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Before Dieting...

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Investigating Weight Regain Before You Try to Fix It. If you've spent years losing weight, regaining it, and wondering why the same pattern keeps repeating, this podcast is for you. Before Dieting is an investigative podcast from the Weighting for Happiness Project. Using women's experiences as a starting point, each episode investigates a different part of the weight ecosystem, revealing connections between seemingly unrelated experiences and the way we eat. Each episode replaces judgement with understanding, helping you see familiar experiences in a completely different way. The Weighting for Happiness Project is built on one simple distinction: Weight loss and weight regain are different problems. Many women have proved they can lose weight. The unanswered question is what keeps recreating the same pattern. Before Dieting exists to investigate that question. Whether you've tried countless diets or you're simply tired of blaming yourself, this podcast offers a different place to begin. Not by asking what's wrong with you, but by asking what conditions make this eating necessary. These questions are worth asking before you begin another diet. That's what Before Dieting is here to investigate.

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Amy and Monica - What Happens When a Diet Meets Your Eating System

10 min

What Happens When a Diet Meets Your Eating System Want to understand your different types of eating, see our full explanation here AND to check out the diagnostic explore here or copy and paste the links below. 8 Types of eating free explanation: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/eight-types-of-eating Food Choices and Eating patterns diagnostic: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/food-choices-and-eating-patterns Show Notes You start a diet, follow the instructions and lose weight. Then ordinary life returns, the diet becomes harder to maintain and familiar eating patterns begin to reappear. It's easy to conclude that you've lost your commitment or need more discipline. But what if the diet has only changed part of what's influencing your eating? In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher explores the difference between following a diet and understanding your existing eating system. Drawing on conversations with more than a thousand women about weight and dieting, Bronwyn explains how food rules, learned responses, family experiences and everyday circumstances continue to influence eating, even while you're following a diet. You'll hear why two women eating in response to uncomfortable emotions can be having very different experiences, how a diet can come into conflict with established family routines, and why the diet itself becomes another influence within your eating system. The central question isn't simply whether you followed the diet successfully. It's what the diet changed, what remained unchanged and what happened when ordinary life resumed. A question to consider: Which parts of your eating did your last diet change and which parts did you never really look at? Before Dieting is a podcast from the Weighting for Happiness Project, exploring food rules, relief eating and why diets fail. If you'd like to read my Blog you can visit here: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/when-a-diet-meets-your-eating-system

Lisa's story. Hunger, Appetite and Hungering. Why knowing the difference matters

13 min

Lisa’s story: Hunger, Appetite and Hungering. Why the difference matters Is it hunger, something you want to eat, or something you're trying to get relief from? We return to Lisa's story in Before Dieting, to go deeper into her experiences with food, including the difference between enjoying chocolate and eating ice cream to escape an overwhelming feeling of agitation. Her story reveals why the words we use to describe eating matter. Broad labels such as overeating, emotional eating and bingeing can conceal important differences in what's actually happening. In this episode, we explore: Hunger, Appetite and Hungering — three distinct experiences that can all lead to eating.Relief Eating — why eating to end an uncomfortable feeling is different from eating for pleasure or comfort.Hungering → Eating → Resolution — the three phases that reveal how Relief Eating operates.The limitations of labels — why more precise descriptions can uncover patterns that have gone unrecognised for years. Lisa's experience illustrates an important distinction: the same food can serve entirely different purposes depending on what's happening before the eating begins. Ready to understand your own eating? If you've spent years trying to control what you eat without fully understanding why you eat, it's time to investigate the patterns behind your food choices. The Weighting for Happiness Food Choices & Eating Patterns diagnostic takes you beyond familiar labels. Using the Eight Types of Eating framework, you'll work through structured questions and tools to identify the different reasons behind your eating and discover what deserves attention. Stop treating all your eating as one problem. Discover what's behind your different eating patterns before you try to change them. Explore the Food Choices and Eating Patterns diagnostic or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/food-choices-and-eating-patterns

Gemma's Story - The Black Box of weight regain

10 min

In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn revisits Gemma’s story to explore a common but often overlooked factor in repeated weight regain: becoming increasingly skilled at dieting without ever questioning whether dieting is solving the right problem. Gemma is an intelligent, motivated and highly capable woman. Over the years, she has committed herself to countless weight-loss efforts, approaching each new diet with determination and organisation. Like many women, she often succeeds in losing weight. Yet despite the effort and learning invested in every attempt, she repeatedly finds herself back at the same starting point. Bronwyn introduces the concept of “striving but never arriving”, describing how repeated weight-loss attempts can keep people focused on improving their next diet rather than understanding why previous efforts ended in weight regain. Using ideas from systems thinking, the episode explores the distinction between single-loop learning and double-loop learning. Single-loop learning focuses on improving existing strategies, while double-loop learning challenges the assumptions behind those strategies in the first place. Through Gemma’s experience, Bronwyn illustrates how weight regain is often interpreted as a failure of willpower or consistency, leading to an endless search for a more sustainable diet. However, this perspective can overlook the deeper patterns, structures and influences that shape eating behaviour over time. The episode examines the systems thinking principle that “structure influences behaviour”, highlighting how eating patterns are affected by long-standing habits, life circumstances, childhood messages about food and years of accumulated dieting rules. These influences continue whether a person is dieting or not. In concluding, Bronwyn argues that breaking the cycle of repeated weight regain begins with understanding your weight and dieting history. By looking across years of experiences rather than focusing on individual attempt...

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Amy and Monica - What Happens When a Diet Meets Your Eating System

10 min

What Happens When a Diet Meets Your Eating System Want to understand your different types of eating, see our full explanation here AND to check out the diagnostic explore here or copy and paste the links below. 8 Types of eating free explanation: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/eight-types-of-eating Food Choices and Eating patterns diagnostic: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/food-choices-and-eating-patterns Show Notes You start a diet, follow the instructions and lose weight. Then ordinary life returns, the diet becomes harder to maintain and familiar eating patterns begin to reappear. It's easy to conclude that you've lost your commitment or need more discipline. But what if the diet has only changed part of what's influencing your eating? In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher explores the difference between following a diet and understanding your existing eating system. Drawing on conversations with more than a thousand women about weight and dieting, Bronwyn explains how food rules, learned responses, family experiences and everyday circumstances continue to influence eating, even while you're following a diet. You'll hear why two women eating in response to uncomfortable emotions can be having very different experiences, how a diet can come into conflict with established family routines, and why the diet itself becomes another influence within your eating system. The central question isn't simply whether you followed the diet successfully. It's what the diet changed, what remained unchanged and what happened when ordinary life resumed. A question to consider: Which parts of your eating did your last diet change and which parts did you never really look at? Before Dieting is a podcast from the Weighting for Happiness Project, exploring food rules, relief eating and why diets fail. If you'd like to read my Blog you can visit here: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/when-a-diet-meets-your-eating-system

Lisa's story. Hunger, Appetite and Hungering. Why knowing the difference matters

13 min

Lisa’s story: Hunger, Appetite and Hungering. Why the difference matters Is it hunger, something you want to eat, or something you're trying to get relief from? We return to Lisa's story in Before Dieting, to go deeper into her experiences with food, including the difference between enjoying chocolate and eating ice cream to escape an overwhelming feeling of agitation. Her story reveals why the words we use to describe eating matter. Broad labels such as overeating, emotional eating and bingeing can conceal important differences in what's actually happening. In this episode, we explore: Hunger, Appetite and Hungering — three distinct experiences that can all lead to eating.Relief Eating — why eating to end an uncomfortable feeling is different from eating for pleasure or comfort.Hungering → Eating → Resolution — the three phases that reveal how Relief Eating operates.The limitations of labels — why more precise descriptions can uncover patterns that have gone unrecognised for years. Lisa's experience illustrates an important distinction: the same food can serve entirely different purposes depending on what's happening before the eating begins. Ready to understand your own eating? If you've spent years trying to control what you eat without fully understanding why you eat, it's time to investigate the patterns behind your food choices. The Weighting for Happiness Food Choices & Eating Patterns diagnostic takes you beyond familiar labels. Using the Eight Types of Eating framework, you'll work through structured questions and tools to identify the different reasons behind your eating and discover what deserves attention. Stop treating all your eating as one problem. Discover what's behind your different eating patterns before you try to change them. Explore the Food Choices and Eating Patterns diagnostic or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/food-choices-and-eating-patterns

Gemma's Story - The Black Box of weight regain

10 min

In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn revisits Gemma’s story to explore a common but often overlooked factor in repeated weight regain: becoming increasingly skilled at dieting without ever questioning whether dieting is solving the right problem. Gemma is an intelligent, motivated and highly capable woman. Over the years, she has committed herself to countless weight-loss efforts, approaching each new diet with determination and organisation. Like many women, she often succeeds in losing weight. Yet despite the effort and learning invested in every attempt, she repeatedly finds herself back at the same starting point. Bronwyn introduces the concept of “striving but never arriving”, describing how repeated weight-loss attempts can keep people focused on improving their next diet rather than understanding why previous efforts ended in weight regain. Using ideas from systems thinking, the episode explores the distinction between single-loop learning and double-loop learning. Single-loop learning focuses on improving existing strategies, while double-loop learning challenges the assumptions behind those strategies in the first place. Through Gemma’s experience, Bronwyn illustrates how weight regain is often interpreted as a failure of willpower or consistency, leading to an endless search for a more sustainable diet. However, this perspective can overlook the deeper patterns, structures and influences that shape eating behaviour over time. The episode examines the systems thinking principle that “structure influences behaviour”, highlighting how eating patterns are affected by long-standing habits, life circumstances, childhood messages about food and years of accumulated dieting rules. These influences continue whether a person is dieting or not. In concluding, Bronwyn argues that breaking the cycle of repeated weight regain begins with understanding your weight and dieting history. By looking across years of experiences rather than focusing on individual attempt...

The Family Food Culture Behind Weight Regain

14 min

What happens when losing weight changes how you fit into your own family? For Carmela, food was at the heart of family life. After her father left, her mother brought her two daughters together through cooking, baking and generous meals. That closeness continued into adulthood, with Friday night dinners becoming a much-loved family ritual. All three women struggled with their weight. Diets came and went, but their shared enjoyment of food remained. Then Carmela moved to Japan for two years. Away from her family's familiar eating arrangements, she developed a different way of eating and lost much of the weight she'd carried for years. Returning home brought an unexpected difficulty. She still loved her family, but no longer wanted to eat as they did. The meals that had always made her feel included now left her feeling like an outsider. In this episode of Before Dieting, I revisit Carmela's story alongside an unforgettable experience from my own childhood to examine Family Food Culture and how family loyalty can contribute to repeated weight regain without us recognising what's happening. We consider why changing our eating can become complicated when food is closely connected to affection, family identity and belonging. With the holiday season approaching, it's an especially relevant conversation for anyone returning to familiar family meals and rituals. Your Family Food Culture is as individual as your fingerprint. Understanding it may reveal influences on your eating that have remained unnoticed for decades. The Family Food Culture diagnostic gives you a structured way to uncover those influences and consider how they may still affect your eating today. Explore the diagnostic at Weighting for Happiness. or copy and paste the link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/family-food-culture-diagnostic If you prefer to read the Blog article, you can here: or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/the-family-food-culture-behind...

Kelli's Story: When Criticism Becomes Part of the Weight Regain Problem

15 min

What happens when losing weight becomes as much about stopping other people's criticism as changing your weight? Kelli had been dealing with weight criticism since childhood. At fifteen, she began dieting after a boy told her he would date her if she lost weight. Years later, after having two babies within twenty months, she found herself under scrutiny from her husband's family, who believed the solution was straightforward. Her husband suggested running every day. Her mother-in-law gave her a gym membership for her birthday. Family meals included food specifically intended for dieting. Behind these apparently helpful gestures sat three familiar judgements: wanting, willpower and weakness. But Kelli's eating history was considerably more complicated. Her Greek immigrant parents had experienced food scarcity before moving to Australia. Packaged supermarket foods represented prosperity, opportunity and fitting into their new country. Kelli grew up surrounded by abundant food, with few restrictions on how much she ate. As an adult, she found herself caught between the food culture she'd grown up in and another family's expectations about weight. In Episode 65 of Before Dieting, Bronwyn examines how criticism can become part of a repeating weight-loss and regain cycle. Kelli's efforts to demonstrate that she was doing the right thing became intertwined with her attempts to lose weight, while the history of her eating remained largely unexplored. In this episode: the three ‘w’s of weight criticism, how apparently helpful advice can carry judgement, the reinforcing relationship between criticism and repeated dieting, and why understanding your family food culture can provide information that another diet cannot. Your next step: Examine your own Family Food Culture Kelli could tell you about every diet she'd tried. What she hadn't understood was how her childhood food culture had influenced the way she learnt to eat. Your family food culture may be entirely different from...

Judith's story - Relief Eating vs Comfort Eating

11 min

Judith was good at dieting. An engineer by profession, she liked order, research and understanding how things worked. She could learn the rules of a diet and apply considerable discipline to following them. What she couldn't understand was why relief eating kept returning. From the outside, the pattern could easily be interpreted as self-sabotage. Judith would lose weight, people would begin commenting on how good she looked, her eating would change and eventually the weight would return. But what happens when we stop looking only at the eating and examine the whole repeating pattern? In this episode of Before Dieting, I return to Judith's story and use a systems-thinking lens to go much further than we did the first time. We follow connections between her childhood experience of food, limited agency in the kitchen, private comfort, visibility, dieting and adult relief eating. We also examine the counterintuitive possibility that something Judith desperately wanted to change had also acquired a useful function within her system. You'll hear about the elastic band effect, and how a solution can work in the short term while creating pressure that eventually pulls the system back towards its previous state. We also look at dieting as a fix that fails: something capable of producing weight loss without necessarily changing the conditions involved in its return. Judith's story is particular to Judith. It isn't offered as an explanation for anybody else's weight or eating. Instead, it shows what can become visible when repeated behaviour is examined as part of a larger system rather than treated as an isolated failure of control. If you've spent years applying increasingly simple solutions to eating or weight that keeps returning, this episode offers another place to look. Weighting for Happiness® Diets change what you eat. Diagnostics reveal why you eat. See how understanding your weight ecosystem will help manage weight regain, OR copy and paste the link below: https://...

Melissa's Story - When chocolate is the Solution not the Problem.

6 min

In today’s episode, you’ll hear Melissa’s food story and the insight she gained from examining her long-term weight struggle, using the iceberg model. “Chocolate wasn’t and isn’t her problem; it is her solution. As a child it was the only comfort in a home that was never safe. And now as an adult that solution sits beneath the waterline, hard wired in to give relief in times of fear or overwhelm.” Using an iceberg as a visual aid can help us see the hidden layers beneath complex challenges like weight loss. It shows why the obvious solutions of dieting and calorie-cutting, only work temporarily as they don’t address the root cause of excess weight. Melissa, is a 49-year-old tech support specialist and mother of two, who has battled weight since her second child was born. Despite countless diets, she found herself stuck in a loop, losing and regaining weight, believing chocolate was the reason. But when we mapped her patterns and traced her chocolate eating back to childhood, Melissa realised it wasn’t just about taste, it was about safety and comfort in a home marred by violence. Through Melissa’s story you’ll see that the path to permanent weight loss begins by turning the iceberg upside-down and finding the root cause, before starting another diet. Ready to discover your own eating system? Visit Weighting for Happiness to start your discovery using the Weight EcoSystem. or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic First Published on September 2, 2025 at 16:28

Weight Regain: The Frame We’re Using Is Too Small - Amy's Story

9 min

What does a thirteen-year-old secretly taking food from the pantry tell us about her eating? On its own, it seems easy to explain. But Amy’s story changes as more information comes into view. She remembers being constantly hungry. Her food was restricted from childhood. Her dinner was served on a plate barely bigger than a saucer. She wasn’t given pocket money because of concerns she would spend it on food. Then, at eighteen, she left home determined that nobody would ever tell her what she could and couldn’t eat again. The secret eating hasn’t changed. What changes is the frame around it, and with that, what becomes available to explain it. In Episode 62 of Before Dieting, Bronwyn uses Amy’s story to introduce an important idea from systems thinking: the boundary we draw around a problem determines what information we include in our investigation and what we leave outside it. Weight regain is usually examined within a very tight frame: what was eaten, how much was eaten, whether the diet was followed and when it stopped. Those facts matter, but they can describe what happened without explaining the eating that produced it. Amy’s story shows why putting more context around eating can change an explanation without changing a single fact. In this episode: Why apparently straightforward eating behaviour can become less straightforward when more context is included What Amy’s childhood hunger, food restriction and limited access to food add to the story of her secret eating Why food freedom at eighteen meant something different when viewed alongside what came before it How a systems-thinking boundary determines what becomes available for explanation Why widening the frame doesn’t mean calories become irrelevant The important difference between describing eating and explaining it Why a factual account of weight regain isn’t necessarily a sufficient explanation Start with Understanding Your Weight Ecosystem: If Before Dieting has you thinking there’s more to your story t...

If You’re Only Looking at Your Last Diet, You’re Missing the Story

9 min

Karen described herself as a “great diet starter”. She had tried Weight Watchers twice, intermittent fasting, meal replacements and so many other diets she could no longer remember their names. More recently, she had stopped eating breakfast, hoping that removing a meal would make losing weight easier. Some days, after skipping breakfast, she found herself at the vending machine at work buying two or three chocolate bars to get through to dinner. Karen was approaching fifty and the diets she had previously relied on to lose a few kilos were no longer producing the same results. Perimenopause seemed the obvious explanation. She wanted to lose a persistent 20 kilograms and she felt increasingly urgent about doing it. Her mother was living with complications from type 2 diabetes and Karen was worried about where her own weight might take her. There was plenty of information available about what Karen was doing now. We could have tracked her food, calories, weight or the chocolate bars from the vending machine. But Karen didn’t have a tracking problem. She had decades of weight and dieting history that she had never looked at as a whole. In this episode of Before Dieting, I look at the difference between tracking what is happening now and charting what has happened across time. The most recent diet gives us a snapshot. A weight and dieting history gives us a different view, one that can reveal repetition, changes and turning points that are difficult to see when each attempt is treated as a separate event. Karen thought the important question was why her diets had stopped working as she approached fifty. Going back through her history raised a different one: how long had this pattern actually been developing? If you have spent years starting diets, losing weight and eventually starting again, your history isn’t irrelevant information from the past. It may contain some of the most useful evidence you have. In this episode: • Why the latest diet gives us only a snapshot o...

Weight Regain: Looking Beyond Calories and Willpower

7 min

For the next eight episodes of Before Dieting, Bronwyn is taking a closer look at women’s experiences of eating and repeated weight regain, using stories women have shared with her over the years. These are the parts of women’s food and weight stories that rarely make it into conversations about weight loss: hiding and sneaking food, eating late at night when no one else is around, feeling torn between wanting to lose weight and desperately wanting the relief that eating can provide. Using a systems-thinking lens, Bronwyn will examine what surrounds these experiences, what repeats and what becomes visible when more of a woman’s life is put back around her eating. The aim isn’t to turn each story into a neat explanation. It’s to resist jumping to conclusions before there is enough evidence to support them. Because after years of losing and regaining weight, I fell off the wagon or I know what to do, I just don’t do it simply isn’t enough of an explanation. There is much more to investigate. If Before Dieting has started to loosen the idea that your weight is simply about calories and dieting, start turning some of this thinking towards your own story with the Weight Ecosystem. Or copy/paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic If you prefer you can read my Blog or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/repeated-weight-regain-looking-beyond-calories-and-willpower

SMART Goals and Weight Regain

10 min

Weight goals can look remarkably clear. Lose ten kilos. Get back to 70 kilos. Fit into a particular clothing size. Free download: Weight Goal Worksheet to discover your weight goals and how they work https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-goal-worksheet But a precise weight goal doesn’t necessarily mean we’ve clearly defined the problem we’re trying to solve. In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn looks at what can sit underneath a numerical weight goal, from wanting greater confidence or better health to hoping weight loss will change how we feel about our body. Once those outcomes become attached to a number on the scales, very different problems can start to look as though they have the same solution. The episode also examines SMART goals and an important limitation: making a goal more specific and measurable can make it more precise, but it can’t tell us whether we’re solving the right problem. When repeated weight regain is a complex problem, reducing it to a numerical target can make a simple solution, usually another diet, look more appropriate than it really is. Before deciding what the next number on the scales should be, this episode offers a different place to begin: understanding what you actually expect weight loss to change, and whether weight loss can deliver it. Looking to solve a complex weight regain problem, take a look at how seeing your weight ecosystem can assist. or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic

Repeated Weight Regain Is a Complex Problem

8 min

Repeated Weight Regain Is a Complex Problem Not all problems behave in the same way. Some are simple, some are complicated, and some are complex. The distinction matters because the type of problem determines the kind of solution that is likely to work. Repeated weight regain has the characteristics of a complex problem. It isn't simply that there are many factors involved. Those factors interact, and attempts to change one part can alter the conditions surrounding another. This becomes particularly important when weight loss and regain have happened more than once. Each attempt becomes part of the history brought to the next, turning what can look like another isolated weight problem into a repeating pattern. In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn uses the three types of problems to show why repeated weight regain needs a different problem-solving approach, and why understanding the problem needs to come before choosing another solution. In this episode: The difference between simple, complicated and complex problemsWhat makes a problem complexWhy recurrence changes the nature of a weight problemHow previous attempts become part of the problem being investigatedWhy complex problems require a different approach to solving them Weight regain isn't a simple overeating problem with a simple dieting solution. Free download: The Three Types of Problems Cheat Sheet provides a quick visual guide to the distinctions discussed in this episode. or copy and paste the link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/pod-asset Read my Blog Article here or copy and paste the link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/solving-repeated-weight-regain

Interview with Lanette Helene - Pilates and being in your body

34 min

Pilates, body awareness and getting back into your bodyDownload the free instructional sheet here or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/Pilates What does it actually mean to be in your body? In this episode, I’m joined by experienced Pilates practitioner Lanette Helene to explore body awareness, movement and the physical patterns women accumulate over time. This isn't about Pilates for weight loss. We talk about why women can become disconnected from their bodies, how midlife and menopause can change movement, strength and mobility, and why simply stretching tighter muscles isn't always the answer. Lanette also explains what Pilates actually is, why it treats the body as an interconnected system, what to look for when choosing a Pilates studio, and some simple things you can do to improve body awareness in everyday life. Four takeaways Your body works as a whole. A problem in one area may be connected to what is happening elsewhere.Body awareness can be rebuilt. Precise attention to breathing and movement can reconnect you with parts of your body you've stopped noticing.Midlife changes what your body needs. Movement, mobility and strength become increasingly important.Good instruction matters. If you're new to Pilates, Lanette recommends beginning with individual assessment and instruction. Lanette shares a simple Toe Scrunch exercise for working the feet, toes and ankles. Download the free instructional sheet here or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/Pilates To visit Pilates Canberra, or copy and paste the link below: https://www.pilatescanberra.com.au/ Read the Blog here: or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/back-in-your-body

When One Diet Leads to the Next

10 min

Weight-loss programs spend a lot of time telling us how to lose weight. Far less attention is given to what happens afterwards. The usual language is maintenance: you’ve lost the weight, now the job is to keep it off. But that framing can hide an important part of the picture. Your biology doesn’t simply move into a new phase because the diet does. In this episode of Before Dieting, I look at what can happen when calorie restriction ends, why the maintenance phase can shift responsibility for weight regain back onto the woman, and why the period after a diet contains information worth investigating. I also share Vivienne’s story. After two decades of dieting, she knew she was good at starting diets but had trouble sticking with them. Her solution was to choose diets that promised increasingly fast results, until she found herself considering a five-day water diet. When Vivienne stopped looking at each diet as a separate event and brought them together, a pattern became visible. Her previous dieting experiences were influencing what she chose to do next. In this episode Why the term maintenance deserves closer examinationWhat calorie restriction can ask of a biological systemThe holding-your-breath metaphor and what it can tell us about biological responses to restrictionWhy difficulty maintaining weight loss isn't explained simply by willpowerHow one dieting experience can influence the diet chosen nextWhat Vivienne discovered when she stopped looking at her diets separatelyWhy repeated weight regain needs to be investigated as a patternHow your dieting history can become evidence rather than a record of successes and failuresSomething to think about Rather than asking what you should do differently on your next diet, consider your previous diets together: What have all my previous diets been trying to tell me? The diets you finished, the ones you abandoned, how restrictive they became, how long you could stay on them and what happened afterwards may reveal far more...

The Questions Diets Never Ask

9 min

Show Notes: You can read the accompanying Blog here or copy and paste the Link below: Blog post for episode In Today's episode: Most women know how to investigate a diet. They can tell you how long it lasted, how much weight they lost and why they think it failed. But very few have ever been shown how to investigate what happened after the diet ended. In this episode, Bronwyn explores why the period after a diet can hold some of the most valuable clues to understanding repeated weight regain. Using questions from two listeners, she introduces a different line of inquiry. Rather than judging another diet as a success or failure, she explains how looking more closely at what happened afterwards can reveal patterns, unexpected experiences and overlooked evidence that help explain why the cycle keeps repeating. You'll also hear why the Weighting for Happiness Project takes a collegial approach to understanding repeated weight regain. Your lived experience provides one kind of knowledge. Weighting for Happiness provides questions, tools and ways of organising that experience so the patterns become easier to see. Together, those different perspectives create a fuller understanding than either could achieve alone. Today's Investigation Before your next diet, spend some time investigating the one you've just finished. Instead of asking only, "Did the diet work?" try asking, What happened after the diet ended?What patterns kept repeating?What surprised me?What did this experience teach me about the way I eat?Sometimes the clues you've been searching for aren't hidden in the diet itself. They're waiting in what happened afterwards. In This Episode we examine: Why conversations about weight regain often feel much harder than conversations about weight loss.Why the period after a diet deserves as much attention as the diet itself.The different questions Weighting for Happiness asks once a diet has finished.How repeated patterns often become visible only when you look back over...

Weight regain and fear: Why looking more closely can feel so frightening

8 min

Weight regain and fear: Why looking more closely can feel so frightening If you've ever found yourself putting off looking more deeply at your weight regain, I don't think it's because you don't want to understand it. Most women I've spoken to have spent years searching for answers. They've read books, followed diets, listened to podcasts and promised themselves that this time will be different. That doesn't sound like someone who isn't interested in change. What I think is happening is much more understandable. Looking more closely can feel risky because we've been taught that if we discover what's causing our weight regain, we'll immediately have to stop doing it. If the answer is chocolate, we have to give up chocolate. If it's eating late at night, we have to stop eating late at night. Understanding has become tied to giving something up. But what if that isn't the purpose of investigation at all? What if the purpose is simply to understand what your eating has been doing for you? Not so you can judge it, but so you can finally see why it has been so difficult to change. That single shift turns investigation from something threatening into something useful. Instead of asking, "Why don't I stop?" you begin asking, "What problem is this eating solving?" They're very different questions and will lead you to very different places. So, before you start another diet, perhaps spend a moment with one question instead. What are you afraid you might find if you looked more closely at your weight regain? You can read my Blog post here or, on Apple, copy and paste the link below https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/weight-regain-and-fear For answers you can start here or, on Apple, copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-and-diet-history-diagnostic OR If you have any questions, please email me at: bronwyn@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #midlif...

Eight Different Reasons We Eat

8 min

Before Dieting... Episode 53 Why do we eat? It sounds like a simple question, but the answer is rarely straightforward. In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn responds to a listener's question about the Eight Types of Eating. Rather than looking at eating as simply "good" or "bad," she introduces a different way of thinking: eating is purposeful. This episode is an overview of the Eight Types of Eating, the framework that sits behind many of the stories explored throughout the podcast. You'll discover why eating isn't one behaviour with one cause, but many different behaviours serving different purposes. Bronwyn introduces: Functional EatingSecondary EatingDietingRestricted EatingSocial EatingComfort EatingRelief EatingConscious Eating Along the way, she explains why understanding why you're eating is far more useful than judging what you're eating. If you've ever wondered why your eating can feel completely different from one situation to the next, this episode provides a practical map for understanding your own eating patterns. Key Takeaways Eating isn't one behaviour with one cause. Different types of eating serve different purposes, and recognising those differences is an important part of understanding repeated weight regain.The purpose of eating matters more than the behaviour itself. The same food can serve very different functions depending on the situation, whether it's nourishment, comfort, social connection or emotional relief.The goal isn't perfect eating. The goal is conscious eating, where you know what you're choosing, why you're choosing it, and no longer feel driven by your eating. If this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic Please subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it. If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on. If you have any questions, please email me or copy and pas...

Kate’s Story: When Weight Regain Was Telling a Deeper story

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When Weight Regain Returns You to Safety. Kate’s story and the pattern that food alone could not explain. Season 3 Episode 52. Kate knew how to lose weight. She had done it many times. What she could not explain was why reaching a lower weight left her feeling frightened, exposed and unprotected, or why familiar eating patterns returned soon afterwards. For years, she blamed her sweet tooth and lack of willpower. But when she worked through her Weight & Dieting History, a different pattern became visible. Kate had grown up in a volatile home where avoiding attention helped keep her safe. Being smaller and more visible as an adult activated a discomfort that dieting advice had never examined. Her history also revealed an early connection between secrecy, sweet food and the time she spent with the parent who made her feel protected. The food was part of the story, but it was not the whole story. In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn explores why losing weight and understanding weight regain require different lines of inquiry. Kate’s story demonstrates what becomes visible when the investigation extends beyond calories, food choices and whether a woman followed the plan. In this episode you'll discover: Why successful weight loss does not explain repeated regainHow a Weight & Dieting History reveals patterns across separate attemptsWhy the point after weight loss may contain the most useful informationHow early experiences can continue influencing adult responsesWhy secret eating may serve a function that food rules cannot addressHow changing the question changes what becomes visible Your weight history is not proof that you failed. It is evidence that needs to be included in the investigation. Explore the Weight & Dieting History diagnostic: or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-and-diet-history-diagnostic You can also read my accompanying Blog or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/...

Before Dieting - Trailer - Why diets fail

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Before Dieting... Most women who regain weight are not beginners. They have followed diets, changed their eating, lost weight and proved they can do it. But knowing how to lose weight and understanding why the weight keeps coming back are two different problems. Before Dieting is the podcast from the Weighting for Happiness Project that investigates the patterns behind eating, dieting and weight regain. Each episode begins with a woman's story. Together, we examine what happened, investigate the patterns hidden inside her experience, and uncover what becomes visible when we ask different questions. Along the way you'll discover: • why weight regain follows patterns • why your weight history contains valuable information • how food rules learned decades ago can still shape eating today • why relief eating makes more sense when you understand what it is doing • why knowing what to eat isn't the same as understanding why you eat • how to investigate your own story before starting another diet Hosted by Bronwyn Fletcher, Before Dieting... brings systems thinking into the weight conversation to help women see what has been hidden in plain sight. Because your weight history is not proof that you failed. It is information you have not been shown how to read. Before another diet, investigate the story your own experience has been trying to tell. New episodes Tuesdays, wherever you get your podcasts. Please leave a review so other women can find the podcast. Download my FREE e-book Why diet's work until they don't or paste the following link https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book. You can leave me a message at: OR directly email me any questions to hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au or copy the link hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain #emotioneating #reliefeating #comforteating #overeating #foodrules #eatingsystem...

Why Diets Fail - Childhood Food Access and your Eating Blueprint.

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Childhood Food Access: When you weren’t allowed to choose. Episode overview Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you ate and how those early meal dynamics can shape adult patterns like dieting dependence, private overeating, and fear of judgement. This episode continues the paired theme with Access, because these two factors (Access + Agency) often work together to build the blueprint for lifelong eating. In this episode, you’ll learn • What food agency actually means (and what it doesn’t) • Why food confidence is often a developmental skill, not a motivation issue • Why eating differently in front of others is a protective response • How secrecy becomes a substitute for choice Key takeaways • Agency is authority at meals is for choice, portion sizing and stopping • Private overeating is often the system restoring autonomy • The dinner table taught rules that still shape eating today If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Download my FREE e-book "Why Diets Work Until They Don't" using the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit fro...

Why Diets Fail - Childhood Food Access and your Eating Blueprint.

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Podcast Episode 50 - Show Notes ​The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access. This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shape lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking. ​This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding. Because you can’t change what you can’t see. ​Access: 🙋🏻‍♀️who decided when you weren't allowed to eat. ​In this episode, you’ll learn: 1️⃣ How focusing on reducing on current weight prevents you discovering the root cause of repeating weight patterns 2️⃣ The difference between access and agency (and why both matter) 3️⃣How restricted access builds survival strategies around food 4️⃣Why secret eating isn’t a moral failure, it’s a system response ​Key takeaways 🔍 Food access is about permission and autonomy 🔍 Many adult eating patterns were once childhood solutions 🔍 Shame blocks the information you need to change your weight permanently If this episode has connected dots you’ve never connected before, you’re ready for deeper investigation. ​The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Download my FREE Guide Why diet's work until they don't or use the link https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book. You can leave me a message at: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729 OR directly email me any questions to hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au hello@weightingforhappiness.co...

Eating systems explain a woman's weight regain - Moira's story

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Ready to investigate your own blueprint? The Weight Ecosystem is the first diagnostic in the Weighting for Happiness Project. It steps back from food and helps you examine the wider conditions your weight and health sit within before moving on to the deeper patterns that shape eating. Click here or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic See the end of the show notes for other downloads. Show NotesOne of the limitations of most weight loss advice is, it is all focused, on eating. What you’re eating, how much and how often. So, when it comes to relief eating, by the time the eating occurs, a great deal has already happened. In this episode, Bronwyn expands on food rules and food stories and introduces another part of the Eating Blueprint: the Eating System. Through Moira's experience, we explore what happened when she stopped concentrating on the chocolate and ice cream she was eating and became curious about the sequence leading into it. What she discovered was that relief eating didn't begin when she opened the freezer. It began days beforehand with emotional agitation and a narrowing attention. This episode challenges the idea that overeating is triggered by a single event and it introduces a different way of understanding relief eating. In this episode The difference between Hunger and HungeringMoira's discovery that her relief eating began days before the eating itselfThe early signs that an Eating System has become activatedHow widening the boundary changes what becomes visible The read the Blog associated with this episode, click here or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/eating-systems-explain-a-woman-s-weight-regain-moira-s-story AND For a copy of the 4 layers of eating, click here or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-behind-eating

When Junk Food Isn’t the Problem: Sylvie’s weight regain food story

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Resources for you in with this Podcast Download the Four Layers Model that explains Sylvie's story: Four Layers Infographic: or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-behind-eating Begin identifying your own Blueprint; start with my first Diagnostic: ‘Understanding your weight ecosystem’ or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic Show NotesIn this episode of Before Dieting, I take listeners inside the first two layers of the Four Layers Model. The Food Rules and Food Stories and show how these layers shape eating in ways most women never realise. Through Sylvie’s story, we see how a lifelong pattern of junk‑food eating wasn’t about food at all, but about a feeling that began decades earlier at the family dinner table. This episode helps women understand why certain eating patterns feel immovable and how uncovering the emotional logic beneath eating can change everything. What You’ll Learn Food Rules describe what someone does with food.Food Stories explain why the behaviour formed in the first place.Childhood experiences often shape adult eating in ways women don’t recognise until they look back.Removing a food doesn’t remove the problem it is solving.Relief‑eating is the response to internal tension, not a lack of discipline.Work stress, conflict, pressure and emotional load can recreate the same internal conditions that shaped early eating patterns.Understanding the story behind eating opens the door to permanent change. Sylvie’s Story Sylvie, a woman in her late forties, has spent years trying to understand why she keeps returning to junk food, especially when she’s alone. Her car has become a mobile dining room, filled with wrappers by the end of each day. She promises herself she’ll stop, but the pattern repeats. When she traces her eating back to childhood, she remembers tense family dinners where arguments erupted nightly. She learned to eat quickly, stay quiet and avoid attention, a Food R...

The Four Layers Behind Weight Regain

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Diets tell you what to eat. Understanding the Four Layers Behind Eating explains why. 🔦 Download your free comprehensive Infographic, "The 4 Layers of Weight Regain" here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-of-eating 🔦You can read my Blog for this Podcast here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/the-four-layers-of-eating-why-weight-regain-isn’t-about-willpower And please leave a review of this Podcast so other women can find this information. Show Notes In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn introduces the Four Layers Behind Eating Behaviour; a way of understanding why some eating seems easy to change while others feel out of our control. Drawing on conversations with more than a thousand women who have experienced weight regain, Bronwyn explores four distinct layers that sit beneath eating behaviour: Food RulesFood StoriesEating BlueprintsEating Systems Using practical examples, this episode introduces a new way of seeing eating behaviour. One that moves beyond calories, discipline and self-control to uncover the deeper structures shaping your everyday eating. In this episode ✔️ Why new concepts and language are essential when solving complex problems ✔️ The difference between Food Rules and Food Stories ✔️How Eating Blueprints set the pattern for all eating ✔️ Why some eating behaviours feel flexible while others seem impossible to change ✔️ Why restriction is often one of the strongest triggers for relief eating Three Key Takeaways 🖌️ Not all eating operates on the same layer. Different eating behaviours have different drivers. Understanding the layer you're looking at changes the explanation and the solution. 🖌️Rules describe behaviour. Stories explain behaviour. Food Rules tell us what someone does. Food Stories help explain why those behaviours became important in the first place. 🖌️Relief eating is not a willpower problem. Relief eating is the behavioural expression of an Eating System attempting to reduce emotional pressu...

Definitions and Boundaries to solve recurring weight gain

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The weight regain boundary problem The Weight Ecosystem link I reference in the episode that can start your weight regain solution. Today we look at: Why do weight regain explanations begin and end with calories? In this episode Bronwyn introduces one of the foundational ideas behind the Weighting for Happiness Project: boundaries. In systems thinking, a boundary determines what gets included when you're trying to understand a problem. And what sits inside that boundary strongly influences the explanation you end up with. Most weight-loss approaches draw a very narrow boundary around food and calorie intake. But what happens when the boundary expands? What happens when weight history, family food culture and long-standing eating patterns are included in the investigation? Bronwyn explores why expanding the boundary changed the way she understood weight regain and why we need to broaden our investigation more than calories. Key Takeaways Boundaries determine solutions.Calories aren’t the entire problem.Weight regain occurs within a larger life context.Expanding the boundary changes what becomes visible. If you want to read my Blog that accompanies this episode, you can do so here. Also, you can contact me or connect with me by: hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au LinkedIn Instagram Facebook #weightregain, #emotioneating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #midlifewomen #midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain #psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

The Hidden Logic of Relief Eating

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Why does relief eating feel so overpowering, secretive and difficult to interrupt? In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher explores relief eating through the lens of systems thinking. Instead of framing eating as a simple problem of willpower or self-control, this episode examines how relief eating forms as a repeatable system designed to solve tension, overload and emotional discomfort. Using Meri’s story, Bronwyn walks through the hidden logic beneath late-night eating, food secrecy, rigid food rules and the constant internal tug-of-war many women live with around food. This episode also introduces the three stages of relief eating: Hungering, Eating and Resolution, showing how patterns that feel chaotic often follow a very structured process once they are slowed down and examined closely. Rather than asking ‘How do I stop eating like this?’, this episode invites a different question: ‘What relief is this eating giving me?’ Key Takeaways Relief eating is not random; it operates as a repeatable system.Food can function as relief, escape, rebellion or nervous system regulation.Childhood food experiences often shape adult eating systems.Shame reduces understanding; observation increases insight. Start Here If you want to understand what’s shaping your eating, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic, or copy and paste the following link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic Read the Blog here or copy and paste the following link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/relief-eating-and-weight-regain-the-hidden-logic-inside-the-eating-system Please subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it. If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on. If you have any questions, please email me at hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40...

When Weight Regain Is Really About the Life You’re Living

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Soraya spent years believing her weight problem was about food. Like many women with recurring weight regain, she became highly skilled at dieting, cycling between strict calorie restriction during the week and overeating on weekends. On the surface, the explanation seemed obvious: she lacked control around food. But when we looked more closely, something very different emerged. Behind the dieting and overeating was a woman living a life built around duty, loyalty and keeping her parents proud. A woman whose career looked successful from the outside but no longer felt like her own from the inside. This episode explores one of the most important distinctions in the Weighting for Happiness framework: the difference between a food problem and a life problem that is expressing itself through food. Because recurring weight regain is rarely as simple as eating too much. It is often the visible symptom of a much larger system underneath. Key Takeaways Why recurring weight regain is a complex systems problemHow calorie restriction creates catch-up eatingThe difference between food-level explanations and root causesWhy understanding your eating system changes the questions you ask If this episode has echoes in your own life, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. It helps you move beyond food alone and begin identifying the wider emotional, behavioural and life patterns shaping your weight. You can read the accompanying Blog for more information: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/when-weight-regain-is-really-about-the-life-you-re-living If this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic Please subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it. If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on. If you have any questions please email me at hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain, #emotioneating, #over...

Midlife weight gain: The Role of Trust in Weight Regain

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Maggie’s story doesn’t start with food. It starts with trust. In this episode, you’ll hear how a lifetime of dieting and weight regain can sit on top of something far less visible; a loss of trust that began long before any diet was introduced. Maggie has built a highly controlled way of eating. On paper, it works. In reality, it leaves her unsatisfied and caught in a predictable pattern of relief eating. This episode moves beyond food choices and looks at the structure underneath them. How family conditions shape eating, how emotional needs become tied to food, and why control cannot replace trust. There is a clear shift here: from trying to fix eating, to understanding the system that produces it. Key Takeaways Weight regain linked to trust, not willpowerRelief eating follows a predictable internal sequenceControl structures can stabilise eating but cannot resolve itEarly family conditions shape long-term eating patterns Read the full blog here: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/why-diets-fail-the-role-of-trust-in-weight-regain-maggie-s-story If this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic Please subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it. If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on. If you know a woman who needs this, please share it with her. Any Questions: hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au OR Connect with me on: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729 #weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #weightlossafter40, #dieting, #psychologyofeating, #midlifewomen

Weight regain isn’t solved with better eating habits

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If you’ve been trying to fix your weight with better habits, this episode explains why that approach keeps failing. Last week, we introduced the idea that systems are not habits. This week, we go deeper. Because once you understand that your eating is a system, not a set of individual behaviours, a more important question emerges: Why does your weight keep returning, even when your goal is to change it? The answer is confronting. Your eating system has its own goal. And it’s not weight loss. In this episode, we break down: why habits only ever touch the surface of a much deeper structurewhy fast weight loss creates system backlash and weight regainwhy “low and slow” is the only approach that works with your system, not against itand why the scale is the least useful measure of progress when you’re trying to change a system You’ll also hear Denise’s story, a woman who spent decades losing and regaining weight and what changed when she stopped trying to get weight loss “over with quickly” and started working with her eating system instead. This episode will change how you think about: better eating habitsweight cyclingyo-yo dietingand why diets fail Key Takeaways 1️⃣ Your eating system has its own goal It is designed to maintain balance, not to lose weight. 2️⃣ Fast dieting creates backlash Big, sudden changes trigger hunger, slow metabolism, and lead to weight regain and overshoot. 3️⃣ Habits don’t change systems They can support change, but they don’t alter the structure driving your eating. 4️⃣ Low and slow is the only sustainable pathway Small, consistent changes allow the system to adapt without fighting back. 🔗 Blog Post: Systems not habits are driving your weight regain https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/systems-not-habits-are-driving-your-weight-regain Please leave a review so other women can find the podcast. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this information, please pass on the link. If you have any questions, you can email me at: hello@...

Systems Are Not Habits: Why Weight Regain Keeps Happening

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Understand your recurring weight by starting with Your Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. ✅ SHOW NOTES When women say ‘I just need better eating habits,’ it sounds logical. But what if that assumption is the problem? In this episode, Bronwyn challenges one of the most widely accepted ideas in weight loss: that habits are the solution. Because when it comes to weight regain, habits don’t fail. They’re just being used at the wrong level. This episode introduces a critical shift: from habits → to rulesfrom behaviour → to systems You’ll hear why what looks like a ‘bad habit’ is often a rule-driven response inside a larger eating system, and why trying to fix those behaviours one by one creates cognitive overload, not lasting change. This episode also introduces key characteristics of systems, including why they return to balance, why weight regain is predictable, and why cause and effect are often misunderstood. If you’ve ever felt like your eating runs on autopilot and doesn’t match your intentions, this episode will explain why. Key Takeaways What women call ‘habits’ are often rules driving behaviourEating is a system, not a collection of isolated actionsSystems seek balance, this is why weight regain happensHabit stacking creates cognitive overload, not lasting change If this episode has changed how you think about your eating, the next step is to see your own system clearly. Start with the Your Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic This is where you move from guessing to understanding. 🖥️ Read the Blog Systems are not Habits: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/why-weight-regain-keeps-happening 🙌 Please leave a review so other women can find the podcast. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this information, please pass on the link. 📝If you have any questions, you can email me at: hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain #eatingsystem #foodrules #reliefeating #overeating #midlifewomen #...

Body Fat and Weight Regain: What Your Eating System Is Really Doing

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In this episode, Bronwyn challenges one of the most entrenched beliefs in weight loss: that body fat is simply the result of overeating. Instead, she introduces a systems thinking perspective that reframes body fat as functional. Not passive. Not accidental. But part of an eating system that may be solving problems in ways that are rarely examined. Drawing on real case examples, this episode explores how body fat can act as protection, postponement, paradox, or projection. Each one revealing that what looks like a weight problem can be a weight benefit. If you’ve experienced weight regain, this episode will reframe how you think about body fat. And it will do it without blame or shame. Key Takeaways Body fat is not always a by-product of an eating system. In many cases, it plays a role within an eating system that serves a purpose. When body fat has a function, removing it without understanding that function leads to weight cycling. Lasting change requires understanding what body fat has been doing for you, not just trying to remove it. If you would like a copy of The Four P’s of Body Fat, email me at hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au and I will send you a copy. Links & Resources Read the Blog: Body Fat and Weight Regain: What Your Eating System Is Really Doing Connect with me on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729 Please leave a review so other women can find the podcast. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this information, please pass on the link.

Why Weight Keeps Coming Back: The Hidden Problem with Simple Stories

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Most women can explain their weight problem in a sentence. ‘I’m an emotional eater.’ ‘I’ve got a sweet tooth.’ ‘I just need more discipline.’ These explanations feel true. But they’re often only telling part of the story. In this episode, we look at the difference between the facts of your weight and the story you’ve built around it. Because when complex eating patterns are reduced to simple explanations, the thinking stops, and so does the search for answers. This builds directly on Access and Agency, showing how early conditions shape behaviour, and how those behaviours later get compressed into one-line stories that don’t fully explain what’s happening. If you’ve ever felt like you know what to do but can’t seem to hold it, this episode will help you understand why. Key Takeaways Simple stories often describe behaviour but don’t explain itThe story you tell shapes what you notice and the solutions you trySeparating facts from story opens up deeper understanding and new solutions Blog: Why Weight Keeps Coming Back: The Hidden Problem with Simple Stories Please leave a review so other women can find the podcast. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this information useful, please pass on the link. If you have any questions, you can email me at hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au #weightregain #eatingsystem #emotioneating #foodrules #reliefeating #overeating #weightcycling #midlifewomen #psychologyofeating #beforedieting

Childhood Food Agency: When you weren’t allowed to choose.

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Childhood Food Agency: When you weren’t allowed to choose. Episode overview Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you ate and how those early meal dynamics can shape adult patterns like dieting dependence, private overeating, and fear of judgement. This episode continues the paired theme with Access, because these two factors often work together to build the blueprint for lifelong eating. In this episode, you’ll learn • What food agency actually means (and what it doesn’t) • Why food confidence is often a developmental skill, not a motivation issue • Why eating differently in front of others is a protective response • How secrecy becomes a substitute for choice Key takeaways • Agency is authority at meals is for choice, portion sizing and stopping • Private overeating is often the system restoring autonomy • The dinner table taught rules that still shape eating today If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Download my FREE e-book "Why Diets Work Until They Don't" using the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this in...

Why Diets Fail-Childhood Food Access and the Eating System.

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Podcast Episode 37 - Show Notes​The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access. This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shape lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking. ​This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding. Because you can’t change what you can’t see. ​Access: 🙋🏻‍♀️who decided when you weren't allowed to eat. ​In this episode, you’ll learn: 1️⃣ How focusing on reducing on current weight prevents you discovering the root cause of repeating weight patterns 2️⃣ The difference between access and agency (and why both matter) 3️⃣How restricted access builds survival strategies around food 4️⃣Why secret eating isn’t a moral failure, it’s a system response ​ Key takeaways 🔍 Food access is about permission and autonomy 🔍 Many adult eating patterns were once childhood solutions 🔍 Shame blocks the information you need to change your weight permanently If this episode has connected dots you’ve never connected before, you’re ready for deeper investigation. The Weighting for Happiness Project was purpose-built to help you track your patterns, decode your food rules, and map the system that causes weight regain. This way change becomes possible without relying on willpower. ​​​​​​​ The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Download my FREE e-book Why diet's work until they don't or use the link https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book. You can leave me a message at: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness...

How Childhood Food Rules Drive Weight Regain

9 min

How Childhood Food Rules Drive Weight Regain ✅ Katherine wasn’t allowed to eat between meals. ✅ Fiona wasn’t allowed to ask for food at all. ✅ Different families. ✅ Different rules. ✅ Same result - both girls lived with hunger, and both learned to solve it in secret. In this episode I explain how food rules learned in childhood become part of an eating system that keeps running decades later, even when the original problem is gone. If you’ve ever wondered why, you overeat when you’re not hungry, why dieting works for a while and then stops, or why food feels like relief instead of nourishment, this episode will make sense of it. This is part of the Ten Women’s Food Stories series. Key takeaways Most eating patterns start long before dieting begins The rules driving your eating today often come from your origin family, not from adulthood. 1️⃣ Most eating patterns start long before dieting begins The rules driving your eating today often come from your origin family, not from adulthood. 2️⃣ When food rules don’t meet a child’s needs, the child adapts Sneaking food, hiding food, eating fast, eating alone — these are solutions, not failures. 3️⃣ Those solutions become part of an eating system Once your brain learns that food prevents hunger, fear, or discomfort, it keeps using the same strategy. 4️⃣ Weight regain makes sense when the system underneath hasn’t changed The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Download my FREE e-book "Why Diets Work Until They Don't" using the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-form And if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book. You can leave me a message at: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforha...

Why Nicole Eats Chocolate at Night, The Eating System Behind Weight Regain

9 min

Nicole starts her day with a green smoothie and ends it eating chocolate bars she hides in the laundry cupboard. She wants to lose weight, she knows what to eat, and she follows the same plan every weekday. So, why does she keep repeating this pattern? In this episode, Bronwyn explains how weight regain rarely comes from a lack of discipline. It comes from an eating system that developed over time. Using Nicole’s story, we look at three layers of eating: The food planThe eating realityThe deeper system driving bothWhen Nicole connects her current night-time eating with childhood evenings spent alone with bags of lollies and chocolates, the pattern finally makes sense. This episode explains why dieting alone can’t solve weight regain and why understanding your food story is the first step to lasting change. Key takeaways Weight regain is caused by an eating system, not a single behaviourRestricting food during the day can trigger what Bronwyn calls the “hungering tsunami”Relief eating has its roots in early life experiencesPermanent weight change begins when you know your food story If you have any questions, please email me hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au and if you know another woman who is struggling with weight regain, please let her know about the Podcast.

Why Being Good at Dieting Doesn’t Stop Weight Regain - Lia’s Story

9 min

Why Being Good at Dieting Doesn’t Stop Weight Regain - Lia’s Story In this episode of Before Dieting, I explore a question that perplexes most women: If I lose weight, how do I stop it coming back? Through Lia’s story, I explain how weight regain often has far less to do with willpower and far more to do with the eating system built in childhood. Lia grew up in a household where thinness meant approval and discipline meant love. As a result, she became very good at controlling her appetite and following diet plans. When she later lost eleven kilos through a structured program, it seemed like everything was finally working. But within months the weight returned. Using systems thinking, I show how dieting can temporarily override an eating system but not change it. When restriction creates too much pressure, the system restores balance through relief eating. This episode continues with two powerful concepts: Food Story - the lived history that shaped how you learned to eat. Eating System - the automatic pattern that developed from that history. Understanding this distinction can transform how women frame their weight battle. Because all eating makes sense when it’s seen in the right context. Key Takeaways 1️⃣ Being good at dieting doesn’t mean the underlying system has changed. Many women who regain weight are extremely disciplined. 2️⃣ Eating systems are built in childhood. The emotional roles we learn around food can continue long after the original situation disappears. 3️⃣ Weight regain is a symptom. The root cause is found in a woman’s food story. 4️⃣ Understanding eating systems reduces shame. When eating patterns finally makes sense, self-blame loses its power. Please leave a like if you found the Podcast interesting and let other women know. You can email me any questions to: hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au

Food Story vs Eating System: The Real Root Cause of Weight Regain

12 min

In this first episode of a ten-part series, I unpack the food story and eating system of Donna, a woman in her late forties who has struggled with weight regain for decades. Donna knows how to lose weight. She has done it repeatedly. Weight Watchers. Keto. Calorie-controlled meals. Even 400 calories a day. ❌ And every time, the weight returned. Why? ❌ Because sugar was never just a treat. It was a treatment. Growing up in a home where meals were inedible and violence was unpredictable, Donna learned early that sugar could bring her fear down to a manageable level. Eating in secret wasn’t indulgence. It was survival. Her food story shaped her eating system. And her eating system now activates whenever fear rises. When fear goes up, chocolate follows. When chocolate rises, weight follows. This episode explores the critical difference between a food story and an eating system and why dieting at the surface level will always fail if the root cause remains undiscovered. If you’ve ever thought, ‘I just love chocolate’ or ‘I have no willpower,’ this episode invites you to go deeper. Because relief eating is not weakness. It’s a system reset. And once a system is visible, it can be redesigned. ❤️ Key Takeaways from Donna's Story 1️⃣ Your food story is the blueprint. It explains how you learned to use food in the first place. 2️⃣ Your eating system is organised, not random. Relief eating is functional. It resets emotion when pressure rises. 3️⃣ Weight regain is predictable when the root cause isn’t addressed. If fear remains untreated, dieting alone can only work temporarily. 🎁 If you want to eliminate the blaming and shaming of women around weight regain, help get these episodes into the ears and hearts of women who need to hear them. ✔️ Share it. ✔️ Send it to a friend. ✔️ Get other women listening.

What causes weight regain

7 min

In this episode, I set the container for the next ten stories. Ten women between 40 and 60. ✔️ Multiple rounds of weight regain. ✔️ No eating disorders. ✔️ No dramatic pathology. ✔️ No extreme cases. Just the repeating pattern. ✔️They have all dieted. ✔️ They understand healthy eating. ✔️They have strong intentions. ❌ The weight still comes back. This series does not focus on food plans or motivation. It examines the structure underneath repeated weight regain using systems thinking. Because weight regain is rarely a simple food problem. It is a system being run. 👀 What This Series Will Examine Each story will be explored through: ✔️ Weight and dieting history across decades ✔️ Family food culture and early food rules ✔️The Eight Types of Eating ✔️Feedback loops created by restriction ✔️Relief eating as a functional response ✔️The role of shame in blocking investigation You will hear how simple solutions applied to complex systems create unintended consequences: Restriction ➙ Compensation ➙ Relief ➙ Shame ➙ Restart. This loop is not random. It is structural. Why This Matters When a complex problem is treated as simple, weight regain becomes predictable. ✔️ Dieting adjusts food. ✔️ It does not dismantle the eating system. ✔️ Even medication may suppress appetite, but the structure underneath remains. This series goes further back than most assessments ever do. Because you cannot redesign a system you haven’t mapped. Who This Is For ❤️ ✔️ Women in midlife who are tired of restarting ✔️ Practitioners working with repeated weight regain ✔️ Anyone ready to examine structure instead of symptoms 🎧 Listen In The first story begins next week. If repeated weight regain is part of your life, or your clients’ lives, listen in. And if you know someone who has been caught in the restart loop, send this episode to them. Ten women. Ten systems. One investigation. The series starts Tuesday March 3rd.

Systems Thinking vs Therapy

8 min

Systems Thinking Isn’t Therapy; It’s the Diagnostic Layer to solving weight regain When weight keeps returning, the default assumption is often psychological. That the problem is low willpower or self-sabotage. But what if the issue isn’t purely emotional? In this episode, I explain the difference between therapy and systems thinking. And how confusing the two can keep women circling the same weight pattern for years. Therapy works with internal experience. Systems thinking investigates the structure producing the outcome. They are not interchangeable. They serve different purposes. And when weight regain has repeated for decades, clarity about which solution you’re using matters. In This Episode • Why systems thinking is a diagnostic practice not therapy • How feedback loops sustain weight regain • The difference between emotional processing and structural change • Why insight alone doesn’t dismantle the repeating weight cycle Four Key Points 1️⃣ Repeated weight regain is a feedback loop, not a character flaw. 2️⃣ Therapy explores how you experience the problem. Systems thinking identifies the structure that keeps it repeating. 3️⃣ Insight does not automatically change structure. 4️⃣ Lasting change requires making the eating system visible, not just managing emotions within it. What’s Coming Next Starting next week, we begin a special ten-episode season. Ten women. Ten weight histories. Ten eating systems deconstructed fully. Not extreme stories. Not dramatic cases. Just the structural patterns that formed over time and later showed up as repeating weight gain. You may not see yourself in one story. But parts of your story will be there. Listen in as we begin telling the ten women’s stories next week on Before Dieting. Because repeating weight gain isn’t just about food. And when you can finally see the system clearly, you can start in the right place. If you have any questions, you can email me at bronwyn@weightingforhappiness.com.au

Listener Questions on Access, Agency, and Shame

8 min

The last three episodes on childhood food access, agency, and Alison’s story prompted a strong response. Many of the questions that came in weren’t about definitions. They were about recognition. In this episode, Bronwyn responds to those questions and stays with what Alison’s story brought up for many listeners; how ordinary food rules can organise eating behaviour, why weight often appears much later, and how shame keeps patterns in place. Rather than treating these questions as problems to fix, this episode uses them to deepen understanding. Key takeaways: Eating systems often form through repetition, not dramatic events.Weight gain usually appears long after the system is established.Food freedom without agency skills leads to loss of regulation.Shame blocks enquiry and keeps eating patterns running. If these themes feel familiar but hard to explain, this episode helps put words around them. If you want to uncover the logic of your own eating story, rather than continuing to fight the visible end of it, you can join the Weighting for Happiness Project and begin that work in a structured way. Thanks for listening.

Allison's Story - What happens when food Access and Agency are missing

8 min

Alison’s story traces how a tightly controlled childhood around food quietly evolved into adult weight gain, dieting, and a powerful shame system and how understanding that story changed everything. Through her experience, we see why “you eat what you’re given” can turn into years of fighting your own body, even when you “know better.” Three key takeaways: Your current eating patterns are organised by earlier rules and conditions, not a broken willpower switch.When long-denied food freedom finally shows up, strong pulls toward comfort and pleasure are predictable not personal failure.Shame behaves like a looping system; mapping how it feels in your body and interrupting its scripts creates space for new choices.In this episode you’ll hear: Alison’s childhood in a home where food was controlled and her needs weren’t considered.How sudden autonomy around food at nineteen reshaped her eating and weight.The role shame played in keeping her stuck in dieting and self-blame.What changed when she started tracing the logic of her eating system instead of criticising herself. If you’re tired of looping through the same weight loss/regain patterns you need to understand your own story. The Weighting for Happiness has the roadmap, tools and guidance to help you unravel it. www.weightingforhappiness.com.au If you have a question you'd like answered in a future Podcast, email me at hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au

Childhood Food Agency: When you weren’t allowed to choose.

5 min

Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you ate and how those early meal dynamics can shape adult patterns like dieting dependence, private overeating, and fear of judgement. This episode continues the paired theme with Access, because these two factors often work together to build the blueprint for lifelong eating. In this episode, you’ll learn 💛 What food agency actually means (and what it doesn’t) 💛 Why food confidence is often a developmental skill, not a motivation issue 💛 Why eating differently in front of others is a protective response 💛 How secrecy becomes a substitute for choice Key takeaways 😊 Agency is authority at meals is for choice, portion sizing and stopping 😊 Private overeating is often the system restoring autonomy 😊 The dinner table taught rules that still shape eating today If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible. Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it. Cheers Bronwyn

Childhood Food Access: When you weren’t allowed to eat.

7 min

The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access. This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shapes lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking. This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding. Because you can’t change what you can’t see. In this episode, you’ll learn ✔️ How focusing on reducing on current weight prevents you discovering the root cause of repeating weight patterns ✔️ The difference between access and agency (and why both matter) ✔️ How restricted access builds survival strategies around food ✔️ Why secret eating isn’t a moral failure, it’s a system response Key takeaways 💚 Food access is about permission and autonomy 💚 Many adult eating patterns were once childhood solutions 💚 Shame blocks the information you need to change your weight permanently If this episode has connected dots, you’ve never connected before, you’re ready for deeper investigation. The Weighting for Happiness Project was purpose-built to help you track your patterns, decode your food rules, and map the system that causes weight regain. This way change becomes possible without relying on willpower. Head on over to www.weightingforhappiness.com.au to join the project. Thanks Bronwyn

The 8 types of eating and their impact on your weight

12 min

Most women with a long history of dieting and weight regain end up trapped in binary thinking: good food vs bad food, dieting vs overeating. It’s simple, but it’s also the reason the cycle keeps repeating. In this episode, I introduce a systems-thinking model that breaks the binary: the Eight Types of Eating. It’s not a diet. It’s a map that helps you see what’s really driving eating, especially under pressure. 4 Key Takeaways 1) Binary thinking blocks change When eating gets reduced to dieting vs overeating, you lose the detail that creates options for change. 2) Diets only target part of the system Most diets focus on baseline meals, but they miss other types of eating that carry the real load. 3) Secondary eating is underestimated Invisible bites and ‘extras’ often don’t register as eating, but they add up quickly. 4) Relief eating is regulation Relief eating isn’t comfort eating. It’s automatic regulation, where the body eats until internal pressure settles. Call to action Go to the Weighting for Happiness Project website to download the visual model of The Eight Types of Eating. Then ask yourself: Which eating type contributes most to your weight gain?

What diets won't solve

6 min

Summary: In this episode, you’ll meet Amy, a woman who’s spent over half her life trying to lose weight. Using systems thinking, we explore how her relationship with food was shaped by childhood experiences, family dynamics, and unspoken rules about appetite and body size. From stolen snacks to over-catered freedom, Amy’s story shows why long-term weight issues are never just about food. What You’ll Learn: Why Amy’s weight struggle didn’t start with dietingHow childhood rules around food shaped her adult patternsThe emotional logic behind overeatingWhy understanding your backstory is essential to lasting changeWhat systems thinking reveals that diets missKey Quote: “Without realising it, I’ve been performing the ‘fat people are jolly’ act... Every time I laughed, I was abandoning myself.” If you’ve tried every diet but are still stuck, this episode shows what to do next. Get started by downloading our Free E-Book at Weighting For Happiness Please subscribe and leave a review so other women can find this Podcast.

Emotional Literacy: The Second Essential Skill for Breaking the Weight-Regain Cycle

5 min

Emotional Literacy: The Second Essential Skill for Breaking the Weight-Regain Cycle that connects you with your body In this episode of Before Dieting, I continue with part two on the essential skills women need when they’re stuck in a repeating weight pattern. Last week’s episode explored the role of investigative journaling, how it slows you down, brings you back to yourself, and creates a space for honest enquiry about your weight. This week focuses on the second essential skill: emotional literacy. Many women caught in recurring weight gain feel disconnected from their bodies and unsure about what they’re actually feeling. Emotions can swing quickly, from hyper-alertness to numbness to over-the-top reactions, making it almost impossible to understand how emotions drive eating. Bronwyn explains how emotional literacy helps you identify and name emotions accurately, and why these matter for weight. When you can distinguish frustration from irritation or anger, you stop treating them as the same signal and food stops becoming the generic answer. Other topics covered include: • why emotional numbness is a survival strategy • how numbness blocks fullness cues and drives relief eating • how journal writing and emotional literacy work together • why “stress” and “anxiety” are not emotions • a simple three-step starting point for women who feel emotionally shut down I close with key takeaways and a reminder that emotional literacy is a skill that grows with practice, and every small step reconnects you to your body. If you’d like more information head over to https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au or email me hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au

The Bridge Between Insight and Change

12 min

When women struggle with recurring weight patterns, it’s rarely because they don’t know enough about weight loss. The real challenge is making sense of what’s happening behind the eating, the patterns, the rules, and the emotions that shape decisions long before food is involved. In today’s episode, we look at how journal writing becomes the bridge between uncovering your Eating System and understanding how it operates in your everyday life. This isn’t about keeping a diary. It’s about having a simple, practical tool that turns vague impressions into clear, useful insight. You’ll hear how writing helps you: • understand what your Eating System is actually doing • reconnect with your body when numbness or hypervigilance has become normal • explore questions and patterns you can’t access in your head • create clarity you can act on To get started, sign up for our 5-week email Journal Writing Course at www.weightingforhappiness.com.au. It’s a practical starter program with targeted prompts written specifically for women in the weight-regain cycle and goes far beyond ordinary journaling.

The Four Stages of Change (And Why Fast Results Never Last)

8 min

✅ Most women think weight change is about discipline, motivation or the right diet plan. While these help, there’s more to it. In this week’s episode of Before Dieting, I answer a question from Michelle about the four stages of change in the Weighting for Happiness® Project and why permanent change doesn’t come from forcing behaviour. Women are trained to expect speed and short-term results. But recurring weight patterns don’t begin in a week, and they don’t change in a week. They change when women uncover the system that has been driving their eating for years. There is a predictable sequence women move through when real change is happening: Awareness → Insight → Realisation → Knowing. These stages explain why diets only produce temporary results and why women who have struggled for decades often say, ‘I finally understand what’s been driving my weight.’ When women uncover their Eating System: clarity replaces confusionconscious choice replaces willpower andeating stops being controlled by the system so sensible diet plans can work If you work with women in weight-related care or nutrition, this episode gives you an insider’s view of what systems change really looks like. 🎧 Listen to the episode: The Four Stages of Change (7minutes)  🔗 Download the FREE 4 Stages Cheat Sheet at Free Resource and if you have any questions, you can email me at bronwyn@weightingforhappiness.com.au 

Yo-yo dieting is not a failure of willpower

6 min

Yo-yo dieting explained - and it's not a failure of willpower I've included a resource links at the end of these notes that enables you to map out your dieting model. In this episode, I explore why diets so often begin with intense hope, fueled by marketing and outside influences.  The classic Yo-yo dieting cycle.   Understand how your body's unconscious survival system interprets dietary restriction as starvation, often overpowering conscious willpower and forcing diet abandonment. Learn why abandoning a diet isn't a personal failure, but instead is a predictable outcome driven by your biology. Discover the phenomenon of weight "overshoot," where post-diet weight regain often exceeds the starting point because of slowed metabolism and increased fat storage Hear why "low and slow" is key to lasting weight changes and how learning from past cycles, rather than forgetting them, can help break the pattern. Key takeaway:  Sustainable progress requires working with your body's system, not trying to override it. Consulting a qualified dietician may help set up an approach that works in harmony with your biology. Resource Links Visit the resources page for a copy of the Diet Hope and Abandonment Cycle diagram and explore the Weight and Dieting History Program for deeper insights. Free download Yo-yo dieting explained Read my Blog Post about how Yo-Yo dieting is explained through the Diet Hope and Abandonment Cycle Any questions you'd like me to answer in future podcasts, please email me hello@weightingforhappiness.com.au 

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