley® is an American sex educator, author, speaker, activist, and performer whose career spans more than four decades. Trained as a registered nurse, she combines clinical knowledge with lived experience to discuss sexuality, consent, pleasure, communication, and harm reductio...

#484 Sex Positions 2.0, No Acrobatics Required with the Davons

May 5, 2026 1 hr 5 min

Ready to take your sex life beyond the basics? In this episode of Shameless Sex, we’re joined by renowned relationship coaches and Tantra teachers Erwan Davon and Alicia Davon, creators of the Davon Method. With over 20,000 students worldwide, they’ve become global leaders in intimacy, sensuality, and relationship transformation. We’re diving into “sex positions 2.0”—what it really means to explore more advanced or intermediate techniques in the bedroom. How do you know when you’re ready to level up? What actually makes a sex position “advanced”—and do you need to be super flexible or yoga-trained to enjoy them? In this candid and educational conversation, we explore: How trying new sex positions can reignite passion and deepen intimacy The most overrated positions (and why they don’t always live up to the hype) Accessible advanced techniques that almost anyone can try Positions that require strength and flexibility—and how to safely prepare Expert tips to avoid injuries, awkward mishaps, or “that didn’t go as planned” moments Plus, Erwan and Alicia share practical advice for anyone feeling curious—but a little nervous—about expanding their sexual repertoire. 🔥 Special Offer: Listeners who sign up for Private Somatic Coaching or the Sensuality Expansion Program at Davon Method will receive a full year of Mastery of Relationship, their weekly group coaching program, completely free. 👉 Learn more: https://davonmethod.com 📱 Text 415-308-9580 and mention Shameless Sex Podcast to claim your bonus. Whether you’re looking to spice things up, deepen connection, or explore new territory in the bedroom, this episode is packed with insight, humor, and actionable tips to help you upgrade your pleasure and confidence. Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

#483 How to Get Bigger Bits with Susan Bratton

Apr 28, 2026 1 hr 23 min

Can You Really Hack Your Way to Juicier C***s, Bigger Dicks and Better Sex? Did you know that your g******s shrink as you age? Learn more as we revisit the conversation with the inimitable Susan Bratton, one of the world's most prolific sex educators, who has spent over two decades championing pleasure-based sex education. In our previous episode (#322 Big C***s and Dicks), Susan shared her expertise on all things related to bigger c***s and dicks, from enhanced pleasure to optimized health. You read that correctly - enhancing your g******s not only leads to more pleasure, but it also has health benefits! Here's what you'll learn: * The latest DIY techniques to enhance your pleasure and intimacy - no doctors visits or surgery needed! * How to use everyday products to level up your sex game * The science behind pleasure and blood flow and how to apply it to your love life * Why Susan is considered a "force of nature" when it comes to sex education As the CEO of Better Lover, Personal Life Media, and The20, Susan has helped over 1,500,000 lovers worldwide with her 44 books and programs, including bestsellers like Sexual Soulmates and Revive Her Drive. With her expertise and infectious enthusiasm, you'll be empowered to take your sex life to the next level. Tune in for a fun, informative, and playful conversation that will leave you feeling empowered and excited to try new things. And, as a bonus, get ready to geek out with us on the latest pleasure product technology that's changing the game. Stay tuned for the next episode, where we'll be exploring the world of... well, let's just say it's going to be a wild ride! And to learn more or get your genital enhancement on go to https://aprilamy.com Products discussed: The Whopper Pump Stimulate Red Light Wrap The Lady Pump Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Medi...

#482 From Lips to Tips: Mastering Sexy Communication & Pleasure Mapping

Apr 21, 2026 1 hr 17 min

Are You Speaking the Language of Love (and Desire) in the Bedroom? Get ready to revolutionize your relationships and intimacy with the latest episode of Shameless Sex! We're diving into two exclusive clips from Intimacy Rewired, a 6-week online bootcamp that's all about mastering the skills that make relationships easy. Joining us are expert educators Charlie Glickman and Sarah Tomchesson, who share their expertise on communication and pleasure literacy. Here's what you'll learn: * The secrets to communicating your needs and boundaries like a pro (without being a demanding diva or a silent sufferer) * How to negotiate with your partner like you're trying to score a deal at a market (but, you know, for love and intimacy) * The art of pleasure mapping and how to tune into your body's subtle cues (because pleasure is not just a prize, but a compass that guides you to what feels good) * How to drop into slowness and presence to reignite desire and intimacy (bye-bye, performance anxiety!) Charlie Glickman, a seasoned sex and relationship coach with over 30 years of experience, joins us to share his insights on making communication sexy. With a focus on sex-positivity, queer issues, and masculinity, Charlie will help you relate to your partner in a more meaningful way. You can find out more about Charlie at Make Sex Easy (http://makesexeasy.com). Sarah Tomchesson, a certified sex educator and intimacy coach, teaches us about the power of pleasure literacy and embodied practices. As the Marketing Director at Magic Wand and co-host of the F**k Yeah podcast, Sarah brings her expertise to help you experience more sexual satisfaction and joy in your daily life. Check out her website at http://sarahtomchesson.com to learn more. By tuning in, you'll gain practical tips and insights to elevate your relationships and intimacy. You'll learn how to create a more authentic and fulfilling connection with your partner and yourself. So, get ready to shamelessly explore the worl...

#481 Uncovering the Secrets to Male Sexual Health and Pleasure with Dr. Hall

Apr 14, 2026 58 min

Get ready to geek out on some seriously sexy science with Dr. Suelyn Hall, M.D., a trailblazing urologist who's breaking down barriers and pushing the boundaries of what's possible when it comes to male sexual pleasure. With her new book, How To Get A-HEAD: Secrets to Male Sexual Pleasure from a Female Urologist, Dr. Hall is on a mission to empower men (and their partners) to take control of their sexual health and pleasure. Here's what you'll learn from this episode: * The surprising ways that cultural and social taboos impact men's sexual health, and how to break free from them * How Dr. Hall makes urology sexy (yes, it's possible!) and what unexpected insights she's gained from her work * Practical tips for men and their partners on how to support and explore shame-free penis-centric pleasure * What makes Dr. Hall's book a game-changer for anyone looking to level up their sex life, and how to get your hands on it * How to tap into Dr. Hall's expertise in Integrative, Functional, and Nutritional Medicine for a more holistic approach to sex and wellness As one of the first 50 female urologists in the US, Dr. Hall brings a unique perspective to the conversation, blending her medical expertise with a deep understanding of the complexities of human desire. With a life philosophy rooted in authenticity, positivity, and growth, Dr. Hall's personal journey has been as transformative as her professional one. Tune in to this episode and get ready to level up your sex game! You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of male sexual pleasure, and some actionable tips to take your intimacy to the next level. And, trust us, you won't want to miss Dr. Hall's inspiring insights on everything from the importance of self-expression to the power of connection. Stay tuned until the end, when we'll be teasing our next episode with a very special guest - a sex educator who's about to spill the tea on the most common myths surrounding pleasure and intimacy. You won't want to...

#480 The Sex Party Insider with Emma Sayle

Apr 7, 2026 52 min

Ready to Set Sail on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Unbridled Desire? Join Emma Sayle, the fearless founder of Killing Kittens, as we dive into the world of sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and explore what makes these experiences so alluring to those seeking a more liberated expression of themselves. In this episode, you'll discover: * The secrets behind Killing Kittens' sold-out parties, cruises, and retreats, and what attendees can expect from these immersive experiences * The differences between sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and how each caters to distinct desires and needs * Emma's top tips for navigating sex party etiquette like a pro, and how to make the most of these experiences * What's on the horizon for Killing Kittens, including their upcoming cruises and retreats, and how you can be a part of it * Emma's journey into the world of sexuality and how she's been a driving force behind the brand's mission to empower women and challenge outdated narratives around sex and identity As the founder of Killing Kittens and co-leader of Ideas Extreme, Emma Sayle is a true pioneer in the world of sex positivity and female empowerment. With a community of over 200,000 strong, Emma has created a movement that's all about embracing your true self and living life on your own terms. And with the launch of WAX, a sex-positive social membership app, and the expansion into luxury retreats and cruises, Emma is taking her mission to the next level. Want to experience the ultimate in sex-positive luxury? Check out killingkittens.com or click this like for the KK Cruises and join the movement: https://tinyurl.com/3cfwnzkh Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our...

#479 Give Good Hand with Breann Starr

Mar 31, 2026 1 hr 2 min

Is Your Hand the Best Tool in Your Pleasure Toolbox? Get ready to get hands-on (literally!) as we dive into the world of hand sex with somatic relational and intimacy mentor, Breann Starr. In this episode, we get real about self-pleasure, giving and receiving handjobs, and the magic of erotic massage. Here's what you'll learn: * The art of masturbation: tips and tricks for p***y owners, and how to use your practice to expand your sexuality with yourself and partners * How to turn handjobs into a sensual experience (for both giver and receiver) with basic how-to's and top tips for hands on pussies, cocks, and assholes * The power of erotic massage: what it is, why it matters, and a few techniques to get you started * Why paying attention to sensation in your hands is key to becoming a more attentive and loving partner * How Breann's Somatica training has impacted her personal and professional life (and how you can benefit from it too!) As the founder of Embodied Liberation, Breann brings her expertise in trauma-informed somatic modalities to the conversation, helping you understand how to break free from repetitive patterns and cultivate a more authentic, liberated way of living and relating. With her background as a registered nurse and extensive training, Breann guides you back into connection with your body, so you can access truth, build self-trust, and relate from a grounded, honest place. By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your own desires and learn how to communicate them to your partner. You'll also discover new techniques to enhance your intimacy and connection. And, as a bonus, you'll get to learn more about Breann's work and how to work with her. Tune in and get ready to get shameless about your pleasure! And, stay tuned until the end for a special giveaway - we're offering a free spot in Breann's Embodied Liberation program. Next episode, we're pushing the boundaries of what's possible in the bedroom... and we're not holding back...

#478 The Art of Giving and Receiving Great Head

Mar 25, 2026 41 min

Can You Give a Mind-Blowing B*****b? Or can you receive one? Let's get real, folks - blowjobs can be a total game-changer in the bedroom, but they can also be, well, a bit of a mystery. In this episode, we're diving headfirst (pun intended) into the world of sucking c**k, sharing our own stories, and spilling the tea on what really makes a b*****b unforgettable. Here's what you'll learn: * The top tools and techniques for givers (yes, even if you're not a fan of giving blowjobs - we've got tips to help you drop in and enjoy) * How to communicate with your partner to take your blowjobs to the next level * The #1 way to get more of what you want as a receiver (hint: it involves talking about it) * How to overcome common challenges and make receiving a b*****b a truly pleasurable experience * Our own favorite techniques, from physical tricks to words of affirmation and setting the scene * What we've learned from our own experiences and guests to bring you B*****b 2.0 skills We'll also be plugging some of our favorite resources for more education, including our website, Somatica online classes, our book, and ErikaLust.com. And, spoiler alert, one of us shares a sneak peek into a chapter from our book that'll give you even more b*****b inspiration. Tune in for a fun, honest, and informative conversation that'll leave you feeling empowered and excited to try new things in the bedroom. And trust us, you won't want to miss our teaser for next week's episode... let's just say it's going to be a wild ride. Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Sham...

#477 Wet and Wild: For All P*$$y Owners and Admirers

Mar 17, 2026 1 hr 8 min

Ready to Get WET and Unlock a Life of Unbridled Pleasure? We're revisiting one of our most popular episodes with Alexis Ware, L.Ac., a sex, desire, and intimacy coach who's on a mission to help you tap into your true sensual potential. In this juicy conversation, we dive into the world of genital "wetness" and explore what it means to be truly connected to your body. Here's what you'll discover in this episode: * The importance of reconnecting with your g******s and how it can transform your sex life and overall well-being * How to heal from sexual trauma and its impact on your connection to your body and desires * The real meaning behind "reclaiming" your wetness and turn-on, and how it's not just about physical sensations * The ways in which societal programming and shame can be holding you back, and practical strategies for breaking free * Techniques for tuning back into your body's sensations and using them to fuel hotter, more connected sex * A sneak peek into Alexis' live online 6-week group course, WET, where you'll learn to tap into your true sensual potential alongside a community of like-minded women As a licensed acupuncturist, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and ThetaHealing expert, Alexis brings a unique blend of energy healing and sex coaching to the conversation. By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your own body and desires, and be empowered to live a more authentic, sensual life. Tune in to this episode and get ready to unlock the secrets to feeling WET! And, as a special treat, Alexis is sharing an exclusive offer for listeners - stay tuned to the end of the episode to learn how you can join her WET course and start your journey to a more sensual, empowered you! More about our repeat guest: Alexis Ware, L.Ac., is a sex, desire and intimacy coach, licensed acupuncturist, Kundalini Yoga teacher, Human Design enthusiast, ThetaHealing® expert, and founder of Sovereign University. To learn more go to ⁠ www.alexislaurenware.com Come to...

#476 Dirty Talk Mastery with Celeste & Danielle of Somatica

Mar 10, 2026 44 min

Get Ready to Talk Dirty: Unleashing Your Authentic Voice in the Bedroom! Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the sultry world of dirty talk with the dynamic duo, Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica Institute and creators of the Somatica Method. As thought leaders in the field of sex and relationship coaching, they've trained over 1000 coaches and have even been featured on UK's award-winning TV show, Virgin Island. In this episode, we'll be exploring the art of dirty talk and how to make it your own. Here's what you can expect to learn: * The surprising reasons why dirty talk can be so challenging for people, and why so many are eager to improve their skills * How to discover your unique and authentic voice when it comes to dirty talk * Tips and tricks for those who thrive on structure and formula * An insider's look at the Somatica Method and how it can help you tap into your confidence and empowerment in the bedroom * What to expect from Danielle and Celeste's online classes and upcoming sex and relationship coaching training By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to communicate your desires and boundaries with confidence and ease. You'll learn how to let go of inhibitions and tap into your authentic voice, making your intimate experiences more fulfilling and exciting. Danielle and Celeste bring their expertise and passion to the conversation, sharing their journey into the field of sexuality and the principles behind the Somatica Method. Whether you're a seasoned pro or just starting to explore the world of dirty talk, this episode is sure to leave you feeling empowered and inspired. About the guests: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA are the co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching and co-founders of the Somatica® Institute. Their innovative, experiential approach helps individuals and couples transform the way they relate emotional...

Bonus: What You Really Want in Bed: Exploring Your Core Desires

Mar 7, 2026 17 min

This clip comes from one of our favorite past conversations: Episode #133 – How Core Desires Lead to Hot Sex with Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA. What are your Core Desires, and how can understanding them lead to hotter, more fulfilling sex? In this episode, Danielle and Celeste—co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching—share how exploring your deepest erotic desires can transform your sex life and deepen intimacy in your relationships. Using their experiential Somatica approach, they explain how shifting our internal patterns around sex and connection can open the door to greater pleasure, authenticity, and emotional intimacy. We also answer a listener question: How can you rebuild broken trust in a relationship? Listen to the full episode here: https://tinyurl.com/bdhs3vv3 About the guests: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA are the co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching and co-founders of the Somatica® Institute. Their innovative, experiential approach helps individuals and couples transform the way they relate emotionally and sexually. They also train professional sex and relationship coaches through the Somatica Institute. They are the co-authors of Making Love Real, Cockfidence, and Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility. Learn more: Explore Somatica courses and trainings at http://somaticainstitute.com and try their free 2-minute quiz to see if the training is right for you Join their free live Q&A on Thursday, March 12, 2026 Learn more about their Sex & Relationship Coaching Training starting in late April 2026 Take their online course: How to Get Turned On: Unlock Your Core Desires, or explore other courses at https://learn.somatica.com Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jo...

#475 Girl Gone Wild: Sex, Travel, and Tales from Courtney Kocak

Mar 3, 2026 58 min

What's the Wildest Thing You've Done for Love (or Sex)? Join us as we dive into the unapologetic world of Courtney Kocak, writer, podcaster, and comedian extraordinaire, who's just released her scorching hot memoir, Girl Gone Wild! In this episode, we get the tea on Courtney's journey from selling T-shirts on the infamous Girls Gone Wild tour (for the uninitiated, it was a series of spring break party videos that, ahem, "celebrated" youthful abandon) to becoming a respected voice in the world of sexuality and feminism. Here's what you'll get out of this episode: * The story behind Courtney's transition from party tour T-shirt vendor to writer and podcaster * A sneak peek into her wildly popular podcast, Private Parts Unknown, and one of her most unforgettable "Girl Gone Wild" stories * What it means to be an "unwitting feminist" and how Courtney's experiences have shaped her views on sex and identity * The good, the bad, and the ugly of Courtney's formative years and how they influenced her adult life * Advice for those who've been told they're "too much" or "not enough" when it comes to their sexuality * A cheeky elevator pitch for Girl Gone Wild and how to get your hands on a copy (and maybe even work with Courtney) Courtney's got a knack for storytelling, and her experiences are both relatable and, well, wild. With over two million podcast downloads under her belt and bylines in top-tier publications like The New York Times and Cosmopolitan, she's the perfect guest to dish out the real talk on sex, love, and being unapologetically yourself. Tune in for a conversation that's equal parts laugh-out-loud funny and thought-provoking – and stay tuned until the end for a teaser that's sure to leave you wanting more. Trust us, you won't want to miss this episode! Mark your calendars for April 1, 2026, when Girl Gone Wild hits the shelves, and get ready to join the conversation. To learn more: https://www.courtneykocak.com Preorder her book: Amazon Booksho...

#474 From Shut Down to Turned On with Dr. Moali & Keeley Rankin, MA

Feb 25, 2026 58 min

Are You Letting Shame Quietly Run the Show in Your Intimate Life? Join us as we dive back into the powerful conversation from the launch of Intimacy Rewired, Amy and co-facilitator Ian Stratton's six-week online program that helps you break free from disconnection and cultivate deeper, more playful intimacy. This episode feels as if you are a part of the workshop, so consider sitting down with a pen and paper to get the full classroom experience. Packed with expert insights from returning guests Dr. Nazanin Moali and Keeley Rankin, MA, as they share their wisdom on building connection, overcoming shame, and creating safety in your body and relationships. Here's what you'll learn: * How shame shows up in sex and relationships, and why it's often misunderstood * Practical tools for working with shame as a teacher, rather than letting it limit your pleasure and connection * Actionable practices to create safety in your body and partnerships, laying the foundation for deeper intimacy and hotter sex *How to negotiate boundaries and speak you "no" * The importance of embodied and sustainable connection in your intimate life Dr. Nazanin Moali, a sex and relationship expert with extensive training in trauma and sexual wellness, brings her expertise to the conversation. With her postdoctoral training and experience hosting a top-rated Sexology podcast, Dr. Moali offers compassionate guidance on relating to shame and building deeper connections. Keeley Rankin, a sex therapist and relationship coach, shares her mindful, body-based approach to creating safety and intimacy. With her Master's in Counseling Psychology and experience helping individuals and couples overcome intimacy challenges, Keeley offers practical practices to help you feel more grounded and present. Tune in to this episode and discover how to build more safety, ease, and intimacy in your relationships—starting from the inside out. And stay tuned for the next launch of Intimacy Rewired by signing up fo...

#473 Shameless Talk: Healing from Trauma with Jimanekia Eborn

Feb 18, 2026 57 min

What if we told you that healing from trauma is possible, and it starts with having shameless conversations about sex and vulnerability? Join us on this week's episode of Shameless Sex, where we dive into the world of trauma, sex, and healing with the incredible Jimanekia Eborn, aka The Trauma Queen. With 16 years of experience in mental health, Jimanekia is a Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator who's on a mission to normalize conversations about life's most challenging experiences. Here's what you can expect to learn from this episode: • The importance of understanding trauma and its impact on our lives, relationships, and sex lives • How trauma can show up differently in various cultural, socio-economic, and personal contexts • Easy-to-apply tools and techniques to help you understand, uncover, and work with your trauma (yes, it's possible!) • About Jimanekia's amazing work with her nonprofit, Tending The Garden, and her Intimacy Coordinator training program, Cintima By tuning in to this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the complex relationships between trauma, sex, and healing. You'll also learn how to take the first steps towards healing and recovery, and how to find support and resources to help you along the way. Jimanekia's story is a testament to the power of resilience, vulnerability, and shameless conversations. As she shares her journey, you'll be inspired to start your own path towards healing and self-discovery. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into this powerful conversation and discover how you can start healing from trauma and living a more shameless, sex-positive life. Tune in to this episode to find out how Jimanekia went from being a mental health professional to becoming The Trauma Queen, and how you can start your own journey towards healing and recovery. To learn more: https://www.cintima.co/ http://traumaqueen.love http://Tendingthegarden.love https://lenoraclair...

#472 Sex Toy Secrets Exposed - Part 2

Feb 10, 2026 51 min

Join us for part 2 of this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive deeper into sex toys and sex stories with the fabulous Samia Mounts - podcaster extraordinaire and all-around sex-positive superstar. As the host of ClosetEd, Samia is no stranger to diving into the juicy details of human desire, and she's here to share her expertise and enthusiasm with us. Tune in next week as we dive in even deeper and juicier for part 2. Here's what you'll get out of this episode: * The unvarnished truth about how our hosts (and Samia) got into the field of sexuality - and what drove them to become advocates for sex positivity * The shame-free lowdown on sex toys: why we've been made to feel guilty for using them, and why that's total BS * A tour of our hosts' current favorite toys - from c**t stimulators to bondage gear - and why they love them * Hilarious and relatable "worst toy fails" stories that'll have you laughing and nodding in solidarity * Epic erotic toy stories that'll leave you feeling inspired and maybe even a little turned on * The benefits of sharing and listening to real human's sexy stories - and how it can bring us closer together By tuning in, you'll get to: * Join the conversation and ditch the shame around sex toys * Discover new ways to explore your desires and pleasure * Connect with a community that's all about embracing our true selves Samia's background as an actor, singer, writer, and podcaster brings a unique perspective to the conversation, and her podcast, ClosetEd, has become a go-to destination for anyone looking to explore the complexities of human desire. With her quick wit and infectious enthusiasm, she's the perfect guest to guide us through this conversation. Learn more about Samia here: ⁠http://linktr.ee/samia.mounts Join us for our online Pre-Valentine's Day workshop on Thursday, February 12th - all about full body pleasure: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/2s4uvs6v⁠ Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples!...

#471 Sex Toy Secrets Exposed - Part 1

Feb 3, 2026 59 min

Ever Been Shamed for Your Toy Preferences? Let's Get Real About Sex Toys and the Stories We Tell About Them Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we get up close and personal with the fabulous Samia Mounts, podcaster extraordinaire and all-around sex-positive superstar. As the host of ClosetEd, Samia is no stranger to diving into the juicy details of human desire, and she's here to share her expertise and enthusiasm with us. Tune in next week as we dive in even deeper and juicier for part 2. Here's what you'll get out of this episode: * The unvarnished truth about how our hosts (and Samia) got into the field of sexuality - and what drove them to become advocates for sex positivity * The shame-free lowdown on sex toys: why we've been made to feel guilty for using them, and why that's total BS * A tour of our hosts' current favorite toys - from c**t stimulators to bondage gear - and why they love them * Hilarious and relatable "worst toy fails" stories that'll have you laughing and nodding in solidarity * Epic erotic toy stories that'll leave you feeling inspired and maybe even a little turned on * The benefits of sharing and listening to real human's sexy stories - and how it can bring us closer together By tuning in, you'll get to: * Join the conversation and ditch the shame around sex toys * Discover new ways to explore your desires and pleasure * Connect with a community that's all about embracing our true selves Samia's background as an actor, singer, writer, and podcaster brings a unique perspective to the conversation, and her podcast, ClosetEd, has become a go-to destination for anyone looking to explore the complexities of human desire. With her quick wit and infectious enthusiasm, she's the perfect guest to guide us through this conversation. Stay tuned till the end as we wrap up with our hosts sharing their offerings, upcoming events, and how to find them online. And don't miss the tantalizing teaser at the end of this episode... let's...

#470 Sex, Power, and the Downfall of a Wellness Cult

Jan 28, 2026 1 hr 19 min

What happens when a sexual wellness practice turns into a cult, and how can we spot the warning signs? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we explore the fascinating and disturbing world of OneTaste, a company that promised to unlock the secrets of orgasmic meditation but allegedly became a breeding ground for abuse and manipulation. Award-winning investigative journalist and author Ellen Huet takes us on a journey into the heart of OneTaste, sharing her insights from her book Empire of Orgasm: Sex, Power, and the Downfall of a Wellness Cult Here's what you'll learn from this episode: * The history of OneTaste and how it started as a seemingly innocuous wellness practice * The benefits and risks of orgasmic meditation (OM) and how to approach it with a critical eye * The warning signs of a cult and how to spot when a practice or community is becoming toxic * The latest updates on the criminal case against OneTaste's leaders and what it means for the future of the wellness industry * How to prioritize consent, safety, and critical thinking in your own sex life and wellness practices As a journalist who's covered some of the most complex and intriguing stories of our time, Ellen Huet brings her expertise and sharp analysis to the conversation. Whether you're a seasoned sex educator or just curious about the world of wellness, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn more about the intersection of sex, power, and exploitation, and how to create a safer, more consensual world for everyone. And stay until the end to find out how to get your hands on Ellen's book and support her work. So, can a wellness practice be both empowering and toxic? Listen in to find out. website: https://www.ellenhuet.com/ buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/Empire-Orgasm-Power-Downfall-Wellness/dp/0374604193 instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ehuet/ newsletter: https://ellenhuet.substack.com/ Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Lea...

Bonus Episode: The Truth About Modern-Day Sex Ed

Jan 24, 2026 51 min

What is really happening in K–12 sex education across the United States right now? In this episode, we unpack the good, the bad, and the truly troubling — and imagine what sex ed could look like if it were inclusive, medically accurate, intersectional, and pleasure-positive. We’re joined by Gina Lepore (she/her), an ASSECT-Certified Sexuality Educator with over 30 years of experience spanning healthcare, research, curriculum development, and education. Gina holds a master’s degree in Sexuality Education from Widener University and has taught comprehensive sex ed to middle and high school students, trained future sexuality educators and medical students, conducted research, and even spent time educating about (and selling!) pleasure products at her favorite adult store, Pure Pleasure Shop — because real-world learning matters. Together, we explore why sex education often feels inaccessible or incomplete, and what’s needed to bridge the gap between academic research and online, community-based sexuality education. Gina shares insights from her work as an adjunct lecturer at Cabrillo College and California State University, Chico, reflecting on what she’s learned from teaching hundreds of students — their questions, their gaps, and their hunger for honest, affirming information. We also dive into current research in the field, including buzz around an Emerging Adults Pleasure Survey, and discuss why pleasure belongs in conversations about sexual health. Gina breaks down what sexual empowerment and sexual agency truly mean, how pleasure education can play a role in reducing sexual violence and trauma, and why embodied, holistic approaches to sexuality are essential. In addition to her work in sex education, Gina is a Certified Personal Trainer and Health Coach, integrating fitness and embodied wellbeing into her practice through Focus Integrated Fitness and Joyride Sexual Empowerment Coaching. She brings a grounded, compassionate, and deeply human lens to sexuality...

#469 From Meh to Mind-Blowing Sex with Dr. Tara

Jan 20, 2026 1 hr 6 min

What's the secret to getting exactly what you want in bed? Join us on this sizzling episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of unapologetic intimacy with the one and only Dr. Tara, author of How Do You Like It? A Guide to Getting What You Want (In Bed) and host of the Luvbites podcast. Here's what you can expect to learn from this episode: * How Dr. Tara became the go-to expert in the field of sexuality (hint: it involves a passion for sex education and a whole lot of sass) * What inspired her to write a book that's all about empowering you to take control of your desires * The top issues people face in the bedroom (and how to overcome them) * Why we settle for mediocre sex (and how to break free from it) * The difference between micro and macro sexual communication (and how to master both for a more fulfilling sex life) * The importance of building sexual self-esteem and confidence (and how to do it) * Practical tools and tips for boosting your erotic life (even in long-term relationships) As a Kinsey-certified sexologist, tenured professor, and award-winning researcher, Dr. Tara is the ultimate authority on all things sex. With her expertise and infectious energy, you'll be empowered to take charge of your desires and create a more fulfilling sex life. So, what are you waiting for? Tune in to this episode and get ready to unlock your full erotic potential! And, as a special treat, stay tuned until the end to find out how to get your hands on Dr. Tara's book and connect with her for more sexpert advice. Trust us, you won't want to miss it! To learn more go to https://www.luvbites.co Get her book on Amazon here Follow her: IG: @luvebites.co TikTok: @luvbites.co Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: https://kkcruise.com Learn more about the fabulous Reid Mi...

#468 Power, Pleasure, and the Men Who Want More

Jan 13, 2026 1 hr 8 min

In this episode, we’re joined by Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme—a Los Angeles–based Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach, Dominatrix, and erotic parfum-ist. Ashley shares how her journey into sexuality work emerged from a desire to help people shed shame, reconnect with their bodies, and access deeper intimacy and pleasure. Ashley primarily works with cisgender, predominantly straight men, many of whom are successful yet disconnected—from their emotions, their desire, and their partners. She explains why working with a confident, sexually embodied woman can be both confronting and profoundly healing, offering men a space to drop performance and explore authenticity. The most common issue Ashley sees is disconnection, often showing up as performance anxiety, erectile challenges, or difficulty leading and communicating sexually. Beneath it all is a longing for confidence, presence, and deeper connection. In early sessions, Ashley focuses on nervous system regulation, consent, and embodiment, gradually guiding clients toward more grounded desire, emotional intimacy, and conscious power. We also explore Ashley’s work as a Dominatrix and how dominance—whether kinky or not—is about presence, responsibility, and attunement rather than control. She shares practical insights for men who want to be more dominant, emphasizing self-regulation, listening, and clarity. Plus, we dive into Ashley’s erotic perfumes, which she uses as a powerful sensory and somatic tool in sessions to anchor desire, memory, and arousal. Ashley leaves listeners with one golden reminder: your desire is not a problem—it’s information. Learn more or work with Ashley at www.irreverentcoaching.com Follow her on Instagram: @IrreverentLoveCoaching Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

#467 Heal Your Nerves, Ignite Your Sex Life - Melanie & Mark Curtis

Jan 7, 2026 1 hr 12 min

Ready to Rewire Your Nervous System for More Pleasure, Intimacy, and Connection? Join us on this juicy episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of nervous system healing with Melanie and Mark Curtis, the dynamic duo behind Coming Home Coaching. These two experts are on a mission to help you crack the code to deeper intimacy, more fulfilling relationships, and a sex life that's off the charts. Here's what you'll learn: • The surprising ways your nervous system is impacting your sex life (and how to take control) • How to recognize and release shame, and why it's the ultimate intimacy killer • The role of safety in feeling desire, and how to create a life that's safe for your wildest desires • What SomaCode is, and how it can help you unlock your full sexual potential • Practical tools and techniques for working with your nervous system, decreasing shame, and increasing your sense of worth and authentic expression Melanie and Mark bring their unique blend of somatic and subconscious expertise to the table, having navigated their own journeys of healing and growth. With their guidance, you'll learn how to move out of survival mode and into a place of safety, connection, and presence – leading to richer relationships, greater intimacy, and more fulfilling sex lives. By tuning in, you'll gain: • A deeper understanding of your nervous system and how it impacts your sex life • Practical tools for releasing shame and increasing your sense of worth • Insights into how to create a life with more sexual safety and intimacy • A new perspective on how to cultivate more pleasure, connection, and wholeness in your relationships So, are you ready to unlock the secrets to a more shameless, vibrant, and fulfilling sex life? Tune in to this episode and get ready to transform your relationships and ignite your passion. And, as a special treat, Melanie and Mark share how you can work with them to start your journey of coming home to yourself and to one another....

#466 Fantasies, Oral, and More: Sex Tips Galore with Dr. Aly

Dec 30, 2025 1 hr 9 min

Get Ready for a Sex Education Like No Other: We're Talking Fantasies, Oral Sex, and Everything in Between Whether you're partnered or solo, this episode is full of actionable insights that can help you connect more deeply, communicate more clearly, and bring more pleasure into your life and relationships. Dr. Aly also shares details about her upcoming courses, retreats and intimacy coaching. Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills online course on Weds, Jan 27th-Mar 17th We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Use code "shameless" for $100 off! Sustainable Intimacy: Refuel Passion for Lasting Love retreat for couples in April 23rd-26th in Sonoma, CA (also available as an on-demand course rental) Differences in desire, changing needs, and the pressures of daily life can crowd out time for intimacy. Whether your goal is to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time together, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a supportive space to slow down and savor each other. Uncover what’s blocking intimacy and gain customized tools to support your unique dynamic. Plus, indulge in delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, movement and mindfulness classes, a workshop on passionate and dominant touch, and a sensual soirée. Early Bird tickets currently on sale for $200 off! And reach out to Dr. Aly for 1:1 and couples coaching! To learn more go to www.TurnON.love https://www.turnon.love/sexual-and-emotional-intimacy-skillshttps://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy-retreat https://www.turnon.love/sex-and-intimacy-coaching For ful...

Bonus Episode: New Year, New You: Sexual Self Mastery

Dec 26, 2025 41 min

Fabienne Annick is an internationally respected sex & intimacy coach and experience designer whose work weaves together the worlds of eros, embodiment, and earth wisdom. Over the past decade, she has guided hundreds through her transformative programs, including Sexual Self-Mastery for men and Come Alive for women, helping them cultivate deeper self-awareness, mastery, and authentic connection. Her approach blends somatic healing, EFT, breathwork, Tantra, Taoist alchemy, and modern neuroscience, empowering people to experience sexuality as a path of health, wholeness, and awakening rather than performance or conditioning. Fabienne’s mission is to restore harmony between the masculine and feminine- within ourselves, our relationships, and the world. Through her courses, retreats, and global experiences, Fabienne invites people to remember that sexuality is an extension of the self: a living practice that mirrors who we are and how we love. Her teachings support the integration of pain, shame, and awkwardness into authentic, embodied expression, helping people engage with their sexuality with integrity and depth. Sign up for her upcoming workshops, programs or retreats and use code SHAMELESS for 10% off here: https://tinyurl.com/ym7c7by3 https://tinyurl.com/4md32kzm https://tinyurl.com/59nxxr5y Learn more here: ⁠https://www.fabienneannick.com/⁠ Learn more about Amy's upcoming online Intimacy Rewired program (begins January 5th, 2026) on episode #458 or click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.intimacyrewired.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex to get $100 off! Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubrican...

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Created by: Amy Baldwin
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Latest episode: Nov 10, 2026
Episodes: 565
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