Albiona Rakipi

The Parenting Reframe

A Parenting , Kids & Family and Education podcast

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About the show

The Parenting Reframe podcast is a safe space for parents to feel seen, heard, and supported through this wild journey that is parenting. Hosted by educator and parent Albiona Rakipi, we explore some of the biggest parenting challenges: tantrums, potty training, challenging behaviors, neurodivergent learners, teenagers, bedtime, homework, expectations, and more. We'll chat with experts, parents, and even kids about what it means to parent and to be parented. Albiona's 20 years of experience working with children and families, has brought her insight as she learns from parents and kids alike - even her own. Her only ask is that you stay open and curious, as we reframe parenting together.

Newest episodes

The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - How to Be a Present Dad (Even When You’re Busy) with Gabe Shirey

Nov 4, 2026 44 min

You can run a company, close the deal, and solve any problem in the boardroom. Then you walk through the door at home and have no idea what to do when your daughter hands you a Barbie. If that sounds familiar, you’re not failing. Nobody trained you for this part. Albiona sits down with Gabe Shirey, executive father coach, speaker, and author of The Driven Dad Code, to talk about why being successful at work doesn’t automatically make you a connected dad. Gabe shares the simple frameworks he built for his own family (and the 1,000+ kids at the K through 8 charter school he founded), and why your relationship with your kids is built 15 minutes at a time. Inside, they explore: The fatherhood fallacy: why the skills that make you great at work (managing, correcting, optimizing) can backfire with your kids, who want connection, not a managerThe Five Ps from Gabe’s Dad Dashboard: Prime, Presence, Play, Praise, and Parting Words, plus the car ride game that turned into a year long family ritual“The drift”: how dads lose connection without any big blowup, and why what feels like disrespect is often a relationship that needs attentionWhy swapping “Why did you do that?” for “Help me understand” puts you on your child’s side, and how empathy lands only when you feel it firstConnection and correction: how to bring the two into balance so you’re not too harsh or too permissive, and why your legacy is the relationship your kids want to come home toAbout Gabe Shirey: Gabe Shirey is an executive father coach, speaker, and author who helps high-achieving fathers rethink how they approach parenting. His work focuses on helping dads move beyond the instinct to fix, correct, and optimize everything, and instead become more intentional about presence, connection, and the way they show up for their kids. Gabe is the creator of the Dad Dashboard, a practical system for building deeper connection with limited time, and author of The Driven Dad Code, which explores the “Fatherhood Fallacy”...

The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - AI, Kids, and Why Parents Can’t Do This Alone

Oct 28, 2026 28 min

AI is changing how kids learn faster than anyone can keep up. So when Albiona took the stage at Columbia University’s Early Learning Summit, she made the case for something no app can offer: other humans. Here’s what she shared, who she shared the stage with, and the one simple question that had parents messaging her for days afterward. Inside, she explores: Raising kids alongside AI: why the struggle is where the learning happens, what her family’s “no GPS for a month” rule taught their new drivers, and the human skills (curiosity, critical thinking, conflict resolution) kids still need to build on their ownWhy community is one of the most overlooked emotional regulation tools for parents, how isolation and the “I’m the only one” story keep your nervous system on high alert, and why community can be as small as one other personThe dinner table question Albiona has asked her kids for years: “Who leaned on you, and who did you lean on today?” Plus how to weave connection into everyday life without adding one more thing to your to do listMentioned in this episode: Begin Learning’s Early Learning Summit and EdTech Week at Columbia UniversityDr. Joshua Sparrow, Touchpoints (panel moderator)Dr. Aliza Pressman, host of Raising Good HumansAlbiona’s Substack post on the summit, plus her new monthly live office hours for paid subscribersConnect with Albiona: Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching): https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram: @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community: https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly: albiona@theparentingreframe.comLoved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent who feels like they’re doing this alone. They’re not. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal da...

How to Know If Your Child Is Being Bullied (And What to Do About It) with Craig Conover and Dr. Chad Rose

Oct 14, 2026 1 hr 3 min

Some kids who are being bullied look like they're doing just fine. Good grades, a team, plenty of friends. And they still come home carrying something they haven't found the words to share. That's not a parenting failure. It's a reason to start asking better questions. In this episode, Albiona sits down with Craig Conover of Bravo's Southern Charm and Dr. Chad Rose, Director of the Prevention of Bullying Center at the University of South Carolina, to talk about Craig's new children's book, Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You. Craig opens up about the bullying he experienced as a kid, why he never told his parents, and how those years resurfaced the day he signed his first TV contract. Dr. Chad brings the research, including what bullying actually is, the signs parents miss, and the one question every parent should be asking at conferences. Inside, they explore: Why Craig kept the bullying from his parents, even in a safe and loving homeThe behavior change that should always open a conversation, and how to get past "fine"The one question to ask at every parent teacher conferenceThe research definition of bullying, and what to do if you think your child is the one bullyingWhy most children's books about bullying end unrealistically, and how Patch Work handles it differentlyThe episode wraps with a quick fire round on what's on their nightstands, the rituals they rarely skip, and what their younger selves would tell them today. About Craig Conover: Craig Conover is a star of Bravo’s Southern Charm and the cofounder of Sewing Down South. He’s shared his story in his memoir, Pillow Talk: What’s Wrong with My Sewing?, and now in his first children’s book, Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You., written for kids ages 4 to 7 and the grown ups who read with them. Connect with Craig Conover: Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You. by Craig Conover, illustrated by Maine Diaz: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1967836884, https://www.worldofkidsbooks.com/pages/patch-work-preo...

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The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - How to Be a Present Dad (Even When You’re Busy) with Gabe Shirey

Nov 4, 2026 44 min

The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - AI, Kids, and Why Parents Can’t Do This Alone

Oct 28, 2026 28 min

How to Know If Your Child Is Being Bullied (And What to Do About It) with Craig Conover and Dr. Chad Rose

Oct 14, 2026 1 hr 3 min

The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - You Can’t Regulate in the Moment If You’re Not Regulating All Day

Oct 8, 2026 29 min

Most parents want to know what to do when the meltdown is already happening. Albiona is starting earlier than that. This episode is about building the conditions for regulation throughout your day so the hard moments don’t take you completely off guard. For you and for your kids. Inside, she explores: The joy tracker: what it is, how Albiona uses it, and why tracking small moments of joy throughout the day is one of the most practical emotion regulation tools she teaches in coachingHow to set up your child’s environment for regulation before a meltdown ever starts: sleep, food, overscheduling, physical space, and the one question to ask about their daily activitiesWhy play, movement, and stretching regulate the nervous system, how to adapt the joy tracker for kids who don’t respond to “what are you grateful for,” and the question that gets real answers insteadConnect with Albiona: Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.comLoved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent who keeps asking what to do in the hard moment but hasn’t thought about what the rest of the day looks like. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Parenting Reframe with Albiona Rakipi - Why Threats Stop Working (And What to Do Instead)

Sep 23, 2026 23 min

If the only thing that gets your child to cooperate is a threat, this episode is for you. Albiona breaks down why threats feel effective in the moment, why they stop working over time, and what to put in place instead so you’re not scrambling for leverage every time your kid pushes back. Inside, she explores: Why threats work differently on approval-seeking kids vs. strong-willed kids, and why strong-willed kids will test you every single time to see if you mean itThe real problem with empty threats: when your words and actions don’t match, kids stop listening to your words entirely, and why that’s harder to undo the longer it goes onHow to get ahead of the hard moments using framing and priming so you’re not reacting at the end of your rope, including a script for separation anxiety at school drop-offConnect with Albiona: Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.comLoved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent who’s tired of hearing themselves make the same threat over and over and knowing it’s not really working. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What to Say When Your Kid Says “I’m Fat” — with Dr. Whitney Caceres

Sep 9, 2026 57 min

What do you say when your child says “I’m fat”? What do you do when grandma makes a comment at the dinner table? How do you raise a kid who has a healthy relationship with food and their body without swinging into diet culture or untethered “anything goes” territory? Dr. Whitney Caceres has the answers — and they’re more nuanced and more doable than anything you’ll find in a parenting trend. Albiona sits down with Dr. Whitney, a board-certified pediatrician, founder of Modern Mommy Doc, and author of the new book Raising Body Confident Kids, to talk about breaking the generational cycle of body shame — starting with the stories we’re still carrying ourselves. Inside, they explore: How body shame gets passed from generation to generation — and why our own triggers are triggered hardest when our kids hit puberty at the same time we’re going through our own body changesWhat to actually say when your child notices someone else’s body, asks why a celebrity looks different, or says “I’m fat” — including what not to say and why false reassurance backfiresThe sweet spot between diet culture and body positivity — how to teach kids body literacy and function without labeling foods as good or bad or ignoring real healthHow to handle body comments from grandparents and extended family — what to prep your kids to say, when to step in as the parent, and when ignoring is actually the right moveYay or nay: overeating, birthday party food, the 20-minute pause rule, and when it’s okay to step in as the parent even when you’ve been giving your kid agencyAbout Dr. Whitney Caceres: Dr. Whitney Caceres is a board-certified pediatrician, speaker, author, and founder of Modern Mommy Doc. She holds an MPH in maternal and child health from UC Berkeley, a journalism degree, and completed her pediatric residency at Stanford. Her new book, Raising Body Confident Kids: A Balanced Approach to Breaking the Cycle of Body Shame and Diet Culture, is out September 1st. Resources mentioned in this epis...

Ask Me Anything - Gentle Parenting, Attachment Theory, Strong-Willed Kids, and Why Attuned Parenting Beats All of It (Part 2)

Aug 26, 2026 31 min

You asked Albiona where she stands on gentle parenting, attachment theory, highly sensitive kids, and strong-willed vs. defiant. She answered. This is the take you won’t hear from most people in the parenting space — no sides taken, no approach put on a pedestal, and no parent left feeling like they’re doing it wrong. Inside, she explores: Gentle parenting: what Albiona genuinely likes about it, where it tends to go sideways in practice, and why over-explaining often makes defiance worse instead of better Attachment theory: why it can leave parents burned out, how to take what works without adopting the whole framework, and what she looks for before bringing any guest into this space Strong-willed, defiant, highly sensitive, big feeler — what these labels actually mean, why Albiona thinks all kids are deeply feeling, and what to ask instead of reaching for a term Connect with Albiona: Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent who’s drowning in parenting approaches and doesn’t know which one to trust. Sometimes the answer is simpler than the label. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ask Me Anything: How to Stop Reacting, Handle Back-to-School Anxiety, and Actually Pause in the Hard Moment (Part 1)

Aug 19, 2026 34 min

You asked, Albiona answered. This AMA covers the questions that came in most — reactive parenting, back-to-school transitions, and why pausing is so much harder in practice than it sounds. Practical, somatic, and honest. Inside, she explores: How to actually pause when you’re already activated — the somatic tools and breathing technique Albiona uses herself, including why the exhale matters more than the inhale Why telling yourself “I won’t yell today” keeps failing — the two real reasons parents overreact and what actually interrupts the pattern Back-to-school anxiety and transitions: how to help kids who dread the change, the difference between a transition problem and a frustration tolerance problem, and how to sequence routines so you’re not setting yourself up to fight every afternoon Connect with Albiona: • Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching • Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe • Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/ • Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent heading into back-to-school season running on fumes. Part 2 is coming. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Second Most Downloaded Episode: Taking a Career Pause Without Losing Yourself — with Neha Ruch

Jul 29, 2026 42 min

This is the conversation that resonated with thousands of mothers and keeps getting shared. Albiona’s interview with Neha Ruch — founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause — is back. If you missed it the first time, this is your moment. If you’ve already heard it, listen again. There’s something in here for wherever you are right now. Neha Ruch left a Stanford MBA and a dream job in brand marketing to make more room for motherhood — and instead of quietly disappearing from the conversation, she built an entirely new one. The Power Pause is the book she wrote for every mother who wants to pause, shift, or step back from a career and do it without guilt, without losing her identity, and without having to pick a side. Inside, they explore: → Why “what do you do?” has become a proxy for “who are you?” — and how to reclaim your identity when the answer to that question changes → The power pause reframe: why stepping back from a career isn’t a loss of ambition — it’s a redesign, and how to own that story confidently → The mommy wars, where they came from, and why the research shows children thrive equally in both scenarios — what actually matters is a happy and healthy parent → How to have the money conversations before a career pause, what to budget for, and how to make sure both partners feel equally valued during a season of unpaid caregiving → Why your career isn’t linear — how to audit the experiences you’re accumulating right now and build them into a career story that’s more expansive, not less About Neha Ruch: Neha Ruch is the founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause, a guide for ambitious women navigating career breaks, career shifts, and the decision to make more room for family life. Her work sits at the intersection of identity, ambition, and modern motherhood — without judgment, and without telling you which choice is right. Resources mentioned in this episode: → Get The Power Pause by Neha Ruch → Visit Mother...

The Most Downloaded Episode: Strong-Willed Kids, Breaks, and Why Your Words Aren’t Working — with Joe Newman

Jul 22, 2026 1 hr 0 min

This is the episode that started it all. The most downloaded conversation in the history of The Parenting Reframe — Albiona’s very first interview with Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions — is back. If you’ve never heard it, clear your schedule. If you have, get your notebook out because you’ll catch things you missed the first time. Joe Newman has shaped Albiona’s work more than almost anyone else in this space. He doesn’t say what everyone else says. He doesn’t make it complicated. And this conversation — about why strong-willed kids need stronger boundaries, why your words have lost their weight, and what actually gets a defiant child to cooperate — is still one of the most useful hours you’ll spend as a parent. Inside, they explore: → Why strong-willed and defiant kids aren’t broken — and why the accommodations most parents make are the exact opposite of what these kids need → The real reason children use conflict: it’s not about the blue bowl, the red cup, or the screen time — it’s a question they’re asking, and most parents are answering it wrong → How breaks work, why they’re not timeouts, and what to do when your child flatly refuses to take one — including what Joe did with a child who held out for 10 days straight → Why excess information and over-explaining are making defiance worse — and the research-backed reason that saying less produces a 50% drop in off-task behavior → What “eggshell parenting” is doing to strong-willed kids, why approval-based parenting fails power-seeking children, and how to stop parenting the child inside of you instead of the child in front of you About Joe Newman: Joe Newman is the author of Raising Lions and a behavior specialist with decades of experience working with defiant, strong-willed, and ADHD kids in schools, homes, and clinical settings. His approach combines psychoanalytic theory, cause-and-effect structure, and deep respect for children’s autonomy — and it works where other methods don’t. Resources m...

The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do for Your Kid Has Nothing to Do with Discipline

Jul 15, 2026 28 min

Albiona came into a podcast recording nervous, overprepared, and completely thrown off when the tech collapsed mid-interview. What happened next — what her guest did in that moment — stopped her in her tracks. And it’s the same thing most parents are missing with their kids. In this solo episode, Albiona shares the story of what Dr. Elisha Goldstein did when everything went wrong, why it moved her so deeply, and how the same principle — helping someone feel truly seen through your own story — is one of the most underused tools in parenting. This one is personal, practical, and worth sharing. Inside, she explores: → What Dr. Goldstein did when the podcast recording fell apart — and why his response was a masterclass in empathy that Albiona couldn’t stop thinking about → The difference between expressing empathy and actually helping someone feel seen — and why one lands so much deeper than the other → How storytelling from your own life — not advice, not correction — is the thing that softens a child in a hard moment and makes them actually willing to move toward a solution → Real examples: the homework battle that stopped repeating the moment Albiona shared her own childhood frustration, and what happened when her son finally felt understood → Why kids who don’t feel seen act out more — and how making someone feel seen is one of the most powerful connection tools you have, in parenting and in every relationship Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com → Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this one with someone who needs to hear it — a parent in the middle of a homework battle, a power struggle, or just a season where nothing seems to be landing. Sometimes the shift isn’t a new str...

The Parenting Reframe - Let’s Reframe Reparenting — You Need to Cultivate Your Inner Parent

Jul 1, 2026 29 min

You can’t go back and redo your childhood. But you can stop unconsciously parenting the child inside of you instead of the child standing in front of you. In this solo episode, Albiona reframes the popular idea of “reparenting” into something more useful, more honest, and a lot more doable. This one gets personal. Albiona walks through real coaching examples — including a mom who kept over-giving love and attention because that’s what she needed as a child, only to watch her independent, strong-willed daughter resist it every time — to show what it actually looks like to stop healing your own childhood through your kid and start showing up as the steady, regulated parent they need. Inside, she explores: → Why “reparenting” as a redo can quietly turn into a victim complex — and the difference between honoring what was hard and getting stuck blaming it → The question to ask yourself in hard parenting moments: am I parenting the child in front of me, or the child inside of me? → A real coaching example of a mom who over-gave love and attention to heal her own neglect — and why her free-spirited, independent daughter needed boundaries instead → Why a happy child isn’t the measure of good parenting — and how tying your worth as a parent to your child’s emotions sets you both up to struggle → How to interrupt default patterns like yelling, shaming, or threatening — and what it actually means to cultivate your own inner parent in the moment it counts Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com → Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who keeps wondering why all their love and effort isn’t landing the way they expected. Sometimes the most healing thing we can do isn’t g...

Small Shifts, Big Change: Emotional Regulation for Parents with Dr. Elisha Goldstein

Jun 24, 2026 1 hr 4 min

Most parents know what they’re supposed to do in hard moments. Stay calm. Set the boundary. Don’t react. The problem isn’t knowing — it’s being able to access any of that when you’re already in the thick of it. That’s exactly what this episode is about. Albiona sits down with Dr. Elisha Goldstein — psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of Tiny Shifts — to talk about emotional regulation in the ordinary, unglamorous moments of parenting. Not the big overhauls. Not the lengthy routines. The small, doable pivots that actually interrupt reactivity, widen your capacity, and help you show up differently — starting today. Inside, they explore: → What emotional loops are — the should loop, the shame loop, the comparison loop — and why naming them is the first step to breaking out of them → Dr. Goldstein’s four R’s method: Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce — and how to use it in real parenting moments, from rude teenagers to morning chaos to your own self-critical spiral → Why self-care becomes one more stressor — and how to meet yourself in the moment instead of adding more to your list → The two R’s most people skip (Release and Reinforce) and why skipping them is why the method doesn’t stick → How a parent’s emotional health directly shapes their child’s ability to regulate — and why working on yourself is the most effective parenting move you can make About Dr. Elisha Goldstein: Dr. Elisha Goldstein is a psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of several books including Uncovering Happiness and his newest, Tiny Shifts. He has spent more than two decades helping people navigate stress, anxiety, and emotional well-being — and his work sits at the intersection of neuroscience, mindfulness, and practical everyday life. Resources mentioned in this episode: → Get Tiny Shifts by Dr. Elisha Goldstein — available wherever books are sold → Visit Dr. Goldstein’s website — elishagoldstein.com → Follow Dr. Goldstein on Instagram — @drelishagold...

Play Isn’t a To-Do — It’s the Thing That Makes Everything Else Work, with Dr. Kim Van Dusen

Jun 10, 2026 1 hr 4 min

If play feels like one more thing on your list, this episode is going to change that. Albiona sits down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen — registered play therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and author of Parenting Through Play — to talk about what play actually is, why parents have it backwards, and how a more playful approach leads to less defiance, fewer meltdowns, and a home that just feels better. Dr. Kim brings 20 years of clinical experience and 12 years of parenting into a conversation that is practical, permission-giving, and full of ideas you can use today — even on your most exhausted days. Inside, they explore: → Why most parents misunderstand play — and why the parent who says “play isn’t for me” is actually the one who needs this most → The connection between play and behavior: why kids who feel connected through play are more likely to listen, cooperate, and follow through — and what happens when that connection is missing → How to handle tantrums, power struggles, and resistant kids using play-based strategies that actually work — including the sand timer trick and how to gamify chores → Why independent play matters more than most parents realize — and why boredom is a problem for kids to solve, not parents to fix → Practical play ideas for the transitions that drain you most: mealtime, bedtime, morning routines, and getting out the door — without the fight About Dr. Kim Van Dusen: Dr. Kim Van Dusen is a registered play therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist with nearly 20 years of clinical experience. She is the author of Parenting Through Play, a research-backed, practical guide that combines play therapy, solution-focused therapy, and PBIS to help parents build deeper connection and better behavior — without the power struggles. Resources mentioned in this episode: → Get Parenting Through Play by Dr. Kim Van Dusen → Follow Dr. Kim on Instagram — @theparentologist → Visit Dr. Kim’s website — theparentologist....

Rewards Aren’t Bribes — And Anxiety Isn’t the Opposite of Calm

May 20, 2026 28 min

Two things keep coming up in coaching sessions right now, in household after household, family after family: rewards and kids’ anxiety around trying new things. So Albiona brought it here. In this solo episode, she breaks down the real problem with how most parents use rewards (it’s not that you’re doing them — it’s how often), and reframes childhood anxiety in a way that actually gives you somewhere to go. Spoiler: the opposite of anxious isn’t calm. It’s self-trust. And that changes everything about how you respond. Inside, she explores: → Why rewards work — and exactly where they stop working — including the novelty problem most parents hit two weeks in and what to do instead → How to choose the right motivation for your child, why sticker charts fail kids who don’t care about stickers, and how to use time, agency, and choice as rewards that actually land → The art of fading: how to gradually pull back rewards so the behavior sticks without the incentive — and why your kids are more resilient than you think → Why childhood anxiety isn’t the opposite of calm — it’s the opposite of self-trust — and how that one reframe shifts your entire approach to a kid who freezes, avoids, or shuts down → What to stop saying when your child makes a mistake in sports, school, or social situations — and what to do instead to help them get back in and try again Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who’s second-guessing their reward system or watching their kid shut down every time things get hard. These are the conversations that don’t get talked about enough — and the more parents hear them, the less alone they feel....

You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start

May 13, 2026 23 min

Inside, she explores: → Why a dysregulated parent can’t help a dysregulated child — and what actually has to happen first before any parenting strategy can work → The two reasons most parents struggle to stay regulated in hard moments: not being able to access tools when it counts, and not having a plan to follow through on → How the PAR method works in real time — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — and what it sounds like with a toddler tantrum versus a teenager who won’t back down → Simple regulation tools you can use in the middle of a meltdown, including breathwork, body-based interrupts, and how to name what you’re feeling without fixing it → How to build a plan for the predictable hard moments before they happen — so you’re not scrambling, reactive, or white-knuckling your way through it Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this episode with a parent who’s tired of losing their cool and not knowing how to stop. Emotion regulation is one of the most overlooked parenting skills out there — the more this conversation reaches people, the better. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Your Brain Isn’t Broken — It’s Becoming - The Truth About the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nicole Pensak

May 6, 2026 52 min

Inside, they explore: → What matrescence actually is — the neurocognitive developmental phase of becoming a mother — and why understanding it as an identity shift (not a breakdown) is the reframe new moms need most → The full picture of “mom brain”: why the forgetfulness is real, what the research actually shows about cognitive strengths postpartum, and why your brain deserves a lot more credit than it gets → How to tell the difference between normal postpartum adjustment and something that warrants support — and why Dr. Nikki’s answer is simpler than you think → The “bouncing back” myth: why the goal isn’t to return to who you were, and what it actually looks like to come through this developmental phase better than ever → Practical ways partners, family, and support systems can show up — including the single most protective thing a partner can do in the first three months About Dr. Nicole Pensak: Dr. Nicole Pensak is a Harvard and Yale-trained clinical psychologist certified in postpartum mental health and the author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain. Rattled was awarded Best Book for Parents by Zibby Owens, featured on Reese Witherspoon’s Hello Sunshine and The Bright Side Podcast, and named by Audible as a Most Anticipated Read 2025 in Well-Being. Dr. Pensak serves on the Expert Review Board of Parents Magazine and owns a private practice serving clients in NJ, NY, and 40+ states nationwide. Resources mentioned in this episode: → Get Rattled by Dr. Nicole Pensak (now available in paperback and audiobook) → Visit Dr. Nikki’s website — www.drnicoleamoyalpensak.com → Follow Dr. Nikki on Instagram — @drnikkipensak → Fourth Tri Sanctuary — a postpartum support space for new moms mentioned by Albiona Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Co...

Why Kids Don’t Listen — And How to Fix It Without Yelling

Apr 29, 2026 22 min

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same direction six times, voice rising, before your child finally moves — this episode is for you. The truth is, you don’t have a bad kid. And you’re not a bad parent. What you have is a defective pattern. And patterns can be changed. In this solo episode, Albiona revisits one of the most downloaded and shared episodes on the show — why kids don’t listen — and goes even deeper with real-life examples, coaching language you can use today, and the mindset shift that makes all the difference. Inside, she explores: → What a “defective pattern” actually is — how kids collect data from their environment to decide when they actually have to listen, and why recognizing this changes everything → The repeating cycle most parents are stuck in — and how priming your child ahead of time breaks it without yelling, threats, or emotional spirals → The negotiation trap: why strong-willed kids learn to play the odds, how small moments of flexibility accidentally teach them to push limits, and what to do instead → Why your action matters more than your words — how to give yourself something clear and followable so you stay regulated when your child tests the new pattern → How to identify the pattern you’ve created, name the outcome you actually want, and build a new one — practically, without judgment, and in a way your child will respond to Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who’s in the middle of a power struggle right now — the one who’s exhausted, second-guessing themselves, and just needs to hear that there’s a way through. Patterns are always fixable. And you’ve got this. Unti...

How to Look for Signs & Talk to Kids About Death & Grief with Jenny Robinson Clark

Mar 25, 2026 39 min

Inside, they explore: → The reframe that changes everything: stop saying you "lost" someone—they're not lost, they're on the other side of a very thin veil, still here, still sending signs (and once you start looking, you'll see them everywhere) → Why kids are naturally more connected to the other side than adults—and how honest conversations about death (even when we're crying and fumbling through it) prevent the fear of the unknown from taking root the way it did for Jenny as a child → The signs Jenny's mom sends: owls, ladybugs, rainbows appearing out of nowhere—and the Costco parking lot story where a stranger tapped Jenny's shoulder to tell her about a ladybug on her back right when she needed her mom most → Why grief isn't linear (it comes in waves, and that's okay) and how riding the wave instead of resisting it opens you up to healing and creativity you didn't know you needed—plus the power of sign tracking (the more you pay attention, the more signs show up) → The mistake parents make when trying to "perform" the right answer instead of being honest—kids end up carrying the burden alone because they think bringing it up hurts us, so they stop talking about it Resources & Links: Connect with Jenny Robinson Clark: → Website: www.jennyrobinsonclark.com → Instagram: @jennyrobinsonclark → Book: Are You Here? (available wherever books are sold and on Jenny's website) Bio: Jenny Robinson Clark makes her author debut with Are You Here?, a heartfelt children's book about the magical signs all around us, releasing March 17, 2026. She lives in Nashville with her husband and their four children. A former dancer and actress, Jenny has always been a creative at heart. When she's not writing, she's homeschooling and baking with her kids, taking hip-hop class with her husband, and exploring the outdoors. She believes that when you open your heart, ask for a sign, and are willing to receive, loved ones send messages in the most unexpected ways. Mentioned in Thi...

Stop Rescuing Your Kids: How to Build Frustration Tolerance & Resilience

Mar 18, 2026 21 min

Inside, she explores: → What stretching is—and why intentionally letting kids struggle through slightly uncomfortable situations builds resilience, frustration tolerance, and confidence (the opposite of helicopter parenting or overprotective parenting) → The critical question to ask when kids engage in undesired behavior (transition tantrums, meltdowns, refusal): what skill are they missing that would reduce this behavior's frequency or intensity? → How scaffolding works in real life: meeting kids where they are (the task feels too hard, they're overwhelmed) while still stretching them toward mastery—with examples from speech therapy sessions and everyday moments like zipping a coat or handling sibling conflict → Why letting kids struggle through hard things without rescuing them is one of the most loving things you can do—and how to support them without fixing it or taking the discomfort away → The real-life coaching example: a child making unsafe choices at school and using manipulation ("you're not listening to me!") to avoid consequences—and why the parents had to hold the boundary even when the child was upset, because stretch moments teach kids they have the power to make good choices no matter their environment → How to stretch yourself as an adult if you're a people-pleaser or overgiver: setting boundaries with loved ones without over-explaining, saying no without guilt, negotiating your worth, and getting comfortable being uncomfortable—because staying small to keep others comfortable is exhausting Resources & Links: Mentioned in This Episode: → Scaffolding: meeting kids where they are developmentally while stretching them toward growth and skill-building → Life coaching with Albiona (focused on unblocking patterns, setting boundaries, and building resilience for parents and individuals) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →...

Good Cop Bad Cop Parenting: How to Stop Fighting & Get on the Same Page

Mar 11, 2026 17 min

Inside, she explores: → What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling) → The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that don't fit the crime—and neither is actually responding to what the child needs → The simple 3-step framework that works for both parenting styles: state the boundary clearly, express empathy without over-explaining, restate the boundary—then allow the child space to self-regulate → How to talk to your partner about co-parenting disagreements without it turning into a fight: come from a place of connection, not correction—stay child-focused, remain open, and ask "where can I give a little and where do you need to give a little?" → Why the more consistent and predictable your responses are as a team, the safer your child feels—and how getting on the same page transforms not just your parenting, but your partnership and your home Resources & Links: Mentioned in This Episode: → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step regulation process for managing parenting disagreements) → Raising Lions by Joe Newman (the reset/break concept for helping kids self-regulate) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com → Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly butting heads with their partner about how to handle meltdowns, a couple stuck in the good cop/bad cop cycle, or anyone who feels like they're parenting alone even when their spouse or pa...

Episode 86: How to Handle Teenage Disrespect & Defiance with Dr. Cam Caswell

Mar 4, 2026 1 hr 0 min

Inside, they explore: → Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate → The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it) → Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely → How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives → Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard. Resources & Links: Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell: → Website: www.askdrcam.com → Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community) → Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast → Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout Mentioned in This Episode: → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process) → Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days → Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain → Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com Loved this episode? Please rate, r...

Emotion Regulation vs. Nervous System Regulation

Feb 18, 2026 31 min

Inside, she explores: → The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body) → Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work → Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes → The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work → Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working." Resources & Links: Mentioned in This Episode: → The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair) → The mantra: "I am safe and so are they" → Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/ → Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting respons...

Parenting the Spicy Ones with Mary Van Geffen

Feb 11, 2026 44 min

Inside, they explore: → The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity → Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with) → The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments → The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO) → Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connection This episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them. Resources & Links: Connect with Mary Van Geffen: → Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook → Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts) → 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso Mentioned in This Episode: → Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears") → Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe) → The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences) → PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair) → Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request) Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who...

The One Fear That Stops Us All—And How to Move Through It

Feb 4, 2026 24 min

Inside, Albiona explores: → Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love → The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway) → Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead → How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough → The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth? Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed. This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth. If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it. Resources & Links: Connect with Albiona: → Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth. We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Navigating Motherhood with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

Jan 28, 2026 1 hr 0 min

Inside, they explore: → The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been" → How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life → Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth → The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not" → How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them → The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last" → Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be) → What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission) → How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves → The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values → Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work → How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters) → The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles. This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code. Resources & Links: Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons: → Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com → Instagram: @rewritethemothercode → Instagram: @dr...

How to Nurture and Parent Our Ideas and Creativity

Jan 14, 2026 1 hr 2 min

Inside, they explore: → Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work → The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself" → How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse") → Why trusting your intuition is a skill you can develop—and how it's helped Judith make decisions for 30 years → The Kitchen Sink Story: How being baptized over a kitchen sink on a farm led to making Pope Francis laugh → What it means to be a "doula for stories"—and how publishing mirrors the parenting process → Why releasing attachment to outcome is essential (and how to celebrate milestones along the way) → The village it takes to publish a book—and raise a child → How to hold the tension between mystery and structure, passion and pragmatism → Why aunts and mentors matter more than we celebrate them → The physical nature of intuition: goosebumps, tingles, and the 39 senses we forget we have Judith also shares the six questions every HarperOne editor must answer before acquiring a book, her approach to "publishing for the world we want to live in," and why she paints calming animal pictures for mental health on Instagram. This episode is for you if you're nurturing any kind of creative work—whether that's raising children, building a business, writing a book, or bringing any passion project to life. It's about permission, intuition, structure, and the art of parenting what matters most into the world. Resources & Links: Connect with Judith: → Instagram: @judithcurr (calming animal art + occasional publishing news) → HarperOne: @harperonebooks → HarperCollins: www.harpercollins.com Mentioned in This Episode: → Girls Write Now: www.girlswritenow.org (mentoring organization for young writers) → Pope Francis's upcoming book: Peace Be With You (February 2026) → The...

Letting Go Isn't the Hard Part—It's Staying

Jan 7, 2026 31 min

Inside, Albiona explores: → Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments → The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider → Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it) → How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself → What it looks like to parent yourself back home while parenting your children forward → Why discomfort doesn't mean unsafe, and how to ground yourself when everything feels shaky She also gets honest about her own journey away from perfectionism and achievement, the spaciousness she's choosing in 2026, and why slowing down has become one of her most important practices. This episode is for you if you've ever set a boundary and then immediately wanted to take it back. If you've felt the pull to adjust, explain, or rescue your child (or yourself) from discomfort. If you know what you need to do but struggle to stay there when things get hard. Resources & Links: → Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching → Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe → Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who needs permission to hold their boundaries without needing everyone's approval first. We're all learning how to stay—in our power, in our knowing, in the slowness—even when it feels uncomfortable. Until next time, The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Your Child is Afraid to Choose (and You Are Too)

Dec 17, 2025 30 min

Inside, Albiona explores: Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinkingWhat to say when your child spirals after a choiceWhy avoiding decisions won’t help build confidenceWhy “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids downHow we confuse calm with control—and what to do insteadWhat it looks like to guide without rescuingShe also shares stories from her own classroom teaching days and real coaching conversations with parents—and gets honest about the discomfort that comes with letting our kids struggle a little (while we stay close). Resources & Links: Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching She’s accepting new clients in 2026 — book before Dec 31st to lock in 2025 pricing.Follow Albiona on Instagram - https://instagram.com/theparentingreframeJoin Albiona on Substack for reflections on parenting, inner growth, and nervous system tools - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com/Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear: it’s okay not to have all the answers. We’re all learning how to parent others—and ourselves—with more grace and less shame. Until next time, The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Reimagining Parenthood and Entrepreneurship with Miki Agrawal

Dec 3, 2025 54 min

From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters. This conversation weaves through: What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle cultureHow nature is the ultimate parenting teacherWhy modern parenthood needs a new paradigm—and how HERO Diapers is leading the chargeWhat she teaches her son about resilience, creativity, and emotional strengthThe 3 key questions she asks before starting any new ideaAnd how she's learned that true leadership means owning your humannessWhether you're raising a child, launching a product, or reimagining how you move through the world… this one will stay with you. Resources & Links: Follow Hero Diapers on Instagram - https://instagram.com/herodiapersLearn more about the Hero Diaper + “New Paradigm Parenting” movement - https://herodiapers.com/Get Miki’s books: Do Cool Sht and Disrupt-Her* - https://www.mikiagrawal.com/booksFollow Miki on Instagram - https://instagram.com/mikiagrawalLoved this episode? Don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with a fellow parent or creative. You never know who’s one reframe away from a massive life shift. Want ongoing parenting support from Albiona? Book a free discovery call (https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching) to see if 1:1 coaching is your next best step. The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“They Should Know Better!”: What to Do When Tweens & Teens Push Back

Nov 26, 2025 26 min

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking, “They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?” ...this episode is for you. Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It’s keeping you stuck in a pattern that exhausts everyone involved. In this episode, Albiona uncovers one of the most common reframes she shares with parents of tweens and teens—and why learning to anchor yourself (instead of arguing back) is the shift that creates real change. She covers: What to do when your child’s behavior feels deliberateHow “they should know better by now” becomes a parenting trapWhy many parents escalate with their kids (and how to step out of the spiral)The phrase to stop saying (and what to do instead when emotions run high)How to set boundaries and hold compassion (without giving in again)Plus: Why overexplaining and lecturing rarely workHow small shifts—like setting limits quietly and clearly—change everythingA concrete example of how one parent solved morning chaos without yellingWhether your child is 9 or 16, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of your role as the anchor, not the mirror, when emotions rise. Resources & Links: Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona → https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call Want real-time parenting strategies personalized to your child and your triggers? Albiona’s currently enrolling for 1:1 coaching in early 2026. This 12-week container gives you the tools, support, and calm you’ve truly needed. Learn more + schedule your free call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-callFollow Albiona on Instagram → @theparentingreframeWatch the viral video this episode was based on → https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrNwRwbV/If this episode hit home: Please subscribe, rate, and review the show. Then send the...

Raising Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Cool: A Conversation with Kirk Martin

Nov 19, 2025 1 hr 9 min

What You’ll LearnWhy your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication.How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first.The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything.How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead.Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive.How to reframe strong-willed behavior as a sign of strength and leadership in development.Why connection — not compliance — is the foundation of real discipline. Key TakeawaysCalm isn’t passive; it’s anchored leadership.Your child’s behavior is not a reflection of your worth.Connection before correction always creates more cooperation.Every strong-willed child is asking: “Can I trust you to stay calm when I’m not?” About Kirk MartinFounder of Celebrate Calm and host of The Calm Parenting PodcastHas helped over 1 million families bring peace and connection into their homesKnown for his practical tools, humor, and grounded wisdom👉 Learn more at celebratecalm.com 👉 Follow Kirk on Instagram @calmparentingpodcast Continue the Work with AlbionaPurchase The PARR Journal — a guided tool to help you pause, acknowledge, respond, and reflect.Join Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom when you purchase your journal.Learn more at theparentingreframe.comFollow on Instagram @theparentingreframe👉 Click here to purchase your journal and save your workshop spot. Favorite Quote“I realized I needed my son to behave so that I could behave. Once I learned to control myself, everything changed.” – Kirk Martin The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Stop Overreacting: How to Use the PARR Process to Stay Calm and Connected

Nov 12, 2025 37 min

In this solo episode, Albiona explores one of the most common parenting struggles — reactivity. Whether you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or feeling guilty after the fact, this episode offers a powerful shift. Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more presence and connection. She also shares how journaling transformed her parenting and how the PARR Journal can help you do the same. ✨ Purchase The PARR Journal and save your spot for Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom. Click here to order your journal and join the workshop. Follow @theparentingreframe on Instagram or visit theparentingreframe.com to learn more. Albiona’s email address: albiona@theparentingreframe.com The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Goodbye Struggle: How to Help Your Child (and Yourself) Separate with Confidence

Oct 8, 2025 24 min

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe. You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even when you mean well. Most importantly, this episode gives you practical, loving strategies to help your child build self-trust, navigate hard feelings, and develop resilience, while giving yourself full permission to live a full, joyful life. Whether you’re heading to work or heading to dinner with friends, this episode reminds you: your joy is not selfish—it’s vital. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why separation anxiety is not “bad behavior,” but a growth edgeThe #1 mistake parents make when saying goodbye (and how to fix it)What your child actually needs in those tough emotional momentsHow to build a "bridge" between separation and safetyWhy your self-trust is the foundation for your child’s regulationHow to reframe “mom guilt” when you choose something just for youThe link between predictability and reduced anxiety in kidsThe critical difference between empathy and enmeshmentReal-life scripts and object-leaving strategies to ease transitionsWhy calm isn’t the opposite of anxiety—self-trust isQuotes to Remember: “The opposite of anxiety isn’t calm—it’s self-trust.”“Every time you go back in a panic, you’re telling your child they can’t handle hard things.”“Your child doesn’t need you to sacrifice everything—they need you to model wholeness.”“Joy begets joy. When you honor your needs, your kids benefit too.”Resources Mentioned: Substack Paid Parenting Community: https://albiona.substack.com/subscribeBook a 1:1 Coaching Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproduction...

Consequences vs. Punishments: Why Kids Need Boundaries, Not Fear

Oct 1, 2025 23 min

What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeThe key differences between consequences and punishmentsWhy kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundariesHow punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulationThe role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses)Why the boundary itself often is the consequenceHow to implement breaks/resets (instead of timeouts) to help kids regulateThe importance of creating safe struggles to build resilienceWhen redirection works best (and why it backfires with older kids)Scripts and phrases you can use to give your kids autonomy while holding limits Resources & LinksExplore coaching and parenting support at The Parenting ReframeBook a free discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for your family The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Re-nesting, grief, creativity, and the new audiobook Someday, Now with Tembi Locke

Sep 24, 2025 56 min

In this warm conversation Tembi and Albiona cover: How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. (Simon & Schuster)What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. (People.com)The creative process Tembi uses: listening, journaling, & exploring different art forms; writing as a practice to slow down and make meaning. (tembilocke.com)Concrete ideas listeners can use right away: short daily rituals (15–45 min), journaling prompts, scheduling “pre-planned joy,” somatic self-care, and negotiating new family rhythms like weekly check-ins.A deep look at Someday, Now — why Tembi created an immersive audio experience (ambient Sicily soundscapes plus narration), and what she hopes listeners will feel after they finish it: that there is possibility, love, and room for transformation even in endings. (Audible.com)Resources & linksTembi Locke — official site / about & book resources. (tembilocke.com)From Scratch — publisher page (Simon & Schuster). (Simon & Schuster)Someday, Now — Simon & Schuster audio page (audio edition/details). (Simon & Schuster)Someday, Now — Audible audio listing/preorder. (Narrated by Tembi Locke; release details & preorder.) (Audible.com)Tembi Locke on Instagram (announcements & behind-the-scenes). (Instagram) The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Raising Resilient Kids: An Insightful Conversation with Author Dr. Will Dobud

Sep 10, 2025 58 min

What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeThe inspiration behind Kids These Days and why Dr. Dobud and Dr. Harper felt compelled to write it.The three frameworks of the book: interference, intervention, and ideology—and how they’re shaping modern childhood.Why blaming phones and social media is an oversimplification of a much bigger picture.The concept of digital integration vs. digital interference—and how parents can approach technology more thoughtfully.How to foster resilience and mastery in kids without overstepping or over-fixing.The overlooked power of gratitude, generosity, and noticing what’s working in our kids.Why boundaries paired with empathy create the conditions for true growth.A reframe for parents: shifting from control and fear to presence, connection, and curiosity.Resources & Links🌟 Preorder Kids These Days by Dr. Will Dobud & Dr. Nevin Harper: kidsthesedaysbook.comConnect with Dr. Will Dobud on social media and at outdoortherapycentre.comLearn more about my work with parents: The Parenting ReframeFollow me on Instagram and TikTok for more parenting information⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more parents can discover these conversations. The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Answering Your Most Common Questions

Aug 20, 2025 31 min

I’m back for another solo episode today after a little bit of a summer break. I gathered some of your most common questions from my workshops, coaching sessions, and social media comments. In this episode I’m walking you through a few of the struggles that share a common thread and giving insight into what makes these things difficult for parents and how to work through them. Kids Who Don’t Like Losing There are a lot of triggers for parents that come along with having a child who doesn’t like to lose which can cause eggshell parenting.When your child struggles to deal with something like disappointment or frustration, the answer is always that they need to experience it more often.Your reaction to their emotions as a parent is so important. Staying regulated in the moment will help deescalate the situation.Lectures don’t work. You’re helping them learn the life skill of tolerating frustration and managing the emotions that come with the frustration. Public Outbursts We sense all of the people in a public situation and it usually feels much more judgmental in our minds than it actually is because of insecurities. When our ability to parent is tethered to our child’s behavior, it makes things very difficult.Make an action plan and practice getting cooperation at home so your child is prepared when you do a test run in public. Set your kids up for success so you aren’t trying to complete tasks when they’re already over tired, hungry, etc.PARR This was created for anyone who needs to work through managing their own emotions and reactions. Pausing is an important reminder that we can take the time to slow down and not make rapid fire decisions in the moment.Always reflect on “what does my child need at this moment?” You know your child best and can better understand their needs when you have paused.When Your Kids Don’t Listen We rely on the idea that if our kids have the knowledge, they will react or behave appropriately. This simply isn’t true because their brains are...

Building Your Kids' Tolerance for Frustration

Jul 2, 2025 16 min

In today’s solo episode, I’m answering your questions about how to ensure we don’t raise entitled kids. This is an important question that many of you have asked me on all my platforms. Being entitled can be a very triggering thing for a lot of parents, especially those that grew up without a lot of wealth. We want to teach our kids a sense of gratitude and caring for others. What it really comes down to is teaching kids the ability to tolerate frustration and deal with an outcome they don’t want. I’m sharing three things you can do at home to help build a tolerance for frustration. Gain the ability to waitWaiting will elicit frustration in kids, but if they want it badly enough, they will wait it out.How often do we quickly accommodate simple tasks for our child when we could weave in a wait time?By doing this, we are delaying gratification.Play a game with your childMake sure you go first and they go second.Find the longest amount of time they can wait, and then allow them to take their turn. Meet them where they’re at no matter how short the amount of time they can wait is.Let them struggle through a taskKids will often feign an ability to do something on their own even though they’re capable.The whining that happens with a task they don’t want to do is because they can’t tolerate the frustration of struggling with a task.Encourage them to keep trying, assuming you have the time.Resources: Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/ Schedule a free call about my 1:1 coaching, Reclaim Your Calm - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/ Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@thepa...

In Case You Were Wondering: The Creative Process

Jun 20, 2025 10 min

I get asked all the time about creating content and writing. In this video, I share a few tips on where to start if you don’t consider yourself creative, as well as the three books that changed the way I approach creativity, vulnerability, and fear. Here are the three books I mentioned: The Tools and True and False Magic. The Tools is by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, and True and False Magic is written by Phil Stutz and Elise Loehnen (I spoke with Elise about this book on the podcast; you can listen here). Awaken Your Genius by Ozan Varol (He is one of my favorite writers) The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron (Morning pages changed my life) If the messages I’m sharing in this series resonate with you, I’d like to dive deeper to help you break free from what's holding you back. My transformation sessions are designed to help you move through fear, release blocks, and embrace change, guiding you to unleash the greatest version of yourself. Through a unique inner-parenting approach, you'll gain the tools to navigate any adversity. Email me at albiona@theparentingreframe.com to start your transformative journey. The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Beyond 'Good' or 'Bad': The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints

Jun 18, 2025 25 min

In this quick solo episode, I’m talking about a newsletter I wrote on Substack about reaction types. There are many different ways parents can react when their child becomes dysregulated, pushes against a boundary they have set, or throws a tantrum. Many of these reactions are rooted in the ways we were raised by our parents or the experiences we had as we grew up. Today, I’m going to talk about the three reaction types I encounter most frequently during my coaching with parents and working with families, and I'll also provide a bonus reaction type at the end of the episode. 1. Hyper-Reactor or the Punisher The parent who will go from zero to 100 instantly and doesn’t have the tools to regulate themselves.They feel discomfort because of their child’s reaction to something they don’t like. This may be rooted in an association from their own childhood, where they didn’t feel safe expressing their own emotions. Sometimes this can feel like the child is being disrespectful to the parent. 2. Panicked Parent The parent who knows to control their big emotions around their child who is struggling but they are terribly uncomfortable with the situation.This parent over explains the boundary or tries to justify the decision or offer other choices to make the situation better.This isn’t perceived as a good thing by the dysregulated child, it just feels like more input and they cannot tolerate it. 3. The Adjustor The parent who is an overthinker and is second guessing their boundaries all the time.When they go to hold a boundary and their child pushes back against it, they make adjustments to their boundary to avoid or stop dysregulation. This is a band aid approach to parenting because it doesn’t teach kids how to tolerate frustration. Bonus Type: Avoidant Parent The parent who doesn’t have a hard time staying calm, but struggles so much to set a boundary, and avoids it at all costs. They are eggshell parenting and have crafted a perfect environment so their kids don’t have to...

In Case You Were Wondering: How I Process Fear

Jun 6, 2025 8 min

In the first video of my series, In Case You Were Wondering (This is a video series where I share wisdom and answer the questions I get that aren’t directly related to parenting), I’m tackling the first question most of you ask me: How do you move through fear? In this 6-minute video, I will help you shift from a fear-based mindset to welcoming more faith and trust into your process. What I cover:Growing an audience on social media when it feels dauntingAddressing limiting beliefsMaking career pivotsTaking ChancesMy two-step process for choosing faith over fearEnjoy, and feel free to leave a comment or share it with a friend. The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A Conversation with Elise Loehnen

Apr 30, 2025 1 hr 1 min

Today on the podcast I’m welcoming back New York Times Bestselling Author Elise Loehnen. If you haven’t listened to the first episode where Elise was on The Parenting Reframe Podcast, it gives a great overview and conversation about her first book, On Our Best Behavior. You can listen to it here: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen Elise is the author of On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good, True and False Magic, a collaboration with Phil Stutz, and her workbook coming out soon, Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness. There are so many things we talk about in this episode from the creative process to parenting, the social context of her books to the ways women feel in their own bodies, and so much more. It’s always a pleasure to talk with Elise and get her perspective on so many different topics. Here’s what we talk about with Elise: Elise’s writing processes and how she uncovers societal norms and expectations through her work.An overview of her book On Our Best Behavior and how society forces women to be inherently good through the lens of the seven deadly sins. Her companion workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness and how it helps individuals work through their own beliefs and change the negative narratives. How the stories you tell about yourself are almost always rooted in lack. What we can learn about compassion and patience from neurodivergent children.Recognizing as parents we need to relinquish control over our children and be a safe place for them to land. Letting go of micromanaging our kids to allow them to develop their own roadmap to reach their goals.The amount of energy and self monitoring it takes to stay a certain size or weight as a woman and the mental toll it takes over time. An overview of True and False Magic and how life is an ongoing evolution of feelings and emotions to work through.Resources: Elise’s first Parenting Reframe podcast episode: http...

Anxiety, Stress, and Parenting: A Neuroscientist's Guide to Emotional Well-being

Apr 9, 2025 51 min

On this week’s episode, I am talking to Dr. Cindy Hovington, founder of The Curious Neuron and the Reflective Parenting podcast. Dr. Hovington is a mom of three and has a doctorate in neuroscience. Her goal is to break down science-backed research on child development and parenting and turn it into applicable advice for parents. She is very passionate about parental well-being as she knows we have to take care of ourselves in order to be able to take care of our children. We discuss tantrums, setting boundaries, and strategies to keep yourself calm while meeting your child’s needs. This is the episode for you if you experience these challenges and want to understand more about the science of parenting. Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Hovington: How The Reflective Parenting Club was created to help parents find best practices while effectively managing emotions and stress.Acknowledging when we as parents are not sitting in the most calm emotional space and being able to pause and communicate these feelings to others.Parenting and changing behaviors takes time and does not change overnight.Using boundaries and discipline as a way to teach our kids what to do or not to do in order to set them up for success.Creating awareness around your own physical state can help calm stressful situations.How emotional states and stress can affect the overall state of your home and the way your child reacts in certain situations.Resetting challenging moments throughout your day to create moments of joy.Sharing your emotions with your kids can help create connection and evolve trust.Resources: The Curious Neuron website: https://curiousneuron.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curious_neuron Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/curiousneuron The Reflective Parent Club: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/ Reflective Parenting Podcast: https://curiousneuron.com/podcasts/ For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: http...

Common Parenting Issues with Joe Newman

Mar 26, 2025 1 hr 2 min

Back by popular demand, Joe Newman is here for his third visit to The Parenting Reframe Podcast. Joe Newman was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and has made it his life’s mission to help parents figure out how to “raise lions,” kids who want to do it themselves. His book, Raising Lions, is one of my favorites and a resource I recommend constantly. In this episode, we discuss the biggest issues we are seeing while working with families today. This includes longer discussion about tantrums, and why we don’t completely agree on what to do when your child is having a tantrum. Here’s what we talk about with Joe: Why play deprivation is a problem today and why kids need more time to play independently.Kids need to experience struggle in social situations to create change and learn how to better manage their experience on their own. Providing all the answers for kids takes away an “I do it” moment and creates kids who identify as incapable and want things done for them. The nature of attachment between parent and child changes over time and the parent has to allow it to happen in an open and supportive way. How to reframe the negative perception of tantrums and child’s behavior.Why Joe and I disagree about whether or not to hold your child during a tantrum.Using a break as a self regulation tool to help kids get through a difficult moment and become more resilient. Allowing kids to experience deprivation and challenges on their own without judgment creates more independent, resilient, and happy individuals. Kids act as scientists to figure out their way around a situation so it’s incredibly important to hold your boundaries. Practicing holding boundaries at home will make doing it in public easier and reduce your feelings of anxiety in the situation. Resources: Joe Newman’s website to set up a consultation or discovery call: https://www.raisinglions.com/ Joe Newman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinglions/ Joe Newman on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rais...

The Power Pause with Neha Ruch

Jan 15, 2025 42 min

In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of talking with Neha Ruch, the founder of Mother Untitled, the leading platform for ambitious women leaning into family life. A thought leader, writer and speaker on parenting, women, work and identity, Neha established Mother Untitled in 2017 after working for a decade in digital and brand strategy and earning an MBA from Stanford. Her new book, The Power Pause, examines how to take a career pause after having kids and is available now. We discuss how taking a pause in many stages of life has incredible benefits and the different ways it can look for moms. Here’s what we talk about with Neha: How the question of “What do you do?” has become intertwined in the fabric of who we are as individuals. Ways to change the language surrounding each chapter of your life to a more expansive view.A career pause makes room to chart out other ways you want to grow personally.How “The Mommy Wars” started and the way the narrative has shifted and become more fluid over time. The ways the COVID pandemic caused an examination of work and family balance.Tools to consider for a career pause when there are concerns about finances, work/life balance, and household contributions.Shifting the view of taking a step down from a career to gaining a collection of experiences. Resources: The Power Pause: How to Plan a Career Break After Kids--and Come Back Stronger Than Ever: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Pause-Career-Kids-Stronger/dp/0593716183 Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte: https://www.brigidschulte.com/overwhelmed Ellse Loehnen podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-40-on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen/ For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com And be sure to follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe for more parenting tips and advice. The Pare...

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting

Jan 8, 2025 26 min

Happy 2025! The past year has been really transformative for me personally and professionally and I’m excited for what this new year might bring. I want to thank all of you who take the time to listen to my podcast, read my Substack, or even watch a video clip on TikTok. It’s really affirming to know I’m reaching all of you in some way. A few updates for 2025 that I’m excited to share with you: New model for one-on-one coaching: I’m moving to a 12-week model, where you get 12 weekly calls with me. You’ll have me create scripts and plans to use in your home and answer questions as they arise. Only 1 spot is available for January!Group coaching is returning in February! This more affordable option offers the added benefit of gaining support from others in your situation.I’m launching a membership! I’ve been working on a membership and I want to make it as interactive as possible. It will be a hybrid of courses and live video calls. Stay tuned for more information! The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting When we adopt a martyr parent mindframe, it doesn’t benefit your children in the way you think it does. We pride ourselves on being really busy, but when we burn out, what happens to your family? A Process to Help Interparent Yourself Parenting is a process full of wisdom and transformation that we can apply to moments in our adult lives like loss and growth. Using PARR to help us understand what our triggers are and cause us to have big reactions towards our kids. There’s always something we can change instead of resigning to being too tired or too busy while having a reactionary response. The five pillars of parenting yourself: master pausing, practice stillness, honoring simplicity, honoring change, trusting your intuition.Create an Environment Conducive to Connection Showing our kids we are the ones in control of our lives and priorities. There are moments when we can create meaningful connections with our kids but we need to be present and intentional about it....

3 Tips for Raising Strong-Willed Kids

Nov 13, 2024 19 min

In today's solo minisode I’m talking all about strong-willed kids. I’ve been talking a lot about this in my emails and on my social media lately because I know it’s a topic that many parents struggle with. Strong-willed kids are the ones that I like to call fair fighters - they’re always keeping score and want to make sure everything is right in their world. But this can cause them to easily spiral out of control the second things don’t go their way. I want to share three key points that come up over and over again in one-on-one and group coaching in regards to strong willed kids. If this episode resonates with you, consider signing up for my group coaching program all about raising strong willed kids and emotional regulation for kids and parents starting November 21! The link to register is in the Resources. Does Your Kid Value Approval or Power? We set up an expectation and kids usually comply.Strong-willed kids don’t seek or value approval from authority or parents. It’s not important enough for them.Instead they value power but they don’t have the capacity to hold all of it. They try to find out how much power they can have until they start to lose control.Strong-willed kids will then look for an anchor to keep them in a safe state when they start to lose control.Explanations Don’t Work We try to give kids the tools and the choices to understand why things are happening. Explanations don’t deter a strong-willed kid from their actions.An explanation gives information but they are not lacking information. It may be a bigger issue of impulse control, tolerating frustration, sensory overload, or something else.If there is a lack of information, the next time they face something similar the outcome will be different. Get to the root of what skills they need to develop to reduce the behavior you don’t want to see. Self Regulate Yourself It’s incredibly triggering for parents when a strong-willed kid is emotionally out of control. It’s important for the parent to se...

Parenting on the Same Page

Oct 30, 2024 21 min

I’m back with another solo episode and I’m giving you a recap of what I discussed in my latest workshop, Parenting on the Same Page. Many people struggle with conflict between their partners inside their homes on a day-to-day basis regarding parenting decisions. While they love and respect each other at the core, the heightened moments of emotion and stress can cause friction between two parents. I’m going to share with you the three tools you can implement today to help get back to parenting as a team. All Feelings are Welcome. All Behaviors are Not What is the emotion or feeling your child is experiencing? What is the behavior you don’t want to see? What is the behavior you do want to see?As you are calm and steady as the parent, you set clear boundaries for behavioral expectations.You need a game plan to address these situations and avoid reacting in an escalated way toward your child and each other. How can you validate the feeling your child is experiencing while still holding your boundary? How can you lean on each other in these stressful moments to help each other out?When you parent consistently on the same team, you will see a reduction of your child’s challenging behaviors.Be Reflective of the Language You Use with Each Other Connect, don’t correct.Connective language is focused on yourself, your emotions, and your feelings, and finding a way to connect on a similar level with your partner.Have these discussions in moments of calm so you can both approach the conversation from a regulated place.A Dysregulated Adult Cannot Help a Dysregulated Child If your immediate reaction is to become dysregulated when your child behaves a certain way, it will not help the situation. You need to work through what the triggers are that cause you to feel dysregulated in stressful moments. Using breathing and physical redirection can help you to calm down and pause. Use PARR to become a more responsive parent.Resources: - I have three one-on-one coaching spots left for 202...

Parenting Toddlers with Dr. Rebekah Diamond

Oct 16, 2024 50 min

In this episode I have a conversation with my friend, Dr. Rebekah Diamond. She is a pediatrician and the author of two books: Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat and Parent Like a Pediatrician. Dr. Diamond bridges the worlds of being a pediatrician with being a parent. She adds a lot of great parental insight into many aspects of parenting from the rigid research to the wild west of the internet. Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Diamond: Why the toddler phase is so challenging for so many parents on a daily basis in relation to the advice being given.Parenting advice can be helpful but you can take the pieces that feel good for your own parenting and leave the rest. Parental efficacy, or parental confidence, will directly translate to positive parenting for your child. Different parenting styles and how parents can create their own parenting philosophy to tune into what you and your child need.The reasons why toddlers have tantrums and how to navigate these emotional episodes using different strategies.Setting realistic and developmentally appropriate boundaries and consequences for toddlers. Balancing rewards and external motivators to help toddlers learn about life skills.The importance of a consistent bedtime routine with toddlers and how to implement it in your home.Viewing parenting issues from the stance from whether or not there is an actual problem and determining if you need to take action.Why separation anxiety is developmentally normal in kids and how parents can work through their emotions related to it. Resources: You can find Dr. Diamond on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentlikeapediatrician/?hl=en Parent Like a Pediatrician: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636 Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636 Dr. Shefali podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-54-conscious-parenting-with-dr-shefali/ For more insight into p...

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Created by: Albiona Rakipi
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Latest episode: Nov 4, 2026
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