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Surrounded by Demons, Guarded by Angels — Mark H -PART 2
49 min
In Part 2, Mark takes us from a hotel room full of needles, through 11 years in and out of jail, to a psych ward cell. Then he tells us what finally changed: a lawyer who believed in him, a sponsor who kept asking one question, and a key to his own front door. Part 1 ended just as the needles came in. Part 2 picks up from there, and it's the darkest stretch of Mark's story. His marriage is over and he's alone for the first time in his life. He's in a hotel room in Mentone, with two pairs of shorts, a box of Coronas and a sharps bin so full he's covered it with a towel. "I just wanted to die." What follows is rehab after rehab: a lighthouse drawing with waves crashing around it, a kickboxing rehab where 16 men picked him up off the dojo floor, and his first year clean. Then he goes straight back to dealing while working offshore and sitting in NA meetings. A six-month sentence for driving while suspended turned into more than a decade in and out of the system. Mark talks frankly about the jail code, three years in isolation, the "face of stillness" you have to wear, and how prison made him institutionalised. His last sentence ended in a psych ward cell, with a meal coming through a trapdoor. He's been stabbed, Narcaned and beaten more times than he can count, and he still doesn't know how he's alive. Then comes the turn. A legal aid lawyer saw something in him and got him into a program for people with acquired brain injury. He was finally assessed for a head injury he got in 2009. He's been out since September 2024 and has 21 months of recovery behind him. He has a passport again and a key to his family home. He's working the steps with a stranger he now trusts. For the first time, he says the word "God" in a meeting and means it. This is a raw, honest episode about hitting the bottom more than once, and about what surrender looks like for a man who only ever believed in himself. "Not a hard man, mate. Just a well broken man." Recorded in Bali. Content warningThis e...
Surrounded by Demons, Guarded by Angels - Mark H - PART 1
59 min
At nine, Mark had his first bong. By eleven he was dealing —and learning there are no mates in drugs. Recorded in Bali, Part 1 of Mark's raw, unfiltered journey from a Latrobe Valley childhood to cocaine, ice and the edge. Recorded in Bali, this is Part 1 of one of the raweststories we've shared on Slaying Sober. Mark grew up in the Latrobe Valley — fishing, ferreting,dirt bikes and footy. But underneath the country-boy childhood, something else was building. Chasing approval he couldn't get at home, Mark had his first bongat nine, was selling bags to older kids by ten, and at eleven took the fall for his mates — the moment he learned "there's no mates in drugs," and the moment the older boys took him under their wing. What followed was a fast slide: fights, stolen cars, a brawlat 17 that left a man in a coma, a run-in with police that forced him out of town, and a move to Melbourne where tunnel-work money, strip clubs and the party scene took over. A knee injury ended his footy, cocaine opened the door, and ice blew it wide open — feeding a sex addiction, a double life and a drugbusiness that pulled his mates down with him. Mark is honest about the ego, the damage and the people hehurt. And he's clear about why he's telling it now: so one person listeningmight recognise themselves, start asking questions, and find recovery. Part 1 ends where things got darker. Part 2 is coming. In this episode: · Growing up in theLatrobe Valley, and the hunger for approval behind it all · First bong at nine,dealing by ten, and the lesson at eleven: no mates in drugs · How violence becamehis "next best friend" · A fight at 17 thatchanged everything, and being pushed out of town · Melbourne: big money,strip clubs, raves and the cocaine years · How ice took himsomewhere he'd never been — and the double life it created · Hurting his mates, andthe moment he started to see who he'd become · Why Mark is tellinghis story now Content warning:...
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Slaying Sober Daily
2 min
Today's principle: gratitude. A dad, a bag of Oranges, and the first kick he actually saw.
Surrounded by Demons, Guarded by Angels — Mark H -PART 2
49 min
In Part 2, Mark takes us from a hotel room full of needles, through 11 years in and out of jail, to a psych ward cell. Then he tells us what finally changed: a lawyer who believed in him, a sponsor who kept asking one question, and a key to his own front door. Part 1 ended just as the needles came in. Part 2 picks up from there, and it's the darkest stretch of Mark's story. His marriage is over and he's alone for the first time in his life. He's in a hotel room in Mentone, with two pairs of shorts, a box of Coronas and a sharps bin so full he's covered it with a towel. "I just wanted to die." What follows is rehab after rehab: a lighthouse drawing with waves crashing around it, a kickboxing rehab where 16 men picked him up off the dojo floor, and his first year clean. Then he goes straight back to dealing while working offshore and sitting in NA meetings. A six-month sentence for driving while suspended turned into more than a decade in and out of the system. Mark talks frankly about the jail code, three years in isolation, the "face of stillness" you have to wear, and how prison made him institutionalised. His last sentence ended in a psych ward cell, with a meal coming through a trapdoor. He's been stabbed, Narcaned and beaten more times than he can count, and he still doesn't know how he's alive. Then comes the turn. A legal aid lawyer saw something in him and got him into a program for people with acquired brain injury. He was finally assessed for a head injury he got in 2009. He's been out since September 2024 and has 21 months of recovery behind him. He has a passport again and a key to his family home. He's working the steps with a stranger he now trusts. For the first time, he says the word "God" in a meeting and means it. This is a raw, honest episode about hitting the bottom more than once, and about what surrender looks like for a man who only ever believed in himself. "Not a hard man, mate. Just a well broken man." Recorded in Bali. Content warningThis e...
Surrounded by Demons, Guarded by Angels - Mark H - PART 1
59 min
At nine, Mark had his first bong. By eleven he was dealing —and learning there are no mates in drugs. Recorded in Bali, Part 1 of Mark's raw, unfiltered journey from a Latrobe Valley childhood to cocaine, ice and the edge. Recorded in Bali, this is Part 1 of one of the raweststories we've shared on Slaying Sober. Mark grew up in the Latrobe Valley — fishing, ferreting,dirt bikes and footy. But underneath the country-boy childhood, something else was building. Chasing approval he couldn't get at home, Mark had his first bongat nine, was selling bags to older kids by ten, and at eleven took the fall for his mates — the moment he learned "there's no mates in drugs," and the moment the older boys took him under their wing. What followed was a fast slide: fights, stolen cars, a brawlat 17 that left a man in a coma, a run-in with police that forced him out of town, and a move to Melbourne where tunnel-work money, strip clubs and the party scene took over. A knee injury ended his footy, cocaine opened the door, and ice blew it wide open — feeding a sex addiction, a double life and a drugbusiness that pulled his mates down with him. Mark is honest about the ego, the damage and the people hehurt. And he's clear about why he's telling it now: so one person listeningmight recognise themselves, start asking questions, and find recovery. Part 1 ends where things got darker. Part 2 is coming. In this episode: · Growing up in theLatrobe Valley, and the hunger for approval behind it all · First bong at nine,dealing by ten, and the lesson at eleven: no mates in drugs · How violence becamehis "next best friend" · A fight at 17 thatchanged everything, and being pushed out of town · Melbourne: big money,strip clubs, raves and the cocaine years · How ice took himsomewhere he'd never been — and the double life it created · Hurting his mates, andthe moment he started to see who he'd become · Why Mark is tellinghis story now Content warning:...
Ash - the Lawyer who found Recovery and God in Bali
1 hr 12 min
Ash is the lawyer who found recovery and God in Bali—after years as a party girl, a broken neck, and a complicated relationship with her dad that sobriety turned into her greatest source of love and support. In this episode of Slaying Sober, we sit down on the island of the gods to unpack how a hard‑drinking party girl with a broken neck and a messy relationship with her father became a sober, spiritually grounded lawyer living a life built on service instead of chaos. Ash shares how addiction shaped her identity, how a major injury forced her to finally stop running, and how working a 12‑step program opened the door to a God of her own understanding—and a new relationship with her dad, who is now her best friend and biggest supporter in recovery. You’ll hear: What it really took to go from “fun drunk” to sober professional in Bali. How law, spirituality and recovery coexist in her day‑to‑day life. Why meetings, service and a higher power became the backbone of a life she actually wants to stay sober If you’re a high‑functioning drinker, a professional wondering if sobriety will wreck your career, or someone wrestling with faith and father wounds, this conversation will hit home.
Autism, Ecstasy, Addiction & Finding Freedom with Jim
1 hr 4 min
From Revolver to Recovery. Jims amazing recovery story. An autistic kid who never fit in, a rave scene that promised connection, and an ice habit that nearly killed him – Jim’s story is a masterclass in how “freedom” can turn into a prison. Jim grew up bullied, misunderstood and late-diagnosed autistic, always feeling on the outside of school, family and friendships. When he found MDMA and the Melbourne rave scene, it felt like magic: confidence, connection, endless love and the sense of belonging he’d been missing his whole life. But that glow didn’t last. Party drugs gave way to dealing, meth and ice, lost jobs, family breakdown and years spent in a garage, completely isolated and shackled to his addiction. In this raw and honest episode of Slaying Sober, Jim and James unpack autism, ecstasy, meth, family violence, shame and the brutal realities of long-term addiction – and then trace the turning point into rehab, accountability and a new life in recovery. Jim shares how he rebuilt from nothing into a role as a peer worker in the AOD space, what “freedom” really means to him now, and why he’ll “walk with” anyone who is willing to take the first step. If you’ve ever chased connection in all the wrong places, struggled with neurodivergence and addiction, or wondered whether recovery can work for someone like you, this conversation will hit home.
Mini Ep: Sober Up with Faye – First 100 Days & Hangxiety
13 min
A six‑month “break” from drinking on a Valentine’s Day flight from Dubai to Sydney became the biggest act of self‑love of Faye Louise Hughes’ life – and the start of her sobriety glow up. In this mini replay from Season 3, Episode 8, Faye shares why 30 days alcohol‑free rarely tells you the truth, and what really shifts when you commit to 100 days. You’ll hear: The Valentine’s Day decision that changed everything Why 100 days beats a 30‑day “challenge” The real‑world benefits: better sleep, glowing skin, energy, and motivation How those first 90–100 days lay the foundations for emotional sobriety Hit follow on Slaying Sober, share this mini with a friend, and tag @slayingsoberpod on Instagram so these stories reach more people who think they’re alone.
Kerry - Father Wounds & Six Litres a Night
1 hr 1 min
Kerry grew up in a morgue, survived alcoholism, abuse and domestic violence, and found recovery, compassion and purpose. A raw, hopeful story for anyone who feels broken. Kerry grew up surrounded by death in rural South Africa, with parents who were morticians and a home marked by alcoholism, witch doctors and chaos no child should ever see. At her worst, she was drinking up to six litres of wine a day and using alcohol and food to numb deep trauma, abuse and profound loneliness. Today, she is sober, healing and helping others find hope in the darkest places. In this powerful episode of Slaying Sober, Kerry shares: What it was like being raised in a morgue, desensitized to death and violence from an early age The impact of an alcoholic father, childhood sexual abuse and betrayal by people who were meant to protect her How her drinking escalated to six litres of wine a day, withdrawal seizures, hospital visits and dangerous blackouts The moment her partner’s mum found her “Hoarders: Alcoholic Edition” lounge room and how that confrontation became the turning point Why she calls herself the “relapse queen” and what finally made Step One click after years in and out of the rooms of AA How sobriety gave her boundaries, self-respect and the courage to leave a coercively controlling relationship Navigating love, betrayal and guilt in recovery, including supporting a suicidal partner without picking up a drink The role of therapy, sponsorship and a tight recovery circle (including her 82‑year‑old best friend) in keeping her sane and sober How she is reclaiming her story through her platform a note from an addict, a sobriety journal and a recovery card deck If you’ve ever felt broken beyond repair, Kerry’s story proves that you can survive the unsurvivable, build real safety and find a life that is not just substance‑free, but full of compassion, service and quiet joy. Find Kerry at: https://www.instagram.com/anotefromanaddict/
Part 2 - Kate Seselja - Losing it all, to finding Hope - The Worst Day
37 min
Losing It All to Finding Hope – Part 2 with Kate Seselja dives into the day Kate fed $12,000 into a single pokie machine and almost ended her life. This raw conversation follows the shame, the suicidal thoughts, and the tiny moments – her kids, her husband, one counsellor – that pulled her back from the edge and toward recovery. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve gone too far to come back, this episode is for you.
Kate Seselja - Addiction by Design -Blow Up the Pokies
35 min
What happens when a “bit of fun on the pokies” quietly turns into a fifteen‑year battle that almost costs you your life? In this powerful episode, mum of six and gambling‑harm advocate Kate Seselja shares how an ordinary visit to a club spiralled into years of dark, clockless rooms, mounting debts and crushing shame – including the day she fed $12,000 into a single pokie machine and walked out wondering if she could keep going. Kate opens up about: How pokies and online gambling are addiction by design, not “just entertainment” – and why losses go way beyond money. The mental load of secrecy, debt and self‑hate, and the night she almost took her life. The tiny threads that kept her here: her kids, her husband’s compassion, and her son’s simple words – “Mum, everyone makes mistakes.” Reclaiming her humanness, finding recovery, and turning unbearable shame into The Hope Project, a social enterprise helping people move from just surviving to thriving. Why Australia is a global hotspot for gambling harm, and what really needs to change. If you’ve ever wondered whether your gambling – or someone else’s – is “getting a bit out of hand”, this conversation will help you see you’re not weak, broken or alone. The problem isn’t who you are; it’s what these products are designed to do. Hit play to hear how Kate went from losing almost everything… to finding hope and a voice loud enough to change lives. Connect and get support Learn more about The Hope Project and Kate’s work: The Hope Project Australia Follow Kate on Instagram: @the.hope.project If you or someone you love is struggling with gambling, please reach out for help. In Australia, you can contact Gambler’s Help on 1800 858 858 or Lifeline on 13 11 14 for free, confidential support 24/7.
Ep.39 - Chrissoula - Prison, Parole & Personal Training. How Chrissoula built a Sober, Strong Life
42 min
When Chrissoula walked along the beach in rehab, she could barely put one foot in front of the other. After 20 years of heroin use, multiple overdoses, prison and parole, even a simple walk on the sand felt impossible. But those early morning walks – and a tiny rehab gym – lit a fire she didn’t see coming. Movement became medicine, and strength training gave her something she’d never had before: real power inside and out. In this episode, Chrissoula shares how she went from long‑term addiction and jail to becoming a personal trainer and leader for women in recovery. We talk about rebuilding a body you’ve abused, smashing limiting beliefs, and creating a strong, sober life that actually feels worth staying for. If you’ve ever felt “too far gone” to change, this story is proof you’re not.
Ep. 38 – Mark: Surviving ‘Joffa’ Corfe, Sexual Abuse and Overdose
31 min
At 16, Mark thought he was heading to the footy with a trusted “big brother” figure. Instead, he was groomed and sexually assaulted in a Flinders Street Station toilet by Jeff “Joffa” Corfe, the man who would later become one of Collingwood’s most famous supporters. For 25 years, Mark buried the secret, numbing the pain with ecstasy, marijuana and GP-prescribed Valium until a near-fatal overdose at 19 became his line-in-the-sand moment. In this raw conversation, Mark shares how childhood acting gigs with shows like Beauty and the Beast, a confusing queer adolescence in 90s Melbourne, and a toxic early relationship all intertwined with his addiction and mental health. He takes us inside the moment he saw his abuser celebrated on TV, the rage and shame that followed, and what finally pushed him to walk into Melbourne Police Centre and report a historical sexual assault decades later. We talk about what justice looks like when the legal system can’t fully deliver it, including Alex’s landmark case, “Joffa’s rule,” and Mark’s own validation and compensation through VOCAT. Most importantly, Mark shows us what recovery canbecome: a loving marriage, a survivor community, dancing online to reclaim his body, and using his voice so other victims know they’re not alone. If you’re a survivor, someone in recovery, or you support queer youth, this episode is for you.
Ep. 37 - Ben Murphy - The Magic of Sobriety: Fame, Alcohol, Hope and Curiosity
57 min
In this powerful episode of Slaying Sober, James sits down with magician, illusionist and radio host Ben Murphy — a self‑confessed “man about town” who’s spent his life chasing the spotlight. From sick kid obsessed with clown doctors in a Brisbane hospital to world‑touring illusionist breaking Houdini records in the US, Ben built a dream career on limelight, applause and escape acts. But behind the smoke and mirrors, alcohol was quietly running the show. Ben opens up about growing up as one of the only openly gay kids at his Queensland school, using comedy as a shield, and finding his first “high” in the attention that came with magic. He shares how touring the world, business‑class flights and influencer‑style red carpets slowly turned into lonely hotel rooms, airport vodkas at 9am, and a drinking pattern so warped he started lying to strangers just to protect it. Despite a successful career and a long‑term partner, Ben lost the thing that matters most: hope. Now over six years sober, Ben talks candidly about the moments that scared him straight — from waking up last on a plane with the crew staring at him, to watching his partner sit at the end of their street because he was scared to come home. He explains why traditional 12‑step didn’t fit, how SMART Recovery and medication helped him take ownership, and why his worst day sober is still better than his best day drunk. This is a raw, funny and deeply human conversation about identity, love, risk, and rebuilding a life you actually want to be present for. Find Ben at: https://www.instagram.com/thebenmurphy_/ https://www.benmurphy.com.au/
Ep 36- Caitlin - Bleeding Out to Breaking Free: I Got Stabbed and Then Saw the Light
43 min
Caitlin spent 17 years in active addiction, dealing to survive, living a life of crime, and convinced she would die an addict or in jail. After being stabbed in a premeditated attack that nearly took her arm and her life, she experienced awhite‑light near‑death moment that changed everything. In this episode, Caitlin shares how Crohn’s disease, chronic pain, and grief over losing her dad collided with drugs, crime and violence – and how rehab, NA and a 12‑step program helped her find genuine serenity for the first time in nearlytwo decades. She talks about avoiding a lengthy jail sentence, discovering real connection in fellowship, and what “Caitlin 2.0” looks like as she rebuilds her life clean. If this episode brings anything up for you, please reach out to a trusted friend, a sponsor, your GP, or a local support service. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to wait for a rock bottom like Caitlin’s to ask for help. If this episode has brought anything up for you and you need support (Australia): In an emergency or immediate danger, call 000Lifeline – 13 11 14 BeyondBlue –1300 22 4636
Ep. 36 - Normies, Addicts, and the Villain Role: Rethinking How We ‘Help’ with Amber Hollingsworth from Put the Shovel Down
55 min
On today’s episode of Slaying Sober, we’re going way past “just stop drinking” and into the messy, real psychology of addiction with therapist and YouTube weapon Amber Hollingsworth from Put the Shovel Down. You asked for it – this one is for the normies and the addicts. Think of it as a no‑bullshit therapy session for the partners, parents, and friends who are desperate to help but keep getting burned in the process. We unpack how trying to “save” someone can accidentally turn you into the villain of their story, pushing them deeper into shame, fear, secrecy, and using. You’ll hear how to swap punishment for real‑world consequences, and use simple, practical strategies that actually encourage change instead of fuelling more fights and relapses. We also tackle the big one: is addiction a moral failing or a disease—and why the answer changes everything about how you talk to yourself and the people you love. This episode is funny, raw, and seriously practical. Hit play for yourself, or share it with the person in your life who thinks they understand addiction—you might both walk away seeing it completely differently. Ambers Bio: "After more than 20 years working with people struggling with addiction and the families who love them, I’ve come to a conclusion that goes against much of what people are told about addiction: it isn’t a hopeless condition that people are powerless over. More often, it’s a deeply ingrained pattern built on falsebeliefs, and false beliefs can be changed. Through my work, I’ve built a YouTube community of more than 800,000 subscribers. The comment I hear most often is, 'I wish I had known this years ago. I would have done everythingdifferently.'" SocialMedia Links: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg IG : https://www.instagram.com/puttheshoveldown/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/addictionrecoveryhope Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amber-hollingsworth-833111b8/
Ep. 35 - From $220K Lost To Lifelong Recovery: Shaun’s Story of Gambling Addiction
1 hr 1 min
Shaun “Big Red” McDonough thought a quick punt on a sure thing would make life easier – instead it cost him over $220,000, his self‑respect and almost his life. In this raw conversation, he shares how childhood poverty and violence, a “harmless” betting habit and online gambling led him to the train tracks, and how counselling, self‑exclusion tools and his daughter’s courage helped him start again. Shaun shares: Growing up in government housing with just him and his mum, surrounded by alcohol, family violence and poverty, relying on charity and support, and how that fuelled his drive to work hard, save and “do the right thing.” Leaving school early to support his mum, slowly chipping away at a mortgage, and finally being able to give his own family the Christmases he never had. How a one‑off Melbourne Cup tradition with his wife slowly normalised betting, and how an “easy” $2,000 bet on champion racehorse Winx to win $200 opened the floodgates. Losing around $220,000 over three to four years, burning through his work cover payout and dipping into his super, even while paying off the house and trying to give his family a better life. The way gambling changed his personality – lying, hiding, constantly flicking channels and phones to check races – and the damage it did to trust with his wife and daughter. Hitting rock bottom: Centrelink saying no when he had nothing left, sitting on train tracks ready to end his life, and multiple suicide attempts that even the betting company had to escalate to emergency services. His daughter’s lifesaving phone call to Gamblers Help, the years of counselling that followed, and why he still sees himself as “in recovery,” with that demon on his shoulder always tapping for one more bet. Practical tools that helped: Gamblers Help counselling, financial counselling, the national self‑exclusion register BetStop, and TAB Care to keep him out of venues and apps. Why he decided to go public with his story and now uses his lived experience t...
Ep 34: Warren - I Thought I Would Die on Meth
59 min
From Meth, Jail and Losing His Kids to One Year Clean – Warren’s Story of Starting Again at 42Former registered nurse and father of four, Warren Clarke, opens up about how recreational meth use in his late 20s spiralled into addiction, homelessness, crime, and four months in jail — and how he’s now one year clean, rebuilding trust with his family and learning to like himself again. This brutally honest conversation covers handing his kids to his parents because he knew they weren’t safe, the day his son begged him not to die, and how moving to Melbourne with nothing but the clothes on his back became a line-in-the-sand moment for his recovery. If you’ve ever thought you were too far gone or too old to start over, Warren’s story will change your mind.#SlayingSober #RecoveryPodcast #AddictionRecovery #MethRecovery #AustralianPodcast #SobrietyJourney #NA #LivedExperience
Behind the Smile x Slaying Sober - James is Interviewed by Ash Butterss
1 hr 8 min
Husband, father, business owner and Slaying Sober podcast host James Date joins Ash Butterss on Behind the Smile to share his journey from blackout drinking, drugs and party culture to rehab, 12‑step recovery and a life grounded in service, spirituality and genuine contentment on the Mornington Peninsula. A former “life of the party”, James opens up about high‑functioning addiction, suicidal ideation, ego, stigma, outpatient rehab at Arrow Health, sponsorship, gratitude and learning how to become a truly present dad, partner and leader in recovery. Connect with Ash: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashbutterss/ TEDx Talk – What School Doesn’t Teach You About Happiness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfclluaXT4QWebsite: https://www.ashbutterss.com
Ep. 31 -Part 2 - Ty -from Psychosis & CTOs to Kindness & Clarity
28 min
PART 2 - More nuggets of wisdom from Ty Ty goes from bullied kid in Ferntree Gully to 450 charges, homelessness, psych wards, and multiple stints in jail – and is now rebuilding his life with six months clean, off all meds, and deeply connected to NA and spirituality. From 450 Charges to Spiritual Awakening: Ty’s Story In this raw and unfiltered episode of Slaying Sober, Ty shares how early bullying, weed at 12 and party drugs as a teen spiralled into meth addiction, crime, homelessness, psychosis and multiple prison sentences –and how a suicide attempt, a peer worker named Jo, NA, and tough love from his family pulled him into recovery. In this episode, we talk about: Perfect for anyone who’s ever felt “too far gone” or stuckin the system and needs proof that recovery – deep, spiritual, connected recovery – is possible.
Ep. 31 -Part 1 - Ty -from Psychosis & CTOs to Kindness & Clarity
41 min
Ty goes from bullied kid in Ferntree Gully to 450 charges,homelessness, psych wards, and multiple stints in jail – and is now rebuilding his life with six months clean, off all meds, and deeply connected to NA and spirituality. From 450 Charges to Spiritual Awakening: Ty’s Story In this raw and unfiltered episode of Slaying Sober, Ty shares how early bullying, weed at 12 and party drugs as a teen spiralled into meth addiction, crime, homelessness, psychosis and multiple prison sentences –and how a suicide attempt, a peer worker named Jo, NA, and tough love from his family pulled him into recovery. In this episode, we talk about: Perfect for anyone who’s ever felt “too far gone” or stuckin the system and needs proof that recovery – deep, spiritual, connected recovery – is possible.
Ep. 30 - Kate Rowe – Drug Smuggler, Author, Queer History Maker - How the Fck would I know?
43 min
From £10 Pom to heroin haze in 1970s Bali — speed psychosis, queer activism, jail time, and 48 years sober. Kate Rowe’s raw memoir How the Fck Would I Know? proves recovery miracles happen — but only with brutal honesty and hard work. 🎧 Listen if you want hope that “geographical cures” fail, fragments can reform, and life past 75 sober can feel like the fourth dimension. Raw recovery talk for addicts, LGBTQ+ history buffs, and anyone chasing that humility glow-up. Guest Bio – Kate Rowe 🏳️🌈 78er: Arrested at Sydney’s first Mardi Gras (1978); bashed and jailed for shouting “Up the lezzos!” — paving the way for today’s Pride. 📚 Author: How the Fck Would I Know? (2025) — a no-BS memoir of addiction, near-death from hepatitis, smuggling fails, suicide bids, and a full sobriety rebuild. 🏊 Ironwoman: Competed in brutal ocean swims post-recovery. 🎶 Ukulele player: Her sober-life hack — “you can have fun!” 🌐 Connect: katerowe.net | Buy book on Booktopia Timestamped Highlights (Recovery Gold) 00:40 – Book meaning: “What the f*ck would I know?” = Stay teachable at 75. No ego, just growth. 01:52 – £10 Pom escape: Fled UK booze/pills/anorexia; landed in Australia’s 70s drug scene. 06:39 – Bali 1970s drug fest: Heroin smoke (no needles = “not addict” delusion). Smuggling, hepatitis, chaos. 12:37 – UK welfare job turned coke-dealing den; bosses, guns, paranoia. 17:13 – Speed psychosis, suicide attempts, Mogadon OD — AA at Rozelle saves her. 21:55 – Therapist: “You’re fragmented.” The long road to wholeness — now 48 years sober. 26:45 – Lesbian awakening, Mardi Gras fightback, queer denial around addiction. 36:43 – Sober at 75: “Miracles take years and brutal work.” Talks to the sky for guidance. 4 Brutal Takeaways You take you everywhere: “Geographical cures” are myths. Addict logic: “Doc said no booze, not no drugs.” Madness. Fragment fix: Honesty + work rebuilds you (took 20 years). Sober joy: Ukulele, Ironwoman events, Pride hugs from Gen Z.
Ep 29 - Part 2 - Joe - Taming the Monster: From Bouncing & Bashings to Balance
24 min
PART 2: The Power of Change and The Power of Forgiveness From Rage to Redemption: Addiction Recovery Story Melbourne dad Joe shares his raw journey from childhood sexual abuse, bullying, and bikie violence to sobriety. Hiding trauma as a teen, he turned to booze, drugs, and bouncing—until a rage-filled night destroying his home terrified his daughter. Discover AA, monastery rehab in Italy, martial arts mastery, and forgiving his abuser. Now an AOD teacher and coach, Joe proves change is possible. Key topics: Italian-Aussie identity and school racism Suicidal thoughts and brutal violence Bikie life costs on family "Warrior" discipline for self-control Grandfather life changing lives If you're battling addiction or trauma, this hits hard #podcast #spotify #podcasting #healingjourney #addictionrecovery #slayingsober #mentalgrowth #martialartslife #resilience #identitytransformation #selfcontrol#warriorspath
Ep 29 - Part 1 - Joe - Taming the Monster: From Bouncing & Bashings to Balance
48 min
From Rage to Redemption: Addiction Recovery Story Melbourne dad Joe shares his raw journey from childhood sexual abuse, bullying, and bikie violence to sobriety. Hiding trauma as a teen, he turned to booze, drugs, and bouncing—until a rage-filled night destroying his home terrified his daughter. Discover AA, monastery rehab in Italy, martial arts mastery, and forgiving his abuser. Now an AOD teacher and coach, Joe proves change is possible. Key topics: Italian-Aussie identity and school racism Suicidal thoughts and brutal violence Bikie life costs on family "Warrior" discipline for self-control Grandfather life changing lives If you're battling addiction or trauma, this hits hard #podcast #spotify #podcasting #healingjourney #addictionrecovery #slayingsober #mentalgrowth #martialartslife #resilience #identitytransformation #selfcontrol#warriorspath
Ep. 28 - John - A Professional Drug Addict for 33 years. And 4 Golden Rules for Recovery
58 min
Ep. 28 - John - A Professional Drug Addict for 33 years. And 4 Golden Rules for Recovery John – A Professional Drug Addict for 33 Years A 33-Year Addiction, Rock Bottom & Real Recovery What does rock bottom really look like after three decades of addiction? In this unfiltered episode of Slaying Sober, host James Date sits down with John, a recovering addict who tells it exactly as it was — no masks, no excuses. From gang life and violence to jail time, suicide attempts, and the insanity of addiction, nothing is off limits. John reminds us that addiction isn’t a moral weakness — it’s an emotional response — and that real recovery demands relentless honesty and total commitment. This isn’t a “feel-good” recovery story. It’s a real one. A 33-year addiction told with brutal honesty — no filters, no fluff Real talk on the 12 steps, sponsors, and true fellowship Addiction unpacked beyond drugs — it’s about behavior, thought, and identity A grounded take on spirituality without labels or dogma Recovery described like a football game — every quarter, every play counts “Addiction is an emotional response — not a moral failure.” “If I’m serious, I have to give it everything I’ve got.” “Rock bottom for an addict is death.” Recovery begins with honesty, awareness, and connection Gratitude for hard times is spiritual mastery You don’t have to call it God — just learn to understand yourself 00:00 – John’s story begins 00:57 – Childhood, bullying & belonging 04:44 – Addiction takes over 08:27 – Jail, chaos & consequences 13:51 – What rock bottom really is 18:52 – Relapse, pain & truth 29:59 – Hardcore recovery explained 35:15 – Spirituality without labels 44:18 – Words, perception & reality 55:45 – Growth, service & rebuilding life Anyone struggling with addiction or relapse People curious about 12-step recovery and community Listeners interested in mental health, spirituality & self-awareness Anyone who needs hope — without the hype #SlayingSober #AddictionRecovery #RecoveryJou...
Suzie Browne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63.
53 min
Suzie Browne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63. She drank for 45 years.She got sober at 63. And she’s telling the kind of truth most people spend a lifetime avoiding. In this raw, no‑filters chat, Suzie opens up about hermemoir The Hole in the Soul: From Chaos to Clarity — a storybuilt on addiction, jail time, broken relationships, spiritual bankruptcy… and the long road to redemption. We talk about what it’s really like when: Alcohol feels like the love of your life — until it turns on you. You drink against your own will. Relapse knocks you flat after years of “doing so well.” The shame is quiet, but it’s everywhere. And one moment in a bar changes everything. This isn’t a shiny recovery story. It’s real — messy, confronting, and deeply human. Why this conversation hits different: Most stories about addiction tidy up the truth. Suzie doesn’t. She doesn’t sell hope — she lives it, one day, one choice at a time. If you’ve ever felt: Stuck in habits you hate Afraid you’ve gone too far to come back Tired of pretending everything’s fine This conversation’s for you. 🎧 Listen now: SuzieBrowne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63. Follow Slaying Sober for more real, honest stories that cut through the noise. And if someone you love needs to hear this… send it their way. Because sometimes, the path to clarity really doesbegin in chaos. #AddictionRecovery #SobrietyStories #NeverTooLate#HealingJourney #RealTalk #FromChaosToClarity #SlayingSober Suzie Browne – A Hole in the Soul Available here: www.amazon.com.au/Hole-Soul-Suzie-Browne/dp/1764350502
Dale - Boys Do Cry: You Get What You Earn
53 min
This is not just a sobriety story — it’s a fatherhood, identity, and transformation story. In this deeply honest episode of Slaying Sober, James sits down with Dale, a husband, father, musician, powerlifter, and recovering alcoholic, to unpack how casual drinking quietly turned into isolation, shame, and dependency — and how choosing sobriety gave him the life he never thought possible. From hiding cans and drinking alone… to journaling, setting boundaries, and becoming the dad his kids have never seenwith a drink in his hand — this conversation hits where ithurts and where it heals. • A real story of functional alcoholism that manyrelate to but rarely admit • The emotional moment that made him say: “I have a problem” • How fatherhood became the non-negotiable reason to quit • Sobriety without AA — journaling, honesty, and community instead • Why strength training, routine, and kindness became survival tools • A powerful reminder: you don’t miss what alcohol took from you until it’s gone Drinking alone, shame, and hiding in plain sight Emotional regulation through alcohol — and what happens when it stops working Crying, masculinity, and learning to feel again Marriage, boundaries, and outgrowing old friendships Why sobriety didn’t make life smaller — it made it meaningful 00:01 What truly brings joy after addiction 04:33 When weekend drinking became daily drinking 06:02 Drinking alone, shame, and isolation 12:22 What “rock bottom” actually looked like 18:25 “I think I have a problem” — the turning point 21:42 Choosing sobriety without an end date 24:26 Tattoos, mantras, and earning your life back 26:40 Crying, kids, and emotional presence 29:00 Fatherhood as the ultimate why 32:45 Journaling, talking, and staying sober 36:14 Helping others and receiving it back 42:12 “I hope I never drink again” If you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol, this episode is for you. If you’re sober-curious, struggling quietly, or supporting someone who is — this episode ma...
Part 2 - Amber - From Ice House Hell to Clean at 19
46 min
She was using ice through needles, selling her body at 17, and disappearing from herself—until one moment of surrender changed everything Amber’s story on the Slaying Sober podcast is raw, confronting, and deeply hopeful.From growing up in Australia’s heavy drinking culture to teenage substance use, sex work, and intravenous ice addiction, Amber takes us through the unfiltered reality of addiction—and the quiet power of recovery. Now three years sober through a 12-step program, Amber shares how detox, ninemonths of rehab, daily sponsor calls, and relentless honesty helped her rebuild a life she never thought she deserved. This episode dives into youth mental health, neurodivergence, codependency, and what it really means to surrender when you’ve tried everything else. She also opens up about her 20-hour silence challenge for youth mental health—transforming loneliness into peace—and how recovery taught her authenticity after years of masking, bullying, and emotional neglect. This is not a glamorized recovery story. It’s real, uncomfortable, and proof that sobriety works—even when you’re young, broken, and convinced you’re too far gone. •From first drink at 14 to drug-induced psychosis •Losing 30kg in one month during active addiction •Ice addiction through pipes and needles •Sex work, court bonds, and criminal survival •The moment of rock bottom that sparked change •Why surrender isn’t weakness—it’s freedom •“Find better meetings like you found better drugs” Sobriety Milestones: Clean since November 21, 2022 | Detox + 9-month rehab | 4–5meetings weekly Recovery Tools: 12-step fellowship, sponsor accountability, grounding practices, service work Personal Growth: From people-pleasing and masking to self-acceptance and advocacy Challenges Overcome: Ice addiction, sex work from age 17, psychosis, emotional abandonment 00:01:19– Silence challenge: boredom vs peace 02:11:00– Alcohol normalized in childhood 07:20:00– Drugs used to quiet the mind (neurodivergen...
Part 1 - Amber -From Ice House Hell to Clean at 19
35 min
She was using ice through needles, selling her body at 17, and disappearing from herself—until one moment of surrender changed everything Amber’s story on the Slaying Sober podcast is raw, confronting, and deeply hopeful.From growing up in Australia’s heavy drinking culture to teenage substance use, sex work, and intravenous ice addiction, Amber takes us through the unfiltered reality of addiction—and the quiet power of recovery. Now three years sober through a 12-step program, Amber shares how detox, nine months of rehab, daily sponsor calls, and relentless honesty helped her rebuild a life she never thought she deserved. This episode dives into youth mentalhealth, neurodivergence, codependency, and what it really means to surrender when you’ve tried everything else. She also opens up about her 20-hour silence challenge for youth mental health—transforming loneliness into peace—and how recovery taught her authenticity after years of masking, bullying, and emotional neglect. This is not a glamorized recovery story. It’s real, uncomfortable, and proof thatsobriety works—even when you’re young, broken, and convinced you’re too far gone. •From first drink at 14 to drug-induced psychosis •Losing 30kg in one month during active addiction •Ice addiction through pipes and needles •Sex work, court bonds, and criminal survival •The moment of rock bottom that sparked change •Why surrender isn’t weakness—it’s freedom •“Find better meetings like you found better drugs” Sobriety Milestones: Clean since November 21, 2022 | Detox + 9-month rehab | 4–5 meetings weekly Recovery Tools: 12-step fellowship, sponsor accountability, grounding practices, servicework Personal Growth: From people-pleasing and masking to self-acceptance and advocacy Challenges Overcome: Ice addiction, sex work from age 17, psychosis, emotional abandonment 00:01:19– Silence challenge: boredom vs peace 02:11:00– Alcohol normalized in childhood 07:20:00– Drugs used to quiet the mind (neurodivergence)...
Jasmine - So close to help, but still drowning
42 min
Jasmine shares her raw journey from childhood trauma and weekend partying in Melbourne to a devastating Mother's Day crisis that sparked her path to recovery on Slaying Sober. Her story challenges addiction stereotypes, proving anyone can get clean—no matter the mold. Discover tools like NA meetings, boundaries, andsober love that fueled her transformation. Childhood Roots: Single mum's sacrifices amid poverty, absent dad, family losses like stillborn sibling. Teen Beginnings: First sips at 9-10, binge drinking by 16, daily weed with best friend worsening anxiety/depression. Trauma Spiral: Family violence, assaults, abusive partner; drugs as escape, escalating to pills, speed, coke, ketamine post-breakup. Rock Bottom: Mother's Day 2025—manipulating friends for drugs, suicidal thoughts, dad/step-mum rescue; feeling trapped despite knowing resources. Recovery Wins: First NA meeting shatters loneliness, sober partner via Hinge, therapy, gym/nature, selective social drinking; boundaries with using dad. 01:51– Mum's sacrifices, pure love despite poverty. 03:21– Fond memories: free activities, quality time. 06:50– First alcohol at 9, weed/partying escalation. 09:59– Trauma unpacked: dad's absence, assaults, violence. 14:44– Post-18 drug rampage, controlling ex's ultimatum. 21:42– Mother's Day breakdown, suicide contemplation. 29:15– NA breakthrough, meeting sober partner. 33:55– Tools: boundaries, gym, nature, community. 40:59– Advice: Go all-in on recovery, no mold required. Sobriety journey, addiction recovery Melbourne, trauma healing, party girl clean, NA meetings beginners, Mother's Day rock bottom, sober dating Hinge, setting boundaries dad, weekend warrior sober, mental health drugs anxiety. "Party girl ends up in carpark with strangers on Mother's Day—her suicide scare that saved her [Listen Now]" Slaying Sober delivers unfiltered Aussie recovery tales—like Jasmine's—that shatter "hardcore addict only" myths, blending trauma truths, practical tools (...
Nicole - The Co-dependents Guide to Walking Beside Addiction
1 hr 4 min
Summary In this conversation, Nicole shares her journey of healing alongside her husband's battle with addiction. She discusses the challenges faced by families of addicts, the importance of self-care, and the need for open communication. Nicole emphasizes the significance of understanding co-dependency and the impact of trauma on relationships. The discussion also highlights the process of rebuilding trust and making amends, as well as the necessity of creating safe spaces for vulnerability and connection. Takeaways Both partners in a relationship affected by addiction have their own healing journeys. Codependency can lead to neglecting one's own needs and well-being. Trauma can stack and complicate the healing process for families. Open communication is essential for rebuilding trust in relationships. Self-care is crucial for those supporting loved ones with addiction. Recognizing signs of addiction can be challenging, especially with silent struggles. Creating safe spaces for vulnerability fosters connection and healing. Making amends requires transparency and accountability from the recovering partner. Emotional sobriety is as important as physical sobriety in recovery. The ripple effect of addiction impacts not just the individual but their entire family.
Christmas Bonus Episode- Chats with Sammy
44 min
In this conversation, James and Sammy discuss their experiences with sobriety during the festive season, sharing personal stories and insights on navigating Christmas parties without alcohol. They emphasize the importance of being present with family, preparing for holiday gatherings, and supporting one another in their recovery journeys. The discussion also touches on the emotional challenges that can arise during this time of year, as well as practical tips for thriving at Christmas parties.
S3 E9 - Ashley Smith - Breaking the Cycle Tassie - A Story of Resilience
39 min
Summary In this conversation, Ashley Smith shares his journey from addiction to recovery, discussing the challenges he faced growing up in Tasmania, his struggles with substance abuse, and his commitment to helping at-risk youth. He emphasizes the importance of breaking the cycle of addiction and the role of community support in fostering resilience and hope. Ashley also highlights his recent initiatives to empower young people and create positive change in his community, showcasing his passion for making a difference. Takeaways Breaking the cycle of addiction is crucial for personal and community healing. Conversations about addiction and mental health are more accepted today than in the past. Ashley aims to empower at-risk youth through mentorship and community events. His childhood was marked by struggles with family addiction and mental health issues. Ashley experienced severe consequences from his addiction, including multiple hospital visits and prison sentences. A turning point in his life came after a near-fatal overdose. He found purpose in helping others, which aids his own recovery. Ashley emphasizes the importance of community support in overcoming addiction. He is committed to creating non-profit initiatives to support youth in Tasmania. Ashley believes that true happiness comes from meaningful connections and helping others, not material wealth.
S3 E8 - Faye -Blackouts, Heartbreak and the moment Faye finally chose herself.
47 min
In this conversation, Faye Louise Hughes shares her journey of sobriety, discussing the impact of alcohol on her life, relationships, and mental health. She reflects on her childhood associations with drinking, the challenges of navigating social situations without alcohol, and the profound changes she has experienced in her relationships and self-love since becoming sober. Faye emphasizes the importance of focusing on what one gains from sobriety rather than what is lost, and she highlights the significance of emotional sobriety and self-reflection in her recovery journey. Takeaways Podcasts were crucial in my sobriety journey. Alcohol-free drinks can be triggering for some. Celebrating milestones in sobriety is important. Childhood experiences shape our relationship with alcohol. Family dynamics can influence drinking habits. Anxiety often follows a night of drinking. Sobriety allows for deeper connections with family. Self-love is a key component of recovery. The first 100 days of sobriety are transformative. Focusing on gains rather than losses is essential.
S3 Ep. 7 - Jared - Bed Wetters Vs Bag Snatchers
40 min
What the conversation covers Jared’s “normal” Aussie upbringing, love of surfing and metal music, and early experiences with alcohol. How drinking escalated in his late teens and 20s around clubs, footy, bands, and mates, leading to blackouts, fights, guilt, relationship breakdown, and large unpaid fines. The point nine years earlier where he decided to stop drinking after another destructive binge and ongoing shame, including how publicly declaring his intent to quit and a court decision wiping $62,000 in fines became a turning point he sees as a “higher power” moment. Jared initially tried to stay sober mostly on his own, attending a few AA meetings, taking some tools, then “white‑knuckling” it for about seven years, still carrying a lot of self‑hate and ego. Returning to 12‑step meetings as a support person for his partner humbled him; finding a sponsor and doing the steps shifted him from merely not drinking to actually healing emotionally and spiritually. He describes the steps as a way of living that reduced his anger (for example, road rage), helped him forgive himself, and allowed him to genuinely like and love who he is. Jared and James talk about the stigma of addiction and how many people in recovery hide their past because they feel shame, even after getting sober. Jared founded “University of Sober Living” as a clothing brand and community to give people in recovery a visible, pride‑based identity, plus a website where people can reach out for support outside formal 12‑step rooms. Both men emphasise “recovering loudly so others don’t die in silence,” and how being open about sobriety prompts others at footy clubs, gyms, or social circles to quietly ask for help. Jared explains how alcohol contributed to the breakdown of his relationship with his children’s mother and how he prioritised drinking over family, though he avoided drinking directly in front of his kids. He and his current partner are both in recovery; she is also a carer for a sever...
Bonus Episode - Chats with Sammy
1 hr 15 min
Old drinking buddies, sharing war stories, laughs and sober inspiration. Get ready to laugh, and maybe cry, as Sammy and James chat about their Summary In this episode, James and Levvo reconnect over their shared experiences of sobriety and reminisce about their wild days living in a pub in Bristol. They explore the impact of alcohol on their lives, the friendships formed during that time, and the entrepreneurial spirit that emerged from their drinking culture. Through humorous anecdotes and reflective insights, they discuss the challenges of navigating sobriety and the lessons learned from their past. In this conversation, Levo and James Date discuss their journeys of sobriety, the challenges they faced, and the rewards they have experienced since giving up alcohol. They explore the social aspects of drinking, the struggle with moderation, and the importance of self-reflection and honesty in their recovery. The discussion also touches on the impact of sports culture on drinking habits and the fulfillment they find in their lives post-alcohol. They emphasize that anyone can achieve sobriety and that the journey is worth it, sharing personal anecdotes and insights along the way. Takeaways We shared an enthusiasm for sobriety. Living in a pub created lifelong friendships. Drinking was a daily routine without fail. We were enablers in our drinking culture. The Naked Bacon Bet was a wild experience. The 10 Quid Challenge showcased our creativity. Induction at the cider bar was a rite of passage. Alcohol was deeply ingrained in our social lives. Sobriety has led to self-discovery and growth. Reflecting on past behaviors brings both laughter and shame. Sobriety can feel foreign, especially in social situations. Non-alcoholic beers can be a social alternative. The decision to stop drinking can lead to profound personal rewards. Self-reflection is crucial in the journey of sobriety. Moderation can be a difficult battle for many. Past experiences shape our current perspe...
S3 Ep. 6 - Jake - A safe place to be vulnerable
33 min
Summary In this conversation, Jake shares his transformative journey from prison to recovery, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, daily practices, and helping others. He reflects on his past, the significance of his relationships, particularly with his grandmother, and the spiritual symbolism of his experiences. Jake highlights the power of community and support in overcoming addiction and encourages others to take steps towards a better life. Takeaways Jake was given a second chance after prison. He faced a pivotal moment to change his life. Vulnerability is key to forming connections. Rehab taught him the importance of honesty. He experienced a spiritual awakening during recovery. Daily practices like breath work are essential for him. Helping others is a crucial part of his recovery. His relationship with his grandmother is foundational. Symbolism in his life events helped him heal. Jake believes dreams can come true with effort.
S3 Ep. 5 - Gary - Wanted to be something different
44 min
Welcome to Slaying Sober. Today, James speaks with Gary, whose early life was inspired by the gangster lifestyle and led him to time in max security prison. Gary’s journey of breaking free from addiction and crime in Perth proves that no cycle is unbreakable, and hope is always within reach. Takeaways: Gary shares his journey of addiction and recovery. He emphasizes the importance of self-love in overcoming addiction. The role of environment and relationships in addiction is crucial. Gary discusses the challenges of staying sober after recovery. He highlights the significance of community support in recovery. Nature and mindfulness are key tools for healing. Gary's story illustrates the impact of trauma on addiction. He believes in the power of personal stories to inspire others. Gary's relationship with his partner has been a source of strength. He stresses the need for internal work to achieve lasting sobriety. Summary In this conversation, Gary shares his profound journey from addiction to recovery, emphasizing the importance of self-love, community support, and the role of nature in healing. He discusses the challenges faced during his addiction, the impact of his environment, and the significance of relationships in his recovery process. Gary's story serves as an inspiration for those struggling with addiction, highlighting the internal work required to achieve lasting sobriety. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Early Reflections 07:51 Breaking the Cycle of Addiction 10:51 Life After Prison 13:32 The Turning Point: Finding Love 22:26 Self-Love and Recovery 23:57 Articulation and Connection in Recovery 24:37 The Journey to Sobriety: Personal Experiences 25:40 Changing Environments for Recovery 26:25 Building Community in Recovery 27:23 Strength Through Overcoming Addiction 28:12 Daily Practices for Recovery 29:11 Celebrating Progress in Recovery 30:04 The Role of Social Media in Recovery 31:48 Expectations of Praise in Sobriety 32:55 Facing Criticism and Nays...
S3 Ep. 4 - Nicki - Mummy wine time
46 min
Summary In this conversation, Nicki shares her inspiring journey of overcoming alcohol addiction, detailing her experiences from childhood through to her current nine months of sobriety. She discusses the early signs of her drinking habits, the escalation into dependency, the impact on her marriage, and the pivotal moment that led her to seek help. Nicki emphasizes the importance of community support, self-love, and the ongoing nature of recovery, highlighting the positive changes in her life since becoming sober. Takeaways Nicki has been sober for nine months and feels amazing.She experienced early drinking habits as a way to gain confidence.Alcohol became a coping mechanism for her anxiety.Nicki's marriage was affected by both partners being heavy drinkers.She sought help after realizing her drinking was unmanageable.Rehab provided her with tools to face her problems without alcohol.Nicki emphasizes the importance of gratitude in her recovery.She encourages others to seek help and not to do it alone.Her children are now proud of her journey and recovery.Nicki believes that the journey of recovery is beautiful and transformative.Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Early Sobriety Journey 04:34 First Experiences with Alcohol 06:07 Escalation into Substance Use 07:43 Motherhood and Alcohol's Role 09:15 Anxiety and Reliance on Alcohol 11:27 Social Drinking and Community Expectations 12:48 Realization of Drinking Problems 13:28 Marriage Breakdown and Alcohol's Impact 14:23 Attempts to Seek Help 16:36 Understanding Addiction and Its Progression 18:38 The Turning Point to Sobriety 22:50 Final Steps to Recovery 23:58 The Decision to Seek Help 25:48 Experiences in Rehab 27:55 The Importance of Support 30:54 Overcoming Guilt and Embracing Recovery 33:03 Role Modeling for Children 35:51 Finding Happiness in Sobriety 37:52 Tools for Ongoing Recovery 41:40 The Power of Vulnerability and Community 45:52 OUTRO SS.wav
S3. -BONUS Episode - Sam - the dark side
17 min
We discuss the downside of a bikie lifestyle, drugs in prison, psychosis, guns, suicide and desperation. As well as some witty insights from Sam. Summary In this conversation, Sam shares his journey from addiction to recovery, emphasizing the importance of mentorship and personal stories in helping others. He discusses the glamorization of gang life and the harsh realities of addiction, highlighting the need for a more effective rehabilitation system. The conversation also touches on generational trauma and the impact of societal perceptions on individuals struggling with addiction.
S3 Ep. 3 - Sam -is Unbreakable
1 hr 6 min
Summary In this conversation, Sam shares his journey from addiction to recovery, emphasizing the importance of healing past traumas and the role of mentorship in helping others. He discusses his early experiences with drugs, the escalation of his addiction, and the realization that true peace comes from within rather than from external sources. Sam reflects on the sense of belonging he found in unhealthy environments and the turning point that led him to seek help in rehab. In this conversation, Sam shares his profound journey of recovery from addiction, emphasizing the importance of compassion, support, and understanding the roots of addiction. He discusses the role of somatic therapy in emotional healing and the significance of establishing a daily routine to maintain sobriety. Sam highlights the transformative power of relationships, particularly with his mother and wife, and reflects on the importance of self-love and positive self-talk in the recovery process. The conversation culminates in a celebration of personal growth and the impact of recovery on family dynamics. Takeaways Unbreakable means healing past traumas and fears. Helping others transition from broken to unbreakable. Service to others is crucial in recovery. Childhood experiences shape our future behaviors. Drugs initially provided a sense of peace. Chasing happiness can lead to disappointment. Finding true connection is essential for recovery. Addiction manifests in various forms beyond drugs. Belonging can be found in unhealthy environments. Trust and compassion can spark change. Sam's journey of recovery involved breaking trust with his mother. Compassion from others helped Sam learn to be compassionate to himself. Understanding the root causes of addiction is crucial for recovery. Somatic therapy can help release trauma stored in the body. Establishing a daily routine is essential for maintaining sobriety. Self-love and positive self-talk are powerful tools in recovery. Compassionate rel...
S3 Ep. 2 - Andrew - is 40 years Sober!
1 hr 14 min
Summary In this conversation, Andrew shares his profound journey from addiction to recovery, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, community, and the role of golf in his life. He reflects on his early experiences, the challenges he faced, and how he found solace and purpose through therapy and vulnerability. Andrew discusses the significance of surrendering to life's challenges and the opportunities that arise in recovery, ultimately leading to a fulfilling life as a professional golfer. Takeaways Golf is a metaphor for life and self-discovery. Serenity enhances performance in challenging activities. Addiction often stems from unresolved trauma. Community support is crucial in recovery. Therapy plays a vital role in healing past wounds. Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Surrendering to circumstances opens up new opportunities. Recovery is about taking responsibility for one's life. Building a new life requires effort and commitment. Finding passion can lead to personal fulfillment. Chapters 00:00 The Challenge of Golf and Mindfulness 03:02 Navigating Life and Sobriety 05:54 Reflections on Early Sobriety 08:40 Childhood and Adoption 12:03 The Impact of Trauma 15:00 The Journey into Alcohol and Drugs 17:47 The First Experience with Alcohol 20:35 Consequences of Addiction 23:58 Life in the Cycle of Addiction 26:49 Incarceration and Its Lessons 29:31 The Turning Point to Recovery 37:40 The Journey to Rehab 40:36 Life in Rehab: Structure and Community 44:48 Transitioning to Life After Rehab 48:02 The Role of Responsibility in Recovery 55:43 Surrender and Acceptance in Recovery 01:00:56 Finding Freedom Through Vulnerability 01:08:28 The Power of Therapy and Community 01:12:56 Pursuing Passions: Golf and Personal Growth
Season 3 - Ep. 1 - Dolly - is not mediocre
31 min
In this conversation, Dolly shares her journey from loneliness and addiction to recovery and empowerment. She discusses the creation of SOS Melbourne, a community aimed at supporting women in sobriety, and reflects on the impact of her upbringing and relationships on her drinking habits. Dolly emphasizes the importance of faith in her recovery, the rewards of being a present parent, and the need for social spaces that do not revolve around alcohol. The discussion highlights the growing movement against the normalization of drinking culture, particularly among mothers. Takeaways Dolly created SOS Melbourne to fill a gap in sobriety support for women.She felt lonely in her recovery journey and sought community.Dolly's childhood experiences shaped her relationship with alcohol.Binge drinking was normalized in her social circles, complicating her perception of addiction.Finding love and starting a family prompted Dolly to reassess her drinking habits.COVID-19 intensified the pressures of 'mummy wine culture'.Dolly's faith played a crucial role in her recovery process.She emphasizes the importance of being a reliable parent post-recovery.Dolly's community events focus on socializing without alcohol.The movement against alcohol normalization is gaining momentum. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene 03:06 Creating a Supportive Community for Women in Sobriety 06:08 Personal Journey: Growing Up with Alcoholism 09:00 The Role of Alcohol in Social Life 11:53 Recognizing the Problem: A Turning Point 14:25 Navigating Recovery: AA and Beyond 15:46 Navigating Recovery and Support Systems 16:31 The Role of Faith in Personal Transformation 18:22 Finding Peace Through Faith 20:13 The Journey of Recovery and Relapse 21:49 Rediscovering Self and Purpose 23:14 The Impact of Sobriety on Parenting 25:43 Challenging Societal Norms Around Alcohol 27:33 Building a Supportive Community 29:22 Creating Meaningful Connections Without Alcohol 30:53 OUTRO SS.wav
S2 E5 - Simon -from chaos to connection
1 hr 16 min
In this conversation, Simon shares his profound journey through addiction, recovery, and personal transformation. He reflects on the pivotal moments that led him to sobriety, the importance of spirituality, and the role of literature in his life. Simon discusses his early experiences with substances, the escalation of his addiction, and the impact on his relationships, particularly with his children and their mother. He emphasizes the significance of community, the 12-step program, and the ongoing process of making amends and finding balance in recovery. Ultimately, Simon highlights the gift of recovery as a pathway to love, connection, and a fulfilling life. Take Aways: Your outlook on life will change through recovery.Reading can be a healthy escape from reality.Celebrating milestones in sobriety is important.Spiritual connections can provide strength in recovery.First experiences with substances often shape future behaviors.Addiction can escalate quickly and impact relationships.Recovery often requires multiple attempts and support.Living the steps is a continuous process in recovery.Finding balance in life is crucial for sustained sobriety.The journey of recovery can lead to deeper connections with family.Transformative Reflections on SobrietyThe Power of Reading and Escaping Through Books "I just wanted the head to stop." "I was a narcissistic a*****e." "I just didn't want to die." Chapters 00:00The Journey to Fitness and Recovery 02:09Navigating AA and NA: A Personal Perspective 04:40Spirituality and Connection: The Role of Faith 11:20First Encounters with Substance: A Path to Addiction 21:29The Descent into Addiction: A Personal Story 28:38Family Life and Addiction: The Struggle Within 32:41Struggles with Promises and Self-Realization 35:37Escaping Reality: The Downward Spiral 40:14The First Attempt at Recovery 45:32Lessons from Rehab: Listening and Learning 50:05Navigating Early Recovery: Meetings and Support 56:15The Role of the Steps in Recovery 01:01:...
S2 E4 - Jess Kennedy - ADHD & Addiction
1 hr 17 min
- Jess Kennedy shares her journey with addiction and recovery.Her first experience with alcohol was at age 12, linked to trauma.Growing up with ADHD, Jess felt out of place in her environment.She became a high functioning addict, masking her struggles.The stigma of addiction often overlooks high functioning individuals.Jess's overdose at work was a pivotal moment in her life.Detoxing during COVID-19 presented unique challenges.Reaching out for help was a crucial step in her recovery.Jess was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and PTSD during her recovery.She emphasizes the importance of understanding mental health in addiction. Navigating psychotic episodes can lead to profound realizations about one's mental health.Receiving a diagnosis can be a relief, shifting the perception from being an addict to being someone in need of help.Medication can stabilize bipolar disorder, but finding the right one can take time.Complex PTSD can stem from various traumas, including addiction and societal pressures.Building a supportive network is crucial for recovery, even if it means losing some friends along the way.Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining recovery and mental health.Celebrating milestones in recovery can reinforce positive changes and connections.Relationships can change significantly during recovery, revealing true friends and support.Advocacy for mental health awareness is vital to reduce stigma and promote understanding.Language matters; terms like 'neuro-spicy' can undermine the seriousness of ADHD and other conditions.There is a significant correlation between ADHD and addiction, highlighting the need for proper diagnosis and treatment.Access to ADHD diagnosis and treatment is crucial for preventing addiction and improving lives.Children with ADHD face unique challenges that require understanding and support from parents and educators.Finding purpose in advocacy can help others navigate their mental health journeys. In this conversation, Jess Kennedy sha...
S2 E3 - Michael - the Gift of Desperation
1 hr 26 min
In this raw and heartfelt conversation, we follow Michaels powerful journey through addiction, rock bottom, and the road to recovery. From the early influences of family, sports like footy, and the rebellious spirit of punk rock—to the dark periods of COVID isolation, 8am bottle shop runs, and car crashes. With unflinching honesty, our guest opens up about the pain, the pivotal moments of change, and the small victories that led to lasting transformation. This episode is more than just a story — it’s a message of hope. Listeners will discover how vulnerability, community, and self-awareness can become lifelines in the darkest moments, and how recovery is both a daily challenge and a deeply rewarding gift. If you’ve ever struggled with addiction, loved someone who has, or simply want to understand the human side of recovery, this conversation will leave you inspired and uplifted. Key Takeaways from the Episode Addiction can grow from a mix of life experiences — including family dynamics, early passions, and personal struggles. Every “rock bottom” is unique — there is no one-size-fits-all turning point. True recovery thrives on connection, community, and support. Vulnerability and honesty are powerful tools for lasting change. Substance use often hides deeper pain or unresolved emotional wounds. Recovery is not a destination — it’s an ongoing journey that requires daily commitment. Awareness of addiction’s consequences can be a catalyst for transformation. Music and sports can be vital sources of identity and healing. Our upbringing and family environment shape how we relate to substances. Finding meaning, purpose, and hope in recovery can inspire others and spark change.
S2 E2 P2 - Cath - Breaking the Cycle - a survivor, and her dog. Part 2
54 min
Part Two of Caths Amazing Story In this powerful episode of Slaying Sober, Cath opens up about her deeply personal journey through addiction, relationships, and the road to recovery. From the early days of experimenting with substances in her social circles, to finding escape through sports and eventually facing life-altering injuries, Cath’s story is one of resilience and transformation.She shares candid reflections on codependency, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, and her struggles with mental health and substance use. Listeners will hear how moments of comfort—like her bond with her dog—provided hope amidst chaos, and how her lowest points led to criminal behavior and difficult choices. Cath describes the pivotal moment of discovering her pregnancy, which inspired her to turn her life around. She takes us through the challenging yet transformative experience of asking for help, the importance of family support, and the invaluable lessons learned in rehab. This episode highlights the lifelong commitment that recovery requires, the importance of building new, healthy relationships, and the strength found in spirituality and self-care. Cath’s journey is a testament to the healing power of community, vulnerability, and never giving up. Tune in to Slaying Sober for an honest, relatable, and ultimately inspiring episode about overcoming addiction, reclaiming purpose, and the daily dedication needed to slay sober.
S2 E2 - Cath - Breaking the Cycle - a survivor, and her dog. Part 1
35 min
In this powerful episode of Slaying Sober, Cath opens up about her deeply personal journey through addiction, relationships, and the road to recovery. From the early days of experimenting with substances in her social circles, to finding escape through sports and eventually facing life-altering injuries, Cath’s story is one of resilience and transformation.She shares candid reflections on codependency, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, and her struggles with mental health and substance use. Listeners will hear how moments of comfort—like her bond with her dog—provided hope amidst chaos, and how her lowest points led to criminal behavior and difficult choices. Cath describes the pivotal moment of discovering her pregnancy, which inspired her to turn her life around. She takes us through the challenging yet transformative experience of asking for help, the importance of family support, and the invaluable lessons learned in rehab. This episode highlights the lifelong commitment that recovery requires, the importance of building new, healthy relationships, and the strength found in spirituality and self-care. Cath’s journey is a testament to the healing power of community, vulnerability, and never giving up. Tune in to Slaying Sober for an honest, relatable, and ultimately inspiring episode about overcoming addiction, reclaiming purpose, and the daily dedication needed to slay sober.
S2 E1 - Tom Rockliff - from AFL to Abstinence
43 min
In this conversation, Tom shares his experiences growing up in Benella, the drinking culture in country footy, and his transition to playing in the AFL. He discusses the challenges he faced after retiring from football, including mental health struggles and the impact of alcohol on his life. Tom reflects on his journey to sobriety, the benefits he has experienced, and the importance of giving back through coaching. He encourages others to consider sobriety and shares insights on the cultural significance of drinking in Australia. Tom had a dream childhood in country Victoria.Drinking culture in AFL clubs has evolved over time. Peer pressure to drink during his football career.Tom's transition to life after football was challenging.He found clarity and mental health benefits in sobriety.Tom emphasizes the importance of mental health and seeing a psychologist.He believes drinking often leads to poor choices and negative outcomes.Tom enjoys coaching and giving back to the community.He feels more attentive and present as a father since stopping drinking.Tom encourages others to try sobriety for a month to see the benefits.
Ep 8 - Emmzz - "What goes up, must come down"
1 hr 1 min
In this conversation, Emmzz shares her journey from a troubled childhood in Melbourne to a life marked by substance abuse, motherhood, and ultimately recovery. She reflects on her early experiences with substances, the challenges of teenage years, and the impact of becoming a young mother. Emmzz discusses the downward spiral of addiction, hitting rock bottom, and the pivotal moment that led her to seek help through rehab. Now, as a grandmother and a woman in recovery, she emphasizes the importance of family relationships, personal growth, and her aspirations to help others facing similar struggles Emmzz grew up in Melbourne Her first experiences with substances began in childhood with playful mimicry.Teenage years saw a progression into smoking and partying.Becoming a young mother at 20 changed her life dramatically.She struggled with substance use while navigating motherhood.Hitting rock bottom led her to seek help and enter rehab.Recovery has allowed her to rebuild relationships with her family.Becoming a grandmother has been a transformative experience for her.Emmzz is now focused on giving back and helping others in recovery.She is pursuing a career in addiction support and mental health.
Ep 7 - Emma - from Fear to Faith: God is what saved me
1 hr 12 min
Emma shares her tumultuous journey from a chaotic childhood filled with abuse and bullying to a life of addiction and eventual recovery. Through her experiences, she highlights the importance of family, faith, and community support in overcoming addiction. Emma's story is one of resilience, showcasing how she found hope and purpose in her life after hitting rock bottom. She emphasizes the significance of mental health advocacy and the need for support systems for those struggling with addiction. Emma's childhood was marked by chaos and dysfunction.She experienced bullying and abuse, leading to early substance use.Coping mechanisms included drugs and unhealthy relationships.Emma's addiction spiraled out of control, leading to multiple rock bottoms.Family dynamics played a crucial role in her recovery journey.Faith and spirituality became pivotal in her healing process.Emma advocates for mental health awareness and support for addiction.She emphasizes the importance of community and connection in recovery.Emma's story illustrates the possibility of redemption and hope.Recovery requires ongoing effort and commitment to change.
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