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We are a podcast sharing BDSM articles from Submissive Guide. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.Since 2009, Submissive Guide's mission has been to provide down to earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.No matter where you are in your submissive journey, we'll be there.

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Podcast Swap: Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues - Let’s Talk D/s with DomSubLiving | Submissive Guide

47 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. This episode is a little different from the usual Submissive Guide Podcast. I recently did a podcast swap with Alesandra from Dom Sub Living. She is sharing one of my episodes with her audience, and I’m sharing one of theirs with you so we can introduce our communities to another source of BDSM education and another perspective on living D/s in everyday life. For this swap, I chose an episode where Alesandra and her Dominant, Jay, answer questions submitted by members of the Dom Sub Living community. It’s a bit of a sampler platter of D/s topics. In this episode, they talk about: shifting from work mode into submissive headspacefinding kink community when fear or uncertainty gets in the waydeciding how much to share about D/s with familyrelationships where both partners identify as Dominantlong-distance D/s, rules, aftercare, and sub dropexploring both sides of the slash as a switchpunishment and learning within a dynamicdifferent approaches to dirty talkOne of the reasons I enjoy hearing other educators answer familiar questions is that there is rarely one universal way to build a D/s relationship. What works for Alesandra and Jay may look different from what works in my dynamic or yours, and those differences can give us new things to think about. I hope you enjoy this visit from Dom Sub Living. Learn more about Dom Sub Living: https://domsubliving.com/ Listen to the original episode and read their accompanying notes: https://domsubliving.com/podcast/  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. __...

A Submissive’s Rosary: Using Ritual and Repetition to Deepen Devotion | Submissive Guide

18 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Ritual can be a powerful part of submission, but it does not have to be elaborate, formal, or religious to be meaningful. Sometimes, a repeated phrase, a familiar posture, or the feel of beads moving through your fingers can help quiet the mind and bring you back to your submission with more intention. In this episode, Luna explores the idea of a submissive’s rosary as one example of devotional ritual in D/s. Instead of focusing on the rosary as something every submissive should use, this conversation looks at the deeper purpose behind ritual, repetition, and tactile meditation. You’ll learn how repeated actions can help create focus, why ritual can bring peace and grounding to submission, and how to adapt devotional practices in a way that respects religious structures, personal boundaries, and the unique needs of your own dynamic. Whether you are drawn to prayer beads, kneeling rituals, affirmations, meditation, or simple moments of quiet reflection, this episode invites you to think about how ritual can help you return to your submission with care, consent, and intention. In This Episode What makes a ritual devotional in D/sWhy repetition can help quiet the mindHow prayer beads, rosaries, malas, and other counting tools support meditationUsing ritual to reconnect with service, surrender, gratitude, and peaceWhy a submissive’s rosary is one example, not a universal templateRespectfully adapting religious or spiritual structuresChoosing words, posture, and physical anchors for your own ritualHow ritual can support submission without erasing autonomyWhy devotional submission should remain consensual, conscious, and self-awareHow small repeated practices can deepen your connection to your role Resources & Links 📖 Read the companion article: “A Submissive’s Rosary: Using Ritual and Repetition to Deepen Devotion” on Submissive Guide 🎓 Want to go deeper? Join the Student Tier on Submissive Guide Patreon for...

The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You | Submissive Guide

15 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. When people first begin exploring BDSM, they often look for a giant checklist full of every kink activity imaginable. But real scene planning is rarely about checking boxes or trying to prove how adventurous you are. It’s about building experiences that feel intentional, safe, exciting, and satisfying for everyone involved. In this episode, Luna breaks down a more practical approach to negotiation and scene planning using a simple YES / NO / MAYBE framework, emotional intention setting, and real-world communication strategies that actually help scenes go smoothly. You’ll learn why the mood of a scene matters more than an endless activity list, how to negotiate with more confidence, and why logistics, boundaries, communication, and aftercare deserve just as much attention as the fantasy itself. Whether you’re completely new to BDSM or looking to improve your scene negotiations, this episode offers practical tools you can immediately bring into your next play experience. In This Episode Why giant BDSM checklists often fail peopleHow to build a practical YES / NO / MAYBE listStarting with emotional tone instead of activitiesDiscussing limits, boundaries, and sensitivitiesWhy compatibility matters more than shared interestsMapping the emotional arc of a sceneCommunication systems and safety check-insNegotiating aftercare before play beginsThe importance of logistics and realistic planning Resources & Links 📖 Read the companion article:  “The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You” on Submissive Guide Here are two BDSM Checklists that I especially like: Before Scene Interview by Norische‘Not a Checklist’ Negotiation Sheet for BDSM Bottoms by Tornus (PDF)🎓 Want to go deeper?  Join the Student Tier on Submissive Guide Patreon for classes, worksheets, discussion prompts, live events, and exclusive BDSM education resources.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen hel...

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Podcast Swap: Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues - Let’s Talk D/s with DomSubLiving | Submissive Guide

47 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. This episode is a little different from the usual Submissive Guide Podcast. I recently did a podcast swap with Alesandra from Dom Sub Living. She is sharing one of my episodes with her audience, and I’m sharing one of theirs with you so we can introduce our communities to another source of BDSM education and another perspective on living D/s in everyday life. For this swap, I chose an episode where Alesandra and her Dominant, Jay, answer questions submitted by members of the Dom Sub Living community. It’s a bit of a sampler platter of D/s topics. In this episode, they talk about: shifting from work mode into submissive headspacefinding kink community when fear or uncertainty gets in the waydeciding how much to share about D/s with familyrelationships where both partners identify as Dominantlong-distance D/s, rules, aftercare, and sub dropexploring both sides of the slash as a switchpunishment and learning within a dynamicdifferent approaches to dirty talkOne of the reasons I enjoy hearing other educators answer familiar questions is that there is rarely one universal way to build a D/s relationship. What works for Alesandra and Jay may look different from what works in my dynamic or yours, and those differences can give us new things to think about. I hope you enjoy this visit from Dom Sub Living. Learn more about Dom Sub Living: https://domsubliving.com/ Listen to the original episode and read their accompanying notes: https://domsubliving.com/podcast/  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. __...

A Submissive’s Rosary: Using Ritual and Repetition to Deepen Devotion | Submissive Guide

18 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Ritual can be a powerful part of submission, but it does not have to be elaborate, formal, or religious to be meaningful. Sometimes, a repeated phrase, a familiar posture, or the feel of beads moving through your fingers can help quiet the mind and bring you back to your submission with more intention. In this episode, Luna explores the idea of a submissive’s rosary as one example of devotional ritual in D/s. Instead of focusing on the rosary as something every submissive should use, this conversation looks at the deeper purpose behind ritual, repetition, and tactile meditation. You’ll learn how repeated actions can help create focus, why ritual can bring peace and grounding to submission, and how to adapt devotional practices in a way that respects religious structures, personal boundaries, and the unique needs of your own dynamic. Whether you are drawn to prayer beads, kneeling rituals, affirmations, meditation, or simple moments of quiet reflection, this episode invites you to think about how ritual can help you return to your submission with care, consent, and intention. In This Episode What makes a ritual devotional in D/sWhy repetition can help quiet the mindHow prayer beads, rosaries, malas, and other counting tools support meditationUsing ritual to reconnect with service, surrender, gratitude, and peaceWhy a submissive’s rosary is one example, not a universal templateRespectfully adapting religious or spiritual structuresChoosing words, posture, and physical anchors for your own ritualHow ritual can support submission without erasing autonomyWhy devotional submission should remain consensual, conscious, and self-awareHow small repeated practices can deepen your connection to your role Resources & Links 📖 Read the companion article: “A Submissive’s Rosary: Using Ritual and Repetition to Deepen Devotion” on Submissive Guide 🎓 Want to go deeper? Join the Student Tier on Submissive Guide Patreon for...

The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You | Submissive Guide

15 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. When people first begin exploring BDSM, they often look for a giant checklist full of every kink activity imaginable. But real scene planning is rarely about checking boxes or trying to prove how adventurous you are. It’s about building experiences that feel intentional, safe, exciting, and satisfying for everyone involved. In this episode, Luna breaks down a more practical approach to negotiation and scene planning using a simple YES / NO / MAYBE framework, emotional intention setting, and real-world communication strategies that actually help scenes go smoothly. You’ll learn why the mood of a scene matters more than an endless activity list, how to negotiate with more confidence, and why logistics, boundaries, communication, and aftercare deserve just as much attention as the fantasy itself. Whether you’re completely new to BDSM or looking to improve your scene negotiations, this episode offers practical tools you can immediately bring into your next play experience. In This Episode Why giant BDSM checklists often fail peopleHow to build a practical YES / NO / MAYBE listStarting with emotional tone instead of activitiesDiscussing limits, boundaries, and sensitivitiesWhy compatibility matters more than shared interestsMapping the emotional arc of a sceneCommunication systems and safety check-insNegotiating aftercare before play beginsThe importance of logistics and realistic planning Resources & Links 📖 Read the companion article:  “The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You” on Submissive Guide Here are two BDSM Checklists that I especially like: Before Scene Interview by Norische‘Not a Checklist’ Negotiation Sheet for BDSM Bottoms by Tornus (PDF)🎓 Want to go deeper?  Join the Student Tier on Submissive Guide Patreon for classes, worksheets, discussion prompts, live events, and exclusive BDSM education resources.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen hel...

Speaking With Purpose: How to Communicate Clearly in Submission

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. What does it really mean to communicate clearly in submission? In this episode of the Submissive Guide Podcast, Luna explores the difference between sounding submissive and speaking with purpose. Many submissives learn to soften their needs, over-explain, apologize too quickly, or stay quiet in an effort to keep the peace, but those habits often create confusion instead of connection. We talk about how clearer communication can strengthen trust, support leadership, reduce resentment, and help you stay present within your submission without losing yourself in the process. In This Episode: Why communication in submission is often misunderstoodThe difference between submissive performance and intentional speechHow saying “it’s fine” when it isn’t creates confusionOverexplaining, emotional noise, and why clarity mattersHow honest communication can be a form of service in D/s dynamicsWhy your words should support you as well as the relationshipHow silence can quietly lead to resentment and disconnectionWhy fewer words, chosen well, often carry more weightHow clear speech can strengthen trust, intimacy, and healthy power exchangeKey Reminder: Speaking clearly does not make you less submissive. In many cases, it is one of the most supportive and intentional things you can bring to the dynamic.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguid...

When Words Fail: The Hidden Cost of Silence in Submission | Submissive Guide

17 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. What happens when “sorry” becomes the only word you reach for? In this episode, we’re exploring communication in submission, and how silence, over-apologizing, and fear can quietly disrupt even the healthiest dynamics. Many submissives are taught to be agreeable and accommodating, but when that comes at the cost of honest expression, it creates confusion, resentment, and distance over time. We’ll look at why speaking up can feel so difficult, how silence impacts trust and connection, and what it actually means to use your voice in a way that supports both you and your dynamic. You’ll also be introduced to a simple, practical framework—Pause, Feel, Frame—to help you move from reactive communication to intentional, grounded speech in real moments. If you’ve ever struggled to say what you need, or found yourself apologizing instead of communicating, this episode will give you a new way to approach your words with clarity and confidence. In This Episode Why over-apologizing can replace real communicationThe hidden cost of silence in submissionCommon fears that keep submissives from speaking upHow silence creates confusion, assumptions, and distanceWhy using your voice is an act of trust, not defianceThe Pause, Feel, Frame method for intentional communicationHow to move from reactive responses to grounded, clear speech 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http...

Trust Isn’t Blind: Building and Rebuilding Trust in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Trust is often talked about as something automatic in power exchange. A submissive gives it. A Dominant earns it. But real trust in a D/s dynamic is much more complex than that. In this episode, Luna explores how trust actually develops between Dominants and submissives, why even strong dynamics can experience ruptures, and what rebuilding trust can look like when both partners are willing to do the work. Drawing from personal experience and years of working with submissives, this episode looks at the real foundations of trust in D/s relationships and how couples can move forward after trust has been shaken. In This Episode How trust is built through small daily actions and “micro-trusts”Why consistency and transparency matter in power exchangeThe many ways trust can break in a D/s dynamicHow trust ruptures affect both submissives and DominantsWhen broken trust can be repaired and when it cannotPractical steps for rebuilding trust after conflict or disconnectionWhy rebuilding trust often creates a stronger, more intentional dynamic Links Mentioned Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t)Keys to a Successful Relationship - Transparency is Like a Brick WallHow to Share Feedback as a Submissive: Respectful and Honest Communication with Your DominantFinding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest CommunicationWithout His Collar: How This Happened and What I’m Learning About MyselfWhen He Removes The Collar: The 3 R’s to Get You Back on Your Feet 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your gener...

Your First BDSM Scene: What to Expect Before, During, and After | Submissive Guide

17 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Your first BDSM scene can feel equal parts thrilling and terrifying. What if you do something wrong? What if you don’t react the way you think you should? What actually happens once the scene begins? In this episode, we gently walk through the anatomy of a BDSM scene, specifically, your first one, so you can step into it feeling more grounded and less overwhelmed. We talk about what a scene really is, how negotiation sets the tone long before the first touch, what power exchange looks like in practice, how to recognize the difference between sensation and injury, and why aftercare and drop deserve just as much attention as the play itself. This is not a script for how you “should” behave.  It is a framework you can return to again and again as you grow. If you’ve ever felt nervous about your first scene, or found yourself wondering whether your reactions were normal afterward, this episode is for you. In This Episode: What defines a BDSM scene and what makes it intentionalWhy negotiation is not awkward, but foundationalHow to prepare emotionally and physically before playWhat usually signals the beginning of a sceneHow power exchange unfolds in real timeThe role of safewords and ongoing communicationWhether sex has to be part of a sceneWhat aftercare actually meansUnderstanding sub drop, Dom drop, and scene dropHow to reflect after your first scene and decide what comes next 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide...

Be a Cow! My Journey into Hucow Play | Submissive Guide

16 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. What does it mean to step into a hucow identity—and why does it resonate so deeply for some submissives? In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey into hucow play: how I first discovered it, what drew me in, the challenges I faced, and how embracing my cow identity became a powerful blend of submission, embodiment, playfulness, and self-acceptance. From stumbling across my first hucow photos online to creating Lunabelle, my cow persona, this episode offers an honest, grounded introduction to hucow play within BDSM. Whether you’re curious, already exploring pet play, or simply interested in how animal identities can intersect with power exchange, this episode is designed to be friendly, informative, and beginner-accessible. In This Episode, We Talk About: How I first discovered hucow play and why it immediately caught my attentionWhat hucow play is (and what it isn’t)How hucow play fits into the larger BDSM and pet play umbrellaExploring body image, submission, and letting go through cow embodimentDeveloping a personal hucow identity beyond common stereotypesCommunication, consent, and staying in character during scenesCreating a hucow look (“cow-tfit”) with creativity and accessibility in mindBody modification and enhancement as part of animal identityHow you can start exploring hucow play for yourself, safely and intentionally 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subg...

Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t) | Submissive Guide

18 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In this episode, we explore one of the most common questions submissives ask when starting their journey: “What’s really expected of me?” We talk about what healthy expectations look like in a D/s relationship—from the early days of self-discovery to building communication with your Dominant. You’ll learn practical ways to define your own boundaries, clarify mutual expectations, and avoid the common traps that lead to confusion or overwhelm. No one begins submission perfectly. What’s expected of you isn’t a checklist—it’s a process of communication, curiosity, and care. You’re allowed to grow into it at your own pace. Resources Mentioned Journaling Your SubmissionRecommended Reading List for NovicesFetLife Novices and Newbies GroupSubmissive Guide DiscordEstablishing a Safe Environment to Talk 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actually Work | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Affirmations can be more than feel-good words—they can reshape your submissive mindset. In this episode, I share how I’ve used affirmations for over a decade to shift negative self-talk, strengthen my confidence, and reconnect with my submission. You’ll learn how to create affirmations that feel believable and personal, plus easy ways to make them part of your daily life. Read the full article: Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actually Work on Submissive Guide Explore related topics on submissive mindset and personal growthKink Aware Therapists Directory 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

You’re Allowed to Have Needs—Even in Submission | Submissive Guide

21 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces of advice given to submissives: “Know your wants and needs.” But what does that really mean, and how do you figure out the difference? You’ll learn how to identify your core needs, why honoring them is essential to a healthy D/s relationship, and what happens when you settle for less than what truly fulfills you. We’ll also explore common submissive-specific needs, how to communicate them, and how to check in with yourself (and your partner) as those needs evolve. Whether you're new to submission or deepening your dynamic, this episode will help you reflect, realign, and reclaim your right to have your needs met. 📝 Topics covered: The difference between wants and needWhy needs matter more than you thinkHow unmet needs impact submission and mental healthNeeds specific to D/s and power exchangeWhy settling is harmful (even if the dynamic feels “good enough”)Tools for identifying and ranking your needsReflection prompts and next stepsRead the full version on Submissive Guide  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Perfection Isn’t the Goal: Finding Joy in Your Unique Submissive Journey | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing flawlessness can lead to burnout, self-doubt, and disconnection. Instead of striving for an impossible ideal, submissives are encouraged to embrace authenticity, growth, and the beauty of their unique journey. Real submission isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, vulnerable, and enough just as you are.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

After “Red”: How to Manage the Emotional Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword | Submissive Guide

16 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters. Thoughts to Ponder What is your opinion about safewords? What value do they have in a relationship?If you have withheld a safeword in the past, why did you do it? What were you trying to gain by doing so?What other issues arise from using your safeword? Interesting Links Things You Need to Know: Why Safewords Are Not SafeSome Thoughts About Safewords 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’ | Submissive Guide

16 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean. The Art of Apology Series - Submissive Guide  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence. Hormone Junkies Series: AdrenalineOxytocinTestosteroneEndorphinsMore Resources: Sub Drop in Long-term relationshipsWhat is Aftercare, Why Do You Need It, and How to Ask for ItSix Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare RoutineSelf-AftercareSubmissive Guide FetLife GroupGet Your Copy of “Becoming a Service Submissive” Today!  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Exploring Online Submission: Truths, Risks, and Safety Tips | Submissive Guide

18 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to explore and learn the nuances of BDSM and discuss the potential benefits and dangers. We’ll help you navigate the online BDSM landscape with confidence and care.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

10 Things You Can Start Today To Be a Better Submissive | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work. Resources -  Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your DynamicHow Making a Cup of Coffee Centers MeRitual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to KinkCreate SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!The Importance of Journaling Your Submission5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra365 Days of SubmissionLearning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive AwarenessEntering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local KinkstersFinding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest CommunicationActive Submission Means Always Improving YourselfA Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the PropertySubmissive Guide FetLife Group 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Creating a Safe Space: Enhancing Communication in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should.  Resources: Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf  Kink Friendly Therapists: Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-alliedKink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ Domestic Abuse Hotlines: US: https://www.thehotline.org/ UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines   🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World | Submissive Guide

14 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have  Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner: Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended.Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner - SehAnruEstablishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk - lunaKM Resources: Recommended Reading ListsCreating a Personal Submissive Protocol Join our Discord Server - https://subgui.de/chat   🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other. Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony  Resources:  Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? Here is a list of collaring ceremony stories I found online to get you started in your research to build your ceremony. Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring by Mrs DarlingOur Collaring Ceremony on the space betweenMy collaring ceremony script from my polyamorous commitment ceremony on Offbeat WedPlanning Our Collaring Ceremony on The ChateauCollaring Ceremony and Ceremony of the Roses on House of DaseinCeremony From The Heart: The Collaring Ceremony by Norische 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

The Truth About Topping from the Bottom | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.  Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom Chat with the Discord community! https://subgui.de/chat Resources: Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/Resistance Play: https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-playHealthy Communication Skills on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Every Good Conversation Starts with Active Listening | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/every-good-conversation-starts-with-good-listening  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills Further Reading: Anticipatory Service Personality and Behavior Tests: Meyers-Briggs Type IndicatorThe Big FivePredictive IndexStrengths Finder 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing BDSM Limits | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits Further Reading: BDSM Limits Explained Using Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky Limits Establishing Boundaries & Limits in BDSM Novices and Newbies Group on FetLife New Guide on Anal Play - OUT NOW! https://subgui.de/analplay  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Moans, Groans, and Beyond: A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirty Further Reading: How to Be Responsive During PlayExhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol QueenSex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On by Lauren DockettThe Dirty Slang DictionaryNew Guide on Anal Play - OUT NOW! https://subgui.de/analplay  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

On-Demand Ecstasy: Initiating Your Orgasm Control Training | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play. Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics: Orgasm Control by RoverOrgasm Control Conditioning of Females on FetLifeTrain Your Body to Orgasm on CommandOrgasm Control Training: They Can’t ResistOrgasm Control by ginaStudy: Women's Attributions Regarding Why They Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Book: The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She Can Orgasm" by Vivienne Cass, Ph.D Part 2 of the Orgasm Control Training Series: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/orgasm-on-command-training-the-process-for-the-submissive   🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

The Importance of Rules and Structure in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

12 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. In D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships, rules are often used to provide structure and establish boundaries within the power exchange dynamic. These rules serve as a guide for submissives to follow, which allows us to focus on our submission and the expectations of our Dominant partner. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/structure-rules  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

How to Use Erotic Begging to Intensify Your Kinky Playtime | Submissive Guide

14 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.  Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario. It’s also one that can be quite difficult for people to learn. Read the article on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/how-to-beg-when-asked Submissive Guide FetLife Group: http://subgui.de/fetlife Other people's thoughts on begging: Begging In BDSM by Raven Shadowborne A Kinkster’s Guide to Begging on A Kinkster’s Guide How Do I Beg/Plead Better? on BDSM Training Academy Begging For It Podcast on Pleasure Mechanics Enough to Make You Blush by Princess Kali - https://amzn.to/42zIEi7  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Wearing a Dominant’s collar is often a goal of any submissive in a D/s relationship. However, defining what a collar is and how you prepare to accept it can be daunting. Let’s tackle the important points about collars and if you are prepared for what a collar may mean for you and your relationship. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/expectations-of-a-collar-how-ready-are-you-to-accept-one Here are a few more posts on collars you might find interesting: A Complete Guide to BDSM CollarsThe Role of the Collar in a Long Distance Relationship by kallistaThe Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism and Value of Collars in D/s RelationshipsWhat Is a Collar in a D/s Relationship?What it Means to be Collared by LadySneakHow to Plan a Formal Collaring CeremonyTiered Collar System: Collar of ConsiderationTraining CollarFormal CollarSeries on Limits on Submissive Guide  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Seven Books I Recommend for Novice Submissives | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. I’ve gathered seven of the best books to help you get started on your exploration of BDSM and the submissive role.  Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/recommended-reading-submissives All links to the book reviews, GoodReads, and Amazon are linked in the above article.  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

New to D/s Relationships? Here's Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out | Submissive Guide

14 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Relationships, even ones with power exchange, are built the old-fashioned way; dating, mutual compatibility, and communication. We all have a common ground to start from, even if we don't realize it. Unlike what many forums may say about D/s relationships and how they start, knowing the terms to use for your desires and being able to voice them to others does not produce an instant connection and a relationship. It's work from the start and continues to need nurturing for as long as you want the relationship to develop and succeed. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/new-to-ds-relationships-heres-your-foolproof-guide-to-starting-out-part-1 Links Mentioned: How to Identify your Submissive Wants and NeedsCommunication Section of Submissive GuideNew to D/s Relationships - Part 2Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/slave Relationships by Raven KalderaOur Discord Server - Kink Network 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

How to Identify Your Submissive Wants and Needs | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it's always on their minds: the play, the sex, love, or the strictness of dominance. Wants are very valid to the happiness in your life, but more important are the needs. When you think of needs, the list seems to become harder, and people struggle more with defining what they really need. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/know-what-you-want-learn-what-you-need Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgu...

A Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the Property | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. A Submissive’s primary focus should be taking care of the property. There are common ways we are not adhering to the prime directive, and there are ways we can make it more of a foundation for our lives. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/take-care-of-the-property Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store

Myths About D/s Relationships: How to Break Them Down to Find the Truth of a Healthy D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first response is 'it looks like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. All relationships are unique and personal to the people in them, making a sound basis for any D/s relationship. In this article, I’ll cover a few common misconceptions of D/s dynamics, what a D/s relationship is not, and some core traits you can use to identify a healthy dynamic. You may be surprised to learn that they aren't as foreign as you think. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/an-open-letter-to-everyone-who-wants-to-know-what-a-ds-relationship-is-supposed-to-look-like Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagr...

The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM | Submissive Guide

17 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right? Read the Article: [link] The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide ►Discord: ht...

The Key Traits of a Service Submissive - They Can Be Learned! | Submissive Guide

17 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you don't feel you are a people pleaser, because the key traits are all ones that can be learned and refined. When you take steps to improve yourself now, you'll be able to tackle a variety of service challenges and refine the services you wish to provide for your Dominant. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/the-key-traits-of-a-service-submissive---they The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife...

Active Submission - Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant | Submissive Guide

10 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. We need to make sure we take an active role in submission to help open up the dynamic and not wait for our Dominant to come up with a command to give us. By taking on an active role in our submission, we not only have more opportunities to be submissive, but we build a dynamic that provides an open exchange of power. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/active-submission---make-yourself-available-t The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: htt...

Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic | Submissive Guide

15 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Using my experience as a service submissive, I'd like to share what non-sexual service is and help you figure out if service is something you want to explore. I'll talk about a few different styles of service you could learn. Then we'll cover how you can start adding aspects of service into your relationship. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/non-sexual-service-and-how-to-add-it-to-your The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submi...

A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Power Exchange | Submissive Guide

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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Sexual Power Exchange involves submissive partners who willingly and voluntarily relinquish control to their dominant partners, either in certain situations, for a specified period of time, or completely.  As long as you keep it fun and enjoyable, a bedroom power exchange can bring variety and playfulness to your sex life. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/a-beginners-guide-to-sexual-power-exchange The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife:...

The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide

9 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. If you’re brand new to BDSM or even if you’ve got a few years under your belt, it’s good to sit down and figure out what submission means for you and how it works in your dynamic. Once you know what you need as a submissive, you can work with your Dominant to make your D/s relationship exactly what you desire. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/the-basic-tenets-of-being-a-submissive-in-a-d The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fet...

How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes | Submissive Guide

8 min

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/how-rituals-can-enhance-your-bdsm-scenes The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream.  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive.  ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://patreon.com/subguide A very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissivegui...

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